Behavior you (USC man) find odd

[clueless_in_usa 8]

I was hesitant to open this topic, but today I am bored and decided to post my question for public opinion. This question is mainly for USC men with a fiancee from the FSU. But others can chime in too, if they feel like it.

I have probably slept in more hotels than a "hoe" in the past years (notice that I said HOTELS and not BEDS). Because of that, I have got used to letting the maid do her job, while I do mine. That is why I find it odd and even annoying when my Russian fiancee chooses to make the bed at every hotel we have stayed, even after I tell her not to do it.

Am I insensitive for telling my fiancee not to help the maid? Of particular concern to me is that the maid will choose not to change the sheets after seeing that the bed is already made. But no matter how I tell my fiancee, she chooses to ignore my pleas (most of the time). Will she get spoiled (and hence stop doing it even at home) if I interfere?

Just curious to know how you guys have dealt with behavior you find odd (or simply, unexpected).

[SMR 368]

I was hesitant to open this topic, but today I am bored and decided to post my question for public opinion. This question is mainly for USC men with a fiancee from the FSU. But others can chime in too, if they feel like it.

I have probably slept in more hotels than a "hoe" in the past years (notice that I said HOTELS and not BEDS). Because of that, I have got used to letting the maid do her job, while I do mine. That is why I find it odd and even annoying when my Russian fiancee chooses to make the bed at every hotel we have stayed, even after I tell her not to do it.

Am I insensitive for telling my fiancee not to help the maid? Of particular concern to me is that the maid will choose not to change the sheets after seeing that the bed is already made. But no matter how I tell my fiancee, she chooses to ignore my pleas (most of the time). Will she get spoiled (and hence stop doing it even at home) if I interfere?

Just curious to know how you guys have dealt with behavior you find odd (or simply, unexpected).

Well, I didn't have to tell my wife twice to not make the bed in a hotel room. Never really been a problem. Whether or not she will get spoiled is more psychological and not really a culture question in my opinion.

One thing I have noticed about people from the FSU is that they have a much smaller reliance on refrigerators than we do, to put it nicely. I haven't tried to explain why putting stuff in the refrigerator makes it last longer. I just do it myself.

[Rob_Lesya 4]

I have probably slept in more hotels than a "hoe" in the past years (notice that I said HOTELS and not BEDS). Because of that, I have got used to letting the maid do her job, while I do mine. That is why I find it odd and even annoying when my Russian fiancee chooses to make the bed at every hotel we have stayed, even after I tell her not to do it.

Am I insensitive for telling my fiancee not to help the maid? Of particular concern to me is that the maid will choose not to change the sheets after seeing that the bed is already made. But no matter how I tell my fiancee, she chooses to ignore my pleas (most of the time). Will she get spoiled (and hence stop doing it even at home) if I interfere?

You definitely made me laugh with this one. My current fiancee is the same way--- she insists on making the bed in the hotel room every morning. And when we stayed in an apartment in Chelyabinsk, the owners should have paid HER for staying there! I'm sure the place hadn't been so clean in years!!

My Russian ex, OTOH ----- she was the type who, if we stayed in a hotel room that had double beds ... she would rip everything off of the bed that hadn't been slept in just so the maid would have more work to do.

Insensitive for telling her??? Not at all.

BUT, if she still insists on doing it.... just let it be. The real minefield comes in learning when to pick your battles. And unfortunately, that's one area where most of us won't be able to truly help each other ---- it's pretty much every man for themselves!

Will she change over time? Of course she will. But as long as she never loses her interest in "shaping" everything's gonna be just fine!!!

[BluesTraveler 0]

I would be happy if someone would make my bed. Or was in my bed besides me.

Be happy with what you have. Don't worry about little things.

[1HappyGuy 45]

Don't push her, otherwise she might think you are the maid when she arrives and won't make the bed here.

My pet peeve is putting pots with food still in them, in the refrigerator. I bought my wife tons of plastic storage containers for her to put the leftovers in. She promptly filled them all up with items that were already in their original containers and put everything in the cupboard. Now there are hardly any containers left and no room in the frig for important things like beer because of all the pots.

The other thing about the frig is her use of plastic bags to hold everything. I'm talking about the ones that you get at the grocery store to carry things home. She uses them to hold stuff in the frig and you can't see what it is. It's frustrating to open up something looking to get something to eat and finding, who knows what this is or was.

[amberdima 6]

I was hesitant to open this topic, but today I am bored and decided to post my question for public opinion. This question is mainly for USC men with a fiancee from the FSU. But others can chime in too, if they feel like it.

I have probably slept in more hotels than a "hoe" in the past years (notice that I said HOTELS and not BEDS). Because of that, I have got used to letting the maid do her job, while I do mine. That is why I find it odd and even annoying when my Russian fiancee chooses to make the bed at every hotel we have stayed, even after I tell her not to do it.

