Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part 19)

[Islandwoman 0]

I had a small disagreement with A because his sister posted some pics of them dropping their other sister off at the airport, and I noticed that A didn't have his wedding band on. I didn't agrue or yell at him, but he knew I was upset because he can automatically sense my moods. He told his sister about it because she overheard him talking to me about it. He apologized and told me that he just forgot to put it on that day. Well, his sister sent me a message on FB telling me that she understands my point but not to be mad at him. She said that he is taking me being upset about it very hard...that he can't stop talking about me and he loves me so much. She asked me not to be mad at him because she forgets to put her rings on all the time. Then, she told me that she has my back because she believes in our love 1000%.

I'm upset because A NEVER put his ring on with his ex-wife...and he told me it was because he didn't love her. Am I making too big a deal out of this? He said he will just get in the habit of putting it on before his other jewelry...so he doesn't forget. I'm still upset. On the other hand, I feel like I am sweating the small stuff. The symbolism of the ring is important to me...even though I know it won't stop a man or woman from doing what they want to do. How do you guys feel about the wearing of the wedding band?

I'm with you Jawi - I believe the ring is a symbolism of your marriage. I would take my wedding ring off when things started going bad with my ex-husband. In this case he might have just forgot - did he have his other jewelry on? My suggestion would be to let it go for this time - he knows you were very upset and it bothers you so he is apt not to do it again.

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

[quote name='Islandwoman' post='3341541' date='Sep 24 2009, 09:56 AM'

I'm with you Jawi - I believe the ring is a symbolism of your marriage. I would take my wedding ring off when things started going bad with my ex-husband. In this case he might have just forgot - did he have his other jewelry on? My suggestion would be to let it go for this time - he knows you were very upset and it bothers you so he is apt not to do it again.

ppl u cant tek another man's fat and fry every man..it no right

Edited September 24, 2009 by Chiney*Eyes

[jawi876 2]

Jawi, I would feel upset as well. I never take mine off, unless my finger gets all swollen for some reason and then I feel naked.

Louis takes his off for work sometimes. He got it caught on something once and hurt his finger. But otherwise it is on even in sleep.

However, don't dwell on it. You know he loves you. Don't let that sit on your mind. Its just a ring, he can't just leave his heart sitting on the nightstand.... he carries your love everywhere.

Awww that was sweet. I guess that is what his sister was trying to tell me too. My new nephew~in~law is 20...he got on the phone with me and said "I want to meet the woman that has my Uncle acting like a schoolboy with a crush." Yeah I know he loves me...I love him too...even if I'm still upset. LOL

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

Bunz you are so right it all happens in God's time and all we can do is have faith! I am prying for a quick interview date for you girl. I would love to see you during the holiday but more than anything I want you to be here in the states wid yuh man! Canal Street here we come

Sus and I will meet you there - we were just shopping Canal street on Labor day weekend!

ooo cause oonuh know mi poo and pawpah mek oonuh no invite mi...cause mi mussi live a bush..

[Islandwoman 0]

ppl u cant tek another man's fat and fry every man..it no right

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Bunz you are so right it all happens in God's time and all we can do is have faith! I am prying for a quick interview date for you girl. I would love to see you during the holiday but more than anything I want you to be here in the states wid yuh man! Canal Street here we come

Sus and I will meet you there - we were just shopping Canal street on Labor day weekend!

ooo cause oonuh know mi poo and pawpah mek oonuh no invite mi...cause mi mussi live a bush..

Nahh Kimmy...I screamed it out on my fb page for the locals to link me that weekend....but you had just got home from your trip.

[jawi876 2]

I'm with you Jawi - I believe the ring is a symbolism of your marriage. I would take my wedding ring off when things started going bad with my ex-husband. In this case he might have just forgot - did he have his other jewelry on? My suggestion would be to let it go for this time - he knows you were very upset and it bothers you so he is apt not to do it again.

ppl u cant tek another man's fat and fry every man..it no right

mi nuh tink har do dat Chiney. Mi tink she did try fe mek an hexample out of har situation...and she was the one removing the ring.

Well, he warned me that I will see some other pictures from earlier in the trip later and he wasn't wearing it then either. So it wasn't just one day. He wanted to keep me on the phone last night talking (I guess with the hopes I would get over it)...but I wasn't in the mood for chitchat...and I wanted to be sure I didn't let my temper get the best of me and make me say something I would regret later. I can't even fully enjoy the pictures because he is standing there all smiles and bling sans wedding ring. Cha.

[finesse 3]

Jawi, I would feel upset as well. I never take mine off, unless my finger gets all swollen for some reason and then I feel naked.

Louis takes his off for work sometimes. He got it caught on something once and hurt his finger. But otherwise it is on even in sleep.

However, don't dwell on it. You know he loves you. Don't let that sit on your mind. Its just a ring, he can't just leave his heart sitting on the nightstand.... he carries your love everywhere.

