Ever feel like slapping someone elses child?

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

Sleep well my child, for thou shall need it!

[Eveline 9]

You know the best behaved child can have an offday and cry for no apparant reason! Believe me that child WILL have a reason, they just can not always explain what it wrong with them! It is NOTHING to do with having a bad parent, some comments people write are pathetic!

Thank you. That's exactly what I'm thinking. My son (he's 2.5 years old) is a very laid back toddler, listens good, is well behaved and generally very social but there are days that he is just cranky because he woke up from a nap 30 seconds too early or whatever and you can just hope for the day to be over FAST. I have had days when he whines all the way through our supermarket and I keep putting down the rules for him. Sometimes you can't just go and leave because you have a 1 hour drive to the supermarket. It's just not possible. I am all about disciplining and I must admit that he did get his butt spanked before but it didn't change anything. All he does is go and spanks his sister's butt for crying which shows me that it sends the wrong message.

When it pertains to the behaviour of a 2 year old, I think a lot of the comments come from non parents. What is so bad about a two year old crying? It happens, they do that and slapping one when it is doing it is not going to make it stop.

Thank you again. ONe thing strangers can do best is tell you how to raise your children (preferrably people who don't have kids on their own).

[Eveline 9]

Shoulda read the last three pages of this thread....it's a SLAPFEST ... pun intended.

[Danno 1,228]

Spanking is really not a very useful tool in discipline, that's why people don't use it any more. Most spanking was/is to satisfy the frustration of the adult - it does not teach a child anything.

OF course we disagree

Spanking does work and maybe the people you know don't use it but many do.

Lashing out with a spanking in anger will not have near the good effect as calm... measured action.

I think it's also a good idea to rationally decide what type of offenses warrant a spanking.

For me it was, direct disobedience. For most other "infractions" I have other creative ways to MAKE THEM PAY.

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Spanking is really not a very useful tool in discipline, that's why people don't use it any more. Most spanking was/is to satisfy the frustration of the adult - it does not teach a child anything.

OF course we disagree

Spanking does work and maybe the people you know don't use it but many do.

Lashing out with a spanking in anger will not have near the good effect as calm... measured action.

I think it's also a good idea to rationally decide what type of offenses warrant a spanking.

For me it was, direct disobedience. For most other "infractions" I have other creative ways to MAKE THEM PAY.

I like spanking my wife.

[Danno 1,228]

Spanking is really not a very useful tool in discipline, that's why people don't use it any more. Most spanking was/is to satisfy the frustration of the adult - it does not teach a child anything.

OF course we disagree

Spanking does work and maybe the people you know don't use it but many do.

Lashing out with a spanking in anger will not have near the good effect as calm... measured action.

I think it's also a good idea to rationally decide what type of offenses warrant a spanking.

For me it was, direct disobedience. For most other "infractions" I have other creative ways to MAKE THEM PAY.

I like spanking my wife.

I get that, but that part where you put on her panties an all.... I still don't get that?

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Spanking is really not a very useful tool in discipline, that's why people don't use it any more. Most spanking was/is to satisfy the frustration of the adult - it does not teach a child anything.

OF course we disagree

Spanking does work and maybe the people you know don't use it but many do.

Lashing out with a spanking in anger will not have near the good effect as calm... measured action.

I think it's also a good idea to rationally decide what type of offenses warrant a spanking.

For me it was, direct disobedience. For most other "infractions" I have other creative ways to MAKE THEM PAY.

I like spanking my wife.

I get that, but that part where you put on her panties an all.... I still don't get that?

She told you?

[caybee 21]

I was in the grocery section of a Walmart today with my one-month-old (I know, bad mommy -- we're avoiding the crowds, but this was our first trip). Just before we left, he became hungry and tired and started to cry shrilly, the way newborns do. And remembering this story, what struck me was that Walmart is so huge and has so much ambient noise of its own that if he weren't my child, I might not have even heard him crying farther down the same aisle, let alone in the next aisle. It was certainly nothing like a crying baby in an airplane or restaurant or smaller store. If all the two-year-old was doing was crying, there was more going on with the man than frustration about a noisy toddler, though that probably goes without saying. I'm much more likely to notice that weird, repetative "bee-doop" sound -- what IS that anyway?

