Help me please..

[belovedbyme 0]

Yes they(receptionist) understand it I had contacted him before that night happened. I can speak a little nihonggo too he doesnt know how to read or write or speak japanese language.

Just arrived from work this morning and he was online yelling at me in skype , demeaning on me , swearing at me. He was never like that. I cant take it all. For the first time ,I yelled swear back at him for treating me and told him what he was doing is emotional abuse and i am putting it into writing in my diary. Cheaters are great LIARS and Manipulators. I feel he is trying to manipulate me. I fought back to warn him Im not a stupid wife.

He is never a party-goer man nor loves to go out at night at a bar. He changed his behavior since July since he started going out wtih friends who loves beers and bars well of course if there is drinks there is women.

I STAND being a FILIPINA. I dont want SOMEONE DEGRADING ME as a wife. My hubby is calm now. We have more things to talk in person but will let him open up that conversation first not me.

He now APOLOGIZED to me ONLINE few times a minute ago of his actions and spoken words towards me.

I will UPDATE you ALL. Thank you for all ADVICES.

[eros_EX_Plumber 0]

WOW....what a story.....

I hope all works out for both you...

[newlyweds 0]

hmmm.. definitely sounds too fishy..

sudden changes in one's chAracter is a bad indicator...

[GD21 0]

Disappearing for 3 days and not wanting to talk about it? Cmon' you know what's up. You can try to talk it out all you want but you're always going to know you just gotta decide if it's something you can live with.

A man doesn't leave his wife and not call her at least once a day. This is a big commitment you made coming here to live with him if he doesn't respect that along with your marriage there's BIG trouble.

Let me know if you need anything.

[Loolie 56]

Yes they(receptionist) understand it I had contacted him before that night happened. I can speak a little nihonggo too he doesnt know how to read or write or speak japanese language.

Just arrived from work this morning and he was online yelling at me in skype , demeaning on me , swearing at me. He was never like that. I cant take it all. For the first time ,I yelled swear back at him for treating me and told him what he was doing is emotional abuse and i am putting it into writing in my diary. Cheaters are great LIARS and Manipulators. I feel he is trying to manipulate me. I fought back to warn him Im not a stupid wife.

He is never a party-goer man nor loves to go out at night at a bar. He changed his behavior since July since he started going out wtih friends who loves beers and bars well of course if there is drinks there is women.

I STAND being a FILIPINA. I dont want SOMEONE DEGRADING ME as a wife. My hubby is calm now. We have more things to talk in person but will let him open up that conversation first not me.

He now APOLOGIZED to me ONLINE few times a minute ago of his actions and spoken words towards me.

I will UPDATE you ALL. Thank you for all ADVICES.

wow you are such a fighter...i can see my mother on you...when my father gets mad she gets mad too and then and my father calms down...but for me as a child its not really good seeing them like that...hope both of you wont get use to that kind of fight or argument.

God bless you both.

[reeses16 8]

I just wanted to wish you the best in figuring everything out from here. When he gets hope please be mindful of your health. I know you're married, but you shouldn't have unprotected sex with him when there are questions of fidelity. Even if you two decide to work things out, make sure he's tested and you've seen the results.

Its a horrible situation, but try to focus and not let your emotions feed on each other resulting in too much stress. When he comes home, there is no need to prove your point by reconstructing the timeline of the trip and hotel stays and pointing out his lies. IF you get into this the bigger problem will get lost in all these details.

Start thinking about what you want to do and HOW you want to do it. Want to work on your marriage? Figure out what he could do to improve the relationship and what you could do. IF you want to divorce, think about where you want to live, saving money of your own, figuring out the process. You don't have to decide anything until after you've talked faced to face and had time to think.

[muñequita linda 0]

WOW....what a story.....

I hope all works out for both you...

This is a prime example of the telenovelas you were talking about, Eros. We'll call it "Donde Estás Mi Corazón"! What I don't comprehend is why do some people air their laundry on VJ.

[NVC FAN :( 18]

wont try to sugar coat this one for ya. he probaly has a corporate cc , or slush fund for these trips. going out getting one or mulitiple women drunk and sleeping with all of them.

at the same time.

[rheanick 42]

wont try to sugar coat this one for ya. he probaly has a corporate cc , or slush fund for these trips. going out getting one or mulitiple women drunk and sleeping with all of them.

at the same time.

if her husband is visiting customer there is a big possibility that he has allowance to entertain clients. It is up to the company to monitor it. Companies right now are in tight situation.. there is big possibilities that all expenses are monitored.

If her husband spend more than allowed by the company then it would show in his personal credit card.

[rheanick 42]

WOW....what a story.....

I hope all works out for both you...

This is a prime example of the telenovelas you were talking about, Eros. We'll call it "Donde Estás Mi Corazón"! What I don't comprehend is why do some people air their laundry on VJ.

Linda,

The OP clearly stated that she has no friend in the US and VJ had been there to support her. The OP is asking for support not your sarcasm. If you dont have anything good to say, refrain yourself from posting.

[meowmeowmeow 0]

damn...i am so sorry. i don't mean to sound callous, but document all of this behavior...prepare yourself for anything.

good luck.

p.s. where in the US are you?

[belovedbyme 0]

UPDATE:

I schedule an STD/HIV test tomorrow for myself. I will show it to him as soon as we have conversation. I dont want to have any sexual contact from him as soon as he wont be tested ..

According to recent study of this year. Those who are greatly affected of HIV/STD are married couples because of unprotected sex . I will protect myself to this. Im nto afraid to die. But dying because of STD's or HIV is very hard to accept for me.

Thank you VJ members for all the support!

[♥ Teena♥ Joe♥ 0]

I read your post and it made me sad, hopefully everything will be ok for both of you. Be strong sis..

God blesss