Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part 19)

[dancehallquana 5]

I have no opinion on this any way at all. All I want to say is Sunny scared me yesterday. Today, Sus & DaDa scared the ####### out of me. I promise to never piss you guys off. Cross my heart....the whole needle in the eye thing!!!!!

wait is wah else mi miss...wah Mich do inna di place

Can we all just get along. I was just saying how much I love this forum after the drama yesterday on FB.

Kimmy, I didn't do anything in here. I've been my good self. I was honest with JG about something totally unrelated to VJ that's all.

what happened on FB?

di farrin alliance NUH???

[dancehallquana 5]

nat ya REAL good ooman.. man mi cyaan manage dat..

on the marriage, i guess my issue is that he wanted to work it out.. i didn't..

but what helps is like jap says i do think my kids are seeing a better relationship now..

[jawi876 2]

Hey peeps! I've been missing in action on VJ for a minute or two.

I must admit, I've seen that one simmering for a little while now.

Finesse, I totally understand what your husband is feeling. My mom tried to label my husband because of the terrible mistake my sister's husband made. She thought he was following the same path because he went to visit his sister in NY right after we got married. I just calmly told her that she can't do that because she wouldn't want to be guilty of something someone else did. I know she still thinks all Jamaican men suck...but I can't worry about that.

As for not being able to resist the Jamaican man...that is an all out lie. I'm not knocking my Jamaican brothers...but in my opinion...there are not many that I would consider handsome (I know I know...they may not consider me beautiful either). I don't understand why foreign women have mystified Jamaican men so much. I had one friend telling me that Jamaican men were too smart for her. The accent is no different than that of a Jamaican woman...so why no alluring mystism around them too? (I won't lie and say that Vybz Kartel doesn't make me HOOOOTTT when he lowers the octave in his voice...but he is the RARE exception...welll except for Capleton when he goes into his high deciphel chants...wait a minute...this isn't about me...I digress).

I have always thought it was a load of bs coming from a bunch of women that are attention starved in their own country. Now before you try to curse me, I'm not saying you can't get a man in your own country...but even having a man here doesn't mean you will get attention from him (outside of wanting to screw all the time). I personally think a lot of American men are spoiled because we have allowed them to be...we are so willing to settle for just any piece of man...that a man doesn't have to be a true gentleman anymore. If an American man felt confident enough to approach me by telling me he wanted me to be his woman on the side because he was married and would never divorce...but he would pay ALL my bills...we have a huge problem in our society. This line obviously worked with someone...or he wouldn't have been so brazen to try it with me. My oldest son's father admitted to me that he rarely if ever has to approach a woman he is interested in....he said he doesn't even remember how to do it because American women take the lead now. So, this is what I mean by attention starved.

Then, along comes a Jamaican man telling you all the things your male counterpart in your own country won't say because he just doesn't have to...he doesn't believe it...or he thinks it will make him look weak or pum whipped~~BAM...you are all strung out on Jamaican wood...with a man with two teeth and one crusty toe talking about his accent is so sexy, and he is so exotic. Please!

I also think that if American (I'm speaking of the only country I have lived from my own personal experiences) men stepped up their game, there would not be so many women flocking to Jamaica or any other country in search of acceptance, attention and real male companionship. A woman should never have to pay a man for his attention or love. I thought it was sad that DaDa or any other woman felt the need to even include that disclaimer in her love story...but I just shrugged and kept reading. Jamaican men have just honed their craft...noticed the increased demand and decided to amph up their supply...simple economics in very hard times.

I'm with my husband...not because he was Jamaican or has a sexy accent...but because we cultivated a true friendship and the friendship blossomed into more over time. I'm not attention starved so I'm perfectly fine with walking through town with my Ipod blasting to ignore the gigs calling out to me. I have turned down waaaayyyy tooo many men to count here and there...so unlike what another woman told me "that is the best part of Jamaica...why would you WANT to tune that out?"...I just don't believe the hype.

I have also been pretty diverse in my dating experiences...I have dated White men...Cuban...Indian (middle Eastern)...Black men and Jamaican men. I know that I was never trying to be of that race or nationality simply because I dated one.

