Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part 19)

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Yeah...but were the results of them being "stunning and talented" as you say due to people treating them differently--being encouraged more, being provided w/ more opportunities or acceptance based on appearance, etc

As the mother of a biracial child I realized this when my daughter was old enough to speak and began to say "I know" instead of a simple "thank you" when anyone told her she was pretty, beautiful, whatever, that I had to do something and immediately. She had heard it so often that she was taking it for granted and believing the hype. She also made fun of one of my foster kids and told her she had longer hair than her (one of my gorgeous foster daughters who happened to have a dark complexion). My answer to the latter was to chop off her hair (my mother never forgave me till this day) to show her that hair, features, etc. do not mean ANYTHING if you have no inward beauty to back it up. I have drilled into her that your looks will only get a door opened for you but after that you have to have something to show or prove or else you are SOL. I pray to my Good Lord that one day people will describe my daughter as a kind, smart, generous, considerate, thoughtful daughter, now those are words that will make me proud!

A lesson I'm sure she's learned. I'm sure she'll turn out just fine--sounds like you've done a great job!

[Tosh Love 77]

U go Shaunsgal!!!! I love that you chopped off her hair that was a good example plus she was young enough for it to grow back which I'm sure it did so no harm done.

I remember all my friends told me I was doing irreparable harm to her by doing that, but I did not give a &$#@. I also remember taking her door off the jam about two years ago because she slammed her door. Now we have an agreement that when she starts paying rent in her own home she can slam the doors all day long....No one agreed with me on that either.

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

Hey ladies Im on my sidekick on my way home to hubby

Shasuna= ditto hand clapp from me

RGD= GREEDY

Aint it time for a Yardie 20 up to 400 pages... but Ima leave that to the VETS

I can't do the humping bed smiley cuz im on the sidekick but yall know what im going home to do... hopefully he DIDN'T START WITHOUT ME

[IrieCat 2]

U go Shaunsgal!!!! I love that you chopped off her hair that was a good example plus she was young enough for it to grow back which I'm sure it did so no harm done.

I remember all my friends told me I was doing irreparable harm to her by doing that, but I did not give a &$#@. I also remember taking her door off the jam about two years ago because she slammed her door. Now we have an agreement that when she starts paying rent in her own home she can slam the doors all day long....No one agreed with me on that either.

Wow... no one? I agree with both of those things! I think you are teaching very good lessons in a way that will make her think. What do the people who disagree suggest you do?

... Also I think making fun of people is one of the worst things we can do. So the lesson learned is a good one.

[MRStee 19]

OK I joined the bandwagon.... Thanks Cara! Vote for Tierra!!!

http://family.go.com/gapcastingcall/entrie...ncis/123039954/

She is in the older girls catagory.

im gonna vote!

[Tosh Love 77]

hey ladies wha gwaan this evening?

Hi JaHoney!

[Tosh Love 77]

Wow... no one? I agree with both of those things! I think you are teaching very good lessons in a way that will make her think. What do the people who disagree suggest you do?

... Also I think making fun of people is one of the worst things we can do. So the lesson learned is a good one.

The general consensus is that I am "too hard" on her! Her father still believes that saying no to a child ruins their self esteem. Nuff said!

[MRStee 19]

CONGRATS MS. TEE !! SO HAPPY FOR YOU !!

Hey Yardies !! just passing thru ..i've been studying hard for school and trying to get things together for our interview ..but a quick UPDATE ..my honey had his medical today at Andrews Hospital in KNG..he got there around 830 he said alot of people were their already but he got called up around 10 and he was out at 2...he said everything went well !! So i'm happy about that..now we just have to get thru the big day ..

Thank you Heaven, I couldn't wait to get home to tell you since Im blocked from FB. Congrats on getting the medical done!

[My4rmylife 0]

Just popping in to let MsTee know that she and her sweetie are in my prayers! Remember, God is in control!

look at mi ticker!! mi pick di medium color babies cuz mi nuh knoa ow dem a come out...

well finesse you could have one very fair complected child and one with the perfect tan ......everyone says to me....for being twins, do you know you have 2 different colored children cara??? OMG are you serious???? i didnt have a clue!!!!!!!!!!

I feel you one of my twins is chocolate and the other is vanilla.

Mixed children are SO beautiful to me!

Y? Because their skin is lighter & their hair may be a finer texture? I'm sorry, but this statement is really making me feel some type of way...

I agree Ms. Palmer. Arent Black children beautiful as well

all children are beautiful

[IrieCat 2]

Wow... no one? I agree with both of those things! I think you are teaching very good lessons in a way that will make her think. What do the people who disagree suggest you do?

... Also I think making fun of people is one of the worst things we can do. So the lesson learned is a good one.

The general consensus is that I am "too hard" on her! Her father still believes that saying no to a child ruins their self esteem. Nuff said!

WOW!

[MRStee 19]

Yeah...but were the results of them being "stunning and talented" as you say due to people treating them differently--being encouraged more, being provided w/ more opportunities or acceptance based on appearance, etc

As the mother of a biracial child I realized this when my daughter was old enough to speak and began to say "I know" instead of a simple "thank you" when anyone told her she was pretty, beautiful, whatever, that I had to do something and immediately. She had heard it so often that she was taking it for granted and believing the hype. She also made fun of one of my foster kids and told her she had longer hair than her (one of my gorgeous foster daughters who happened to have a dark complexion). My answer to the latter was to chop off her hair (my mother never forgave me till this day) to show her that hair, features, etc. do not mean ANYTHING if you have no inward beauty to back it up. I have drilled into her that your looks will only get a door opened for you but after that you have to have something to show or prove or else you are SOL. I pray to my Good Lord that one day people will describe my daughter as a kind, smart, generous, considerate, thoughtful daughter, now those are words that will make me proud!

[My4rmylife 0]

APPROVEDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD!!!!!!!!!

Questions:

When was the last time she came to visit?

How many children?

Write our names down...

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congrats

[Tosh Love 77]

Hey ladies Im on my sidekick on my way home to hubby

Shasuna= ditto hand clapp from me

RGD= GREEDY

Aint it time for a Yardie 20 up to 400 pages... but Ima leave that to the VETS

I can't do the humping bed smiley cuz im on the sidekick but yall know what im going home to do... hopefully he DIDN'T START WITHOUT ME

[MRStee 19]

thank you...

I didn't mean to offend anyone with what I said...

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

wow Shaunsgal, well said!!!