Should I be concerned?

[gfredx 0]

hey how did she live before she met u?

abby n sheryl

She is 33 years old, and worked in hospital before we met. That is the reason money has become an issue. She made it on far less money before.

[AbbynSheryl 0]

hey how did she live before she met u?

abby n sheryl

She is 33 years old, and worked in hospital before we met. That is the reason money has become an issue. She made it on far less money before.

i can only say one thing that if u r having a problem now before marry her then after marrying her it will be more headache so u need to talk to her now before it goes out of hands, abby n sheryl

[marklovetina 52]

hey how did she live before she met u?

abby n sheryl

She is 33 years old, and worked in hospital before we met. That is the reason money has become an issue. She made it on far less money before.

i can only say one thing that if u r having a problem now before marry her then after marrying her it will be more headache so u need to talk to her now before it goes out of hands, abby n sheryl

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[gfredx 0]

hey how did she live before she met u?

abby n sheryl

She is 33 years old, and worked in hospital before we met. That is the reason money has become an issue. She made it on far less money before.

i can only say one thing that if u r having a problem now before marry her then after marrying her it will be more headache so u need to talk to her now before it goes out of hands, abby n sheryl

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Thank you for responses. I am passing up sleep to talk to her again over this tonight. I appreciate the input.

[sasha414 0]

you definitely need to be concerned about the whole situation. it sounds like she is spending money left and right without even thinking of how hard the economy is. you really need to resolve this issue before you bring her to america, if you dont , this will cause future problems and might even get worse. good luck

[RISURF 0]

This is not a bash anyone thread.. It is a genuine question if missing something in the culture. I am embarrassed to even ask this.

I give my fiancée 300 american dollars for support each month. It is never enough though. I realize 300 a month is not a great deal, but should be enough to live on or am I way off here? It is starting to really hurt our relationship at this point because within 15 days she has gone through the 300 this month, and asking for more even though have asked her to budget money since I am sadly not a rich man. Would someone please illuminate the situation? :crying: :crying:

Sorry but you have a scammer or VERY high priced pinay.

My wife made $148 US a month and supported her mom and dad and her daughter.

Have you met her?

Aloha Haole...Nice ulua! Although the picture - you no Haole :-). Anyway I concur..$300 can support a small family / month. As others suggested she could be sharing with the family. However in my experience asking for more is uncharacteristic. Your gut is giving you a feeling. Trust it. Discuss it. If you feel uncomfortable with her responses then you have to make a call. It could get worse later. Oh the power of Love for a woman...I don't want you to sleep with one eye open after your married if ya know what I mean....good luck

[AMTDP 0]

$300 is already a big amount here in the Philippines if you know how to budget. My fiance started giving me money this september bec i resigned from work for many reasons and he is giving me $140 dollars a month(for my share in our apt, food,daily needs). I really budget it bec i dont want to ask money from my fiance. It will be better if you talk to her in a nice way. Good luck to you and i hope all your questions will be answered soon. God Bless!!

[newlyweds 0]

 300 dollars is a lot for 14 days..

how old is she?

my fiance sometimes sends me some money, and if i just keep spending, yes it can easily be spent in as little as 14 days ..but you have to let her know that you want to save up, be open with each other. Maybe she expects you to be just overly generous with her.

Tell her you want to save up since there are a lot of expenses to come, don't be afraid to tell her and tell her the money is for her not for everyone! but be gentle with that too though lol, and a boarding house? thats actually cheap and paid every month, if she rented an entire room it would probably run around $60-70 but if she has roomates... thats way too much.

i think you should be concerned with how she's spending. I think you sending her this much every 15 days, that's overwhelming she must seem like she's giving some people a lending hand at the expense of your pocket. Or she could be just shopping way too much for very expensive stuff and dining at expensive places. Let her know she's ypur princess but she doesnt have to live like it financially without thinking about you.

This is not a bash anyone thread.. It is a genuine question if missing something in the culture. I am embarrassed to even ask this.

I give my fiancée 300 american dollars for support each month. It is never enough though. I realize 300 a month is not a great deal, but should be enough to live on or am I way off here? It is starting to really hurt our relationship at this point because within 15 days she has gone through the 300 this month, and asking for more even though have asked her to budget money since I am sadly not a rich man. Would someone please illuminate the situation?

Sorry but you have a scammer or VERY high priced pinay.

My wife made $148 US a month and supported her mom and dad and her daughter.

Have you met her?

I have met her. We spent almost three weeks together in the Philippines. To the others in the thread she is currently not working. So I am doing full support for her.

