I hate myself being so weak....

[Eric19myracle 0]

Sometimes Im getting tired to wait. I dont understand some other things that happened. I wish to be strong like others that they dont bother if thier husband/wife not talking to them. They can go on with thier lives even without the other half. I hate myself that I am not like them.

[DARUMA07 25]

Sometimes Im getting tired to wait. I dont understand some other things that happened. I wish to be strong like others that they dont bother if thier husband/wife not talking to them. They can go on with thier lives even without the other half. I hate myself that I am not like them.

It is not a sign of weakness. You are just expressing your feelings! The waiting for the approvals is hard for anybody to go through. Your time will come and believe me, you will look back on all this and say "Damn, we made it".... Hang in there. It will be all over before you know it.

[john & jean 37]

"good things come to those who wait!" try to be patient, the process can be brutal....

[Y's_habibitk 2]

i dont think there is anyone who is ok with not being with their loved one. Its ok to be vunerable and depressed sometimes while you are waiting, everyone has gone through hard times and the ups and downs. This process is draining. I promise you that it was all worth it in the end, and I would do it all over in a heartbeat if I had to.

VJ is a good place to find people who know exactly how you feel Come and vent anytime.

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

Sometimes Im getting tired to wait. I dont understand some other things that happened. I wish to be strong like others that they dont bother if thier husband/wife not talking to them. They can go on with thier lives even without the other half. I hate myself that I am not like them.

You filed in July, there has already been approval from June filers, its not a easy process by any means, but this process can make or break a marriage, FIGHT for what you want, and never lose sight of it, being together is the goal and the ultimate prize of a life time.

You can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Rings 10]

You will make it. I remember how hard it was. I appreciate being with my man even more now. Remember if you can do immigration, you can survive anything. Wait and be proud of what you have done when it's over. My heart is with you on your journey <3

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

it's incredibly hard

and you go up and down on an emotional roller coaster

but you are blessed, june and july approvals are flying off

you will get your approval in no time

till then you can vent, scream, cry on vj

[MsSheka 0]

it's incredibly hard

and you go up and down on an emotional roller coaster

but you are blessed, june and july approvals are flying off

you will get your approval in no timetill then you can vent, scream, cry on vj

I second that

[mlybrand 0]

I will add to what everyone else is saying: You are not alone. We are all feeling it. Just keep focusing on the prize and cherish each and every second you get to talk to, be with and even think about the one you love. That's what keeps me going. (Well, that and I get to obsessively refresh the VJ forums pages looking for new posts

[christeen 966]

Sometimes, it is not a matter of being OK with something like being apart, it is a matter of just doing what you have to do to get through and to a better place and situation. I have had to deal with being seperated and out of communication from my husband since our marriage over 6 years ago (he worked on a ship)... But despite our habit to distance, this process has put stress on both of us as I know it has everyone here. He is nervous and I am frustrated sometimes, but you talk it through and work it out. In the end, all challanges that you come through make you stronger... Everyone here on the VJ pretty much is in a similar situation and it helps to read that others are sometimes as up and down as ourselves.

I figure, It does not make any sense to pick at each other for things that are not in your control. Everyone here is at the mercy of the USCIS or other Govt officials, all we can do is work together as it takes two people to get through this process, concentrate on getting everything in order and ready and keep moving forward even when it seems that everything else has stopped.

Look it is this way, to come through this process is a big challange that when finished, is a building block and a foundation of something you accomplished together for the future. Always remember this and do not take your time together for granted.... I am just looking forward to the day that I have my husband living at home with me, our family and a future where we are together. Life is difficult, crazy, busy and seeminly full of endless challanges sometimes and it is just wonderful when you find that someone who balances you and makes each day a bit better... I cherish that when I start to get down....

[Eric19myracle 0]

Sometimes Im getting tired to wait. I dont understand some other things that happened. I wish to be strong like others that they dont bother if thier husband/wife not talking to them. They can go on with thier lives even without the other half. I hate myself that I am not like them.

It is not a sign of weakness. You are just expressing your feelings! The waiting for the approvals is hard for anybody to go through. Your time will come and believe me, you will look back on all this and say "Damn, we made it".... Hang in there. It will be all over before you know it.

Thank you for the advice. I will hang in here. I try to keep myself busy to not thinking other things make me down.

[Mountain Climber 186]

Like others had already said, hang in there and hopefully the wait will be over soon. This process is hard even for the most patient couple. Good luck!!!

[FinnLove 0]

Try to keep busy! Find a hobby, or get together with friends, read, watch movies, do yardwork, etc... Exercise also help a lot!

However, are you saying your spouse won't talk to you? I'm kind of reading that in the post, which may be another issue in itself.

[movingsoon2 0]

You are not weak! The process is really hard and some days are unbearable. Like others said, hang in there . Stay on this site, it's helped me so much through the hard days, even now when I am married and with my husband. This site is a lifesaver, so many great people who feel what you are going through.

Also, on the days when you are not talking with your husband it may feel like you will never talk again. But of course that's not true, you will find each other again and enjoy his company.

Edited September 5, 2009 by movingsoon2

[sweetpink 1]

Sometimes Im getting tired to wait. I dont understand some other things that happened. I wish to be strong like others that they dont bother if thier husband/wife not talking to them. They can go on with thier lives even without the other half. I hate myself that I am not like them.

what you feel right now is totally normal. The good thing is you keep holding on and never give up. I've been taking that road myself before too, feeling so helpless and ready to give up in a second. I just wanted to see him on cam or talk on the phone all day round but way too impossible. My hubby (who was then my fiance) was the one who remain so strong and never given up on me.

It may seem forever but just hang on there.