Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part 19)

[Islandwoman 0]

It's not easy raising a boy child as a single mother. I don't want to make him too soft or too hard...sigh. I don't like the silent treatment and him being embarrassed about me hugging and kissing him.

I feel you on this Jawi. We have compromised to hi 5's in public and hugs and kisses at home....

[*JG* 2]

Hey peeps! I've been missing in action on VJ for a minute or two.

I must admit, I've seen that one simmering for a little while now.

Finesse, I totally understand what your husband is feeling. My mom tried to label my husband because of the terrible mistake my sister's husband made. She thought he was following the same path because he went to visit his sister in NY right after we got married. I just calmly told her that she can't do that because she wouldn't want to be guilty of something someone else did. I know she still thinks all Jamaican men suck...but I can't worry about that.

As for not being able to resist the Jamaican man...that is an all out lie. I'm not knocking my Jamaican brothers...but in my opinion...there are not many that I would consider handsome (I know I know...they may not consider me beautiful either). I don't understand why foreign women have mystified Jamaican men so much. I had one friend telling me that Jamaican men were too smart for her. The accent is no different than that of a Jamaican woman...so why no alluring mystism around them too? (I won't lie and say that Vybz Kartel doesn't make me HOOOOTTT when he lowers the octave in his voice...but he is the RARE exception...welll except for Capleton when he goes into his high deciphel chants...wait a minute...this isn't about me...I digress).

I have always thought it was a load of bs coming from a bunch of women that are attention starved in their own country. Now before you try to curse me, I'm not saying you can't get a man in your own country...but even having a man here doesn't mean you will get attention from him (outside of wanting to screw all the time). I personally think a lot of American men are spoiled because we have allowed them to be...we are so willing to settle for just any piece of man...that a man doesn't have to be a true gentleman anymore. If an American man felt confident enough to approach me by telling me he wanted me to be his woman on the side because he was married and would never divorce...but he would pay ALL my bills...we have a huge problem in our society. This line obviously worked with someone...or he wouldn't have been so brazen to try it with me. My oldest son's father admitted to me that he rarely if ever has to approach a woman he is interested in....he said he doesn't even remember how to do it because American women take the lead now. So, this is what I mean by attention starved.

Then, along comes a Jamaican man telling you all the things your male counterpart in your own country won't say because he just doesn't have to...he doesn't believe it...or he thinks it will make him look weak or pum whipped~~BAM...you are all strung out on Jamaican wood...with a man with two teeth and one crusty toe talking about his accent is so sexy, and he is so exotic. Please!

I also think that if American (I'm speaking of the only country I have lived from my own personal experiences) men stepped up their game, there would not be so many women flocking to Jamaica or any other country in search of acceptance, attention and real male companionship. A woman should never have to pay a man for his attention or love. I thought it was sad that DaDa or any other woman felt the need to even include that disclaimer in her love story...but I just shrugged and kept reading. Jamaican men have just honed their craft...noticed the increased demand and decided to amph up their supply...simple economics in very hard times.

I'm with my husband...not because he was Jamaican or has a sexy accent...but because we cultivated a true friendship and the friendship blossomed into more over time. I'm not attention starved so I'm perfectly fine with walking through town with my Ipod blasting to ignore the gigs calling out to me. I have turned down waaaayyyy tooo many men to count here and there...so unlike what another woman told me "that is the best part of Jamaica...why would you WANT to tune that out?"...I just don't believe the hype.

I have also been pretty diverse in my dating experiences...I have dated White men...Cuban...Indian (middle Eastern)...Black men and Jamaican men. I know that I was never trying to be of that race or nationality simply because I dated one.

My true love affair is with the island of Jamaica and the Jamaican culture because it gives me "roots"...stability and a sense of belonging that I never found in America. So, even if my marriage doesn't last...I will always be a true yardie at heart. It's not a fly by night thing or the latest happening trend/fad for me to try. I immerse myself in the culture because it is no less part of me than if I had been born and raised there. I still have a lot to learn...but that's what life is anyway...a series of learning lessons.

I can always tell the women that love Jamaica because of the man/men that they met while vacationing...and those that truly love the island and culture. I have been to Jamaica a few times with no more than $50 in my pocket and no money coming in...so it's not a love affair because I'm vacationing in a nice resort far removed from the daily struggles either.

You are so eloquent, Jaw.

For me, you can put your heart and soul into a man you love.....give it your all.....and then be terribly disappointed. A life lesson; but still. I love JA. But, the reminder will be more then I can bear.

[Gone4good 0]

Good Mornin Mi Stars!! Just wanted to let y'all know I'm back from Jamaica (am a likkle sad) and yesterday I got great news- NOA2 approval was emailed to me!!! Yay!!! I have to catch up, i'm sooo behind! Hope everyone is doing well!! Rispeck!!

Welcome back and congratulations on your noa2

Thanks My2- i needed it!! I hope all is well with you!!

yw ,, things are good... i got our drop off date for the Ds230

I'm so happy for you!! That is GREAT!!! So When is it?? and did you email them to get the date?

its oct 20 th it took a while i emailed as soon as nvc forwarded the case to kingston.... i had to email the m a few times though

NICE!! Good work Sista! You just keep doing what you gotta do, enoh.. I am praying for you!!

