Behavior you (USC man) find odd

[visaveteran 1]

Regarding ring finger protocol, my wife, who is Orthodox, has decided to wear it on the left hand as is appropriate for America's traditions. And, as for me, I like the world to know she is, indeed, married. There might be confusion if she chose to wear it on the right hand.

I'm pleased my wife has left much of her "Russian baggage" behind and has an open mind to embrace what are the traditions and ways of America...and does so without any pressure from me. I judge that will make for the best and quickest transition to her new life.

[SMR 368]

Regarding ring finger protocol, my wife, who is Orthodox, has decided to wear it on the left hand as is appropriate for America's traditions. And, as for me, I like the world to know she is, indeed, married. There might be confusion if she chose to wear it on the right hand.

I'm pleased my wife has left much of her "Russian baggage" behind and has an open mind to embrace what are the traditions and ways of America...and does so without any pressure from me. I judge that will make for the best and quickest transition to her new life.

I'm surprised that my wife was the only one fast enough to figure out that this is a great reason to have two wedding rings. Actually, she just wears her engagement ring on her right hand and her wedding ring on her left hand.

[slim 1,525]

Anna is all about preventative dentistry... Especially since she knows how expensive it is in the US. She's convinced she needs braces ("brackets" as she calls them), so she's just gotten done having 2 wisdom teeth removed to prepare her mouth for them. Gonna be pretty sweet her having braces in our wedding photos.

As if she doesn't look young enough already.

[AKguy 1]

As if she doesn't look young enough already.

Yup!... And yet I'm the one trying to convince her that no one will say anything because she'll now look like she's 12 and I look, well, not 12.

Oh well. Not like I'm not used to dealing with the normal Russian bride sh*t anyway, right? Now I'll just be the Russian bride pedophile at work.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Regarding ring finger protocol, my wife, who is Orthodox, has decided to wear it on the left hand as is appropriate for America's traditions. And, as for me, I like the world to know she is, indeed, married. There might be confusion if she chose to wear it on the right hand.

I'm pleased my wife has left much of her "Russian baggage" behind and has an open mind to embrace what are the traditions and ways of America...and does so without any pressure from me. I judge that will make for the best and quickest transition to her new life.

I guess I do not consider my wife's culture an upbringing "Russian baggage". I respect her for what she is and that is a culmination of all she has done, all she has seen.

Let's just say that my wife doesn't go unnoticed in a crowd, something we all have to learn to deal with. I would not have entered into a LDR with someone I did not completely trust. My wife wears her ring on her right hand and if some drooling American dog is confused by that...Alla will set him straight. Of that I am sure. And what? Should I find fault with his taste in women?

[visaveteran 1]

Regarding ring finger protocol, my wife, who is Orthodox, has decided to wear it on the left hand as is appropriate for America's traditions. And, as for me, I like the world to know she is, indeed, married. There might be confusion if she chose to wear it on the right hand.

I'm pleased my wife has left much of her "Russian baggage" behind and has an open mind to embrace what are the traditions and ways of America...and does so without any pressure from me. I judge that will make for the best and quickest transition to her new life.

I guess I do not consider my wife's culture an upbringing "Russian baggage". I respect her for what she is and that is a culmination of all she has done, all she has seen.

Let's just say that my wife doesn't go unnoticed in a crowd, something we all have to learn to deal with. I would not have entered into a LDR with someone I did not completely trust. My wife wears her ring on her right hand and if some drooling American dog is confused by that...Alla will set him straight. Of that I am sure. And what? Should I find fault with his taste in women?

If my wife chose to wear her rings on the right hand, no sweat...but the key is she wants to follow American tradition and wear her rings as I wear mine. We are husband and wife living in the USA, not Russia. If I moved to Russia I'd move my ring over to the right hand if I chose to make Russia my own country.

One man's tradition is another man's baggage. If you find it charming and quaint for your wife to continue as if she's still in Russia, good for you. I sometimes see this issue similar to the Colombian immigrant who gets here, then puts "Via Colombia" on his car bumper. If his heart is in Colombia, why is his body in the USA? No one asks him to give up all ties and connections to Colombia, but if he really wants to assimilate into American life, he needs to let go of some things..take on some new traditions...follow the protocols of the new homeland.

