can someone tell me if I broke an unwritten rule?

[charlie&pam 1]

Ok......here is the problem.......Yesterday I sent my girl some money because I figured she was running low when I talked to her last night I gave her the money control # and she got all mad because she didn't ask me for any money she said that she feels ashamed and doesn't want me to feel that she is using me????? Did I do something wrong? I don"t know how to react??? I feel bad but at the same time I want to tell her just to take it and be quiet but not rudely!!!! It wasn't even that much just enough that she can get to the cafe each day and for her computer time!!!!! She also said that she budgeted the money I gave her last week so she didn't need it!!!! What did I do that was so wrong?

[rockhouse 1]

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[Minya's wife 24]

Ok......here is the problem.......Yesterday I sent my girl some money because I figured she was running low when I talked to her last night I gave her the money control # and she got all mad because she didn't ask me for any money she said that she feels ashamed and doesn't want me to feel that she is using me????? Did I do something wrong? I don"t know how to react??? I feel bad but at the same time I want to tell her just to take it and be quiet but not rudely!!!! It wasn't even that much just enough that she can get to the cafe each day and for her computer time!!!!! She also said that she budgeted the money I gave her last week so she didn't need it!!!! What did I do that was so wrong?

Wait, you sent her money last week, and this week you got the impression that she was running low, already? What made you think that?

[muñequita linda 0]

You did not break any unwritten rule, bud. I imagine her as having a penchant for acting and that she must very joyous in the inside. Now, she can have nice snacks and go watch a movie or two.

[sweetgurl 0]

shes a good actress then...

[charlie&pam 1]

pms

PROBABLY!!!!! LOL

Ok......here is the problem.......Yesterday I sent my girl some money because I figured she was running low when I talked to her last night I gave her the money control # and she got all mad because she didn't ask me for any money she said that she feels ashamed and doesn't want me to feel that she is using me????? Did I do something wrong? I don"t know how to react??? I feel bad but at the same time I want to tell her just to take it and be quiet but not rudely!!!! It wasn't even that much just enough that she can get to the cafe each day and for her computer time!!!!! She also said that she budgeted the money I gave her last week so she didn't need it!!!! What did I do that was so wrong?

Wait, you sent her money last week, and this week you got the impression that she was running low, already? What made you think that?

Well I get paid every other week and just got paid yesterday the week before I didn't send her that much. So since I got paid I just figured I would.

[adiiann 163]

Ok......here is the problem.......Yesterday I sent my girl some money because I figured she was running low when I talked to her last night I gave her the money control # and she got all mad because she didn't ask me for any money she said that she feels ashamed and doesn't want me to feel that she is using me????? Did I do something wrong? I don"t know how to react??? I feel bad but at the same time I want to tell her just to take it and be quiet but not rudely!!!! It wasn't even that much just enough that she can get to the cafe each day and for her computer time!!!!! She also said that she budgeted the money I gave her last week so she didn't need it!!!! What did I do that was so wrong?

Hmmmm... this is what I think about your scenario. Well, it is really annoying that people in the Philippines in general always think that when you have a foreign fiance/husband/wife, they are sending you lots of money.

So, sometimes in the relationship that we commonly have here, money is an issue, even though you have good intention.

Your woman doesn't want you to feel that she is using you because it hurts to feel already that people think she is using you because she's receiving money from you.

Sometimes, when I got broke before my payday, I asked my husband(fiance that time) to send me money to pay for my bills. Practically, my bills were for communications. I always have 6000 Php worth of phone bills because I always called him for I have better signal that his mobile phone. Then, I have internet bills to pay too also. Then, sometimes, I shopped for his clothings when I saw good bargains. It's really no big deal.

So, maybe just tell her that you wanted to make her comfortable enough for your long distance relationship. And that money you are sending isn't for letting her feel that you are buying her love but to make things easier for her to move along the relationship.

[charlie&pam 1]

You did not break any unwritten rule, bud. I imagine her as having a penchant for acting and that she must very joyous in the inside. Now, she can have nice snacks and go watch a movie or two.

I hope so I feel real bad? Is the pic on you have from the SM mall looking over baguio? I was there a few weeks ago.

