Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part18)

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

JaPrincess - I agree with most of what you said but am I only one who didn't run to tell Damien EVERYTHING that is discussed on this board???

Granted back then, there were only a few yardies online but I've heard so many horror stories. Some I shared but most I didn't.

shem..i never told Kashi anything..i didn't even work off what was going on here..i lived and acted as if i had no outside influence...i guess it's the type of person i am....i ask questions no matter what..i'm the REALIST it is what it is..no rose colored glasses yah so

1. He looks like a model, you look like Spongebob

2. He has kids, 4 babymothers, never married but proposes to YOU in a week....

3. His friends are all with foriegn women

4. He always has some problem requiring money

5. He over-inflates prices

6. He asks for stuff all the time, or hints he wants stuff

7. He only dates foriegn women

8. His friends are all gigalos/users

9. He can't wait to get out of Jamaica

10. He expects you to pay for everything, ever since he met you, he suddenly expects you to feed him, clothe him and send money

woooieee... yuh!

hey lawns and irie

Edited September 18, 2009 by Chiney*Eyes

[jawi876 2]

Happy Birthday Ms Tee! Today is my youngest son's and nephew's birthday too...they both turned 7!!!!! Yes, my brother's ex and I had our babies on the same day and they were born exactly an hour apart. My poor mother was all over the city that day because we had them at different hospitals. LOL

Good morning yardies!

I know I said earlier that I was kinda counting down to A leaving for NY for some me time. I don't know what I'm going to do. I miss him already and he leaves on Sunday. I'm trying to be a big girl. His sister asked me if he could come to celebrate her birthday on the 21st. I couldn't get off work...and I feel like all of sudden we are back in Jamaica and I only have two days left to be with him. I'm anxious...my stomach is queasy and I keep tearing up. I need somebody to convince me that this time is different...that he will be back before I know it. Sunny how did you handle this when Ray went out of town?

How did he get to become so engrained in my daily routine so quickly...that I can't seem to remember what it was like when he wasn't here? I am a basketcase...I can't even sleep right now.

On a good note, we really enjoyed my off day yesterday (yep those changed too)...we went to SSA to get our SSCs updated. The guy called him first...looked at me strangely when I answered all the questions...then smiled when I told him I was his new wife. He made me wait to be called by number and told me if I wasn't called by the time he came off break, he would take care of me too. Well, he ended up working two people ahead of me and me too...he must be the most productive employee they had at that office by far. He asked when did we get married...and thought our date was way cool. LOL He told me to get used to signing my new name since the new card would arrive in about 2 weeks. I hadn't signed my new name up to that point. At work, I have still been signing using my ex's last name. We were laughing and talking and tickling each other sitting outside waiting in the long long long line just to get a chance to sit inside the office. People kept smiling at us. Then, we got home and cooked ackee and saltfish, dumplings and irish potatoes together. He sang to me...djed to me...then we sat in our garage and exchanged funny stories about Jamaica...listened to some music and chilled. Later, we snuggled in bed and watched my show SYTUCD and HHI...then we watched his show Standford and Son...

Quana you made me smile so hard about you guys pumping gas. I love it. I'm with you...this feels so good.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

JaPrincess - I agree with most of what you said but am I only one who didn't run to tell Damien EVERYTHING that is discussed on this board???

Granted back then, there were only a few yardies online but I've heard so many horror stories. Some I shared but most I didn't.

shem..i never told Kashi anything..i didn't even work off what was going on here..i lived and acted as if i had no outside influence...i guess it's the type of person i am....i ask questions no matter what..i'm the REALIST it is what it is..no rose colored glasses yah so

1. He looks like a model, you look like Spongebob

2. He has kids, 4 babymothers, never married but proposes to YOU in a week....

3. His friends are all with foriegn women

4. He always has some problem requiring money

5. He over-inflates prices

6. He asks for stuff all the time, or hints he wants stuff

7. He only dates foriegn women

8. His friends are all gigalos/users

9. He can't wait to get out of Jamaica

10. He expects you to pay for everything, ever since he met you, he suddenly expects you to feed him, clothe him and send money

woooieee... yuh!

hey lawns and irie

AMEN....

mawnin sis - Dr...mi ago need u'r help wid school next year.

damn, did she say Spongebob (need to go see if my post got an answer yesterday) bout di ooman who give up her $85,000 job n now a bawl

[IrieCat 2]

Mornin' Chiney.. JAwi, you will be ok.... Promise! :-) I can totally feel the love in your posts.

Last night at Buju I was thiking about Quana's post too... Louis was so cute, dancin... YES DANCIN! and singing with me and was having so much fun, and so happy to be there with me. Such a great feeling.

On another note... he met another LUCIAN! Yeah, he was so happy. The guy knew his father, uncle and that side of the fam. He lives in NH but that is close enough. We will have to get together.

