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Ok i really need some feedback on this my ex/sperm donor for my two oldest keep trying to follow me on twitter and FB and sending me messages, we do not talk i do not like him i keep ignoring the requests and everyday i get a new one WTH?free-mad-smileys-126.gif

He knows you’re taken. U never miss a good thing until it’s gone. Send him a reply that says his kids email address is reachouttothemandnotme@pleasestop.com

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This is for the CR1's , Joel received his green card yesterday, it only took 3 weeks from entry into the US. He already had a SS card, so getting his state ID and opening a bank account was easy. Note:. everyone stated that a valid SS card was needed inorder to complete these processes ( state ID card and Bank account).

We did travel out of the country with only his CR1 stamp in the passport, so the stamp received at the POE for a CR1 is valid for multiple entries.

Great News Roxcie Joe that was super quick!

good Morning everybody!!!

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i never knew.. always dreamed, that two people could show so much affection to each other OUTWARDLY as well as at home (well barack and michelle too lol) :luv:

i love my husband

Aweee Quanna I am so happy for you girl!

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Ok i really need some feedback on this my ex/sperm donor for my two oldest keep trying to follow me on twitter and FB and sending me messages, we do not talk i do not like him i keep ignoring the requests and everyday i get a new one WTH?free-mad-smileys-126.gif

He knows you’re taken. U never miss a good thing until it’s gone. Send him a reply that says his kids email address is reachouttothemandnotme@pleasestop.com

DaDa you are something else!

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good Morning everybody!!!

have a blessed day!!!

:dance::dance:

i never knew.. always dreamed, that two people could show so much affection to each other OUTWARDLY as well as at home (well barack and michelle too lol) :luv:

i love my husband

justy.. so glad to hear things are going so well.. Happy for u honey!!

my 2.. that is great.. i hope wherever u will be working, u get to get a good view.. i bet jamie will put on a fabulous show..

Umm you want to finish the story. Mi nuh mind reader. I take it you two went out together and had a fabulous time??

not really a story dada..its just everyday stuff yunno?? today i just mention it cuz im realizing this morning, its not wearing off so its okay to SAY the words out loud LOL.. im not gonna jinx it...

we always get out together when getting gas right.. cuz i pay and he pumps..and we just hold each other and kiss until we hear the pump stop..so i thought.. man the honeymoon is ova, this man don't wanna do that ish no more w/ me and its okay,im chilling by the truck, but low and behold, here he comes behind me and wrap his arms around me.. (L)

okay mi tap.. oonu laf afta mi when next week mi chat bout wanting to wring him neck

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philly.. u are a STRAIGHT FOOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i don't understand some ppl either.. they let these jobs b their life..take no vacation, come here and they sick.. one lady sprained her wrist or arm or something and was up here in a sling the next 2 days.. and this is the goverment.. its not like she don't have 200+ hrs of sick leave CHO!

yeah, ya'll, sorry to be so mushy.. i try to hold back my lovey dovey tendancies.. but i couldn't help myself.. yeah he have me rolling my eyes at him sometime, like last night when i kept telling him he didn't have enough money in his pocket to get something (don't they have sales tax in JA????) and he kept on and had to run to the car to get some change when we got to the register.. so I was left holding up the line w/ the blank stare of the cashier LOL

but overall he is a dream come true!!!!!!!!!

i am no longer waiting for the shoe to drop..this is just how it is.. and i LIKE it heehee

Quanna yuh see it I know its a recession and everyone wants to be useful and needed so you won't be targeted but be damned if I am in a casket and everyone is still going to work the next day!

LOL @ you left holding up the line and the cashier haaa

Dang, I am tired today. Between my friend's garden, a garden co-op box of veggies my mom gave me, and my own purchases, I had way too many veggies beginning to rot in the frig. And, bananas....omg....I had something like 15 bananas. I cooked my fool head off last night. Made 6 loaves of banana bread, 15 lbs. of potato salad, and a spaghetti sauce. House smelled like heaven.

Today, I am printing out hunter's education manual. Hopefully it won't put me to sleep and I can actually learn enough of this to actually pass the test and get a permit. Hundreds and hundreds of pages. My eyes are crossing just thinking about it.

TGIT!!!!!!