Ok......here is the problem.......Yesterday I sent my girl some money because I figured she was running low when I talked to her last night I gave her the money control # and she got all mad because she didn't ask me for any money she said that she feels ashamed and doesn't want me to feel that she is using me????? Did I do something wrong? I don"t know how to react??? I feel bad but at the same time I want to tell her just to take it and be quiet but not rudely!!!! It wasn't even that much just enough that she can get to the cafe each day and for her computer time!!!!! She also said that she budgeted the money I gave her last week so she didn't need it!!!! What did I do that was so wrong?

Hmmmm... this is what I think about your scenario. Well, it is really annoying that people in the Philippines in general always think that when you have a foreign fiance/husband/wife, they are sending you lots of money.

So, sometimes in the relationship that we commonly have here, money is an issue, even though you have good intention.

Your woman doesn't want you to feel that she is using you because it hurts to feel already that people think she is using you because she's receiving money from you.

Sometimes, when I got broke before my payday, I asked my husband(fiance that time) to send me money to pay for my bills. Practically, my bills were for communications. I always have 6000 Php worth of phone bills because I always called him for I have better signal that his mobile phone. Then, I have internet bills to pay too also. Then, sometimes, I shopped for his clothings when I saw good bargains. It's really no big deal.

So, maybe just tell her that you wanted to make her comfortable enough for your long distance relationship. And that money you are sending isn't for letting her feel that you are buying her love but to make things easier for her to move along the relationship.

Thank you that makes good sense I am going to use that.

[muñequita linda 0]

You did not break any unwritten rule, bud. I imagine her as having a penchant for acting and that she must very joyous in the inside. Now, she can have nice snacks and go watch a movie or two.

I hope so I feel real bad? Is the pic on you have from the SM mall looking over baguio? I was there a few weeks ago.

Yeah, you got it! You have seen the Flower Festival, have you not?

[jom 4]

Ok......here is the problem.......Yesterday I sent my girl some money because I figured she was running low when I talked to her last night I gave her the money control # and she got all mad because she didn't ask me for any money she said that she feels ashamed and doesn't want me to feel that she is using me????? Did I do something wrong? I don"t know how to react??? I feel bad but at the same time I want to tell her just to take it and be quiet but not rudely!!!! It wasn't even that much just enough that she can get to the cafe each day and for her computer time!!!!! She also said that she budgeted the money I gave her last week so she didn't need it!!!! What did I do that was so wrong?

How did you figure she was running low when you talked to her?

[charlie&pam 1]

You did not break any unwritten rule, bud. I imagine her as having a penchant for acting and that she must very joyous in the inside. Now, she can have nice snacks and go watch a movie or two.

I hope so I feel real bad? Is the pic on you have from the SM mall looking over baguio? I was there a few weeks ago.

Yeah, you got it! You have seen the Flower Festival, have you not?

yes I have it was on the first

Ok......here is the problem.......Yesterday I sent my girl some money because I figured she was running low when I talked to her last night I gave her the money control # and she got all mad because she didn't ask me for any money she said that she feels ashamed and doesn't want me to feel that she is using me????? Did I do something wrong? I don"t know how to react??? I feel bad but at the same time I want to tell her just to take it and be quiet but not rudely!!!! It wasn't even that much just enough that she can get to the cafe each day and for her computer time!!!!! She also said that she budgeted the money I gave her last week so she didn't need it!!!! What did I do that was so wrong?

How did you figure she was running low when you talked to her?

because i didn't send her much last week since I was running short on money.

[uniquecouple 0]

Ok......here is the problem.......Yesterday I sent my girl some money because I figured she was running low when I talked to her last night I gave her the money control # and she got all mad because she didn't ask me for any money she said that she feels ashamed and doesn't want me to feel that she is using me????? Did I do something wrong? I don"t know how to react??? I feel bad but at the same time I want to tell her just to take it and be quiet but not rudely!!!! It wasn't even that much just enough that she can get to the cafe each day and for her computer time!!!!! She also said that she budgeted the money I gave her last week so she didn't need it!!!! What did I do that was so wrong?

matured ones do not expose any particular things like this outside the ring. they would keep it, talk about it and resolve it only by themselves not with the whole world who are enjoying by urging one's thinking. grow up!

[edp333 9]

Ok......here is the problem.......Yesterday I sent my girl some money because I figured she was running low when I talked to her last night I gave her the money control # and she got all mad because she didn't ask me for any money she said that she feels ashamed and doesn't want me to feel that she is using me????? Did I do something wrong? I don"t know how to react??? I feel bad but at the same time I want to tell her just to take it and be quiet but not rudely!!!! It wasn't even that much just enough that she can get to the cafe each day and for her computer time!!!!! She also said that she budgeted the money I gave her last week so she didn't need it!!!! What did I do that was so wrong?

