Does the Terms of Service need to be updated to reflect current forum policy?

[LaL 418]

By the way, this week I was thinking how I would moderate and it got me thinking. I really think if I were moderating I would first contact an individual in private regarding inappropriate comments. I think when things are handled outside the light of the forum situations and misunderstandings etc can be diffused much more quickly and easily.

You might be forgetting that PMing one party might not be enough - there often is multiple people escalating any given issue, and likely if you message one, one would need to message several. Then of course there are those who haven't yet posted in the thread, only to come along and reply, etc and so on. Posting a reminder in a thread is a great way to go in those type of cases.