February 09 - VSC, K-1 filings

[lizandpat 0]

Maire - What are your plans for Christmas?

[Maire 1]

Maire - What are your plans for Christmas?

We are going to my uncles house in Jacksonville

[lizandpat 0]

We are going to my uncles house in Jacksonville

Sounds nice!!

How are things with your SO? Any change?

[Maire 1]

he came back home on Friday....I know must of the issues are my fault...I dont like when people go thru my things such as laptop, phone, documents and purses...and he LOVES to go thru everything when I am not around but i guess thats marriage...its just been difficult for the both of us since we have never lived with anybody before...its like we cant live without each other but its hell when we live with each other

Edited December 21, 2009 by Maire

[lizandpat 0]

he came back home on Friday....I know must of the issues are my fault...I dont like when people go thru my things such as laptop, phone, documents and purses...and he LOVES to go thru everything when I am not around but i guess thats marriage...its just been difficult for the both of us since we have never lived with anybody before...its like we cant live without each other but its hell when we live with each other

I'm glad things are better! Your right...marriage is a hard and a lot of work but you just have to talk to each other and work through it. Having never lived with anyone to me would make the transistion ever harder but at least you two are trying and working it out! I'm happy for you....I was thinking about you this weekend and wondering how things were going...makes me happy to hear they are a bit better!

[D_n_M 0]

I'm sure you will make it work Maire! I'm sorry it's such a struggle. I too am getting used to things! I think it comes with the territory.

Glad you are working things out though!!

[Maire 1]

I'm glad things are better! Your right...marriage is a hard and a lot of work but you just have to talk to each other and work through it. Having never lived with anyone to me would make the transistion ever harder but at least you two are trying and working it out! I'm happy for you....I was thinking about you this weekend and wondering how things were going...makes me happy to hear they are a bit better!

Thanks...i dunno people always told me it was hard but I never thought it could be soooo hard...I was always used to having my OWN things and nobody could touch anything...

Edited December 21, 2009 by Maire

[Maire 1]

I'm sure you will make it work Maire! I'm sorry it's such a struggle. I too am getting used to things! I think it comes with the territory.

Glad you are working things out though!!

Lets hope so..cus that back and forth can be draining I went from 115 to 110lbs...when he heard I had cut my finger at work and gotten stiches last Monday he went to see me..then when he came back home on Friday and we argued cus he was going thru my stuff he said that I was hidding something and that possibly I didnt even cut my finger and got no stiches and even made me take my thing off so he could see the stiches....I mean i dunno if its the cultural shock

[D_n_M 0]

He might be a little insecure. After all he is n a new world. You seem to very mature about the reality of everything. I'm sure that will pay off for you! Hang in there! Christmas will make everyone feel better!!

[lee b 2]

Maire I am glad that you two are still working on it which is a good thing. It sounds like he has some serious trust issues which you are going to need to resolve if you are going to have a future.

[lizandpat 0]

Lee and Derek - I agree with both of your statements....insecurity and trust issues are something everyone has at one time or another. These are things thought that can be worked out....just hang in there, Maire...it'll all work out like it should!

[Maire 1]

Thanks guys for all your advices they are truly helpful...sometimes I really dont know what to do...I dont wanna fail but I dont know if things will get better or worse.....its been very difficult

Edited December 21, 2009 by Maire

[Richard-Joanna 1]

Mornin' y'all

Lee, I am glad you had a nice birthday weekend!!! You deserved it!!

Liz, glad you are feeling better!!

Derek, sorry about your Mom not getting her flight, I hope she still comes down.

Maire... Hi honey, hope you are ok... you didnt answer my text the other day!!! BAD GURL!!

I am heading home to cook up the company feast for tonight... I dont want to see a kitchen for at least a month after this is over!

[Maire 1]

Mornin' y'all

Lee, I am glad you had a nice birthday weekend!!! You deserved it!!

Liz, glad you are feeling better!!

Derek, sorry about your Mom not getting her flight, I hope she still comes down.

Maire... Hi honey, hope you are ok... you didnt answer my text the other day!!! BAD GURL!!

I am heading home to cook up the company feast for tonight... I dont want to see a kitchen for at least a month after this is over!

sry I was feeling down and had just gotten stiches on my finger..was a bad bad day

[D_n_M 0]

All you can do is your part in trying and working things out. He has to do his part. Maria and I have issues, but we work together as best we can to get them worked out. She is very sensitive and I am very stubborn. Just be patient and do what you can do.

We are all here for you and each other! Don't forget!