My wife refuses to go to interview with me

[meowmeowmeow 1]

1) get divorced, go back to your country, rid yourself of the almighty green card, and move on with your life

OR

2) work things out, get your green card, have a happy life....

it sounds like you're reluctant to leave and want to have your green card though. but without her helping...not gonna be easy. good luck.

[NickD 203]

I-751 has more provisions for a failed marriage then you can shake a stick at, makes a guy wonder why they even take the trouble of putting people with a happy marriage. The misery comes in with extreme delays, extra trips to your nearest field office to hear stupid excuses, but most important to either get an I-551 stamp in your current foreign passport, or to bring in two passport photos for an I-94. Neither of these two makes any sense to your employer or to the DMV, so you are left to do a lot of explaining. The only thing they understand is a current green card.

If fraud is detected and proven, immigrant faces deportation, goodbye, but the sponsoring USC can face 5 years in prison and a $250,000 fine according to law at most, and at least, if leaves his spouse in poverty, can be sued by the US government for any aid that spouse received if fraud is not proven.

I-751 interviews are strictly random, in my six years of just dealing with the USCIS as a USC with an immigrant wife, only heard of one such interview, odds of that happening are nil.

Really questioned your statement of being a conditional LPR, a contradiction of words for several years, have to remember to applied at 21 months after you received your conditional permanent resident card. Or more precisely, 90 days before that card expires. Can be returned if you apply one day too early.

[Mystic Heart 0]

My wife and i have been married for a few years now and it is time for me to lift conditions on my greencard. our marriage has always been rocky from day 1. my interview is soon coming and she refuses to go with me. we have been separated on and off but we are not divorced. what shud i do?

thanks.

I personally feel that your marital problems "from day one" and "on and off" separations are definite indications that your marriage will not last. When you entered my country under a fiancée or spousal visa, you made a sworn statement that you were entering into the United States (and your relationship) in good faith, yada, yada.

I have to respectfully say that an honorable individual in your position would return to his home country and not attempt to deceive the DHS for the sole purpose of staying in the U.S. There are already way too many immigrants coming in to the United States that do not live up to the conditions of their agreement/visa and every one that files anything (AOS, lifting of conditions, goes to interviews, or whatever) slows the progress of the honest people that are truly in love with their fiancée, husband, or wife and are in OUR country for all the right reasons... those people deserve to be here.

my thoughts to you is this.. file for divorce (or annulment) and go back to your home country, if someday you are as blessed as I have been to find a kind, understanding, loving, and beautiful wife and she happens to live in the U.S. then enter for all the right reasons.

JMHO

CountryBoy

VERY WELL SAID.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

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Abdulinlove:

This is not troll. this is my real life and i am the one whos dealing with this ######.i asked for advice here not so that poeple can laught at me

MouadsWife:

Doesnt seem vj is being very friendly lately. And people are being judged quit a bit. As a matter of fact, judged, sentenced and hanged. Why do you judge this person to be a troll by 'the way its written"? If I recall correctly, vj is for United States citizens and non-citizens to ask questions on. The person posting is not a citizen therefore will not communicate the same as a person who lives here. And so therefore by the communication it apears this person is being labled a troll.

I think vj members should do less judging. We dont know a persons background, whats going on in their lives, to make assumptions on someone elses life to lable them a troll or anything else. I think 'some' vj members are setting a bad example. People come to vj for support and someone to talk to for guidance, and instead they get labled and ripped apart. I think we all should remember what we should be doing here. We're here to help, not to be the moral police.

Edited September 10, 2009 by Kathryn41

[Kathryn41 3,205]

To the OP, I am sorry you are going through this. If you are still married and your I-751 is approved without an interview, then you can do what you wish. You will receive your 10 year card and continue on the life you have built for yourself here in the US, if that is your choice. If you are called for an interview and are still married, but your wife does not wish to attend, yes, go to the interview, bring with you evidence to show that you entered the marriage in good faith and let them know your current status, that the marriage is in difficulties. You may be allowed to remove conditions or you may not - it will be up to the interviewing immigration officer. If you get officially separated or divorced, then you need to bring those documents with you as well to the interview. I believe there has been discussion -although I don't know if it has been finalized yet - of allowing an applicant who gets divorced while waiting for the approval of the I-751 to have his existing application modified to request the waiver rather than withdrawing that application and submitting a new I-751 with the waiver of the joint filing condition.

Good luck to you. A lot is really going to depend on the timing of the I-751 application and the situation with your marriage. I am sorry things haven't worked out - I know how difficult it is to uproot yourself from your home country and your previous life to try and start a new life in a foreign country. If you wish to stay you have the various options as outlined above. If you wish to return home, that is certainly an option as well.

[venusfire503 54]

Some of you seem to overlook the fact that he hasn't said anything about wanting to end his marriage. Perhaps he really loves his wife, and wants to make it work - how do we know? His concern right now is that she won't go to his interview with him. If he got deported, he'd be away from her, and would have little or no chance to work things out. He might have nothing to go back to since he'd have to have given up his job, residence, etc. Think about it - ever go visit a place you used to live in? There's rarely even a friend around to talk with, places change. When I stop in the city where I lived for more than a dozen years, I barely even recognize the place. He might really have a life here now. He doesn't mention children, but it IS possible that they have one. So, he has to give up the life he has now just because they're having problems? I'm not an immigrant, but would hate if I had to leave my home when I went through my divorce in the past. Even if my home was 'just' a new area I had been living in for a few years.

venusfire

[NickD 203]

The critical part of the I-751 is being able to prove a couple is sharing their assets together with joint tax returns, home and vehicle joint ownership, sharing the same address, banks accounts, health and life insurance, etc. Friend was called in because he didn't add his immigrant life to his home deed. Brought in letters from his bank showing for him to do that, would have to refinance, pay a higher interest rate, and also brought in state statues showing with or without her name on the deed, she still owned half of it due to their marriage. USCIS accepted that.

Can really have problems if you cannot show that these assets are not being shared and still living together. For the other provisions of the I-751 have to show why the marriage failed, such as abuse, abuse can be where one party simply ignores the other. Or show proof where a hardship will occur if returned to the home country. Can really appreciate the difficulties with a foreigner dealing with our legal system, ran across the same thing in my wife's home country, had to find not only an honest attorney, but one that could speak English to be able to communicate with him.

Suggesting the OP find such an immigration attorney here.