My true love affair is with the island of Jamaica and the Jamaican culture because it gives me "roots"...stability and a sense of belonging that I never found in America. So, even if my marriage doesn't last...I will always be a true yardie at heart. It's not a fly by night thing or the latest happening trend/fad for me to try. I immerse myself in the culture because it is no less part of me than if I had been born and raised there. I still have a lot to learn...but that's what life is anyway...a series of learning lessons.

I can always tell the women that love Jamaica because of the man/men that they met while vacationing...and those that truly love the island and culture. I have been to Jamaica a few times with no more than $50 in my pocket and no money coming in...so it's not a love affair because I'm vacationing in a nice resort far removed from the daily struggles either.

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

quana nothing is worth your peace of mind

and think about it like this

if you stayed to please him you would not have roger now

and his attitude truly justifies where you are now

[JAPrincess 27]

Hey peeps! I've been missing in action on VJ for a minute or two.

I must admit, I've seen that one simmering for a little while now.

Finesse, I totally understand what your husband is feeling. My mom tried to label my husband because of the terrible mistake my sister's husband made. She thought he was following the same path because he went to visit his sister in NY right after we got married. I just calmly told her that she can't do that because she wouldn't want to be guilty of something someone else did. I know she still thinks all Jamaican men suck...but I can't worry about that.

As for not being able to resist the Jamaican man...that is an all out lie. I'm not knocking my Jamaican brothers...but in my opinion...there are not many that I would consider handsome (I know I know...they may not consider me beautiful either). I don't understand why foreign women have mystified Jamaican men so much. I had one friend telling me that Jamaican men were too smart for her. The accent is no different than that of a Jamaican woman...so why no alluring mystism around them too? (I won't lie and say that Vybz Kartel doesn't make me HOOOOTTT when he lowers the octave in his voice...but he is the RARE exception...welll except for Capleton when he goes into his high deciphel chants...wait a minute...this isn't about me...I digress).

I have always thought it was a load of bs coming from a bunch of women that are attention starved in their own country. Now before you try to curse me, I'm not saying you can't get a man in your own country...but even having a man here doesn't mean you will get attention from him (outside of wanting to screw all the time). I personally think a lot of American men are spoiled because we have allowed them to be...we are so willing to settle for just any piece of man...that a man doesn't have to be a true gentleman anymore. If an American man felt confident enough to approach me by telling me he wanted me to be his woman on the side because he was married and would never divorce...but he would pay ALL my bills...we have a huge problem in our society. This line obviously worked with someone...or he wouldn't have been so brazen to try it with me. My oldest son's father admitted to me that he rarely if ever has to approach a woman he is interested in....he said he doesn't even remember how to do it because American women take the lead now. So, this is what I mean by attention starved.

Then, along comes a Jamaican man telling you all the things your male counterpart in your own country won't say because he just doesn't have to...he doesn't believe it...or he thinks it will make him look weak or pum whipped~~BAM...you are all strung out on Jamaican wood...with a man with two teeth and one crusty toe talking about his accent is so sexy, and he is so exotic. Please!

I also think that if American (I'm speaking of the only country I have lived from my own personal experiences) men stepped up their game, there would not be so many women flocking to Jamaica or any other country in search of acceptance, attention and real male companionship. A woman should never have to pay a man for his attention or love. I thought it was sad that DaDa or any other woman felt the need to even include that disclaimer in her love story...but I just shrugged and kept reading. Jamaican men have just honed their craft...noticed the increased demand and decided to amph up their supply...simple economics in very hard times.

I'm with my husband...not because he was Jamaican or has a sexy accent...but because we cultivated a true friendship and the friendship blossomed into more over time. I'm not attention starved so I'm perfectly fine with walking through town with my Ipod blasting to ignore the gigs calling out to me. I have turned down waaaayyyy tooo many men to count here and there...so unlike what another woman told me "that is the best part of Jamaica...why would you WANT to tune that out?"...I just don't believe the hype.

I have also been pretty diverse in my dating experiences...I have dated White men...Cuban...Indian (middle Eastern)...Black men and Jamaican men. I know that I was never trying to be of that race or nationality simply because I dated one.