I have asked her to breakdown expenses, and have only received guesstimates on expenses. Then when have gone into it further. She told me had paid for a birthday party and gifts also. She has no children. This is really causing pain at this point because do love her, but the lack of responsibility with money pains me. 300 dollars seems excessive in 14 days. I fear she has given her mother money to get involved in a networking scam over there. As well as giving money to everyone in the family. I really do not know for positive though, and it pains me to ponder these questions. Would just rather address this now than 6 months down the road. We are to the point that just filed for 129f.

Edit: She is paying for a boarding room. She is leaving there this month, and it is provincial, and not Manila or Cebu.

I am looking to see if my concerns are just in my head, or if there is reason to be concerned. I am not trying to bash her or anything of the sort, or grab attention. Thank you for the replies.

[sojen 0]

$300 a month is more than enough in the Philippines if you don't have kids to take care of, specially if you don't live int the city. Maybe you should lay your cards on the table about your finances, and be firm about the money that you will give her every month. Let her know that it is the maximum amount that you can give her as an allowance , she should know how to budget.

[kaibigan 8]

$300 a month is more than enough in the Philippines if you don't have kids to take care of, specially if you don't live int the city. Maybe you should lay your cards on the table about your finances, and be firm about the money that you will give her every month. Let her know that it is the maximum amount that you can give her as an allowance , she should know how to budget.

i agree with this answer..

my fiance give me allowance but i never asked,

but he told my parents i am his responsibility now

i know how hard it is to earn money still

it depends on the need..but on a regular basis..

a 200 dollor allowance is more than enough..

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

My wife is always agruing with me about money....

She says I send too much and she gets upset when there's unexpected expenses.

She has figured-out a monthly budget which includes money for telephone & DSL (1,000Php), Electric (2,500Php which is high because I had AirCon installed there), Groceries (8,000Php which includes diapers & milk for the little guy). She lives with her Mom so there is no rent and Mom also covers some of the groceries) then there is the misc expenses like LOD for her cell phone and trike fare to get around.

I have to insist that she treats herself on occassion and even then she argues about it and insists that she is okay without.

She get frustrated when people around her come to her asking for money because they assume she's rich simply for having an American husband.

My wife has always insisted on telling me what her budget is and even wants to send me coies of the receipts.

Communications is key to building a solid relationship. If she isn't communicating with you now wy would you expect that to ever change?

[scotty's girl 1]

$300 is more than enough if you don't live in the city. You need to talk to her about what you feel. Be open to her and tell her to budget the money you are sending. But if she really cares, she should know how to spend the money wisely, right?

[Lingladyinred19 13]

My wife is always agruing with me about money....

She says I send too much and she gets upset when there's unexpected expenses.

She has figured-out a monthly budget which includes money for telephone & DSL (1,000Php), Electric (2,500Php which is high because I had AirCon installed there), Groceries (8,000Php which includes diapers & milk for the little guy). She lives with her Mom so there is no rent and Mom also covers some of the groceries) then there is the misc expenses like LOD for her cell phone and trike fare to get around.

I have to insist that she treats herself on occassion and even then she argues about it and insists that she is okay without.

She get frustrated when people around her come to her asking for money because they assume she's rich simply for having an American husband.

My wife has always insisted on telling me what her budget is and even wants to send me coies of the receipts.

Communications is key to building a solid relationship. If she isn't communicating with you now wy would you expect that to ever change?

. we are same with ur wife.. My hubby send me too much money here.. 2x a month, I keep arguing to him also..

300$ here or more is big already.. I know how to budget money, that why all the extra money i put into our savings account. I don't pay my rent coz i am here at my parents house. while i am waiting for my visa..

Me too.. I get frustrated when people borrow money to me, they thought i am rich coz my hubby is a foreigner.

But i don't tolerate them, i told them that my hubby is not rich he work hard there.. he is not seating pretty in the states.. he work like a dog and cow.. that is why all the money that he sent to me.. i really value that.

even he never ask me, what i did in the money he sent. i am the one tell him that i buy this one or whatever. and he don't care. but for me.. as my husband its a respect even he never ask me what i did in the money that he sent..

ever since we been gf/bf and get married. i never never ask money.. it ashamed really..

to make the story short.. i am KURIPOT talaga hehehe..

I agree with you communication is the BEST.

god bless

Edited September 16, 2009 by Shiela-Todd

[john_and_marlene 162]

You aren't her boyfriend. You are an income. You are probably not her only income. Get away from this situation without sending any more money.

[luckymom 0]

We don't know the whole story here, maybe she is helping a family member, maybe she has a shopping problem, maybe she has a lot of debts in the past. The OP should dig deeper on financial issues because if he tolerates this two weeks huge expense - he will regret it in the future. If the fiancee get used to having a lot of money, she will treat him as a BANK. She will not take into consideration the hardship of working, the recession etc. I think he has to tell the fiancee to have an accounting of the monthly expenses (my opinion only). I've read that she is working so the money coming here is just an additional to her budget so she should be really well off now.