Hmmmm... this is what I think about your scenario. Well, it is really annoying that people in the Philippines in general always think that when you have a foreign fiance/husband/wife, they are sending you lots of money.

So, sometimes in the relationship that we commonly have here, money is an issue, even though you have good intention.

Your woman doesn't want you to feel that she is using you because it hurts to feel already that people think she is using you because she's receiving money from you.

Sometimes, when I got broke before my payday, I asked my husband(fiance that time) to send me money to pay for my bills. Practically, my bills were for communications. I always have 6000 Php worth of phone bills because I always called him for I have better signal that his mobile phone. Then, I have internet bills to pay too also. Then, sometimes, I shopped for his clothings when I saw good bargains. It's really no big deal.

So, maybe just tell her that you wanted to make her comfortable enough for your long distance relationship. And that money you are sending isn't for letting her feel that you are buying her love but to make things easier for her to move along the relationship.

+1, I agree with this explanation.

You could explain that is was not your intention to make her feel ashamed and you sent the money while you had it. It can be saved and used used for future expenses.

[charlie&pam 1]

Ok......here is the problem.......Yesterday I sent my girl some money because I figured she was running low when I talked to her last night I gave her the money control # and she got all mad because she didn't ask me for any money she said that she feels ashamed and doesn't want me to feel that she is using me????? Did I do something wrong? I don"t know how to react??? I feel bad but at the same time I want to tell her just to take it and be quiet but not rudely!!!! It wasn't even that much just enough that she can get to the cafe each day and for her computer time!!!!! She also said that she budgeted the money I gave her last week so she didn't need it!!!! What did I do that was so wrong?

matured ones do not expose any particular things like this outside the ring. they would keep it, talk about it and resolve it only by themselves not with the whole world who are enjoying by urging one's thinking. grow up!

It is really nice to see that you have an open mind about this subject!!!!! All I was asking if I broke some sort of tradition or some sort of thing like that. Also some advice on how told handle it if I did.......So get out of your little world of trying to degrade me and look in the mirror

Ok......here is the problem.......Yesterday I sent my girl some money because I figured she was running low when I talked to her last night I gave her the money control # and she got all mad because she didn't ask me for any money she said that she feels ashamed and doesn't want me to feel that she is using me????? Did I do something wrong? I don"t know how to react??? I feel bad but at the same time I want to tell her just to take it and be quiet but not rudely!!!! It wasn't even that much just enough that she can get to the cafe each day and for her computer time!!!!! She also said that she budgeted the money I gave her last week so she didn't need it!!!! What did I do that was so wrong?

Hmmmm... this is what I think about your scenario. Well, it is really annoying that people in the Philippines in general always think that when you have a foreign fiance/husband/wife, they are sending you lots of money.

So, sometimes in the relationship that we commonly have here, money is an issue, even though you have good intention.

Your woman doesn't want you to feel that she is using you because it hurts to feel already that people think she is using you because she's receiving money from you.

Sometimes, when I got broke before my payday, I asked my husband(fiance that time) to send me money to pay for my bills. Practically, my bills were for communications. I always have 6000 Php worth of phone bills because I always called him for I have better signal that his mobile phone. Then, I have internet bills to pay too also. Then, sometimes, I shopped for his clothings when I saw good bargains. It's really no big deal.

So, maybe just tell her that you wanted to make her comfortable enough for your long distance relationship. And that money you are sending isn't for letting her feel that you are buying her love but to make things easier for her to move along the relationship.

+1, I agree with this explanation.

You could explain that is was not your intention to make her feel ashamed and you sent the money while you had it. It can be saved and used used for future expenses.

thank you very much for the advice this is what I was looking for.

Edited September 11, 2009 by charlie&pam

[muñequita linda 0]

You did not break any unwritten rule, bud. I imagine her as having a penchant for acting and that she must very joyous in the inside. Now, she can have nice snacks and go watch a movie or two.

I hope so I feel real bad? Is the pic on you have from the SM mall looking over baguio? I was there a few weeks ago.

Yeah, you got it! You have seen the Flower Festival, have you not?

yes I have it was on the first

How did the party in Pangasinan go? Were you able to water down the lechon and calderreta with San Miguel or basi?