JG you got me hungry now sounds wonderful! I love the Co-ops

Ok i really need some feedback on this my ex/sperm donor for my two oldest keep trying to follow me on twitter and FB and sending me messages, we do not talk i do not like him i keep ignoring the requests and everyday i get a new one WTH?free-mad-smileys-126.gif

Don't just ignore... BLOCK him!

Exactly!

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oh lawd its not bad she just needs to stay sober :thumbs:

My brother doest think its becuz of the drugs he thinks people have to realize she is not 19 yrs old no more so of course she isn’t going to sound the same. He told me her CD is all that and there is one song on there I think its called I never new my strength or something like that that. He wants me and my mom to listen to it.

philly.. u are a STRAIGHT FOOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i don't understand some ppl either.. they let these jobs b their life..take no vacation, come here and they sick.. one lady sprained her wrist or arm or something and was up here in a sling the next 2 days.. and this is the goverment.. its not like she don't have 200+ hrs of sick leave CHO!

yeah, ya'll, sorry to be so mushy.. i try to hold back my lovey dovey tendancies.. but i couldn't help myself.. yeah he have me rolling my eyes at him sometime, like last night when i kept telling him he didn't have enough money in his pocket to get something (don't they have sales tax in JA????) and he kept on and had to run to the car to get some change when we got to the register.. so I was left holding up the line w/ the blank stare of the cashier LOL

but overall he is a dream come true!!!!!!!!!

i am no longer waiting for the shoe to drop..this is just how it is.. and i LIKE it heehee

Its about damn time… Oops did I say that out loud?

i think thats the song she sang on Oprah??? i think the CD is VERY inspirational, but i also didn't like her vocals very much.. but its worth just seeing her break thru all her pain and addcition and abuse and do her thing again.. it brought tears to my eyes too seeing everybody that had so much hope for her get to see her breakthrough!

dada!!! GALANG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Proxy wedding means Marine's widow, baby unwelcome

Slideshow:Immigration law rules Marine's marriage invalid

By KRISTIN M. HALL, Associated Press Writer Thu Sep 17, 5:38 am ET

MARYVILLE, Tenn. – Hotaru Ferschke just wants to raise her 8-month-old son in his grandparents' Tennessee home, surrounded by photos and memories of the father he'll never meet: a Marine who died in combat a month after marrying her from thousands of miles away.

Sgt. Michael Ferschke was killed in Iraq in 2008, leaving his widow and infant son, both Japanese citizens, in immigration limbo: A 1950s legal standard meant to curb marriage fraud means U.S. authorities do not recognize the marriage, even though the military does.

Ferschke and his bride had been together in Japan for more than a year, and she was pregnant when he deployed. They married by signing their names on separate continents and did not have a chance to meet again in person after the wedding, which a 57-year-old immigration law requires for the union to be considered consummated.

"She is being denied because they are saying her marriage is not valid because it was not consummated — despite the fact that they have a child together," said Brent Renison, an immigration lawyer in Oregon who has advised the family.

Hotaru Ferschke and the baby, Michael "Mikey" Ferschke III, are staying for now on a temporary visa at the home of her parents-in-law, in the Smoky Mountains town of Maryville. Robin and Michael Ferschke Sr., who are fighting for their daughter-in-law to stay, have emblazoned their son's picture on everything from a blanket draped on the back of the couch to a waving banner on the fence outside.

The 22-year-old Marine radio operator met the young Japanese woman at a party while he was stationed in Okinawa. Though neither knew much of the other's language, something clicked.

"He called me after they met and he goes, 'Mom, I am in love,'" Robin Ferschke said.

The couple were together about 13 months before he left for Iraq in April 2008. He had proposed and they were trying to conceive a baby before he deployed, Hotaru Ferschke said.

About two weeks after he left, she found she was pregnant. He wanted to get married quickly so she could start getting health benefits as the spouse of an American soldier, she said.

They agreed on a proxy wedding, which has a long history in the military and in some other cases where bride and groom can't be in the same place for a ceremony.

Procedures for a proxy marriage vary by country. Some take place by phone while others require a proxy to physically stand in for the absent partner during a ceremony.

Japan doesn't require a wedding ceremony, and couples getting married only have to complete sworn affidavits proving they are legally free to marry and register at a Japanese municipal government office, according to the U.S. Embassy. Hotaru Ferschke said she and her husband got their proxy marriage simply by completing the paperwork and their marriage was final on July 10, one month before he was shot during a house search.