Awww that was sweet. I guess that is what his sister was trying to tell me too. My new nephew~in~law is 20...he got on the phone with me and said "I want to meet the woman that has my Uncle acting like a schoolboy with a crush." Yeah I know he loves me...I love him too...even if I'm still upset. LOL

good to be upset sometimes, especially if your feelings are hurt. let it be known rather than act like it is no big deal when to you it is not. i doubt he will forget again....

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

OOOH....YUP AND MI MISS IRIE JAMBOREE TO..mi neva si yuh yuh banner...

wah dat mean Island is..u should use one man's mistake against everyman..basicly

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

I'm with you Jawi - I believe the ring is a symbolism of your marriage. I would take my wedding ring off when things started going bad with my ex-husband. In this case he might have just forgot - did he have his other jewelry on? My suggestion would be to let it go for this time - he knows you were very upset and it bothers you so he is apt not to do it again.

ppl u cant tek another man's fat and fry every man..it no right

mi nuh tink har do dat Chiney. Mi tink she did try fe mek an hexample out of har situation...and she was the one removing the ring.

Well, he warned me that I will see some other pictures from earlier in the trip later and he wasn't wearing it then either. So it wasn't just one day. He wanted to keep me on the phone last night talking (I guess with the hopes I would get over it)...but I wasn't in the mood for chitchat...and I wanted to be sure I didn't let my temper get the best of me and make me say something I would regret later. I can't even fully enjoy the pictures because he is standing there all smiles and bling sans wedding ring. Cha.

mi did a talk IF HE was the one doing the "wrongs"..since something prompted her to take her ring off

[sus 70]

Eeeekkkk....Sus, are you safe?

I am 99.9% sure - cause no one knows what I do, lol - But, it just sucks, these are two of my favorite people - they did volunteer to take the package when presented, and neither is upset - it's just quickly becoming a different place to work.

Bunz you are so right it all happens in God's time and all we can do is have faith! I am prying for a quick interview date for you girl. I would love to see you during the holiday but more than anything I want you to be here in the states wid yuh man! Canal Street here we come

Sus and I will meet you there - we were just shopping Canal street on Labor day weekend!

Yup! Purse vendors have gone mobile now - no more store backs, they have minivans

ooo cause oonuh know mi poo and pawpah mek oonuh no invite mi...cause mi mussi live a bush..

LOL, you were MIA - We did Canal St, Times Square, Irie Jamboree - with Dillon's MIL!

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

yuh rite susi..my sister works in the city and she knows every deal and where..

[sus 70]

Jawi, I wouldn't think too hard on the issue with the ring - When I first got my engagement ring, I would take it off - DJ would get mad at me cause I would take it off to put on sunscreen, and forget to put it back on before we went out - It wasn't something I was used to doing or wearing every day -

If you had been married a year and he religiously put it on, then "forgot" - I might be thinking twice about it - But you are newly married, the ring is new - I know it hurts, but I would try to not read too too much into it.

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

Bunz neva add mi needa...CHA

Oh glad to know at least I'm not alone. Cha! I hope I didn't offend you with my last request on FB...if I did, I'm sorry. I don't want to sound ungrateful because I truly appreciated it!

haha how onoo stay so bad

request is coming

nat sent me a list of vj ppl

going go back thru it

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Hi everyone.

I am very sad because my husband found out this morning that his mother passed away. He is on a plane right now on his way back to Jamaica. The saddest part about it is that he had a ticket to go down for a week on monday. He was just five days short of seeing his mother one last time.

She had been sick with headaches and dizzy spells, but nobody thought she was on her deathbed. She was only 51 years old. I still don't know what she died from.

So, my question is...what should I do? I want to go down and be there for him, but the money just isn't there. I don't have any experience with Jamaican funerals or customs.

I am so sorry for your loss Acrow. I know whenever my husband's uncles have been buried it usually occurred several weeks after the actual death. I hope that you can work something out, but if not, I'm sure he will understand. Even the communication between you two would probably be a great comfort to him

[Islandwoman 0]

I'm with you Jawi - I believe the ring is a symbolism of your marriage. I would take my wedding ring off when things started going bad with my ex-husband. In this case he might have just forgot - did he have his other jewelry on? My suggestion would be to let it go for this time - he knows you were very upset and it bothers you so he is apt not to do it again.

ppl u cant tek another man's fat and fry every man..it no right

mi nuh tink har do dat Chiney. Mi tink she did try fe mek an hexample out of har situation...and she was the one removing the ring.

Well, he warned me that I will see some other pictures from earlier in the trip later and he wasn't wearing it then either. So it wasn't just one day. He wanted to keep me on the phone last night talking (I guess with the hopes I would get over it)...but I wasn't in the mood for chitchat...and I wanted to be sure I didn't let my temper get the best of me and make me say something I would regret later. I can't even fully enjoy the pictures because he is standing there all smiles and bling sans wedding ring. Cha.

Exactly! Thank you. Jawi. When divorce was on it's way, removing my ring was a symbol to me that the marriage was over.

Again, I would feel the way you do Jawi. But to play devil's advocate, it's a lot colder up here than ATL so if his ring was a bit big to begin with, it's really loose now with cold hands.... As I said, he knows it bothered you and you were upset so I'm sure he will be making a point to always have it on.