[SMR 368]

Regarding ring finger protocol, my wife, who is Orthodox, has decided to wear it on the left hand as is appropriate for America's traditions. And, as for me, I like the world to know she is, indeed, married. There might be confusion if she chose to wear it on the right hand.

I'm pleased my wife has left much of her "Russian baggage" behind and has an open mind to embrace what are the traditions and ways of America...and does so without any pressure from me. I judge that will make for the best and quickest transition to her new life.

I guess I do not consider my wife's culture an upbringing "Russian baggage". I respect her for what she is and that is a culmination of all she has done, all she has seen.

Let's just say that my wife doesn't go unnoticed in a crowd, something we all have to learn to deal with. I would not have entered into a LDR with someone I did not completely trust. My wife wears her ring on her right hand and if some drooling American dog is confused by that...Alla will set him straight. Of that I am sure. And what? Should I find fault with his taste in women?

If my wife chose to wear her rings on the right hand, no sweat...but the key is she wants to follow American tradition and wear her rings as I wear mine. We are husband and wife living in the USA, not Russia. If I moved to Russia I'd move my ring over to the right hand if I chose to make Russia my own country.

One man's tradition is another man's baggage. If you find it charming and quaint for your wife to continue as if she's still in Russia, good for you. I sometimes see this issue similar to the Colombian immigrant who gets here, then puts "Via Colombia" on his car bumper. If his heart is in Colombia, why is his body in the USA? No one asks him to give up all ties and connections to Colombia, but if he really wants to assimilate into American life, he needs to let go of some things..take on some new traditions...follow the protocols of the new homeland.

I think you're taking this a step too far. I agree that an immigrant should not expect the current residents of a country to adapt to him. That is, no complaining that everything isn't written in Spanish. If someone doesn't want to learn English, for example, that's okay with me. They had just better get used to not talking very much.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Regarding ring finger protocol, my wife, who is Orthodox, has decided to wear it on the left hand as is appropriate for America's traditions. And, as for me, I like the world to know she is, indeed, married. There might be confusion if she chose to wear it on the right hand.

I'm pleased my wife has left much of her "Russian baggage" behind and has an open mind to embrace what are the traditions and ways of America...and does so without any pressure from me. I judge that will make for the best and quickest transition to her new life.

I guess I do not consider my wife's culture an upbringing "Russian baggage". I respect her for what she is and that is a culmination of all she has done, all she has seen.

Let's just say that my wife doesn't go unnoticed in a crowd, something we all have to learn to deal with. I would not have entered into a LDR with someone I did not completely trust. My wife wears her ring on her right hand and if some drooling American dog is confused by that...Alla will set him straight. Of that I am sure. And what? Should I find fault with his taste in women?

If my wife chose to wear her rings on the right hand, no sweat...but the key is she wants to follow American tradition and wear her rings as I wear mine. We are husband and wife living in the USA, not Russia. If I moved to Russia I'd move my ring over to the right hand if I chose to make Russia my own country.

One man's tradition is another man's baggage. If you find it charming and quaint for your wife to continue as if she's still in Russia, good for you. I sometimes see this issue similar to the Colombian immigrant who gets here, then puts "Via Colombia" on his car bumper. If his heart is in Colombia, why is his body in the USA? No one asks him to give up all ties and connections to Colombia, but if he really wants to assimilate into American life, he needs to let go of some things..take on some new traditions...follow the protocols of the new homeland.

I think you are being an ...

Oh well. Next year Alla will be teaching your children to speak English in school and wearing her wedding ring on her right hand while doing it.

She didn't change her name because it is isn't Russian tradition and I have no insecurities about placing my name on all my property. I know she is mine because she has enough resources to leave anytime she wants and she is still here. It seems you pick and choose what ways are charmong and quaint. I suppose you might be different if your wife "assimilated" by telling you to put your own damn socks on and wash them too! And have sex twice a month instead of twice a day! Then she would be just like an American wife and you would be overjoyed. Maybe ditch the high heels and stockings...go for pantyhose (HORRORS!) and tennis shoes? Who needs all that make-up? To look good for who? I mean heck, she's done caught that bus, why keep running?" Maybe put on a few kilos (oops, pounds) and grow a pair of thunder-bumpers. Then squeeze them into some spandex pants over her granny panties. Yessir...now we are assimilating! Microwave your TV dinner for you when you get home and let you dig for your clothes in the hamper. Oh Baby, we are fully into new traditions now. And you worry about bumper stickers. Good grief.

