A sick mother

[rika60607 215]

You could try a tourist visa for her.

I believe she could get up to 6 months of stay.

[v77 0]

Aaron, Relax. I’m not going to be in a fight with anybody. I’m friendly for everyone. Seems like only you got too much pissed off posting so many messages in my thread, and we are not in a teen chat room to tell who is an idiot here, ok. I don’t intend to lose the point of the topic. And I want to thank people who can understand my situation and my willingness to be with my mother and speed time to bring her here to live with me in America.

Betti, there is no possibility for me to come live back to my country according to the laws and status. I must live in the United States now. I’m happily married and my husband is an American. In order to come back, I will have to get divorce first.

[aaron2020 11,651]

Aaron, Relax. I’m not going to be in a fight with anybody. I’m friendly for everyone. Seems like only you got too much pissed off posting so many messages in my thread, and we are not in a teen chat room to tell who is an idiot here, ok. I don’t intend to lose the point of the topic. And I want to thank people who can understand my situation and my willingness to be with my mother and speed time to bring her here to live with me in America.

Betti, there is no possibility for me to come live back to my country according to the laws and status. I must live in the United States now. I’m happily married and my husband is an American. In order to come back, I will have to get divorce first.

Wow. Have you seen how many posters think your attitude was poor based on their comments? You attempt to make yourself the good poster then state that we are not in a "teen chat room" and then deliver the backhanded comment that "who is the idiot here, ok." Good luck making friends.

Don't worry, I will not be back to post on "your" thread.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

You could try a tourist visa for her.

I believe she could get up to 6 months of stay.

We did that for both of my wife's parents. They were both granted 10 year, multiple entry Visas and are currently staying with us since about a month ago. We purchased insurance for them through Blue Cross, but to be honest, I don't know how much is covered because they purchased it when they got their plane tickets. My father-in-law has Diabetes so I'm concerned about that, but at least we can have them here with us for 6 months at a time.

To the OP - I think this would be your most viable option.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I should add that it took all of about 2 months from the time they applied at US Embassy in Manila until they arrived here....so it was pretty smooth sailing. However, they have traveled outside their country before...been to Europe a couple of times. Hopefully you can get your mother over here though without too long. Good luck...I know how much it meant to my wife.

[TayRivers 4]

Aaron, Relax. I'm not going to be in a fight with anybody. I'm friendly for everyone. Seems like only you got too much pissed off posting so many messages in my thread, and we are not in a teen chat room to tell who is an idiot here, ok. I don't intend to lose the point of the topic. And I want to thank people who can understand my situation and my willingness to be with my mother and speed time to bring her here to live with me in America.

Betti, there is no possibility for me to come live back to my country according to the laws and status. I must live in the United States now. I'm happily married and my husband is an American. In order to come back, I will have to get divorce first.

V77 you joined VJ to ask for information about how you can bring your mother to the USA. You have been given the correct information about the options that are available to you. You may not like the options but you have limited choices available to you at this time.

The members here have tried to help you but you do not want to hear the information the have. Please do not continue to be dismissive towards the members who are trying to help you.

I understand that you wish to help your mother, There is a lot more to bringing a parent to the US than just getting the visa. Members here have tried to help you see the issues that you will face if you go ahead and file for your mother once you have become a citizen.

May I suggest you take 5 minutes to read the TOS for VJ so that you are aware of what is acceptable and what is not.

You will find the TOS here http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...&page=terms

I also want to remind all members that no matter how annoyed you are it is better to post nothing rather than allowing your feelings to spill over in your post.

Tay

[v77 0]

OK, this is the post for Aaron again. You didn’t understand me. It is you who said first about idiot. Read your post again on page 1. Here it is:

“If you are so self-absorbed to think that everyone was attacking you then you are an idiot. Only after you piss people off, do they not like you. “

Then, I said that we are not like in a teen chat room to say such things. OK? You reversed everything.

I don’t have a problem of making friends. You just took information too much personally.

“Don't worry, I will not be back to post on "your" thread.” –Whatever.

[Boiler 45,757]

My mother came to visit us several times. She has now passed away, but even then she had a row of tablets to take every day.

I do not know which country you are from, the VWP allows 90 day entries. A B2 would allow 6 months. However she would need to maintain her residency outside of the US.

We had talked about the need to move back if my Parents health got worse, I was not expecting my Mother to pass away so quicky. In a multi national marriage both parties have to be prepared to move, not just one.

