Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part 19)

[MRStee 19]

hey hays

you're gonna get your approval soon

hey mrs plamer, mstee

mrs p how do u feel about your upcoming interview?

Hey Bunz, I was wondering the same thing MrsP

[MRStee 19]

Good nite!

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Hey Bunz and MsTee...I am a bundle of nerves. Some days I feel like I'm going to be sick...some days I'm so giddy I feel like i'm on drugs--I'm all over the place! Just trying to keep myself busy putting together a file of all the duplicates that I did...gathering proof, etc. I've also been super-busy at work. My mind is usually racing at night though, so it's been hard for me to sleep. I just want to get through it already.

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

yea i want to see you get through it too

you will be fine

i can imagine hubby is just as anxious. if he's like most other men though, he's probably acting stoic and being cautious but he must be so excited

praying for you girl

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

yea i want to see you get through it too

you will be fine

i can imagine hubby is just as anxious. if he's like most other men though, he's probably acting stoic and being cautious but he must be so excited

praying for you girl

Girl he is driving me nuts talking about "do you have this and do you have that?" I'm sure in his mind he's just trying to help me out, but damn I'm tired of it! Making me more frazzled! When I feel too overwhelmed I just try to take a deep breath and pray that things will work out as we want. I try to get into my tai chi, but my mind's too busy to focus on that right now...oh well...I was reading one of your earlier posts...you know the fee for the visa is an even $400 and not $355 right?

[.:MzMorgan:. 0]

Ok mi done read....never bothered to catch up from part 18!

So I sent of the RFE package on friday and they received it today......so I will see in a few weeks wat happens!

Hay your in my prayers sis... they just wronged you on this one....

Thanx girl....Im glad I have ppl that understand how stressful this whole thing is!

hey hays

you're gonna get your approval soon

hey mrs plamer, mstee

mrs p how do u feel about your upcoming interview?

Mi feel it too.....lol....just thinkin positive!

Hey Bunz and MsTee...I am a bundle of nerves. Some days I feel like I'm going to be sick...some days I'm so giddy I feel like i'm on drugs--I'm all over the place! Just trying to keep myself busy putting together a file of all the duplicates that I did...gathering proof, etc. I've also been super-busy at work. My mind is usually racing at night though, so it's been hard for me to sleep. I just want to get through it already.

girl, I know I would be the same way....ur time has finally come....he will soon be here!

[MRStee 19]

Hey Bunz and MsTee...I am a bundle of nerves. Some days I feel like I'm going to be sick...some days I'm so giddy I feel like i'm on drugs--I'm all over the place! Just trying to keep myself busy putting together a file of all the duplicates that I did...gathering proof, etc. I've also been super-busy at work. My mind is usually racing at night though, so it's been hard for me to sleep. I just want to get through it already.

I wish you all the best!

Just wanted to say good morning to everyone! Im off to the kindergarten class!!!!

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

mawning yardies! all the best with them little runts mstee

yea i want to see you get through it too

you will be fine

i can imagine hubby is just as anxious. if he's like most other men though, he's probably acting stoic and being cautious but he must be so excited

praying for you girl

Girl he is driving me nuts talking about "do you have this and do you have that?" I'm sure in his mind he's just trying to help me out, but damn I'm tired of it! Making me more frazzled! When I feel too overwhelmed I just try to take a deep breath and pray that things will work out as we want. I try to get into my tai chi, but my mind's too busy to focus on that right now...oh well...I was reading one of your earlier posts...you know the fee for the visa is an even $400 and not $355 right?

oh boy

thanks for the heads up

why did i think it was 355

i guess that was the initial fee we paid

yuh juss haffi be patient as you say, he just wants things to go smoothly

i know i'm gonna be really frazzled when interview time come, tylenol pm will probably become my best freind lol

Edited September 22, 2009 by Bunzarelli

[yankeesgirl79 0]

good morning ladies!!!!!!!!!!! hope everyone has a fabulous day.....

ms. sheka i hear you on the mad at the hubby and not talking to him....i was boycotting richard casue he made me mad as hell and after 4 days of him kissing a$$ after i returned home i gave in last night and had a conversation with him......however it was not our normal lovey dovey stuff and i was a bit short with him at times.....no smooches thru the phone either and i simple love ya too real fast......he senses i am still pissed off i am sure but was thrilled i at least talked to him for more than 2 seconds.....why do guys have to be jerks????? and they seem to do it from 2000 miles away as well......grrrrr hope you and your hubby get over your slump.....PM me if you wanna chat......maybe we are going thru the same sort of thing???

