Senegal SECOND INTERVIEW concerns

[WhidbeyGirl 1]

Any one have experience with 2nd interviews and what they are going to ask me??? I have the list of all the questions they asked my husband it's all my info so I know those answers. My concern is they are going to ask me questions about his family. The problem is that my memory SUCKS so it doesn't matter how much I go over his family information I have a hard time recalling it. All they said in their email to me was to bring things to support my case - whatever that means.

[Enlighten one :) 5]

You have a unique situation. You approached them for that second interview, which is somethign that is not common just for the share point of being able to afford that second visit.

Well just more chat logs, phoen conversations, and the fact that you are visisting again will "suport" your case.

Any one have experience with 2nd interviews and what they are going to ask me??? I have the list of all the questions they asked my husband it's all my info so I know those answers. My concern is they are going to ask me questions about his family. The problem is that my memory SUCKS so it doesn't matter how much I go over his family information I have a hard time recalling it. All they said in their email to me was to bring things to support my case - whatever that means.

[Tiggi247 0]

Any one have experience with 2nd interviews and what they are going to ask me??? I have the list of all the questions they asked my husband it's all my info so I know those answers. My concern is they are going to ask me questions about his family. The problem is that my memory SUCKS so it doesn't matter how much I go over his family information I have a hard time recalling it. All they said in their email to me was to bring things to support my case - whatever that means.

I am wondering do you think it would have made a difference at the 1st interview if you had been there. I will be there for my wifes interview. We know almost everything about each other we have proof positive of our relationship and marriage. Even with all of this I feel like I have to be there with her for support and hopefully the interview won't be to difficult

[WhidbeyGirl 1]

I want to say no it didn't because if it did then I messed up by not finding a way to go. I have a feeling that the US citizen there for the interview is a BIG influencer.

I sent another email to Dakar last night requesting exactly what type of information they want. And their response was:

Madame WhidbeyGirl,

I understand you frustration with the question as to what to bring. The best answer I can give you is anything that you think might add additional support to proving your relationship. It sounds like you have pretty much covered the issue but decisions are often based on small details. Therefore even if you feel you have provided everything just bring in copies and anything else you might feel is relevant for referral during the interview.

[attaya_girl 1]

I want to say no it didn't because if it did then I messed up by not finding a way to go. I have a feeling that the US citizen there for the interview is a BIG influencer.

I sent another email to Dakar last night requesting exactly what type of information they want. And their response was:

Madame WhidbeyGirl,

I understand you frustration with the question as to what to bring. The best answer I can give you is anything that you think might add additional support to proving your relationship. It sounds like you have pretty much covered the issue but decisions are often based on small details. Therefore even if you feel you have provided everything just bring in copies and anything else you might feel is relevant for referral during the interview.

I'm going to be crossing my fingers that this interview goes well and brings good news for you!

[WhidbeyGirl 1]

I want to say no it didn't because if it did then I messed up by not finding a way to go. I have a feeling that the US citizen there for the interview is a BIG influencer.

I sent another email to Dakar last night requesting exactly what type of information they want. And their response was:

Madame WhidbeyGirl,

I understand you frustration with the question as to what to bring. The best answer I can give you is anything that you think might add additional support to proving your relationship. It sounds like you have pretty much covered the issue but decisions are often based on small details. Therefore even if you feel you have provided everything just bring in copies and anything else you might feel is relevant for referral during the interview.

I'm going to be crossing my fingers that this interview goes well and brings good news for you!

Thanks girl!!! Let us know AS SOON as you can on the 8th about yours!!!

[reeses16 8]

I think you should bring everything you have. Were there somethings you thought were repetitive or unimportant for the first interview? Bring those things. Additionally, bring proof since the first interview up to the next one....make sure you photo copy and submit your passport (so you can have the trips since your wedding included in evidence, they may or may not ask for you passport, but if you copy it and included it on top of the new evidence they can't miss it).

If I were in your position and was able to attend the interview. I would also get affidavits from friends or family members who were aware of my relationship and marriage.

Best thing to do if talk with him more about his family and practice questions for the interview. If they ask something about his family and you don't know they answer day that, but provide some information that you do know. Let say they ask you were your sister in law works, You could say, "I know they name of the place where she works, but I know its in ____some general area because my hubby and I went to pick her up from work." Or I'm not sure where she works, but I know she gets off by X time, because the family has dinner together at 6."

You should also research "Stokes" interview on VJ. During this interview they separate the couple and ask the the same questions, checking for inconsistencies. This could help you both prepare for the worst (and expect the best!).

What did you send as evidence for the first interview?