The U.S. military recognizes proxy marriages for couples separated by war and helps facilitate them. The Marines are paying survivor benefits to Ferschke and her baby.

Proxy marriages are legal in at least four U.S. states. One of the most famous proxy weddings in recent history was that between Ekaterina Dmitriev in Texas to Russian cosmonaut Yuri Malenchenko in 2003 as he was floating in the international space station.

Pregnant and alone in Japan, Ferschke tried to apply for permanent residency in the United States and was denied.

Kenneth Sherman, a field office director for U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services who handled the Ferschke case, declined to answer questions from The Associated Press about it. In a letter to the widow, Sherman said he believed that U.S. law required the denial, although he found the situation "personally distressing."

"You have already sacrificed so much for your country and your soon-to-be born son has lost a father," Sherman wrote.

Renison, who advocates for foreign spouses of American citizens, said the widow ran into a complicated and confusing set of immigration rules regarding marriage to foreigners.

The Immigration & Nationality Act says that, for the purposes of immigration law, the definition of spouse does not include a "wife or husband by reason of any marriage ceremony where the contracting parties thereto are not physically present in the presence of each other, unless the marriage shall have been consummated."

A number of immigration laws passed in the 1940s made it easier for brides of American GIs to immigrate, but a consummation requirement passed in 1952 for proxy weddings was designed to curb marriage fraud.

"It's supposed to prevent people from marrying somebody they are not really intending to have a life with. The law essentially requires them to have met after the marriage," said Margaret Stock, a lawyer who assists military families through the American Immigration Lawyers Association.

"What's odd about this case is that it appears the consummation part of the law was already met, but it was prior to the marriage."

There's no mention of consummation prior to the wedding in the statute, which Renison considers outdated and in need of reform.

"Well, 1952 was a different time," Renison said. "And back then, I'm sure they considered having sexual intercourse out of wedlock to be just fornication."

Historian Nancy Cott, who wrote a book called "Public Vows: A History of Marriage and the Nation," said proxy marriages have been commonly used by Japanese and Korean immigrants to America. But Cott said U.S immigration authorities have never liked this type of marriage "because it is inconsistent with Western Christian ideas of how marriage takes place."

The Ferschke family is hoping a private bill introduced by U.S. Rep. John Duncan this summer will allow Hotaru to stay in the U.S., but each setback has become a reminder of their loss. A private bill affects the case of just one person, rather than changing the law as a whole.

"We still have a hard time accepting this," Robin Ferschke said. "We're trying to go forward, celebrate his life, but then every time we turn around we get a constant reminder."

The private bill was referred to a subcommittee of the House Judiciary Committee in July but will likely need a Senate co-sponsor to move forward. With Congress facing a massive health care reform package as it goes back into session this month, there may not be enough time to get the legislation passed before Hotaru Ferschke leaves in January.

"She's like my daughter," Robin Ferschke said. "I know my child chose the perfect wife and mother of his child."

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i made everything friends only :thumbs:

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that smiley is cute!

Ok i really need some feedback on this my ex/sperm donor for my two oldest keep trying to follow me on twitter and FB and sending me messages, we do not talk i do not like him i keep ignoring the requests and everyday i get a new one WTH?free-mad-smileys-126.gif

He knows you’re taken. U never miss a good thing until it’s gone. Send him a reply that says his kids email address is reachouttothemandnotme@pleasestop.com

OMG DWL haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa Dada Tap it yuh mek mi spit out mi juice!

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Nat, where are you staying in Negril that has free Wifi?

Fun Holiday. It's across from the Jungle, on the beach side. I've stayed here 5 of my last 6 times.

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Proxy wedding means Marine's widow, baby unwelcome

Slideshow:Immigration law rules Marine's marriage invalid

By KRISTIN M. HALL, Associated Press Writer Thu Sep 17, 5:38 am ET

MARYVILLE, Tenn. – Hotaru Ferschke just wants to raise her 8-month-old son in his grandparents' Tennessee home, surrounded by photos and memories of the father he'll never meet: a Marine who died in combat a month after marrying her from thousands of miles away.