[visaveteran 1]

Regarding ring finger protocol, my wife, who is Orthodox, has decided to wear it on the left hand as is appropriate for America's traditions. And, as for me, I like the world to know she is, indeed, married. There might be confusion if she chose to wear it on the right hand.

I'm pleased my wife has left much of her "Russian baggage" behind and has an open mind to embrace what are the traditions and ways of America...and does so without any pressure from me. I judge that will make for the best and quickest transition to her new life.

I guess I do not consider my wife's culture an upbringing "Russian baggage". I respect her for what she is and that is a culmination of all she has done, all she has seen.

Let's just say that my wife doesn't go unnoticed in a crowd, something we all have to learn to deal with. I would not have entered into a LDR with someone I did not completely trust. My wife wears her ring on her right hand and if some drooling American dog is confused by that...Alla will set him straight. Of that I am sure. And what? Should I find fault with his taste in women?

If my wife chose to wear her rings on the right hand, no sweat...but the key is she wants to follow American tradition and wear her rings as I wear mine. We are husband and wife living in the USA, not Russia. If I moved to Russia I'd move my ring over to the right hand if I chose to make Russia my own country.

One man's tradition is another man's baggage. If you find it charming and quaint for your wife to continue as if she's still in Russia, good for you. I sometimes see this issue similar to the Colombian immigrant who gets here, then puts "Via Colombia" on his car bumper. If his heart is in Colombia, why is his body in the USA? No one asks him to give up all ties and connections to Colombia, but if he really wants to assimilate into American life, he needs to let go of some things..take on some new traditions...follow the protocols of the new homeland.

I think you are being an ...

Oh well. Next year Alla will be teaching your children to speak English in school and wearing her wedding ring on her right hand while doing it.

She didn't change her name because it is isn't Russian tradition and I have no insecurities about placing my name on all my property. I know she is mine because she has enough resources to leave anytime she wants and she is still here. It seems you pick and choose what ways are charmong and quaint. I suppose you might be different if your wife "assimilated" by telling you to put your own damn socks on and wash them too! And have sex twice a month instead of twice a day! Then she would be just like an American wife and you would be overjoyed. Maybe ditch the high heels and stockings...go for pantyhose (HORRORS!) and tennis shoes? Who needs all that make-up? To look good for who? I mean heck, she's done caught that bus, why keep running?" Maybe put on a few kilos (oops, pounds) and grow a pair of thunder-bumpers. Then squeeze them into some spandex pants over her granny panties. Yessir...now we are assimilating! Microwave your TV dinner for you when you get home and let you dig for your clothes in the hamper. Oh Baby, we are fully into new traditions now. And you worry about bumper stickers. Good grief.

There is only one key Russian tradition my wife brought with her...the husband is the head of the home and is to be treated accordingly. Her last name is my name. She wears her ring like I do. We don't dance around who is whom in our family. We don't divide of the labor. We don't divey up what things we do are "Russian" and what thigns we do "American." We have congruity...not competition. She wants me to be strong and decisive...yet she is strong and enduring. We don't negotiate our relationship, we live it in a natural way...as opposed to the manufactured feminist constructs of recent times...both here and, alas, in the new Russia.

[eekee 182]

I think you are being an ...

Oh well. Next year Alla will be teaching your children to speak English in school and wearing her wedding ring on her right hand while doing it.

