Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part 19)

[JAPrincess 27]

I think I need to go put the chill pill back in my siggy

mi soon come!

[finesse 3]

ok, here goes...it is actually a bit sad and disappointing...

my aunt, who is in her 50's and has been married for almost 30 years, recently got caught having an affair on her husband. the man she has been having an affair with is a friend she has known for 20 years who is from and lives in jamaica.

my aunts connection to jamaica has absolutely nothing to do with me nor my husband. she has been visiting the island for 20+ years, she is a RN and volunteers at a clinic in Ochie 2-3 times a year, has many friends and connections there...even has friends with visitors visa come and visit her here.

long story short, she admitted to having this affair for the last year and her and her husband are now trying to work things out and has since cut all communication off with dude.

my husband has no connection to this man other than they are both jamaican (hubby actually met him through me) but he now feels like he doesn't want to go to my family's for the holidays because he feels as though they will look at him a way, especially my aunt's husband....soley based on the fact that he is jamaican

i sort of understand his feelings but still don't really think they feel any way towards him about it.

do you think hubby has a right to feel a way?

[DaDa 1]

still no packet we downloaded.... yes i will be at the interview

Its been a minute since you been to JA huh?

[Shemmy 4]

Hi everyone it has been along time a lot of new faces. I am good just dropped in to say VJ is always on my mind. My Journey has ended filed for divorce. Newbies don't get scare just some differences you can't overcome. My only advice is if things don't work out don't beat yourself up. Sometimes what seems like it's right is not and it is just another life lesson. Hey Tre, Irie, portland and 1luv.

((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))) Love you. Hope to you see in November.

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

i can understand why your hubby feels that way

but i think not showing up will be an even bigger deal than showing up

its gonna make things more awkward

[DaDa 1]

Have you ladies gotten the flu shot this year?

I never get the flu shot and never will

Ditto....

[JAPrincess 27]

finesse, hubby feels the way he does and I don't think anyone should judge that.

Do you ALWAYS go to your families for the holidays??

Maybe they will be trying to recover and repair their relationship and decide they don't want a gathering anyway...?

I would say accept how he feels and maybe talk to your Aunt about how she thinks her husband will react to hubby.

Has her husband been okay with hubby in the past?

Is he the type of person that would take what one man did and judge a whole culture from it??

[jamerican 2]

i can understand why your hubby feels that way

but i think not showing up will be an even bigger deal than showing up

its gonna make things more awkward

I am with you bunz....

Validate his feelings but then try and explain how it would look if he didn't go....

[Islandwoman 0]

Have you ladies gotten the flu shot this year?

I just had this convo with my boss this morning. I don't get it and he says that I should. And that I should DEFINITELY get the swine flu shot...............

[sus 70]

Finesse - I can understand how your hubby would feel - but he needs to try to rise above it and go with his head held high and the attitude that nothing your aunt did relates to him -

[jamerican 2]

Have you ladies gotten the flu shot this year?

I never get the flu shot and never will

Ditto....

me neither... especially the new one....it is a little to new for me to be shootin up in me! (don't get me wrong...there are some high risk people who should prob get it)

[sus 70]

Have you ladies gotten the flu shot this year?

I never get the flu shot and never will

Ditto....

me neither... especially the new one....it is a little to new for me to be shootin up in me! (don't get me wrong...there are some high risk people who should prob get it)

Me either - I got it years ago when it was mandated by my job - I have never been so sick before! I haven't done it since

[dillon 6]

Have you ladies gotten the flu shot this year?

I just had this convo with my boss this morning. I don't get it and he says that I should. And that I should DEFINITELY get the swine flu shot...............

Is he paying for it?

[finesse 3]

finesse, hubby feels the way he does and I don't think anyone should judge that.

Do you ALWAYS go to your families for the holidays??

Maybe they will be trying to recover and repair their relationship and decide they don't want a gathering anyway...?

I would say accept how he feels and maybe talk to your Aunt about how she thinks her husband will react to hubby.

Has her husband been okay with hubby in the past?

Is he the type of person that would take what one man did and judge a whole culture from it??

my family is totally cool and has loved hubby from day one....they are not judgemental at all. it is more about hubby's sensitivity..

this will be hubby's 3rd holiday season here. last year we spent thanksgiving with them and stayed home for xmas....and the year before that the reverse

[finesse 3]

Finesse - I can understand how your hubby would feel - but he needs to try to rise above it and go with his head held high and the attitude that nothing your aunt did relates to him -

totally agree....