Caturday 9/12/09

[nurse1967 287]

Morning ladies!! Hoping to get some advice from the mommies. Since school started and I put my 10 year old back in his room, he has been having an AWFUL time sleeping. He falls to sleep then wakes up a couple hours later frantic cause he thinks he won't get back to sleep again. Eventually he ends up back in bed with me so we BOTH can get some sleep. I have tried everything from being sensitive to his feelings to getting downright nasty with him. Nothing is working. Yesterday I had a big talk with him and told him if this continues I will start taking away his xbox and other priveleges. Last night I heard him get up and my 14 year old daughter was trying to calm him. He was crying. Eventually he got in bed with me again. I am ready to pull my hair out if this doesn't change soon!!!

[amysaid 9]

Morning ladies!! Hoping to get some advice from the mommies. Since school started and I put my 10 year old back in his room, he has been having an AWFUL time sleeping. He falls to sleep then wakes up a couple hours later frantic cause he thinks he won't get back to sleep again. Eventually he ends up back in bed with me so we BOTH can get some sleep. I have tried everything from being sensitive to his feelings to getting downright nasty with him. Nothing is working. Yesterday I had a big talk with him and told him if this continues I will start taking away his xbox and other priveleges. Last night I heard him get up and my 14 year old daughter was trying to calm him. He was crying. Eventually he got in bed with me again. I am ready to pull my hair out if this doesn't change soon!!!

Maybe there is something else that's bothering him and preventing him from sleeping and/or making him anxious? Maybe you can transition him to a sleeping bag on your bedroom floor, and then back to his bed?

[nurse1967 287]

Amy I have asked him what the problem is. He said I just don't feel comfortable in MY room I feel comfortable in YOUR room and you are there. He also gets fixated on things. I have told him before, if you don't sleep you won't do well in school or you can get sick cause your body doesn't get enough rest. When he wakes up at 11 or 11:30 he says "I'm not getting enough sleep". But he goes right back to sleep if I put him in my bed. So I don't really think it's a sleep issue as much as a separation anxiety. Realize that I have been his only parent for over 3 years now.

[sara535 15]

I know someone else who had this problem and offered the kid a pallet on the floor beside the parents bed as a compromise. He slept there off and on for a while and then I think it just got uncomfortable so he eventually made his way back to his own room ( it did take a few months). I think I would try that. good luck

and Happy CATURDAY everyone!

[R and F 34]

Have a great day today guys.

[R and F 34]

We have two Saturday posts.

[JeanneVictoria 55]

Good morning and happy Saturday! I'm thinkin' we might just have

some rain today!!! Beautiful clouds are rollin' in!

Have to find myself something entertaining to do today. All I see is

Wael's eyes behind his computer! Loves his classes.

Hey Sherry!!! Welcome home sweetie! How was your trip? When did you

get back?

Betsy, don't have any advice, but do wish you good luck in your quest for

your son to find himself in his own bed.

Mornin' Kenza, Maureen, Jenn, Tammy, Nagi, Rosie and Sara!

Afternoon Amy!

Have a great Saturday everyone. Enjoy!

[amal 4]

In your towns have you ever notice in the Chinese Buffet places look around here you will find mostly Mexicans, but in the Mexican places you wont see one Chinese ha my observation here anyway Oh ahmed DID finally get to take his actual driving part of the test before it was always raining, or a light out etc.... he passed and a job had him do the drug test so that is also a good sign. Maybe we do have a life after all

yay for live moving forward!!! mabrook !!!

Good morning and happy Caturday all!

Today I'm going to tour the maternity ward where I'll be giving birth - I'm really excited!

*sigh* that is sooo cool!!! have a great time!

