Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part18)

[dancehallquana 5]

i think like she said..instead of telling somone YOU HAVE RED FLAGS..

she trying to list some to see if they will "pick up" the hint..

[jakeswife 0]

ok philly,it took my a while but GOTCHA

[JAPrincess 27]

lawks Jakes yuh love fi mek mi work eh???

mi soon bump the post for you.... mek mi find ie...

and NO, I am not concerned about my man

Every day in every way he shows me how much he loves me, and that he has a good heart

I am just trying to think of a way to warn others about what kind of things to look for, not that it will do any better than flat out telling them would...

but maybe, just maybe there is someone out there reading this who IS having doubts, who IS seeing red flags... maybe our ideas will help them inquire where they may not have before... \o/

[jakeswife 0]

lawks Jakes yuh love fi mek mi work eh???

mi soon bump the post for you.... mek mi find ie...

and NO, I am not concerned about my man

Every day in every way he shows me how much he loves me, and that he has a good heart

I am just trying to think of a way to warn others about what kind of things to look for, not that it will do any better than flat out telling them would...

but maybe, just maybe there is someone out there reading this who IS having doubts, who IS seeing red flags... maybe our ideas will help them inquire where they may not have before... \o/

ok JAprincess it took me a while but GOTCHA

[phillyfashionista 8]

i'm sure crossed every single one of our minds.."is this for real" it crossed mine

all oonu KNOW it crossed mine SEVERAL TIMES.. heehee

Of course that is natural not only in LDR but domestic relationships these men have gotten out of order and trust is always an issue when you have been wronged in the past!

[Ellsinlove 2]

Awwww Princess, sorry! (That smiley is so cute though!)

JAPrincess are you aluding to something. I am trying to follow if you are saying something subliminally but i don''t get it.

Jake I wanted to ask the same thing but I know she is emotional in her condition so.......

@ that smiley too!

Problem with the red flags thing is that any of us at some point or another could be susceptible to thinking that a red flag applied to us. It could even be something little but if someone pointed it out, it might cause doubt where it's not necessary. With the exception of a very small number of us, we are ALL taking a risk entering into & following through with these relationships. Of course, that could apply to a relationship here at home too. Like Quana said, take your time. Other than that, you try to listen to your gut (as long as it's not paranoid), have faith & keep the hope!

Of course that is natural not only in LDR but domestic relationships these men have gotten out of order and trust is always an issue when you have been wronged in the past!

Yep! That is the condensed version of what I was trying to articulate!

[JAPrincess 27]

Problem with the red flags thing is that any of us at some point or another could be susceptible to thinking that a red flag applied to us. It could even be something little but if someone pointed it out, it might cause doubt where it's not necessary. With the exception of a very small number of us, we are ALL taking a risk entering into & following through with these relationships. Of course, that could apply to a relationship here at home too. Like Quana said, take your time. Other than that, you try to listen to your gut (as long as it's not paranoid), have faith & keep the hope!

That is true Ells and I agree... but I also think if you take that doubt or concern to your SO and ask them about it it could either open up more doubt or put your mind to ease depending on how they handled it...

I have done that with things I have read here, or stories I have heard about LDR's w/ JA men...

Mentioned it to him and we have talked at length about how we would handle that situation, or what he feels about what happened...

Sometimes he's like STOP READING THAT SITE and then I have to remind him that without this site we would be LOST!!

And I remember to tell him the good stories too

Bottom line a person is going to do what they want to anyway...

I just find sometimes I get when someone posts "I am concerned about a yardies relationship" and I want to scream - no one knows what has passed between those 2 people... no one here can judge... but then I think what IF there are red flags that the person is ignoring.... what if God put it on someones heart to mention it... who am I to get mad???

I dunno... \o/

[JAPrincess 27]

Look like I run everyone off with my serious chat....

back to the silly me:

[jakeswife 0]

Look like I run everyone off with my serious chat....

back to the silly me:

i get what you are saying and for the most part understand how we can get emotiional about someone else's situation{like getting bad about why they feel the way they do} but then realize they may have a legitimate point or reasons for feeling that way. I also agree that some times the universe does give us signs,signs that when we ignore push us into a situation that we were being warned about,however subtle.A situation that we get surprised and very distraught about after the sh**t hits the fan.

Edited September 17, 2009 by jakeswife

[Shemmy 4]

JaPrincess - I agree with most of what you said but am I only one who didn't run to tell Damien EVERYTHING that is discussed on this board???

Granted back then, there were only a few yardies online but I've heard so many horror stories. Some I shared but most I didn't.

[jakeswife 0]

WE NEED TO SWITCH TO PART 19 SOON!!!!

[MRStee 19]

DOH!

There is a medical distinction. We've all heard about people having guts or balls, but do you

really know the difference between them? In an effort to keep you informed, the

definitions are listed below:

GUTS - Is arriving home late after a night

out with the guys, being met by your wife with a broom, and having the guts

to ask: "Are you still cleaning, or are you flying somewhere?"

BALLS - Is coming home late after a night

out with the guys, smelling of perfume and beer, lipstick on your collar,

slapping your wife on the butt and having the balls to say: "You're next,

Chubby."

I hope this clears up any confusion on the definitions.

Medically speaking there is no difference in the outcome. Both result in death.

Ells lol

Lawd... mi just get one e-mail from NVC and I had to hold my breath to check it...

It's the same damn e-mail they sent on Monday

WTH?

Dear Sir/Madam,

Your inquiry has been received at the NVC. The non-immigrant visa petition you mentioned in your letter has already been entered into our computer system and assigned the case number listed below.

You will be notified once this case is forwarded to the assigned US Embassy/Consulate General.

Regards,

National Visa Center

Written Inquiry Unit

Serco Inc.

still stuck I guess....

Just call every other day, you'll get out!

[JAPrincess 27]

JaPrincess - I agree with most of what you said but am I only one who didn't run to tell Damien EVERYTHING that is discussed on this board???

Granted back then, there were only a few yardies online but I've heard so many horror stories. Some I shared but most I didn't.

I don't tell him everything Shemmy

But when something really upsets me, I talk to him about it...

[MRStee 19]

i'm sure crossed every single one of our minds.."is this for real" it crossed mine

Honestly, I thought that way, but i also made Steve promise me that if things didn't work out we would just go in peace and not be mad at one another, it just didn't work. His crazy but said... and if we both marry again, we should all try to be friends.. I was like He said that because his mom, dad, stepmom, stepdad are all COOL LIKE DAT... but guess what? Im not getting married again if this don't work... I will cohabitate coexist but not the marriage thing again.....

[MRStee 19]

Bottom line a person is going to do what they want to anyway...

I just find sometimes I get when someone posts "I am concerned about a yardies relationship" and I want to scream - no one knows what has passed between those 2 people... no one here can judge... but then I think what IF there are red flags that the person is ignoring.... what if God put it on someones heart to mention it... who am I to get mad???

I dunno... \o/

I agree, I was just having a convo with my cousin and saying to her that she never gets angry about a situation she is in when a fool is USING her. To make a long story short, she let this fool use her and almost took her life because of him and other things (seeking attention) and she had the nerve to say she felt sad cause she was cooking ribs and it reminded her of him I was like #######? He keeps calling beating around the bush about wanting to come back. I said see you should be angry with yourself and him for treating you the way he did. I said hurt is a good thing because if you hurt bad enough, you do what it takes to not allow yourself to be hurt by anyone else! I said YOU haven't been hurt enough obviously....