[WhidbeyGirl 1]

I think you should bring everything you have. Were there somethings you thought were repetitive or unimportant for the first interview? Bring those things. Additionally, bring proof since the first interview up to the next one....make sure you photo copy and submit your passport (so you can have the trips since your wedding included in evidence, they may or may not ask for you passport, but if you copy it and included it on top of the new evidence they can't miss it).

If I were in your position and was able to attend the interview. I would also get affidavits from friends or family members who were aware of my relationship and marriage.

Best thing to do if talk with him more about his family and practice questions for the interview. If they ask something about his family and you don't know they answer day that, but provide some information that you do know. Let say they ask you were your sister in law works, You could say, "I know they name of the place where she works, but I know its in ____some general area because my hubby and I went to pick her up from work." Or I'm not sure where she works, but I know she gets off by X time, because the family has dinner together at 6."

You should also research "Stokes" interview on VJ. During this interview they separate the couple and ask the the same questions, checking for inconsistencies. This could help you both prepare for the worst (and expect the best!).

What did you send as evidence for the first interview?

oh dear Lord I'm in trouble!! I've never met his family only talked to 1 sister 1 time. They live in Nigeria and he's in Senegal. I was in a car accident 13 years ago and received a brain injury that really effects my memory and learning new info negatively. Before the accident I had nearly photographic memory. Maybe I should bring documents of my injury???? I don't know maybe that would make things worse. arrrrrrrrrgh I hate stress!!!!!!!!!!

[Tiggi247 0]

I think you should bring everything you have. Were there somethings you thought were repetitive or unimportant for the first interview? Bring those things. Additionally, bring proof since the first interview up to the next one....make sure you photo copy and submit your passport (so you can have the trips since your wedding included in evidence, they may or may not ask for you passport, but if you copy it and included it on top of the new evidence they can't miss it).

If I were in your position and was able to attend the interview. I would also get affidavits from friends or family members who were aware of my relationship and marriage.

Best thing to do if talk with him more about his family and practice questions for the interview. If they ask something about his family and you don't know they answer day that, but provide some information that you do know. Let say they ask you were your sister in law works, You could say, "I know they name of the place where she works, but I know its in ____some general area because my hubby and I went to pick her up from work." Or I'm not sure where she works, but I know she gets off by X time, because the family has dinner together at 6."

You should also research "Stokes" interview on VJ. During this interview they separate the couple and ask the the same questions, checking for inconsistencies. This could help you both prepare for the worst (and expect the best!).

What did you send as evidence for the first interview?

oh dear Lord I'm in trouble!! I've never met his family only talked to 1 sister 1 time. They live in Nigeria and he's in Senegal. I was in a car accident 13 years ago and received a brain injury that really effects my memory and learning new info negatively. Before the accident I had nearly photographic memory. Maybe I should bring documents of my injury???? I don't know maybe that would make things worse. arrrrrrrrrgh I hate stress!!!!!!!!!!

I know that you are worried but I believe that your husband will be returning with you this time on your trip home , I will be praying for you

[Twisted K 2]

Good Luck!!!

[attaya_girl 1]

Whidbey-You'll do wonderfully You being there will be a huge bonus, I'm sure. Who knows, though. It might be a good idea to bring some proof that your memory has been affected by the car accident and that it isn't just a lack of communication between your SO and you. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you. I really hope you can be together soon.

I'm so scared for our interview. I don't think I'll be able to get on the plane without him.....I'll try to update as soon as possible, but power outages this time last year were so bad, that I'm not going to make any promises. I do promise to make every effort to get to an internet cafe and post some news.

Good luck, Whidbey!

Edited September 1, 2009 by attaya_girl

[reeses16 8]

Oh, no! I didn't know about your memory problems. I didn't mean to stress you out more. I would bring proof of the injury and memory difficulties. I wouldn't volunteer it up front, I would only bring it up if it seemed like things were heading South and your injury could provide a reasonable explanation. Organize your documents and keep it in your purse separate from the other evidence.

Edited September 1, 2009 by reeses16

[WhidbeyGirl 1]

Oh, no! I didn't know about your memory problems. I didn't mean to stress you out more. I would bring proof of the injury and memory difficulties. I wouldn't volunteer it up front, I would only bring it up if it seemed like things were heading South and your injury could provide a reasonable explanation. Organize your documents and keep it in your purse separate from the other evidence.

Purse??? What's that I'm so not a girly girl, my "purse" is actually a pink tool bag - no joke!

No worries reeses, we'll get through this. SO is emailing me all the same info I had him study about me so I can start working on it over the next 3 weeks and we'll have 2 days together before the interview - didn't exactly plan to spend those days studying but oh well gotta do what we gotta do.

[meowmeowmeow 1]

good luck....don't worry, just do what you gotta do....will be crossing fingers for you