Need advice ASAP...divorce after husband arriving here

[savina 0]

hey svetlana am not too sure how u feeling right now but I can se efrom all that you have written is that you want your life back ....well marriage is a commitment bet 2 people and you have been waiting for a yr to be together...am sure you guys must hv made plans in these 2 yrs....dont give up so easily...give him a chance and talk to him abt what is worrying you and what he needs to do to be with you and make this marriage work...am sure you very stressed out that is why you want a diovorce......take sometime and think and give your marriage another chance...you loved this man..love cant vanish suddenly just coz of oen mistake of his....

all the best and take cr ...

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

hey svetlana am not too sure how u feeling right now but I can se efrom all that you have written is that you want your life back ....well marriage is a commitment bet 2 people and you have been waiting for a yr to be together...am sure you guys must hv made plans in these 2 yrs....dont give up so easily...give him a chance and talk to him abt what is worrying you and what he needs to do to be with you and make this marriage work...am sure you very stressed out that is why you want a diovorce......take sometime and think and give your marriage another chance...you loved this man..love cant vanish suddenly just coz of oen mistake of his....

all the best and take cr ...

Svetlana, my 2 cents, you spent a 1 year in this immigration, nightmare, now your in this ngihtmare, give it more time as he just arrived a few weeks ago. It takes time to get things in order, and to feel natural, soon it will all work like clock work.

Very best wishes, I hope you give it time for him, for you and happiness.

Beth

[Svetlana 0]

hey svetlana am not too sure how u feeling right now but I can se efrom all that you have written is that you want your life back ....well marriage is a commitment bet 2 people and you have been waiting for a yr to be together...am sure you guys must hv made plans in these 2 yrs....dont give up so easily...give him a chance and talk to him abt what is worrying you and what he needs to do to be with you and make this marriage work...am sure you very stressed out that is why you want a diovorce......take sometime and think and give your marriage another chance...you loved this man..love cant vanish suddenly just coz of oen mistake of his....

all the best and take cr ...

Svetlana, my 2 cents, you spent a 1 year in this immigration, nightmare, now your in this ngihtmare, give it more time as he just arrived a few weeks ago. It takes time to get things in order, and to feel natural, soon it will all work like clock work.

Very best wishes, I hope you give it time for him, for you and happiness.

Beth

Thank you, Elizabeth, for a nice words!

It's nice you still remember me.

I knew it will be hard from begining, but I didn't know...sooooo hard!

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

hey svetlana am not too sure how u feeling right now but I can se efrom all that you have written is that you want your life back ....well marriage is a commitment bet 2 people and you have been waiting for a yr to be together...am sure you guys must hv made plans in these 2 yrs....dont give up so easily...give him a chance and talk to him abt what is worrying you and what he needs to do to be with you and make this marriage work...am sure you very stressed out that is why you want a diovorce......take sometime and think and give your marriage another chance...you loved this man..love cant vanish suddenly just coz of oen mistake of his....

all the best and take cr ...

Svetlana, my 2 cents, you spent a 1 year in this immigration, nightmare, now your in this ngihtmare, give it more time as he just arrived a few weeks ago. It takes time to get things in order, and to feel natural, soon it will all work like clock work.

Very best wishes, I hope you give it time for him, for you and happiness.

Beth

Thank you, Elizabeth, for a nice words!

It's nice you still remember me.

I knew it will be hard from begining, but I didn't know...sooooo hard!

Of course I remember you Sweets, give it time Honey, cause if your dont, later on you may regret it, and always wonder what would of happened if you gave it time. Im always here for you if you just want a shoulder.

Hugs,

Beth

[Rings 10]

Wow I am so sorry you feel this way. Does he feel the same? He still needs to be able to fly home. If it were me personally in this situation, I would work with him and maintain a civil relationship until I could afford his flight home. If he is in agreement witht he divorce then when he flies home he should file from his home country because it will be cheaper for both of you.

[Svetlana 0]

Wow I am so sorry you feel this way. Does he feel the same? He still needs to be able to fly home. If it were me personally in this situation, I would work with him and maintain a civil relationship until I could afford his flight home. If he is in agreement witht he divorce then when he flies home he should file from his home country because it will be cheaper for both of you.

Things are going better now, he change...will see how his English goes

Our first priority for now find him a job, so he will feel like a person

[Rings 10]

I think it's very important to make him feel as if he is not a burden to you. It is already so hard to be in a place where he does not understand everyone and he is feeling as if he is making your life harder because he is not making money. His family is not here and he has no where to go and he must feel very overwhelmed. I know times are tough and money is hard, but you both fell in love and you both should try to support each other emotionally. He is hurting inside too and talking of divorce would break his heart even more. Perhaps both of you could hold each other up and make it through the thick and thin. After all this is what marriage is about.

[BRB 6]

Since you are both in agreement you might be able to file for an annulment under these circumstances.

[Svetlana 0]

Since you are both in agreement you might be able to file for an annulment under these circumstances.

What agreement??? He has no idea I was thinking about divorce

[redBlue 1]

Since you are both in agreement you might be able to file for an annulment under these circumstances.

What agreement??? He has no idea I was thinking about divorce

u complaining that he hasn't learned one word of English..have u learned his language at all? Learning a new language is not an easy thing..it's a human nature..some people are good at it,some are not....

US has been going tru tough times for the last several years..even the native americans,citizens can't find a job..how could u blame him for not being able to find a job as a new immigrant....what did u tell to him in ur vow when u got married...did you not say that u would love him for poorer and for richer....

how come he doesn't know about ur divorce ideas...did u try everything to save your marriage..did u go to marriage counsellor....

it's not easy to leave ur country and start a life all over again in another country.....but he did it...u guys are married for such a short time.....i'm not judgeing or anything but my understanding is that you were married before..so marriege is not a brand new thing to you....you should've knowen better what the marriege is all about and what your expectation is.....

last but not least..if you decide to divorce him ,do it in a "civil way",don't kick him out from the country....

[Svetlana 0]

Since you are both in agreement you might be able to file for an annulment under these circumstances.

What agreement??? He has no idea I was thinking about divorce

u complaining that he hasn't learned one word of English..have u learned his language at all? Learning a new language is not an easy thing..it's a human nature..some people are good at it,some are not....

US has been going tru tough times for the last several years..even the native americans,citizens can't find a job..how could u blame him for not being able to find a job as a new immigrant....what did u tell to him in ur vow when u got married...did you not say that u would love him for poorer and for richer....

how come he doesn't know about ur divorce ideas...did u try everything to save your marriage..did u go to marriage counsellor....

it's not easy to leave ur country and start a life all over again in another country.....but he did it...u guys are married for such a short time.....i'm not judgeing or anything but my understanding is that you were married before..so marriege is not a brand new thing to you....you should've knowen better what the marriege is all about and what your expectation is.....

last but not least..if you decide to divorce him ,do it in a "civil way",don't kick him out from the country....

In my 39 I learned Latvian language and in my 42 I came here to US and learned English without any classes. I don't need to learn his language, we are both Russian.

And yes I am working on marriage, that's what I am doing every single day. I am working fuul time, then have bussunes at home, go to bad midnight and supporting him and my 80 years old Mom. Both without income. TThis is not nice to blame me without knowing what's going on.

[redBlue 1]

not blaming anybody...this was my impression reading all these posts.....wish the good luck....