The only bad thing is this guys wife was at home and he was chattin' up some other girl. I hate that. Then another guy telling Louis how there are so many girls... blah blah... while I am right there! Louis just said "I am all set, I have what I need, I love my wife". He said the guy talked so much he must have swallowed a juke box! LOL

[MsSheka 0]

Happy Birthday Ms Tee! Today is my youngest son's and nephew's birthday too...they both turned 7!!!!! Yes, my brother's ex and I had our babies on the same day and they were born exactly an hour apart. My poor mother was all over the city that day because we had them at different hospitals. LOL

Good morning yardies!

I know I said earlier that I was kinda counting down to A leaving for NY for some me time. I don't know what I'm going to do. I miss him already and he leaves on Sunday. I'm trying to be a big girl. His sister asked me if he could come to celebrate her birthday on the 21st. I couldn't get off work...and I feel like all of sudden we are back in Jamaica and I only have two days left to be with him. I'm anxious...my stomach is queasy and I keep tearing up. I need somebody to convince me that this time is different...that he will be back before I know it. Sunny how did you handle this when Ray went out of town?

How did he get to become so engrained in my daily routine so quickly...that I can't seem to remember what it was like when he wasn't here? I am a basketcase...I can't even sleep right now.

On a good note, we really enjoyed my off day yesterday (yep those changed too)...we went to SSA to get our SSCs updated. The guy called him first...looked at me strangely when I answered all the questions...then smiled when I told him I was his new wife. He made me wait to be called by number and told me if I wasn't called by the time he came off break, he would take care of me too. Well, he ended up working two people ahead of me and me too...he must be the most productive employee they had at that office by far. He asked when did we get married...and thought our date was way cool. LOL He told me to get used to signing my new name since the new card would arrive in about 2 weeks. I hadn't signed my new name up to that point. At work, I have still been signing using my ex's last name. We were laughing and talking and tickling each other sitting outside waiting in the long long long line just to get a chance to sit inside the office. People kept smiling at us. Then, we got home and cooked ackee and saltfish, dumplings and irish potatoes together. He sang to me...djed to me...then we sat in our garage and exchanged funny stories about Jamaica...listened to some music and chilled. Later, we snuggled in bed and watched my show SYTUCD and HHI...then we watched his show Standford and Son...

Quana you made me smile so hard about you guys pumping gas. I love it. I'm with you...this feels so good.

Jawi don't worry dear he'll be back in no time and he will be in the same country no VJ to see him I know the feeling I go through it every time I have to leave my Hubby (4yrs +)

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Mornin' Chiney.. JAwi, you will be ok.... Promise! :-) I can totally feel the love in your posts.

Last night at Buju I was thiking about Quana's post too... Louis was so cute, dancin... YES DANCIN! and singing with me and was having so much fun, and so happy to be there with me. Such a great feeling.

On another note... he met another LUCIAN! Yeah, he was so happy. The guy knew his father, uncle and that side of the fam. He lives in NH but that is close enough. We will have to get together.

The only bad thing is this guys wife was at home and he was chattin' up some other girl. I hate that. Then another guy telling Louis how there are so many girls... blah blah... while I am right there! Louis just said "I am all set, I have what I need, I love my wife". He said the guy talked so much he must have swallowed a juke box! LOL

EDIAT...I can't stand people like dat main reason my husband cut back a lot of his friends

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

lawny..school? no sah mi a tek a break...mi wi gi some suport..but mi nah pick up no book love u same way

[MsSheka 0]

got this in my email from airjamaica

http://www.airjamaica.com/email_sensationalsale.aspx

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

lawny..school? no sah mi a tek a break...mi wi gi some suport..but mi nah pick up no book love u same way

No man...u no afi pick up no book, just mek sure mi no give up...next year no even start yet n mi know seh it ago rough

[jawi876 2]

Mornin' Chiney.. JAwi, you will be ok.... Promise! :-) I can totally feel the love in your posts.

Last night at Buju I was thiking about Quana's post too... Louis was so cute, dancin... YES DANCIN! and singing with me and was having so much fun, and so happy to be there with me. Such a great feeling.

On another note... he met another LUCIAN! Yeah, he was so happy. The guy knew his father, uncle and that side of the fam. He lives in NH but that is close enough. We will have to get together.

The only bad thing is this guys wife was at home and he was chattin' up some other girl. I hate that. Then another guy telling Louis how there are so many girls... blah blah... while I am right there! Louis just said "I am all set, I have what I need, I love my wife". He said the guy talked so much he must have swallowed a juke box! LOL

Thanks Irie....I hate that too. It's so sad. So far A's friends have been totally respectable. They smile so hard at me that I think their faces will just crack open...and tell me that A can't stop talking about me. I'm also cool with the fact that the two friends I have met didn't come here by marrying...they actually haven't seen A since primary school. But, it gives him an outlet and I don't worry about him being out there. He has only gone out once...even though I tell him to go and have a good time. If I tell him that I'm not up to going...he will start getting his clothes together...then he ends up getting back in bed with me and telling them to go without him.

I guess the next time, I will have to forget about the neck pain and go out with them. I just don't want to ruin the night because I can't manage.