Sgt. Michael Ferschke was killed in Iraq in 2008, leaving his widow and infant son, both Japanese citizens, in immigration limbo: A 1950s legal standard meant to curb marriage fraud means U.S. authorities do not recognize the marriage, even though the military does.

Ferschke and his bride had been together in Japan for more than a year, and she was pregnant when he deployed. They married by signing their names on separate continents and did not have a chance to meet again in person after the wedding, which a 57-year-old immigration law requires for the union to be considered consummated.

"She is being denied because they are saying her marriage is not valid because it was not consummated — despite the fact that they have a child together," said Brent Renison, an immigration lawyer in Oregon who has advised the family.

Hotaru Ferschke and the baby, Michael "Mikey" Ferschke III, are staying for now on a temporary visa at the home of her parents-in-law, in the Smoky Mountains town of Maryville. Robin and Michael Ferschke Sr., who are fighting for their daughter-in-law to stay, have emblazoned their son's picture on everything from a blanket draped on the back of the couch to a waving banner on the fence outside.

The 22-year-old Marine radio operator met the young Japanese woman at a party while he was stationed in Okinawa. Though neither knew much of the other's language, something clicked.

"He called me after they met and he goes, 'Mom, I am in love,'" Robin Ferschke said.

The couple were together about 13 months before he left for Iraq in April 2008. He had proposed and they were trying to conceive a baby before he deployed, Hotaru Ferschke said.

About two weeks after he left, she found she was pregnant. He wanted to get married quickly so she could start getting health benefits as the spouse of an American soldier, she said.

They agreed on a proxy wedding, which has a long history in the military and in some other cases where bride and groom can't be in the same place for a ceremony.

Procedures for a proxy marriage vary by country. Some take place by phone while others require a proxy to physically stand in for the absent partner during a ceremony.

Japan doesn't require a wedding ceremony, and couples getting married only have to complete sworn affidavits proving they are legally free to marry and register at a Japanese municipal government office, according to the U.S. Embassy. Hotaru Ferschke said she and her husband got their proxy marriage simply by completing the paperwork and their marriage was final on July 10, one month before he was shot during a house search.

The U.S. military recognizes proxy marriages for couples separated by war and helps facilitate them. The Marines are paying survivor benefits to Ferschke and her baby.

Proxy marriages are legal in at least four U.S. states. One of the most famous proxy weddings in recent history was that between Ekaterina Dmitriev in Texas to Russian cosmonaut Yuri Malenchenko in 2003 as he was floating in the international space station.

Pregnant and alone in Japan, Ferschke tried to apply for permanent residency in the United States and was denied.

Kenneth Sherman, a field office director for U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services who handled the Ferschke case, declined to answer questions from The Associated Press about it. In a letter to the widow, Sherman said he believed that U.S. law required the denial, although he found the situation "personally distressing."

"You have already sacrificed so much for your country and your soon-to-be born son has lost a father," Sherman wrote.

Renison, who advocates for foreign spouses of American citizens, said the widow ran into a complicated and confusing set of immigration rules regarding marriage to foreigners.

The Immigration & Nationality Act says that, for the purposes of immigration law, the definition of spouse does not include a "wife or husband by reason of any marriage ceremony where the contracting parties thereto are not physically present in the presence of each other, unless the marriage shall have been consummated."

A number of immigration laws passed in the 1940s made it easier for brides of American GIs to immigrate, but a consummation requirement passed in 1952 for proxy weddings was designed to curb marriage fraud.

"It's supposed to prevent people from marrying somebody they are not really intending to have a life with. The law essentially requires them to have met after the marriage," said Margaret Stock, a lawyer who assists military families through the American Immigration Lawyers Association.

"What's odd about this case is that it appears the consummation part of the law was already met, but it was prior to the marriage."

There's no mention of consummation prior to the wedding in the statute, which Renison considers outdated and in need of reform.

"Well, 1952 was a different time," Renison said. "And back then, I'm sure they considered having sexual intercourse out of wedlock to be just fornication."

Historian Nancy Cott, who wrote a book called "Public Vows: A History of Marriage and the Nation," said proxy marriages have been commonly used by Japanese and Korean immigrants to America. But Cott said U.S immigration authorities have never liked this type of marriage "because it is inconsistent with Western Christian ideas of how marriage takes place."