My Father is still alive. He does not want to visit, prefers to stay at home.

The Insurance cost for a few weeks was affordable, I hate to think how much it would have been for 6 months.

It would be logical for my father to be with us, but aside from the fact he does not want to, there is no way he could afford to pay for his regular medical issues. Bankrupt in no time.

I believe there are a couple of States, MA? that have access to State cover, but for the majority it is just not a practical proposition.

Edited September 18, 2009 by Boiler

[v77 0]

Yes, Boiler, it is hard to be without my mother when I know that she is completely alone there. If she were here, I would take care of her, and of her medicine if necessary of course. I am a daughter and the only family for her.

[jcrom 2]

Hello friends. I'm sorry very much about your mom. I hope my advice helps you out something. The healt care in the U.S. is very expensiver for everybody; for the people older than 60 years old, it is more expensive, unfortunately. It is better and easier for you to bring your mom with a B1/B2 visa; remember that if you become U.S. (you can apply at 4 years and 9 months or 2 years and 9 months if you are married with U.S. citizen), it would be easier to bring her to the U.S., she would be here in about 1 year later after you submit the petition for her; of course, you have to request her when you are U.S. citizen. Now, the issue of the thing is that in case you become U.S. citizen, and you wait 1 year later so she would be here in the U.S., are you going to afford a very expensive monthly Insurance health plan for her? I think that is even much more the issue. This is my personal opinion, I really wish you the best thing for you and your mom, I will pray for her, thanks so much for your cooperation and attention, bye, J.C.

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

You keep the country your mom lives in a secret, but I would get her over with a B2 visa and purchase a traveler's health insurance beforehand, which is VERY affordable. After 6 months, she would have to return home for a while, however, before she can visit you again.

Edited September 18, 2009 by Just Bob

[D&R 0]

Aaron, Relax. I’m not going to be in a fight with anybody. I’m friendly for everyone. Seems like only you got too much pissed off posting so many messages in my thread, and we are not in a teen chat room to tell who is an idiot here, ok. I don’t intend to lose the point of the topic. And I want to thank people who can understand my situation and my willingness to be with my mother and speed time to bring her here to live with me in America.

Betti, there is no possibility for me to come live back to my country according to the laws and status. I must live in the United States now. I’m happily married and my husband is an American. In order to come back, I will have to get divorce first.

#######!! Who says you MUST live in the US?

Anyway... How long have you lived in America for? Your mother getting old and frail/ill heath can't have come as a surprise to you... that's what happens when you age. Perhaps you should've factored this in this decision when first applying to move to the US. My parents are 70 and nearly 80 and dads very ill too, and that's one of the main reasons I'm holding off moving (and I have two sisters who can stay to take care of them too). If you were the only person to care for your mum, then dare I say it, maybe you shouldn't have left whatever country it is you lived in with her.

The US really don't care how close you are to her, or whether she's on her deathbed or not (sorry to sound so harsh).

As for saying nursing homes treat their clients no better than 'cats'. Well, that's just a weird term, as I think ALL the cats I know are treated pretty damn well... food when they like it, sleeping all day, cuddles, strokes every person walking past them bending down to play with them etc ) I think the life of a cat is a pretty good one.

[D&R 0]

Yes, Boiler, it is hard to be without my mother when I know that she is completely alone there. If she were here, I would take care of her, and of her medicine if necessary of course. I am a daughter and the only family for her.

Taking care of a sick relative can be a full time job. So that's YOU with no income, your MUM with no income, and a massive insurance bill for your mum (on top of yours too).

How exactly is that going to work?

[D&R 0]

OK, this is the post for Aaron again. You didn’t understand me. It is you who said first about idiot. Read your post again on page 1. Here it is:

“If you are so self-absorbed to think that everyone was attacking you then you are an idiot. Only after you piss people off, do they not like you. “

Then, I said that we are not like in a teen chat room to say such things. OK? You reversed everything.

I don’t have a problem of making friends. You just took information too much personally.

“Don't worry, I will not be back to post on "your" thread.” –Whatever.

V77 : "Relax. I’m not going to be in a fight with anybody. I’m friendly for everyone"

Now that's not exactly true is it? :rofl:

Any hope of getting good advise disappears once you start bitching at people

[imaisha 1]

Not necessarily helpful, but a related article on the quickly growing population of elderly immigrants from the NYT:

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/31/us/31eld...t=cse&scp=1