Jawi don't worry dear he'll be back in no time and he will be in the same country no VJ to see him I know the feeling I go through it every time I have to leave my Hubby (4yrs +)

Yeah I know...he wants me to try and meet him up there...but I have so much on my plate right now...I don't think I can swing airfare to NY...even though I have been dying to meet up with my girls there. *sigh* Ms. Sheka we have a little over 5 years now...I have never shared so much info about us...but I feel like I'm bursting at the seams...just has to come out. Now, we have had our days when I want to WRING his neck and chop his feet out from under him.

[1luv 1]

Morning yardies,

Well I spend the night in the Emergency . I was feeling excruciating pain in my lower abdomen. I have to do an U/S later today. They thought it was an ectopic pregnancy, but the test came back negative. So they did a swab and I will get the results in 2 days. I just pray everything is okay!

What an interesting topic last night!

Jawi.... (((((((((((((BIG HUG)))))))))))))))))) he will be back b4 u know it!

I am tired so I am going to be resting today! Have a good day. I will be on later! Just remember ur friend on the north part of the border!

[NatPatBen 3]

Happy Birthday Ms Tee! Today is my youngest son's and nephew's birthday too...they both turned 7!!!!! Yes, my brother's ex and I had our babies on the same day and they were born exactly an hour apart. My poor mother was all over the city that day because we had them at different hospitals. LOL

Good morning yardies!

I know I said earlier that I was kinda counting down to A leaving for NY for some me time. I don't know what I'm going to do. I miss him already and he leaves on Sunday.

Morning, All.

Happy Birthday, mstee!

Jawi, I could def relate to your story. Even when Steven leaves to go hang out with his friends for a few hours, at first I'm like "Yes! I get to catch up online/with tv/whatever." But then I'm SO glad to see him return. That's why I think absence is great temporarily: it gives us a chance to miss our loved ones.

I'm frustrated with DHL. The interview was Monday. They picked up the visa package on Tuesday. However, the status has been "Shipment on hold" ever since Tuesday afternoon! Stop holding the shipment & sent it to Montego Bay! I read that the MoBay DHL office (which is RIGHT by the airport) is closed on Saturdays, but the DHL phone recording said that they are open from 9 to 1 on Saturday. I plan to call back when they open today at 8:30 to see if there's any possibility of his package arriving today or tomorrow morning.

[jawi876 2]

Lawny I'm proud of you! I want to go back too...but I can't even manage regular everyday...so I don't know when I will.

Morning yardies,

Well I spend the night in the Emergency . I was feeling excruciating pain in my lower abdomen. I have to do an U/S later today. They thought it was an ectopic pregnancy, but the test came back negative. So they did a swab and I will get the results in 2 days. I just pray everything is okay!

What an interesting topic last night!

Jawi.... (((((((((((((BIG HUG)))))))))))))))))) he will be back b4 u know it!

I am tired so I am going to be resting today! Have a good day. I will be on later! Just remember ur friend on the north part of the border!

AWWWW 1luv! Sorry to hear that...maybe it was UTI....I really hope you start feeling better soon...did they give something to manage the pain? I haven't forgotten about you! But, Canada is colder than a witch's ####### man. I vowed to never travel in that direction across the border again. LOL Maybe we can meet at the Falls.

[jawi876 2]

Jawi, I could def relate to your story. Even when Steven leaves to go hang out with his friends for a few hours, at first I'm like "Yes! I get to catch up online/with tv/whatever." But then I'm SO glad to see him return. That's why I think absence is great temporarily: it gives us a chance to miss our loved ones.

I'm frustrated with DHL. The interview was Monday. They picked up the visa package on Tuesday. However, the status has been "Shipment on hold" ever since Tuesday afternoon! Stop holding the shipment & sent it to Montego Bay! I read that the MoBay DHL office (which is RIGHT by the airport) is closed on Saturdays, but the DHL phone recording said that they are open from 9 to 1 on Saturday. I plan to call back when they open today at 8:30 to see if there's any possibility of his package arriving today or tomorrow morning.

Hey Nat...the on hold status means they haven't gotten the package from the Embassy yet. When they get it, the status will change to ready for pick up by receipient. Are you still in Jamaica? Do you plan to stay until he is ready to come home with you?

[sus 70]

Sorry to hear, 1Luv, get some rest and hope you feel better!

As for the red flags / sharing what's on the board -

I share some of what's on the site with DJ = I don't get into minute details, but definitely give him some of the stories - Some of which we get a good laugh over together, some that happen to my friends will anger him just as they did me - We also talk about timelines, etc... I don't however, hold things against him or base feelings towards him by what happened to someone else - Cause he is not that person.

Red Flags - there are some people that are going to do what they want, regardless of what someone tries to tell them is a red flag - If I see someone who I definitely suspect that there are issues in the relationship, I will try to hint around it - But if they don't want to see it, they aren't going to see it - If I feel that I have definite beliefs or solid proof about something, I will reach out to that person - and have - But I am not gonna put it out here on the board for all to read - that is the other person's choice of whether or not they want to do that.

I am sure there are things within my relationship that someone looking at it from the outside would see as a red flag - But having been through it first hand, experienced it, seen the scars - To me it's bad luck, not a flag -