Morning ladies!! Hoping to get some advice from the mommies. Since school started and I put my 10 year old back in his room, he has been having an AWFUL time sleeping. He falls to sleep then wakes up a couple hours later frantic cause he thinks he won't get back to sleep again. Eventually he ends up back in bed with me so we BOTH can get some sleep. I have tried everything from being sensitive to his feelings to getting downright nasty with him. Nothing is working. Yesterday I had a big talk with him and told him if this continues I will start taking away his xbox and other priveleges. Last night I heard him get up and my 14 year old daughter was trying to calm him. He was crying. Eventually he got in bed with me again. I am ready to pull my hair out if this doesn't change soon!!!

Maybe there is something else that's bothering him and preventing him from sleeping and/or making him anxious? Maybe you can transition him to a sleeping bag on your bedroom floor, and then back to his bed?

the pallet on the floor (they say) works wonders. He's still "with you" but learning to sleep without you right beside him. I wish you all the luck in the world with this issue!

may I steal this picture for my FB account???

[JeanneVictoria 55]

In your towns have you ever notice in the Chinese Buffet places look around here you will find mostly Mexicans, but in the Mexican places you wont see one Chinese ha my observation here anyway Oh ahmed DID finally get to take his actual driving part of the test before it was always raining, or a light out etc.... he passed and a job had him do the drug test so that is also a good sign. Maybe we do have a life after all

yay for live moving forward!!! mabrook !!!

Good morning and happy Caturday all!

Today I'm going to tour the maternity ward where I'll be giving birth - I'm really excited!

*sigh* that is sooo cool!!! have a great time!

Morning ladies!! Hoping to get some advice from the mommies. Since school started and I put my 10 year old back in his room, he has been having an AWFUL time sleeping. He falls to sleep then wakes up a couple hours later frantic cause he thinks he won't get back to sleep again. Eventually he ends up back in bed with me so we BOTH can get some sleep. I have tried everything from being sensitive to his feelings to getting downright nasty with him. Nothing is working. Yesterday I had a big talk with him and told him if this continues I will start taking away his xbox and other priveleges. Last night I heard him get up and my 14 year old daughter was trying to calm him. He was crying. Eventually he got in bed with me again. I am ready to pull my hair out if this doesn't change soon!!!

Maybe there is something else that's bothering him and preventing him from sleeping and/or making him anxious? Maybe you can transition him to a sleeping bag on your bedroom floor, and then back to his bed?

the pallet on the floor (they say) works wonders. He's still "with you" but learning to sleep without you right beside him. I wish you all the luck in the world with this issue!

may I steal this picture for my FB account???

Mornin' Judy and Amal!!

[100% Al Ahly Fan 53]

(((Terrie))) Are you okay? Why u no sleep?

K...gonna post on the OTHER Saturday thread, but I had to show ya' some luv Terrie. Feel better!

[100% Al Ahly Fan 53]

Have a great day all!!

[doodlebugg 10]

I discovered a place with amaaazing lemon chicken right before I came to egypt this time, and I have been craving it for the last six weeks. As soon as I get the chance when we get home, I am hitting it up. I'm not sure if hubby would like it, he doesn't seem to care much for salty & sweet together, but he can have some rice or something, I'm digging in

Usama's the same way!!! He HATES Chinese food and doesn't care much for a lot of Moroccan food because they combine sweet and salty. If he's eating pretzels and I'm getting some ice cream I don't even bother asking if he wants any because I know he'll go on and on saying how it's not good to eat sweet so close to eating salty. He would have fainted dead alive if he saw me when I was preggers since I HAD to dip my french fries in my vanilla shake everyday. lol

Morning ladies!! Hoping to get some advice from the mommies. Since school started and I put my 10 year old back in his room, he has been having an AWFUL time sleeping. He falls to sleep then wakes up a couple hours later frantic cause he thinks he won't get back to sleep again. Eventually he ends up back in bed with me so we BOTH can get some sleep. I have tried everything from being sensitive to his feelings to getting downright nasty with him. Nothing is working. Yesterday I had a big talk with him and told him if this continues I will start taking away his xbox and other priveleges. Last night I heard him get up and my 14 year old daughter was trying to calm him. He was crying. Eventually he got in bed with me again. I am ready to pull my hair out if this doesn't change soon!!!

