Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part18)

[MRStee 19]

JaPrincess - I agree with most of what you said but am I only one who didn't run to tell Damien EVERYTHING that is discussed on this board???

Granted back then, there were only a few yardies online but I've heard so many horror stories. Some I shared but most I didn't.

I don't tell him everything Shemmy

But when something really upsets me, I talk to him about it...

Im kinda the opposite I shut down and then he has to drag it out of me. Im stubborn. I do that because things that are serious to me, might not be as serious for him. I just try to calm it down first, then casually bring it up!

[JAPrincess 27]

I am most thankful for the communication him and I have. From the day we met, we can just TALK.

I feel like I can tell him anything, and he always seems to know what to say...

I remember when I FIRST joined one of the yardies gave an update that her husband skipped out one day while she was at work

She came home and everything was just gone...

The next day I CRIED so hard to him and told him if he was ever unhappy to please just TELL me and I would let him go...

Some of the things that happen in this thread hit you in the gut!

I am thankful that I can tell him how I feel no matter how upset I am...

I think talking about the possibilities and how we will deal with them helps...

But you really never know what you will do until you live it yourself I guess.

Hell, I said I would NEVER date a man in Jamaica

And here I am ENGAGED to one

[jawi876 2]

JaPrincess - I agree with most of what you said but am I only one who didn't run to tell Damien EVERYTHING that is discussed on this board???

Granted back then, there were only a few yardies online but I've heard so many horror stories. Some I shared but most I didn't.

Shemmy I didn't. For one, I don't believe in arming a potential "enemy" on what pitfalls to avoid in trying to fool me...that would make me a fool. Anybody can put on an act and be convincingly in love from a thousand miles away and a few trips scattered through the year. There is no easy way to know for sure if you have the right partner...things and relationships change everyday. It just seems that with International LDRs failing...it always comes down to it being about what the other could get from the person that ended up getting hurt...to a greater extent I tend to agree. However, why are these relationships automatically exempt from the pitfalls of any other normal relationship?

God forbid it doesn't work out for me and A...but I would know with everything in me that we loved each other once upon a time...had a great friendship...but our life paths changed routes at some point, and we had to part ways. I know the sacrifices he has made to be here with me...fearing that there will probably never come a time when his girls can join us. I witness his turmoil everyday wanting to be in their lives and wanting to be happy with me. He told a pastor and his family that he has never been so happy in his entire life...told his sisters (they are his best friends too) that he could marry me everyday...he doesn't have to spit game to me...when he reaches out to rub eye buggers out the corners of my eye...he silently tells me that he loves me. When he tells his little girls at night...daddy loves you...I know that he loves me too. When he wakes up to watch me shower and dress for work just so he won't miss kissing me later...he silently tells me he loves me. When he gets to the last sweetie in the bag and he bites in half and saves me the other piece...he silently tells me that he loves me. When he softly caresses the scar on the back of my neck while we lounge in bed...he silently tells me that he loves me. When he leans in to kiss me goodnight because I fell asleep as soon as I laid down (despite the drool)...he silently tells me that he loves me. When I come home late at night from working this stupid A$$ shift they gave me....to a spotless home and a STARVING man...and he tells me baby nuh fret bout cooking...I'll grab a bowl of cereal the boys are good...he silently tells me that he loves me.

Hold on...I've gotten off track some how...

We have posted red flag posts here before...and all it tends to do is upset someone. It doesn't make them wake up or question what may be right under their noses...because NOONE wants to believe they got scammed.

I wish the US would make it easier for people to visit our shores...because I think it would cut down on the number of flim-flam relationships and I was used for a greencard horror stories...clear the path for those people that are truly interested in starting a relationship with someone from a different country.

Man I love my husband.

[MRStee 19]

Hell, I said I would NEVER date a man in Jamaica

And here I am ENGAGED to one

lol @ Hell, I said I would NEVER date a man in Jamaica This is funny because I didn't realize until my next trip to Jamaica that my fiance REALLY loved me. I just didn't think things worked that way! lol I am ever so grateful to him though... He taught me how to love again

[MsSheka 0]

Evening Yardies i'm just checking in going to take a shower BRB

[MRStee 19]

Funny thing is, after reading what jawi wrote, i realized i don't really talk to my fiance about this board only what we need to know about immigrations... i just never thought to... I will tell him though

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

TOPIC: Red Flags!

