Travel to Nigeria 3 times

[idocare 3]

I know you must really be concerned about bringing your husband to America. I can see that your love is for real ( u have traveled 3-times within a year to see him) I believe that the peeps at the Nigerian Embassey is concerned about your husbands love towards you!! Sorry I gotta keep it real. Many men and women have gotten into America thru Marrying a citizen here and having them petition for them to come here. Actually I did the same thing, and at the time you couldn't tell me that my fiance didn't love me, heck he told me that he did all the time, I spent hundreds of dollars on phone calls calling him and much more money in my time e-mailing him and chatting online.

All the while he proclaimed his love for me!!! It wasen't until he got here and we married and sent his adjustment of stais paperwork in that he beginned to change and become like my worst enemy. He accused me of this and that and made sure there was no peace in our home. Most cnflicts between us were instagited by him and he even tried to get me arrested claiming domestic violence. This evil man became a nitemare that kept playing out until I finally asked him to leave. That's exactly what he wanted me to do, so he would leave his son and I by my request.

You already married this man, why don't you go to your husband? Just go and live there with him; why is coming into the US so important? Isn't being together more important? Your sitting here wasting time complaining about the Embassey in Nigeria and you have a pass to be with him now. Why is it only him that's willing to leave everything he knows to come be with you, can't you also leave everything you know and go and be with him? Lots of women in Nigeria take good care of themselves and dress in the modern culture, but your husband picked you, a person far far away from his home. A person that's nothing like the girls he's grown up with, if he's willing to leave his culture behind shouldn't you also be willing to go to the man you married?

As you can see I have been on this site for some time. I met my ex-husband online and he used me to get into America. My ex was a medical doctor there in Nigeria so I thought he's and his family would have some morals. This same man tormented me throughout my pregnancy and left me with a 3-week old son. (A first son ) He turned from loving and supporting to evil and manipulative overnite. He kept getting more and more argumentive and evil until I couldn't take it any more and asked him to leave, heck I didn't know at the time that that was his goal, he didn't want immigration to hear that he left on his own but wanted to be able too say that I put him out, and boy oh boy did he use that!!!

Our son named Victor Obinna Ezike Jr. is also a victim of his evilness, he was the one that named him when he was born then a few days of me being home from having him he tried to get me arrested on a domestic violence charge. This man called the police and claimed that I hit him in the stomach he even went as far as falling onto the floor grasping his stomach just before the police entered our home. Who would think a medical doctor would behave in this manner, not me. Since he's left he's done nothing to see his son, it's been years since he's seen him. He walked away; I divorced him and now he's still here in America (so far) and you want to know the funny thing about it is that he constantly accusing me of being the one that abrused him.

The immigration office has a hard job to do espeically there in Lagos, they probably understand that your intentions are good but they may not believe that your husband is legit in his love for you. There have been many women that have married men from Nigeria only to be used financially and emotionally and left to dry. I'm a victim and I know plenty other women that have become victims of international marriges. So I beg; don't blame the embassey you do have other options to be with your husband besides living here in America, it's you that want him to leave everything behind and come to you so since you all have a wait, shouldn't you be willing to also leave everything behind and go to him? After all you all are married now!! Girl go to you man; live your life with him and enjoy the benefits of being married.

When it was clear to me that my ex-husband only used me to get him out of Lagos I wrote and continue to write to every and any governing official that I felt could assist in his removal from this country. Somehow he's still slivering around here like a poisonous snake, or an evil tortoise(enclosed in his shell) peeking around every corner and spending his lies to anyone that will listen. Too may women that were once here on this same site that we now communicate on have found themselves in similar situations and are now divorced.

Love is meant to be a beautiful thing, congrats on your marriage/love. I know that I wasen't the only person writing the Nigerian embassey telling them about how I was scammed, that may be the reason that they are taking a closer look and not being too fast in granting approvals. Ofcourse I can't be too sure, but I've been hearing about how even terriost groups are lookin to Marry Americans only to gain access into this country.

The only advice I would have for you is too go and be with your husband!! Location shouldn't be a factor but spending quality time should be. I wish you and yours all the best.