You know I think if my husband hadn't come here my 12 yr old would still be in my bed everynight. It was kind of a little tense when he got here but he was so sweet about it. He knew that my bed was her turf so he let her keep some of her stuffed animals on his side of the bed during the day and wouldn't ask her to move if she was in his side reading a book at night. He'd just wait until she went to bed in her room. A few times he volunteered to sleep in her room so that she could sleep with me. I love him so much for that.

In our case my daughter is 12 but seriously she's a little immature for her age. Always has been. I just figured she needed to feel close and snuggle mommy a little more before she grew out of it. It's been over a year since he came here and it took about a full year for her to get over the resentment of him stealing her spot but the good thing is now they are bff's. He's home when she gets home from school, etc. and they've bonded sooo much it's like she's his own daugther. I say go easy on your boy and let nature take it's course. Maybe he's very worried about this new man coming to live with him and he wants to cling to the most protective thing he can find and that right now is you. Cherish these nights because soon he won't even want to spend two seconds with you because it's not "cool" anymore.

Edited September 12, 2009 by doodlebugg

[100% Al Ahly Fan 53]

Sorry folks but I just have to vent right now. So here we go....my ex and also my son's dad (if you can call him that). Called this morning and asked if he could drop off the child support check. When he came over he had his daughter with him ( apparently she just arrived a week ago from their country - first time to the U.S.) and well of course I was kind to her (it was good to see her since I haven't seen her since she was 9 - she's 17), but my son was really weirded out since he has NEVER met his sister before. So, I was a little ticked he didn't mention this to me on the phone so I could prepare Tariq.

Anyways, he asked if he could take Tariq next weekend and I told him I wasn't sure what our plans were since the Eid is probably gonna fall on Sunday. He asked if he could take him for Saturday and drop him off that night, I said that would be fine. Then I informed him, because I figured it would be something he would want to know, that Tariq started school this week. I said exactly this, "He started school this week." The this fool, this idiot, this every bad word I can't say right now said "Who?" Who? Who? Who the hell does he think I am talking about, My CAT??? Argh....so I calmly said "Your son, Tariq." To which he replied "Oh, okay...what grade is he in now?" OMG! #######? I couldn't believe it! I even said to him,"Are you serious? This is absolutely pathetic! You are completely patatic and sorry!" He knows he is, cause he didn't respond except to ask if it was 2nd grade and I told him again how patatic he is and sad that he doesn't even know what grade his child is in. I told him 3rd grade and he just looked at me like he was stupid!

At this point I was beside myself and I know I shouldn't have have done this, but I couldn't help myself. I tooked at his daughter and told her how sad her dad was. I said he lived 2 miles away and he sees Tariq for MAYBE five minutes a month to drop off child support. I told her since last year he has come to get Tariq ONE time and that was just this past July. ARGH!!!

Anyhow, that's it....that's all I had to get out. I just can't stand him! I did give his daughter a big hugs and told her I would love to get together with her ALONE.

[nurse1967 287]

Doodlebug, thanks for your story. Glad to hear that about your daughter. People make me feel so bad about my son. I know he should sleep in his own room and I know he is a big boy now. He will be 10 on the 29th.

I guess in some ways he is immature too. And let's face it, he's been the only man in my life for almost the last 4 years. We both are having adjustment issues. I am hopeful that Tarek is going to be a wonderful influence in Alex's life. He is a very kind and caring man and that's exactly what my son could use right now. Anyway, I just keep taking deep breaths and telling myself that this too shall pass. Prayers would be much appreciated!!

[ya falaha! 0]

Betsy, I don't really have any advice but I can say you're not alone. My 11.5 and 13 yr old wants to sleep with me on occasion still. They're way too old for that. I admit that I do cave now and then and let them in. When the husband is here they don't do that.