I hate myself being so weak....

[Armin 0]

You are not weak at all. Even if we consider that a weakness it's a good weakness. It shows your passion for your significant other. the process really challenges your body, heart and soul! While not trying to blame yourself, try to keep yourself as busy as you can. And always remember that 10 years ago it would have taken years to bring significant others here and there was no easy communication tools as we have today. we have to consider ourselves lucky

At the end of the day the only thing that keeps you warm is the heat of love for your significant other. try to keep it flamed by any means you have.

Best,

[Eric19myracle 0]

Try to keep busy! Find a hobby, or get together with friends, read, watch movies, do yardwork, etc... Exercise also help a lot!

However, are you saying your spouse won't talk to you? I'm kind of reading that in the post, which may be another issue in itself.

FinnLove, Its not like that he didnt talk to me. He trying his best to talk to me as much as he can but sometimes because of long hours to work. We didnt talk he is getting tired. I understand. Im just acting like a child sometimes because I really missed him so much. Sorry you misunderstood what Im saying.

[jimnlena 8]

I know exactly how you feel!! It has only been 3 months wait so fare for me but this not knowing anything is brutal!! I at least get to ICQ with her daily, and skype on weekends, but it is just not the same as being with her! If this starts dragging I think i will Move to Ukraine and work for awhile!

[Allie and Nigel 2]

Very normal, we all feel that way! The true strength is the ability to wait and still be ok! But we all need a good rant and bi%^& session every so often to vent!

[sara..... 371]

you are not weak ur just missing the love of ur life........it gets better i promise, just try and stay busy and think of the good times to come........

one of my friends went back to school in the Philippines while she is waiting it seems to help her.

work a puzzle or make home made things for ur mother in law to be so many different things to help u pass the time.

i will put u in my prayers but i dont think u have much longer

sara

[chinese_mutt 11]

Try to keep busy! Find a hobby, or get together with friends, read, watch movies, do yardwork, etc... Exercise also help a lot!

However, are you saying your spouse won't talk to you? I'm kind of reading that in the post, which may be another issue in itself.

FinnLove, Its not like that he didnt talk to me. He trying his best to talk to me as much as he can but sometimes because of long hours to work. We didnt talk he is getting tired. I understand. Im just acting like a child sometimes because I really missed him so much. Sorry you misunderstood what Im saying.

My husband used to fall asleep on me over the phone.. just hearing him snore made my day. :-)

Don't get too depressed that you can't enjoy your marriage anymore. Remember that immigration is never easy but you will get through it.

Don't make your marriage/relationship all about this whole visa thing, trust me... it really kills the romance and loving mood. :-) Instead, enjoy getting to know each other all over again. Find a hobby too, it helps. Go watch them DVD series... or meet up with friends... watch movies... do something else before you know it your NOA2 is already mailed to you.... then you get your visa.

Chin up!!! You are not alone.. there's lots of things for you to still learn about this process... and lots of research about moving your entire life.