Can I apply for food stamp before K1 application?

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

......and #4. Is " Don't do anything that will give you a police record ".

Good one!!

Yes, that should be added (even at the risk of sounding like I have morals ) I read an interesting piece just today, that now ranks a clean police record even above education (not sure about that) The theory being that almost everyone now does a police background and even small simple crimes will prevent you from getting even low level jobs not requiring even a high scholl education. Good point!

Or just marry a rich one! (why is it we never listen to our parents until we are as old as they were when they said it???)

Even bad credit can hurt you from getting a good job!!

[Cloudy9 11]

Do you have any other health conditions right now? That does affect the chances of delivering a healthy child (I'm a NICU nurse). Why don't you talk to your doctor about it? Broadly speaking, it's better to have babies before the age of 35.

It is something to consider about having enough money to take care of the child. Keep in mind that your fiance will not be able to work for a few months when he first arrives and that it's another hefty $1,010 fee in order for him to adjust status.

Theres nothing to say that you can't have healthy babies even after 35. Heck take me for example. I'm turning 47 this year, had daughter #1 when I was 42 and daughter #2 just a month shy of turning 44. Had no problems with either pregnancies, no morning sickness, nothing.

I agree with the others, worry about getting your fiance over here and having the money to do it with. After hes got a job and you both start saving money then think about children.

[Justine+David 218]

Do you have any other health conditions right now? That does affect the chances of delivering a healthy child (I'm a NICU nurse). Why don't you talk to your doctor about it? Broadly speaking, it's better to have babies before the age of 35.

It is something to consider about having enough money to take care of the child. Keep in mind that your fiance will not be able to work for a few months when he first arrives and that it's another hefty $1,010 fee in order for him to adjust status.

Theres nothing to say that you can't have healthy babies even after 35. Heck take me for example. I'm turning 47 this year, had daughter #1 when I was 42 and daughter #2 just a month shy of turning 44. Had no problems with either pregnancies, no morning sickness, nothing.

Do you know what the risks are having a baby that old? I am very happy that your baby is healthy. But that is not the case for many parents. I see them EVERY DAY I come to work. Mothers who are too young who have preemies and mothers who are too old who have babies with multiple birth defects (or much worse).

If you turn 35 or 40 and then realize you want kids, that's one thing. But to actually plan it that way? That's pretty risky and dangerous.

[EasternDE 35]

Do you know what the risks are having a baby that old? I am very happy that your baby is healthy. But that is not the case for many parents. I see them EVERY DAY I come to work. Mothers who are too young who have preemies and mothers who are too old who have babies with multiple birth defects (or much worse).

If you turn 35 or 40 and then realize you want kids, that's one thing. But to actually plan it that way? That's pretty risky and dangerous.

Who has mentionned this would be like a plan?

There's actually no more chances to get a baby with "birth defects" (as you call it) after 38. (ONS says 38 now, not 35 anymore...)

It's just that after that age, the natural process of the "natural miscarriage" if the baby has a problem isn't working anymore.

That's the big change, that's why you need to get an amniocentesis.

Now yes, with time goes by, women become less fertile, that's a fact.

We live longer, so we get babies later, it's a natural "progress".

The average age for the first pregnancy is actually 30 in France and I think it's like 35 in South Corea!

And the actual definition of women of childbearing age is 15 to 49.

It's much better to have a baby in good conditions, rather than a baby in a hurry with no family stability.

It would just be selfish then.

Rah, this is out of the topic but I don't like misinformation.

No matter what the OP isn't even 30 yet! She has a several years to plan this and do things right.

Edited September 23, 2009 by EasternDE

[Justine+David 218]

Who has mentionned this would be like a plan?

The "plan" was alluded to by Cloudy9 who was stating that she had her infants after the age of 40 and my post after that was in response to her post:

Theres nothing to say that you can't have healthy babies even after 35. Heck take me for example. I'm turning 47 this year, had daughter #1 when I was 42 and daughter #2 just a month shy of turning 44. Had no problems with either pregnancies, no morning sickness, nothing.