The Ferschke family is hoping a private bill introduced by U.S. Rep. John Duncan this summer will allow Hotaru to stay in the U.S., but each setback has become a reminder of their loss. A private bill affects the case of just one person, rather than changing the law as a whole.

"We still have a hard time accepting this," Robin Ferschke said. "We're trying to go forward, celebrate his life, but then every time we turn around we get a constant reminder."

The private bill was referred to a subcommittee of the House Judiciary Committee in July but will likely need a Senate co-sponsor to move forward. With Congress facing a massive health care reform package as it goes back into session this month, there may not be enough time to get the legislation passed before Hotaru Ferschke leaves in January.

"She's like my daughter," Robin Ferschke said. "I know my child chose the perfect wife and mother of his child."

Geez, what a mess. Hope they figure it out.

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i was so happy to hear her story.. altho we all knew what was going on..

i mean i know when she was picking bobby up from his domestic violence trial singing.. "u make me feel like a natural woman" that she was GONE for that man..

but it was good to hear it from her mouth.. i think now that she can face her demons, she can be successful in getting past it..

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Nat, where are you staying in Negril that has free Wifi?

Fun Holiday. It's across from the Jungle, on the beach side. I've stayed here 5 of my last 6 times.

Thanks - I stayed there before - Wasn't thrilled with it - Hotel was fine, but the restaurant sucked, had a big fight with the security guard, and wasn't happy with the maid service or that they decided to do construction around the pool right outside our door starting at 8 am

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oh lawd its not bad she just needs to stay sober :thumbs:

My brother doest think its becuz of the drugs he thinks people have to realize she is not 19 yrs old no more so of course she isn’t going to sound the same. He told me her CD is all that and there is one song on there I think its called I never new my strength or something like that that. He wants me and my mom to listen to it.

Dada but look at Patti and Aretha they sound AMAZING in person and they are 60+ CRACK took her voice! think about it all that inhaling damaged her lungs she is not the same, ....... I listened to her sing on Oprah and she talks through the songs and barely holds the note when the time comes, its a shame I loved Whitney back in the day but unfortunately the VOICE is gone.

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i think thats the song she sang on Oprah??? i think the CD is VERY inspirational, but i also didn't like her vocals very much.. but its worth just seeing her break thru all her pain and addcition and abuse and do her thing again.. it brought tears to my eyes too seeing everybody that had so much hope for her get to see her breakthrough!

dada!!! GALANG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes the CD is inspirational and we owe that to the writers like Dianne Warren and R Kelly who are the best at what the do, capturing the essence of ones struggle and setting it to music. However I agree with you, her vocals are not up to par. I am glad she is able to speak out now as well. Wait did you hear her daughter say she was gonna sing! Ummm on GMA she was not all that!

I wonder if Clive suggested she work with a vocal coach for her voice or would she think that as an insult?

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Proxy wedding means Marine's widow, baby unwelcome

Slideshow:Immigration law rules Marine's marriage invalid

By KRISTIN M. HALL, Associated Press Writer Thu Sep 17, 5:38 am ET

MARYVILLE, Tenn. – Hotaru Ferschke just wants to raise her 8-month-old son in his grandparents' Tennessee home, surrounded by photos and memories of the father he'll never meet: a Marine who died in combat a month after marrying her from thousands of miles away.

Sgt. Michael Ferschke was killed in Iraq in 2008, leaving his widow and infant son, both Japanese citizens, in immigration limbo: A 1950s legal standard meant to curb marriage fraud means U.S. authorities do not recognize the marriage, even though the military does.

Ferschke and his bride had been together in Japan for more than a year, and she was pregnant when he deployed. They married by signing their names on separate continents and did not have a chance to meet again in person after the wedding, which a 57-year-old immigration law requires for the union to be considered consummated.

"She is being denied because they are saying her marriage is not valid because it was not consummated — despite the fact that they have a child together," said Brent Renison, an immigration lawyer in Oregon who has advised the family.

Hotaru Ferschke and the baby, Michael "Mikey" Ferschke III, are staying for now on a temporary visa at the home of her parents-in-law, in the Smoky Mountains town of Maryville. Robin and Michael Ferschke Sr., who are fighting for their daughter-in-law to stay, have emblazoned their son's picture on everything from a blanket draped on the back of the couch to a waving banner on the fence outside.