Am I insensitive for telling my fiancee not to help the maid? Of particular concern to me is that the maid will choose not to change the sheets after seeing that the bed is already made. But no matter how I tell my fiancee, she chooses to ignore my pleas (most of the time). Will she get spoiled (and hence stop doing it even at home) if I interfere?

Just curious to know how you guys have dealt with behavior you find odd (or simply, unexpected).

thanks for completely excluding me from your thread a similar topic was started a while back. maybe this will give you some ideas.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...201130&st=0

although, it does have both male and female perspectives and, of course, as most of our topics do, went awry.

[slim 1,525]

Don't push her, otherwise she might think you are the maid when she arrives and won't make the bed here.

My pet peeve is putting pots with food still in them, in the refrigerator. I bought my wife tons of plastic storage containers for her to put the leftovers in. She promptly filled them all up with items that were already in their original containers and put everything in the cupboard. Now there are hardly any containers left and no room in the frig for important things like beer because of all the pots.

The other thing about the frig is her use of plastic bags to hold everything. I'm talking about the ones that you get at the grocery store to carry things home. She uses them to hold stuff in the frig and you can't see what it is. It's frustrating to open up something looking to get something to eat and finding, who knows what this is or was.

This sounds almost exactly like my house. She complains when I'm "dirty" but it's perfectly acceptable to put fresh (and I use that term loosely!) meat into the paketi we just used to carry it home from the store. I've literally thrown stuff out of my refrigerator because the beer won't fit. Priorities, man. Priorities. Also, I don't need a 5-gallon pot of borshch in my fridge at all times. A box of wine and a kastrulka full of something or other is just too much space. Beer has to be in there somewhere.

My biggest pet peeve with all of that is there is ZERO organization in my fridge. It would all fit if it was organized somewhere but instead of organizing it, it just gets shoved in. There are things in my fridge right now that are turned on their sides just so they can be shoved into a crevice. There's nothing like having the mayo jar fight for space with the leftover potatoes that are still in the pot.... and the milk wedged in so none of it can move without it all falling out.

I'll tell you what else gets me - the restroom. My wife will yell at me for coming in without clean hands or whatever but then she'll leave the cap off the toothpaste and position it directly under the handsoap. Now, I'm no stickler on germs or anything like that, but you don't have to get a PhD to know that water dripping off of dirty hands is not good to brush your teeth with. After putting the cap on and putting it back so many times I've resigned myself to letting her figure it out the hard way.

So much stuff to list... so little time.

[baron555 934]

I have a separate fridge out in the garage for the beer. Priorities man, Priorities !!!

[Steve S 2]

Great discussion! Buy an extra beer fridge, an extra toothpaste, extra Rubbermaid containers, put up with her (or his) eccentricities. A small price for companionship and "sekas"!

[baron555 934]

I have a separate fridge out in the garage for the beer. Priorities man, Priorities !!!

AND.....a smaller fridge out in the barn. Why have to walk all the way back to the house for refreshment?!!!!

Priorities man, Priorities !!!

[AKguy 1]

Too funny...

Leaving food out for too long. Putting pots with food in them in the fridge. Leaving Sok out so it gets warm, can't be drinking cold sok, it's "so bad!". Just putting the caps on things without twisting them close so everything dumps out when I grab it. Cranking the heat up to 90 when I'm not looking. Making me wash my feet before I go to bed.

It's a learning process.

[clueless_in_usa 8]

Too funny...

Leaving food out for too long. Putting pots with food in them in the fridge. Leaving Sok out so it gets warm, can't be drinking cold sok, it's "so bad!". Just putting the caps on things without twisting them close so everything dumps out when I grab it. Cranking the heat up to 90 when I'm not looking. Making me wash my feet before I go to bed.

It's a learning process.

I got another one:

Washing her clothes (especially panties) in the bath tub and hanging them all around. For me that is funny, especially in a hotel room (I wonder what the hotel maid thinks).

[Kailey 3]

I think the girl from the post #1 has never been to a single more or less normal hotel before. THat's it. Take her to vacartions more often, train 'good habbits' instead of worrying she will become spoiled .

[eekee 182]

A lot of these things I do and I'm American.

-putting pots in the fridge

-not allowing dirty feet in the bed

-washing my laundry in the bathtub/hanging it up to dry there

I do like cold drinks, though.

[baron555 934]

OK, here's mine (so far):

Showers before bed (and men make sure you shave at this time because you don't want your stubble to be irritating.....)

Room temp juice (cold is bad for your health)

Yep, using the plastic bag from the market for covering food (well in Kiev one had to pay for these; Honey they are free here in the US, great for use at the dog show!!)

Shoes off at the door and silly slippers on.

Makes coffee by boiling the ground up coffee in a pot of water.

Tea, all the time.

When eating jam, heaping teaspoons used.