[dillon 6]

Looks like Chicago is out for 2016

[*JG* 2]

Hey peeps! I've been missing in action on VJ for a minute or two.

I must admit, I've seen that one simmering for a little while now.

Finesse, I totally understand what your husband is feeling. My mom tried to label my husband because of the terrible mistake my sister's husband made. She thought he was following the same path because he went to visit his sister in NY right after we got married. I just calmly told her that she can't do that because she wouldn't want to be guilty of something someone else did. I know she still thinks all Jamaican men suck...but I can't worry about that.

As for not being able to resist the Jamaican man...that is an all out lie. I'm not knocking my Jamaican brothers...but in my opinion...there are not many that I would consider handsome (I know I know...they may not consider me beautiful either). I don't understand why foreign women have mystified Jamaican men so much. I had one friend telling me that Jamaican men were too smart for her. The accent is no different than that of a Jamaican woman...so why no alluring mystism around them too? (I won't lie and say that Vybz Kartel doesn't make me HOOOOTTT when he lowers the octave in his voice...but he is the RARE exception...welll except for Capleton when he goes into his high deciphel chants...wait a minute...this isn't about me...I digress).

I have always thought it was a load of bs coming from a bunch of women that are attention starved in their own country. Now before you try to curse me, I'm not saying you can't get a man in your own country...but even having a man here doesn't mean you will get attention from him (outside of wanting to screw all the time). I personally think a lot of American men are spoiled because we have allowed them to be...we are so willing to settle for just any piece of man...that a man doesn't have to be a true gentleman anymore. If an American man felt confident enough to approach me by telling me he wanted me to be his woman on the side because he was married and would never divorce...but he would pay ALL my bills...we have a huge problem in our society. This line obviously worked with someone...or he wouldn't have been so brazen to try it with me. My oldest son's father admitted to me that he rarely if ever has to approach a woman he is interested in....he said he doesn't even remember how to do it because American women take the lead now. So, this is what I mean by attention starved.

Then, along comes a Jamaican man telling you all the things your male counterpart in your own country won't say because he just doesn't have to...he doesn't believe it...or he thinks it will make him look weak or pum whipped~~BAM...you are all strung out on Jamaican wood...with a man with two teeth and one crusty toe talking about his accent is so sexy, and he is so exotic. Please!

I also think that if American (I'm speaking of the only country I have lived from my own personal experiences) men stepped up their game, there would not be so many women flocking to Jamaica or any other country in search of acceptance, attention and real male companionship. A woman should never have to pay a man for his attention or love. I thought it was sad that DaDa or any other woman felt the need to even include that disclaimer in her love story...but I just shrugged and kept reading. Jamaican men have just honed their craft...noticed the increased demand and decided to amph up their supply...simple economics in very hard times.

I'm with my husband...not because he was Jamaican or has a sexy accent...but because we cultivated a true friendship and the friendship blossomed into more over time. I'm not attention starved so I'm perfectly fine with walking through town with my Ipod blasting to ignore the gigs calling out to me. I have turned down waaaayyyy tooo many men to count here and there...so unlike what another woman told me "that is the best part of Jamaica...why would you WANT to tune that out?"...I just don't believe the hype.

I have also been pretty diverse in my dating experiences...I have dated White men...Cuban...Indian (middle Eastern)...Black men and Jamaican men. I know that I was never trying to be of that race or nationality simply because I dated one.

My true love affair is with the island of Jamaica and the Jamaican culture because it gives me "roots"...stability and a sense of belonging that I never found in America. So, even if my marriage doesn't last...I will always be a true yardie at heart. It's not a fly by night thing or the latest happening trend/fad for me to try. I immerse myself in the culture because it is no less part of me than if I had been born and raised there. I still have a lot to learn...but that's what life is anyway...a series of learning lessons.

I can always tell the women that love Jamaica because of the man/men that they met while vacationing...and those that truly love the island and culture. I have been to Jamaica a few times with no more than $50 in my pocket and no money coming in...so it's not a love affair because I'm vacationing in a nice resort far removed from the daily struggles either.

THANK YOU for saying that about the catcalls and all that. I get so tired of people trying to pigenhole everyone into the "oh they can't get it in the US so they come to JA" category. I feel the same way. I can get whatever I want whereever I want. It's just playing the game. And, I get the same thing you are talking about; without the comfort level. I do not like all the attention.

[My4rmylife 0]

Good Mornin Mi Stars!! Just wanted to let y'all know I'm back from Jamaica (am a likkle sad) and yesterday I got great news- NOA2 approval was emailed to me!!! Yay!!! I have to catch up, i'm sooo behind! Hope everyone is doing well!! Rispeck!!