[joej 0]

I know you must really be concerned about bringing your husband to America. I can see that your love is for real ( u have traveled 3-times within a year to see him) I believe that the peeps at the Nigerian Embassey is concerned about your husbands love towards you!! Sorry I gotta keep it real. Many men and women have gotten into America thru Marrying a citizen here and having them petition for them to come here. Actually I did the same thing, and at the time you couldn't tell me that my fiance didn't love me, heck he told me that he did all the time, I spent hundreds of dollars on phone calls calling him and much more money in my time e-mailing him and chatting online.

All the while he proclaimed his love for me!!! It wasen't until he got here and we married and sent his adjustment of stais paperwork in that he beginned to change and become like my worst enemy. He accused me of this and that and made sure there was no peace in our home. Most cnflicts between us were instagited by him and he even tried to get me arrested claiming domestic violence. This evil man became a nitemare that kept playing out until I finally asked him to leave. That's exactly what he wanted me to do, so he would leave his son and I by my request.

You already married this man, why don't you go to your husband? Just go and live there with him; why is coming into the US so important? Isn't being together more important? Your sitting here wasting time complaining about the Embassey in Nigeria and you have a pass to be with him now. Why is it only him that's willing to leave everything he knows to come be with you, can't you also leave everything you know and go and be with him? Lots of women in Nigeria take good care of themselves and dress in the modern culture, but your husband picked you, a person far far away from his home. A person that's nothing like the girls he's grown up with, if he's willing to leave his culture behind shouldn't you also be willing to go to the man you married?

As you can see I have been on this site for some time. I met my ex-husband online and he used me to get into America. My ex was a medical doctor there in Nigeria so I thought he's and his family would have some morals. This same man tormented me throughout my pregnancy and left me with a 3-week old son. (A first son ) He turned from loving and supporting to evil and manipulative overnite. He kept getting more and more argumentive and evil until I couldn't take it any more and asked him to leave, heck I didn't know at the time that that was his goal, he didn't want immigration to hear that he left on his own but wanted to be able too say that I put him out, and boy oh boy did he use that!!!

Our son named Victor Obinna Ezike Jr. is also a victim of his evilness, he was the one that named him when he was born then a few days of me being home from having him he tried to get me arrested on a domestic violence charge. This man called the police and claimed that I hit him in the stomach he even went as far as falling onto the floor grasping his stomach just before the police entered our home. Who would think a medical doctor would behave in this manner, not me. Since he's left he's done nothing to see his son, it's been years since he's seen him. He walked away; I divorced him and now he's still here in America (so far) and you want to know the funny thing about it is that he constantly accusing me of being the one that abrused him.

The immigration office has a hard job to do espeically there in Lagos, they probably understand that your intentions are good but they may not believe that your husband is legit in his love for you. There have been many women that have married men from Nigeria only to be used financially and emotionally and left to dry. I'm a victim and I know plenty other women that have become victims of international marriges. So I beg; don't blame the embassey you do have other options to be with your husband besides living here in America, it's you that want him to leave everything behind and come to you so since you all have a wait, shouldn't you be willing to also leave everything behind and go to him? After all you all are married now!! Girl go to you man; live your life with him and enjoy the benefits of being married.

When it was clear to me that my ex-husband only used me to get him out of Lagos I wrote and continue to write to every and any governing official that I felt could assist in his removal from this country. Somehow he's still slivering around here like a poisonous snake, or an evil tortoise(enclosed in his shell) peeking around every corner and spending his lies to anyone that will listen. Too may women that were once here on this same site that we now communicate on have found themselves in similar situations and are now divorced.

Love is meant to be a beautiful thing, congrats on your marriage/love. I know that I wasen't the only person writing the Nigerian embassey telling them about how I was scammed, that may be the reason that they are taking a closer look and not being too fast in granting approvals. Ofcourse I can't be too sure, but I've been hearing about how even terriost groups are lookin to Marry Americans only to gain access into this country.

The only advice I would have for you is too go and be with your husband!! Location shouldn't be a factor but spending quality time should be. I wish you and yours all the best.

Hi Idocare, I hope you are doing well...Just popped in this site to see what was going on in the visa front lately. To the original OP, the question I have may be difficult....Are you older than your SO? If so, how much? Does he have any older brothers that are not married yet? Have either of you been married before? These are all things they may look at.

Jodi