Maybe it would get some women to thinking when they see the things happening in their relationship.

What are the RED FLAGS to look for??

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If he/she does not answer the phone when you call, or is never available at certain times of the day: like in the evenings

1. He looks like a model, you look like Spongebob

2. He has kids, 4 babymothers, never married but proposes to YOU in a week....

3. His friends are all with foriegn women

4. He always has some problem requiring money

5. He over-inflates prices

6. He asks for stuff all the time, or hints he wants stuff

7. He only dates foriegn women

8. His friends are all gigalos/users

9. He can't wait to get out of Jamaica

10. He expects you to pay for everything, ever since he met you, he suddenly expects you to feed him, clothe him and send money

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Evenin ladies...I'm only going to try to catch up on todays convo...I've been gone a few days...

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

ok so JAenglish is having gut feelings about her relationship that may involved infidelity?

lol...I am the immigrant in my case

[MRStee 19]

TOPIC: Red Flags!

Maybe it would get some women to thinking when they see the things happening in their relationship.

What are the RED FLAGS to look for??

_____________________________________________________________________________

If he/she does not answer the phone when you call, or is never available at certain times of the day: like in the evenings

1. He looks like a model, you look like Spongebob

2. He has kids, 4 babymothers, never married but proposes to YOU in a week....

3. His friends are all with foriegn women

4. He always has some problem requiring money

5. He over-inflates prices

6. He asks for stuff all the time, or hints he wants stuff

7. He only dates foriegn women

8. His friends are all gigalos/users

9. He can't wait to get out of Jamaica

10. He expects you to pay for everything, ever since he met you, he suddenly expects you to feed him, clothe him and send money

Ding ding ding!!!!

I dated another guy (briefly) before I met Steve, he asked me to buy him sneakers, it was over before it began lol.. Now he is here in the States anyway He claims his sister sponsored him... hmmmmm

Evenin ladies...I'm only going to try to catch up on todays convo...I've been gone a few days...

Hi Mrs. Palmer! and JaE

Hi Mrs. Palmer! and JaE

Hi MsSheka (who is taking a shower) and SunRay

[MRStee 19]

I really love this song....

[MsSheka 0]

Ok i'm back i had to go nose around to see approvals

I really love this song....

i like it my first time listening to it but not bad

Hey y'all i got a question for CR1/IR1 did anyone email DS-3032?

[MRStee 19]

Ok i'm back i had to go nose around to see approvals

I really love this song....

i like it my first time listening to it but not bad

Hey y'all i got a question for CR1/IR1 did anyone email DS-3032?

Sorry im a k-1 - This song makes me wanna go!

[MsSheka 0]

Police have arrested a 20-year-old woman accused of throwing her 10-month-old son over a fence because of a dispute she had with the baby's

father, THE STAR has learnt.

The woman, Felicia Brookes, a labourer from Sligoville, St Catherine, has been charged with child abuse, police say. She is booked to face the Spanish Town Resident Magistrate's Court next week Tuesday to answer to the charge.

Police told THE STAR that about 6:30 p.m. on Friday, Brookes went to the home of her child's father to deal with a domestic matter. An argument developed between them, the police say, and she left in 'a huff' to her home where she picked up her 10-month-old son and returned.

Having returned to the father's home, the baby was thrown over the fence and the father told to "hold this man".

suffered head injuries

Police say the child hit the ground and suffered head injuries and had to be rushed to the Spanish Town Hospital where he received a number of stitches and was admitted in a serious condition.

Brookes, the police further say, went to the institution and reported that the child fell and hit his head, however, following investigation by Detective Corporal Kirk Roache, she was taken into custody and later charged.

Just a day before this incident, a man from Church Pen, St Catherine, was taken into custody after he was accused of throwing his three-month-old baby into a wall, resulting in the child's death. The man and the child's mother reportedly had a dispute when the incident happened.

[Shemmy 4]

What irks is when women who comes on here saying their men don't want them on here...just makes me think they are only telling them the bad stories. I would hate to only hear negative things too.

Damien has met quite a few husbands (I think 10 but too sleepy to count) from this board. So obviously we discuss some things but not everything especially if it doesn't pertain to us. We have way more important to things discuss.

Edited September 18, 2009 by Shemmy