Welcome back and congratulations on your noa2

Thanks My2- i needed it!! I hope all is well with you!!

yw ,, things are good... i got our drop off date for the Ds230

I'm so happy for you!! That is GREAT!!! So When is it?? and did you email them to get the date?

its oct 20 th it took a while i emailed as soon as nvc forwarded the case to kingston.... i had to email the m a few times though

NICE!! Good work Sista! You just keep doing what you gotta do, enoh.. I am praying for you!!

thanks

[phillyfashionista 8]

trailer for the movie redemption of paradise antigua ft.local movie trailer ft .macka diamond ,kevroy graham, keithroy mason

Yall know Im gonna find the movie and burn it fi all dat want ie, evern the Jermaine Jacksonista Hateratti. See Jermaine is Love LOL

[*SunRay* 1]

Can we move on past the drama that took place in here. PLEASE! I go back and read a lot when I miss stuff and that's ok, but can we please leave then drama in the past. People don't want to keep be reminded of what happened. That was yesterday, let's DO TODAY.... This forum is going to good right now. Just my thought for the day.... Don't hate me for speaking out.

[*JG* 2]

lmao @ rotten teet man

i have always said jamaica is the place for women with low self esteem that love being misled because yuh have some jamaican men who will call to ANYTHING! i mean it. when that statues at emancipation park went up i cannot tell you the amount of men that were lusting after the female and she's a STATUE. i mean talking about what they would love to do to her

dem no partial a baxide

and if yuh self esteem really deh a groun, walk pass gun court pon camp road

lawd misses when di prisoner dem done tell yuh wha dem waan do wid yuh! yuh chun chun eida shrivel up or explode

Yeah, I laughed at the teeth and toe comment.

For real? A statue????? That's just wrong. Now, I'm sitting here wondering what they acutally have done to the poor statue.

[sus 70]

Spanglas, is that your puppy, or just a pic you snatched?

I snatched that pic, i just loved it so much!! Isn't he adorable?? I do have a dog though- a 7 lb. miniature pinscher named Nico who is a terror but my best friend Lol! I feel bad that I didn't post Nico's pic but i couldn't resist that little cutie!! I love animals! Got any Sus?

unfortunately, no pets right now I have always had them - But after my last dog and cat passed, I haven't gotten a new one yet - I have a Jamaican kitty who is spoiled rotten and lazy, but none in my house here

[*SunRay* 1]

Oh and

[*SunRay* 1]

Spanglas, is that your puppy, or just a pic you snatched?

I snatched that pic, i just loved it so much!! Isn't he adorable?? I do have a dog though- a 7 lb. miniature pinscher named Nico who is a terror but my best friend Lol! I feel bad that I didn't post Nico's pic but i couldn't resist that little cutie!! I love animals! Got any Sus?

unfortunately, no pets right now I have always had them - But after my last dog and cat passed, I haven't gotten a new one yet - I have a Jamaican kitty who is spoiled rotten and lazy, but none in my house here

I was thinking about getting a yorkie. Ray claims not to like dogs living in thehouse, but when he went to my sisters and wanted me to take him pick with her BIG dog. He told me that he would going to feed the dog beer. LOL I bet if I get it he'll be so attached to it.

[Gone4good 0]

Spanglas, is that your puppy, or just a pic you snatched?

I snatched that pic, i just loved it so much!! Isn't he adorable?? I do have a dog though- a 7 lb. miniature pinscher named Nico who is a terror but my best friend Lol! I feel bad that I didn't post Nico's pic but i couldn't resist that little cutie!! I love animals! Got any Sus?

unfortunately, no pets right now I have always had them - But after my last dog and cat passed, I haven't gotten a new one yet - I have a Jamaican kitty who is spoiled rotten and lazy, but none in my house here

Awww.. cute.. love kitties too..

[sus 70]

I was thinking about getting a yorkie. Ray claims not to like dogs living in thehouse, but when he went to my sisters and wanted me to take him pick with her BIG dog. He told me that he would going to feed the dog beer. LOL I bet if I get it he'll be so attached to it.

I love Yorkies! My friend has one - she's such a spoiled princess, but so so sweet - she just cuddles into you when you pick her up, and she wants to be held all the time!

I don't know that I would get a dog again for a while - it's ALOT of work and when you travel / work like I do, it's hard with a dog - cats are much easier. DJ always said he hated cats and we would only get a dog - now the man has a cat that sleeps in his bed

[Gone4good 0]

Spanglas, is that your puppy, or just a pic you snatched?

I snatched that pic, i just loved it so much!! Isn't he adorable?? I do have a dog though- a 7 lb. miniature pinscher named Nico who is a terror but my best friend Lol! I feel bad that I didn't post Nico's pic but i couldn't resist that little cutie!! I love animals! Got any Sus?

unfortunately, no pets right now I have always had them - But after my last dog and cat passed, I haven't gotten a new one yet - I have a Jamaican kitty who is spoiled rotten and lazy, but none in my house here

I was thinking about getting a yorkie. Ray claims not to like dogs living in thehouse, but when he went to my sisters and wanted me to take him pick with her BIG dog. He told me that he would going to feed the dog beer. LOL I bet if I get it he'll be so attached to it.

I think so too- how can you not?? Once they (dogs) bond with you, it's all over, LOL!! Instant LOVE!! You should do it- Yorkies are sooo adorable! And Tiny! Ray would fall in love... And feel bad about not letting it stay in the house!!