My true love affair is with the island of Jamaica and the Jamaican culture because it gives me "roots"...stability and a sense of belonging that I never found in America. So, even if my marriage doesn't last...I will always be a true yardie at heart. It's not a fly by night thing or the latest happening trend/fad for me to try. I immerse myself in the culture because it is no less part of me than if I had been born and raised there. I still have a lot to learn...but that's what life is anyway...a series of learning lessons.

I can always tell the women that love Jamaica because of the man/men that they met while vacationing...and those that truly love the island and culture. I have been to Jamaica a few times with no more than $50 in my pocket and no money coming in...so it's not a love affair because I'm vacationing in a nice resort far removed from the daily struggles either.

wow...

I started to take out the bits and pieces of this post that I agreed with and big them up.

The more I read the more I agree with every word.

Well Said Jawi! For real!!

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

smaddy summarize jawi post fi mi nuh

i'm worded out

i can't read more than 4 lines at a time

[JAPrincess 27]

smaddy summarize jawi post fi mi nuh

i'm worded out

i can't read more than 4 lines at a time

kissteeth, it worth the read Bunz!

bout yuh worded out

read 4 lines at a time den, cho!

[dancehallquana 5]

quana nothing is worth your peace of mind

and think about it like this

if you stayed to please him you would not have roger now

and his attitude truly justifies where you are now

thanks my girl.. i go CRAZY at times thinking bout the whole concept of it.. but whats done is done and im happy and like u said he is STILL acting miserable sooo

hey jaws.. how are tings?..keeping busy??

[jawi876 2]

Wow;

Here we go again --

Is this really what this thread has come to. See why one has to be careful with how much information they share with people. Some of ya'll wonder why I remove my pictures from FB (people always have something to say)....

time a come; mi no ready fi bust dem out yet...

ummmmmmmm nice try...did you really think people were going to give you information on me and you're a total stranger in Jamaica (in my DISTRICT) even though the man you were travelling with is a Jamaica;

like I said, nice try --

Q; I really don't know what it is, but let's say I show up in your neck of the woods and start asking questions about you and your family and such...then, I saw a picture that you posted a while back and in the caption (auntie house)...damn I would be so bold as to go up to her gate, tell your aunt that you and I are good friends and if she would mind renting us a room for a few days since we have business in the area....

now, mi know seh mi a madooman...but no man a more dan dat

This is seriously crossing the line. This is the exact reason I only respond with St. Ann when people ask me where mi from. I know a woman that had a "friend" go all the way to Jamaica to sleep with a man she put up a picture of....searched him out and gave up the pums just because...man please. Treachery! Tre I would beat that trick in her throat until she spit out her damn tonsils!

yo deze birds iz wildin son

ow mi yankee hokcent soun'?

rollliinnnn....I love it Bunz! You will fit right in...

this was all a plot by grover

she made up this story to break the mundane talk

:rofl:

is wha happen in yah today?

even funnier! :rofl:

smaddy summarize jawi post fi mi nuh

i'm worded out

i can't read more than 4 lines at a time

eeehhhnnn.

[dancehallquana 5]

bunzy.. i missed accent post.. u remind me of one of those BET movies.. lol

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

lmao @ rotten teet man

i have always said jamaica is the place for women with low self esteem that love being misled because yuh have some jamaican men who will call to ANYTHING! i mean it. when that statues at emancipation park went up i cannot tell you the amount of men that were lusting after the female and she's a STATUE. i mean talking about what they would love to do to her

dem no partial a baxide

and if yuh self esteem really deh a groun, walk pass gun court pon camp road

lawd misses when di prisoner dem done tell yuh wha dem waan do wid yuh! yuh chun chun eida shrivel up or explode

[JAPrincess 27]

WOOOO HOOOOO!!!!

"Your case has been forwarded to the Embassy"

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

hooraaaaaaaay princess

you must feel like you are on cloud nine

God is able girl!

[*HeavenSent* 0]

WOOOO HOOOOO!!!!

"Your case has been forwarded to the Embassy"

FINALLY !! YAY CONGRATS PRINCESS !!

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

lawd princess mi glad bag buss

mi so glad fi yuh