She didn't change her name because it is isn't Russian tradition and I have no insecurities about placing my name on all my property. I know she is mine because she has enough resources to leave anytime she wants and she is still here. It seems you pick and choose what ways are charmong and quaint. I suppose you might be different if your wife "assimilated" by telling you to put your own damn socks on and wash them too! And have sex twice a month instead of twice a day! Then she would be just like an American wife and you would be overjoyed. Maybe ditch the high heels and stockings...go for pantyhose (HORRORS!) and tennis shoes? Who needs all that make-up? To look good for who? I mean heck, she's done caught that bus, why keep running?" Maybe put on a few kilos (oops, pounds) and grow a pair of thunder-bumpers. Then squeeze them into some spandex pants over her granny panties. Yessir...now we are assimilating! Microwave your TV dinner for you when you get home and let you dig for your clothes in the hamper. Oh Baby, we are fully into new traditions now. And you worry about bumper stickers. Good grief.

Not true. Plenty of Russian women change their last name after marriage.

Also, just out of curiousity, VV, why do you need your wife to dress you?????? If you have some sort of physical disability that prevents you from putting on your own socks, that's understandable; otherwise, I am intrigued that for you, good wife=infantilization of husband.

[SMR 368]

I think you are being an ...

Oh well. Next year Alla will be teaching your children to speak English in school and wearing her wedding ring on her right hand while doing it.

She didn't change her name because it is isn't Russian tradition and I have no insecurities about placing my name on all my property. I know she is mine because she has enough resources to leave anytime she wants and she is still here. It seems you pick and choose what ways are charmong and quaint. I suppose you might be different if your wife "assimilated" by telling you to put your own damn socks on and wash them too! And have sex twice a month instead of twice a day! Then she would be just like an American wife and you would be overjoyed. Maybe ditch the high heels and stockings...go for pantyhose (HORRORS!) and tennis shoes? Who needs all that make-up? To look good for who? I mean heck, she's done caught that bus, why keep running?" Maybe put on a few kilos (oops, pounds) and grow a pair of thunder-bumpers. Then squeeze them into some spandex pants over her granny panties. Yessir...now we are assimilating! Microwave your TV dinner for you when you get home and let you dig for your clothes in the hamper. Oh Baby, we are fully into new traditions now. And you worry about bumper stickers. Good grief.

Not true. Plenty of Russian women change their last name after marriage.

Also, just out of curiousity, VV, why do you need your wife to dress you?????? If you have some sort of physical disability that prevents you from putting on your own socks, that's understandable; otherwise, I am intrigued that for you, good wife=infantilization of husband.

Yeah, I'm pretty sure that changing last names is pretty standard practice in Russia. Not that I'm saying it's problem that she didn't. But not changing last names is probably more common in America than it is in Russia.

[visaveteran 1]

I think you are being an ...

Oh well. Next year Alla will be teaching your children to speak English in school and wearing her wedding ring on her right hand while doing it.

She didn't change her name because it is isn't Russian tradition and I have no insecurities about placing my name on all my property. I know she is mine because she has enough resources to leave anytime she wants and she is still here. It seems you pick and choose what ways are charmong and quaint. I suppose you might be different if your wife "assimilated" by telling you to put your own damn socks on and wash them too! And have sex twice a month instead of twice a day! Then she would be just like an American wife and you would be overjoyed. Maybe ditch the high heels and stockings...go for pantyhose (HORRORS!) and tennis shoes? Who needs all that make-up? To look good for who? I mean heck, she's done caught that bus, why keep running?" Maybe put on a few kilos (oops, pounds) and grow a pair of thunder-bumpers. Then squeeze them into some spandex pants over her granny panties. Yessir...now we are assimilating! Microwave your TV dinner for you when you get home and let you dig for your clothes in the hamper. Oh Baby, we are fully into new traditions now. And you worry about bumper stickers. Good grief.

Not true. Plenty of Russian women change their last name after marriage.

Also, just out of curiousity, VV, why do you need your wife to dress you?????? If you have some sort of physical disability that prevents you from putting on your own socks, that's understandable; otherwise, I am intrigued that for you, good wife=infantilization of husband.

There need not be a "rational" reason why people do things..as with putting on socks for someone.

My mother used to put on my father's socks in the very early morning when he had to go off to a difficult blue collar job. I can only assume she did it to make his morning a little easier and because she loved him.

As for me, I don't feel like a child when she puts my socks on, I feel like a very lucky man.

[slim 1,525]

and grow a pair of thunder-bumpers.

That's a new one for me. Please elaborate.