[sus 70]

Morning all -

I figure since I am one of the few ppl on the other side of the visa process (recipient as opposed to petitioner) i'd share some of the feelings going through my head these past couple weeks

up until the time i got my approval i had tunnel vision on the initial part of the process and i was kind of agonizing over the approval. i just wanted to get that part over with. i kept hearing ppl talk about how fast it goes after that but it didn't register with me until we actually got the approval notice. even though its still taking a while, when i think about it, i'm gonna be sending off packages sooner than i think

now all of a sudden i am feeling anxiety and i am not sure about what. it is as if, i'm unsure of what i was so anxious for all along. i don't know how to explain it but i can identify with all your stories about your men having a hard time adjusting because in a sense, i am already having a hard time adjusting. it's very conflicting because i miss and so badly want to be with my hubby but it's hitting me that this is gonna be a drastic change. for one, i don't know how i'm gonna manage without a job for a while. i'm kinda envious of some of you ladies whose men get their visas today and by next week they're gone. i have bills that will continue to be incurred even after i leave and i'm pretty much responsible for them. hubby is in a transition mode right now too. there are so many things taking place and i'm not quite sure how they will end up.

i'm trying to put more faith in God and leave it to Him to work out. sometimes i think as long as i am with hubby i'll be ok but then other times i am soooo scared of the uncertain.

i say all of this to say, seriously i know sometimes dealing with your spouses can be a pain in the a$$ because it may seem like they are ungrateful or just whining but be patient. maybe i am just emotionally drained right now. i think that's a big part of it.

anyway, umm let me shut up now

Bunz - I can just imagine how you are feeling - it's not gonna be easy - but you have to put your faith in God, your hubby, and your friends - One of my best friends moved her on a K3 from South Africa - I met her about a month after she came because she enrolled in school - So I almost feel like I went through the other side of immigration with her, because she had a hard time - she said the 1st six months were the hardest, and just about every day she wanted to go home - What saved her was the friends that she had made, and that she did things to occupy her time - she enrolled in school, and she found some volunteer work - If you are in NY, you have nuff yardies to lean on there, and Kimmy and I are only about half an hour or so away!

Okay, so we are having 'pushy father-in-law' issues. Lehi's Dad wants to buy him a bus ticket to take the 90 minute ride to his city to see him perform next weekend. I've explained we don't have the gas money (or going out money) & I have school assignments so I can't be going out every weekend but he's still insisting on Lehi coming since of course, they don't want to do the 3 hour drive back & forth to get him & drop him off. Today he kept persisting until Lehi just plain got mad at his Dad. He told him he doesn't want to go places without me so to leave it be. Now my poor honey didn't have a very productive day at school since his mind was on the 'argument'. I'm not sure how to handle this. The man is pushy though....he keeps insisting that he wants to hook us up with free cable since that's what he does. I've told him each time that I'm NOT INTERESTED in having cable (we don't need to have any more reasons than we currently do to spend more time watching TV) & I don't want 'illegal' cable....just don't need any hassles & I'm already fighting my couch-potato tendencies so NO THANK YOU. But, he keeps bringing it up. We are trying to be nice here since this relationship is very new but we are going to have to start putting our collective foot down! Whaddayado??

Ells, I know how frustrating this can be for you - But honestly, I think you have to back out of it somewhat - Lehi has to be the one to confront his Dad, it's his Dad - He has to let him know how he feels - maybe tell his Dad that if he wants to buy you both a bus ticket, you will both come - But as hard as it is, in this situation, you have to let Lehi take the lead and be the one to confront the issues. As for the cable, just tell him there was a recent raid in your neighborhood and people paid huge fines - is he gonna pay if you get caught?

There are some things you just have to suck up and deal - When my sister first got married, her inlaws kept sending her Catholic Digest subscriptions (we're Protestant) - She simply filled out the change of address card and had it sent to their house - Eventually, they got the hint and stopped.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Yay!!

My office is closed today, we only have one dentist today and he called out sick!!!

[*SunRay* 1]

Hey Bunz and MsTee...I am a bundle of nerves. Some days I feel like I'm going to be sick...some days I'm so giddy I feel like i'm on drugs--I'm all over the place! Just trying to keep myself busy putting together a file of all the duplicates that I did...gathering proof, etc. I've also been super-busy at work. My mind is usually racing at night though, so it's been hard for me to sleep. I just want to get through it already.

Hang in their Mrs. P... Being nervous is normal. I can't think of anyone one of the yardies that weren't nervous about their interview. Try to find something fun to do that will take your mind off of things. Read a good book or something. Plan a trip to Maryland to hang out with Shemmy, Nov and I. We'll take your mind off of it for sure. Things will be just fine so don't you worry.

Yay!!

My office is closed today, we only have one dentist today and he called out sick!!!

Damn your lucky...

[sus 70]

Yay!!

My office is closed today, we only have one dentist today and he called out sick!!!

You suck, lol

[Shemmy 4]

Good morning. Working from home today. I did not get a good report from the doctor last week No choice but to do the right things...walking, working out and eating healthy.

im sorry shemmy.. it seems u try so much already.. dyam.. why is this stuff so hard???

well, i pray ur strength mami.. lets get'r done!!

I know cuz I'm pretty active but always slip from eating healthy. This is a true wake up call. My new doctor checked for everything, even the lab tech said I was lucky to have such a caring doctor.

Well Shemmy, my doctor told me my fat a** needs to lose weight too ugh!

The tell me I'm obeast all the time. Well, when I get big enough to have gastric bypass, I"ll do that. It's too hard to do it on my own.

You are crazy and not big enough to even think about gastric bypass How is Ray feeling?

MsTee - we can support each other

I'm still working from home.

[NatPatBen 3]

Morning, All!

There are some things you just have to suck up and deal - When my sister first got married, her inlaws kept sending her Catholic Digest subscriptions (we're Protestant) - She simply filled out the change of address card and had it sent to their house - Eventually, they got the hint and stopped.

That's funny.