The 22-year-old Marine radio operator met the young Japanese woman at a party while he was stationed in Okinawa. Though neither knew much of the other's language, something clicked.

"He called me after they met and he goes, 'Mom, I am in love,'" Robin Ferschke said.

The couple were together about 13 months before he left for Iraq in April 2008. He had proposed and they were trying to conceive a baby before he deployed, Hotaru Ferschke said.

About two weeks after he left, she found she was pregnant. He wanted to get married quickly so she could start getting health benefits as the spouse of an American soldier, she said.

They agreed on a proxy wedding, which has a long history in the military and in some other cases where bride and groom can't be in the same place for a ceremony.

Procedures for a proxy marriage vary by country. Some take place by phone while others require a proxy to physically stand in for the absent partner during a ceremony.

Japan doesn't require a wedding ceremony, and couples getting married only have to complete sworn affidavits proving they are legally free to marry and register at a Japanese municipal government office, according to the U.S. Embassy. Hotaru Ferschke said she and her husband got their proxy marriage simply by completing the paperwork and their marriage was final on July 10, one month before he was shot during a house search.

The U.S. military recognizes proxy marriages for couples separated by war and helps facilitate them. The Marines are paying survivor benefits to Ferschke and her baby.

Proxy marriages are legal in at least four U.S. states. One of the most famous proxy weddings in recent history was that between Ekaterina Dmitriev in Texas to Russian cosmonaut Yuri Malenchenko in 2003 as he was floating in the international space station.

Pregnant and alone in Japan, Ferschke tried to apply for permanent residency in the United States and was denied.

Kenneth Sherman, a field office director for U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services who handled the Ferschke case, declined to answer questions from The Associated Press about it. In a letter to the widow, Sherman said he believed that U.S. law required the denial, although he found the situation "personally distressing."

"You have already sacrificed so much for your country and your soon-to-be born son has lost a father," Sherman wrote.

Renison, who advocates for foreign spouses of American citizens, said the widow ran into a complicated and confusing set of immigration rules regarding marriage to foreigners.

The Immigration & Nationality Act says that, for the purposes of immigration law, the definition of spouse does not include a "wife or husband by reason of any marriage ceremony where the contracting parties thereto are not physically present in the presence of each other, unless the marriage shall have been consummated."

A number of immigration laws passed in the 1940s made it easier for brides of American GIs to immigrate, but a consummation requirement passed in 1952 for proxy weddings was designed to curb marriage fraud.

"It's supposed to prevent people from marrying somebody they are not really intending to have a life with. The law essentially requires them to have met after the marriage," said Margaret Stock, a lawyer who assists military families through the American Immigration Lawyers Association.

"What's odd about this case is that it appears the consummation part of the law was already met, but it was prior to the marriage."

There's no mention of consummation prior to the wedding in the statute, which Renison considers outdated and in need of reform.

"Well, 1952 was a different time," Renison said. "And back then, I'm sure they considered having sexual intercourse out of wedlock to be just fornication."

Historian Nancy Cott, who wrote a book called "Public Vows: A History of Marriage and the Nation," said proxy marriages have been commonly used by Japanese and Korean immigrants to America. But Cott said U.S immigration authorities have never liked this type of marriage "because it is inconsistent with Western Christian ideas of how marriage takes place."

The Ferschke family is hoping a private bill introduced by U.S. Rep. John Duncan this summer will allow Hotaru to stay in the U.S., but each setback has become a reminder of their loss. A private bill affects the case of just one person, rather than changing the law as a whole.

"We still have a hard time accepting this," Robin Ferschke said. "We're trying to go forward, celebrate his life, but then every time we turn around we get a constant reminder."

The private bill was referred to a subcommittee of the House Judiciary Committee in July but will likely need a Senate co-sponsor to move forward. With Congress facing a massive health care reform package as it goes back into session this month, there may not be enough time to get the legislation passed before Hotaru Ferschke leaves in January.

"She's like my daughter," Robin Ferschke said. "I know my child chose the perfect wife and mother of his child."

Geez, what a mess. Hope they figure it out.

DITTO!

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Biometrics Appointment:5/2/11

Early Bio Walk-In: 4/8/11

Approved: 9/23/11

Green Card Received: 9/30/11

 
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