My mother used to put on my father's socks in the very early morning when he had to go off to a difficult blue collar job. I can only assume she did it to make his morning a little easier and because she loved him.

That's freakin awesome. to your mom!

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

I think you are being an ...

Oh well. Next year Alla will be teaching your children to speak English in school and wearing her wedding ring on her right hand while doing it.

She didn't change her name because it is isn't Russian tradition and I have no insecurities about placing my name on all my property. I know she is mine because she has enough resources to leave anytime she wants and she is still here. It seems you pick and choose what ways are charmong and quaint. I suppose you might be different if your wife "assimilated" by telling you to put your own damn socks on and wash them too! And have sex twice a month instead of twice a day! Then she would be just like an American wife and you would be overjoyed. Maybe ditch the high heels and stockings...go for pantyhose (HORRORS!) and tennis shoes? Who needs all that make-up? To look good for who? I mean heck, she's done caught that bus, why keep running?" Maybe put on a few kilos (oops, pounds) and grow a pair of thunder-bumpers. Then squeeze them into some spandex pants over her granny panties. Yessir...now we are assimilating! Microwave your TV dinner for you when you get home and let you dig for your clothes in the hamper. Oh Baby, we are fully into new traditions now. And you worry about bumper stickers. Good grief.

Not true. Plenty of Russian women change their last name after marriage.

Also, just out of curiousity, VV, why do you need your wife to dress you?????? If you have some sort of physical disability that prevents you from putting on your own socks, that's understandable; otherwise, I am intrigued that for you, good wife=infantilization of husband.

Yes, it is true that many woemn in Russia and Ukraine do so now. It is not traditional in Russian history except among royals and such or big political figures whose wives wanted to make sure everyone knew who they were.

It is too bad visa veterans wife only brought her sub-servience with her and left behind her make-up, stockings, lace, and heels. I prefer to put on my own socks while I watch Alla pull on her stockings...but hey...glad you're happy.

[visaveteran 1]

I think you are being an ...

Oh well. Next year Alla will be teaching your children to speak English in school and wearing her wedding ring on her right hand while doing it.

She didn't change her name because it is isn't Russian tradition and I have no insecurities about placing my name on all my property. I know she is mine because she has enough resources to leave anytime she wants and she is still here. It seems you pick and choose what ways are charmong and quaint. I suppose you might be different if your wife "assimilated" by telling you to put your own damn socks on and wash them too! And have sex twice a month instead of twice a day! Then she would be just like an American wife and you would be overjoyed. Maybe ditch the high heels and stockings...go for pantyhose (HORRORS!) and tennis shoes? Who needs all that make-up? To look good for who? I mean heck, she's done caught that bus, why keep running?" Maybe put on a few kilos (oops, pounds) and grow a pair of thunder-bumpers. Then squeeze them into some spandex pants over her granny panties. Yessir...now we are assimilating! Microwave your TV dinner for you when you get home and let you dig for your clothes in the hamper. Oh Baby, we are fully into new traditions now. And you worry about bumper stickers. Good grief.

Not true. Plenty of Russian women change their last name after marriage.

Also, just out of curiousity, VV, why do you need your wife to dress you?????? If you have some sort of physical disability that prevents you from putting on your own socks, that's understandable; otherwise, I am intrigued that for you, good wife=infantilization of husband.

Yes, it is true that many woemn in Russia and Ukraine do so now. It is not traditional in Russian history except among royals and such or big political figures whose wives wanted to make sure everyone knew who they were.

It is too bad visa veterans wife only brought her sub-servience with her and left behind her make-up, stockings, lace, and heels. I prefer to put on my own socks while I watch Alla pull on her stockings...but hey...glad you're happy.

You assume too much and speak as a man ignorant of traditional Russian ways. Maybe you've gotten one of the "new Russia" women? The authentic Russian woman has always honored her husband and happily been in service to him in a loving way...not as a slave. American men have long forgotten what it feels like to be the boss, to run the household, to be the leader, to protect and defend the family, and to have a wife who respects and follows him. I've seen men ruin a good Russian woman by surrendering what he has gained with a Russian wife by following the brainwashing that we're all equal and the same. The unisex utopia.