There's actually no more chances to get a baby with "birth defects" (as you call it) after 38. (ONS says 38 now, not 35 anymore...)

It's just that after that age, the natural process of the "natural miscarriage" if the baby has a problem isn't working anymore.

That's the big change, that's why you need to get an amniocentesis.

Now yes, with time goes by, women become less fertile, that's a fact.

We live longer, so we get babies later, it's a natural "progress".

The average age for the first pregnancy is actually 30 in France and I think it's like 35 in South Corea!

And the actual definition of women of childbearing age is 15 to 49.

It's much better to have a baby in good conditions, rather than a baby in a hurry with no family stability.

It would just be selfish then.

No matter what the OP isn't even 30 yet! She has a several years to plan this and do things right.

What is "ONS"? I got my information from ACOG, the American college of obstetricians and gynecologists. According to them, the risk of having a chromosome problem (a birth defect) increases with age. By the time you reach age 35, the risk has doubled, by age 40 the risk by seven fold, and by age 45 the risk is twenty-five fold.

With an amniocentesis, we have no idea what the OP's views are on abortion/taking care of a developmentally disabled child. I think it's better for her to have all the information now about the possible risks of that happening.

If you'll look at my first original post in this thread, I DID state that it's important to have enough money to take care of the infant and that her fiance will not be able to work for a few months and to factor that into her plans. I additionally mentioned that she should go see her doctor to assess for any risk factors. We have no idea what her current health is; she might have a condition that could make her pregnancy even more difficult as it is no matter what age.

Just because people are having babies later in life (like South Korea as you mentioned) now doesn't mean that they should. Like I said in my second post, it's one thing to get to an older age and realize that you want children. I would never tell a person not to try for pregnancy. But to plan it that way (as alluded by the poster previous to me) is not recommended.

This is not off-topic as the OP stated that she wanted to get pregnant and this is offering information to her to plan it wisely, both with age factors, health factors, and financial stability. Best of luck to her and to everyone here on their visa journeys

[USAplusColombia 1]

A good debate, but the conversation seems to be misdirected. Anything wrong with bringing someone here on a K1 and applying for food stamps? Or am I the only one?

[Arabella 4]

Thank you so much for your fast reply.

I want to have a baby because I am 30 years old now. I know it is too slow if I apply him when I am permanent resident, so we waited a long time.

What Anh said is right, may be I should consider the baby when he arrived.

30 is not that old for having a baby. My mom had me at 35 and my little sister at 36. My co-worker had two children in her late 30s.

I want another baby, I'm 30, but I am going to wait about 3 years until he moves here, settles in, has a job, etc.

Good luck!

[Mountain Climber 186]

I am a permanent resident, and a student, all my tuition and living fee are from the loans. For the reason than I do not have any income and my parents are not in this country, I am qualified to apply the food stamp.

But I will become citizenship next year, also I will graduate and get a job next Aug. Then I will apply K1 visa for my boyfriend. If I apply the food stamp now, I would only use that within 1 year, before the K1 application. I do not know if my food stamp history will have bad effect on the K1 application? Next year I may have income only for 4 months, I think that will be less than the bottom line of the finacial sponsion. Will my boyfriend be considered as "public charge" because of my 1 year food stamp history potentially? If it will, I will not apply for that.

Since I will graduate and have a job next year, I am planning to have a baby when I visit him next year. Do you think my pregnancy will make the case processed faster? I need him to take care of me when I give birth the baby.

Thanks a lot for your answer!

Just because you are graduating next August how do you know you will get a job? This is one of the toughest job markets in history. Why are you worrying about having a baby when you are not even financially situated? Who will pay for your pregnancy when you come back from visiting your boyfriend if you have no income? You want to bring your boyfriend over on a K1 but again, what if you do not have a job and cannot support him? If you have a baby and need to stay home, who will provide the income for your household since your boyfriend will not be able to work immediately.

Maybe you should rethink your plan.

Edited September 24, 2009 by Mountain Climber

[Mountain Climber 186]

A good debate, but the conversation seems to be misdirected. Anything wrong with bringing someone here on a K1 and applying for food stamps? Or am I the only one?

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