[Danno 1,228]

Spanking is really not a very useful tool in discipline, that's why people don't use it any more. Most spanking was/is to satisfy the frustration of the adult - it does not teach a child anything.

OF course we disagree

Spanking does work and maybe the people you know don't use it but many do.

Lashing out with a spanking in anger will not have near the good effect as calm... measured action.

I think it's also a good idea to rationally decide what type of offenses warrant a spanking.

For me it was, direct disobedience. For most other "infractions" I have other creative ways to MAKE THEM PAY.

I like spanking my wife.

I get that, but that part where you put on her panties an all.... I still don't get that?

She told you?

And sent pics of you.....

PS: time to change that wall paper, it looks like early 80's

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Spanking is really not a very useful tool in discipline, that's why people don't use it any more. Most spanking was/is to satisfy the frustration of the adult - it does not teach a child anything.

OF course we disagree

Spanking does work and maybe the people you know don't use it but many do.

Lashing out with a spanking in anger will not have near the good effect as calm... measured action.

I think it's also a good idea to rationally decide what type of offenses warrant a spanking.

For me it was, direct disobedience. For most other "infractions" I have other creative ways to MAKE THEM PAY.

I like spanking my wife.

I get that, but that part where you put on her panties an all.... I still don't get that?

She told you?

And sent pics of you.....

PS: time to change that wall paper, it looks like early 80's

[Danno 1,228]

I was in the grocery section of a Walmart today with my one-month-old (I know, bad mommy -- we're avoiding the crowds, but this was our first trip). Just before we left, he became hungry and tired and started to cry shrilly, the way newborns do. And remembering this story, what struck me was that Walmart is so huge and has so much ambient noise of its own that if he weren't my child, I might not have even heard him crying farther down the same aisle, let alone in the next aisle. It was certainly nothing like a crying baby in an airplane or restaurant or smaller store. If all the two-year-old was doing was crying, there was more going on with the man than frustration about a noisy toddler, though that probably goes without saying. I'm much more likely to notice that weird, repetative "bee-doop" sound -- what IS that anyway?

I think it goes without saying the guy was a nut-case, now what were you doing running around wal-mart with a crying infant after reading this story???

Mothers should learn from this ladies story and carry a tazzer, Wal-mart has more than a few odd people roaming around.

[Eveline 9]

http://peopleofwalmart.com/ Edited September 4, 2009 by Eveline

[Joseph & Ana 0]

You have to be kidding me. I was at school 30 years ago, and it's not any different now to then in terms of the proportion of kids that messed up and caused trouble. Those retrospective rose coloured tints must be quite marvelous.

I couldn't find 30 year data, but here' an 18 year timeline (and this is only for 12th graders)

http://mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/youthviolen...mages/Fig28.gif

It shows that in the 18 year timeframe that robberies by 12th graders went from 2.5% of teens, to 5% of teens.

Assault with injury went from 10% to 15%.

I'd like to see the 30 year trend, but I can't get that one. Ask anyone whether kids have more or less respect for their elders nowadays than 30 or 50 years ago - the answer will be obvious. Are there more or less kids doing drugs/sleeping around than 30 - 50 years ago? More or less crime and homicide than 30 years ago? Again, parents don't discipline their kids. I'm not saying that spanking is right for every kid, because every case is unique, but it sure worked on me and my siblings, and we have no resentment of our parents for it. Because it only happened when we did wrong, and it usually didn't happen right then and there. It was usually a "wait until your dad gets home". He didn't hurt us, it is mostly the humiliation of it all. And the talk during the spank "this hurts me more than it hurts you". It worked, and we all turned out fine (whether you agree with our politics or not).

[Danno 1,228]

BUt of course there is the limited logic that

"spanking a child will teach him to hit others"

If that logic holds water then one must ask will does:

Forcing a kid to eat veggies cause a kid to do to others?

Will forcing a kid to go to his room turn him into a abductor?

Will making a kids study at school train a child to push his will on others?

Does requiring a child to do chores create a future slavemaster?

Will forcing a kid into a "time out" chair develop a future S&M Freak?

Yeah, this New-age thinking is entertaining if nothing else.

[tmma 467]

I do have questions about the OP--How on earth did that guy manage to get FIVE slaps in?

Why didn't the mother intervene after the 1st one?