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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Morocco
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aaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwww, shucks.... :blush:

venusfire

met online May 2006

visited him in Morocco July 2006

K-1 petition sent late September 2006 after second visit

December 2006 - third trip - went for his visa interview (stood outside all day)

visa approved! arrived here together right before Christmas 2006

married January 2007

AOS paperwork sent February 2007

RFE (yipee)

another RFE (yikes)

AOS approval July 2007

sent Removal of Conditions paperwork 01 May 2009

received I-751 NOA 14 May 2009

received ASC appt. notice 28 May 2009

biometrics appt. 12 June 2009

I-751 approval date 25 Sept 2009 (no updates on the system - still says 'received'/"initial review")

19 Oct 2009 - got text message "card production ordered"

24 Oct 2009 - actual card in the mail box!

sent his N-400 - 14 May 2010

check cashed 27 May 2010

NOA received 29 May 2010 (dated 24 May)

Biometrics Appointment Letter received 17 June 2010

Biometrics scheduled for 08 July 2010; walk-in successfully done in Philadelphia 07 July 2010

02 Oct 2010 - FINALLY got email saying the case was being transferred to the local office. Hoping to get his interview letter soon...

05 Oct 2010 - received interview letter!!!!

08 November 2010 - scheduled for N-400 interview

- went together for interview; file isn't there - need to wait to be rescheduled

Jan 2011 - went for Infopass

25 Feb 2011 - interview

19 April 2011 - Infopass

8 July 2011 - HE'S FINALLY A CITIZEN - WOO HOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

30 July 2011 - citizenship party

Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Pakistan
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Im telling you, IMO and travels etc. take it leave it or shun it I DONT CARE. Howeever ther is no such thing as "mixed religions" to an immigrant coming from a religious based country. Its a way of life, its thier culture. They may act the oh it ok part and so on, but the boys will always turn back to home for soalce, and if your not fitting this need, then bad is you. in his eyes. And that sad day of realization will happen for both of you. Now case in point, you need to convert to his way to have that peaceful life. On the other hand , do not hand over feet to meet him and baby him, because these mommas boys will take full advantage. Now if it was say second or third generation, then no problem.!! westernized and more understanding. Here you are dealing with A Immigrants, B Male immigrants, and C male immigrants from a religion based society. "mixed religion" what is this??

august 2004 I-129 filed (neb)

DEC 2004 Approved

interview: SEOUL

MArch 21st , 2005AR for special security clearance,washington

May 18th tranfer case from Seoul to Islammabad

June 21st security clearance done

June 28th online at the embassy in Islamabad

waiting for paper transfer and the good word

OCTOBER 14TH 2005 Interview Number 2: ISLAMABAD, PK

AR number 2 sent to DOS per Islamabad (2 cable request)

Nov 22 okd updated financial and etc proof accepted / embassy waiting for security cables

dec 20th one cable back waiting on 2nd

Jan 17th.. good word recieved. SECURITY CHECKS ALL CLEAR!!! DOS says embassy to contact him within two weeks!!!!!!

FEBRUARY 10th, 2006 VISA RECIEVED!!! They called him In via phone, stamped his passort and sent him on his way!!!

FEB 28th WELCOME HOME>>>POE CHICAGO did not even look at xray, few questions. one hour wait at Poe

march 10th marriage (nikkah at the islamic center)

aug 2006 AOS interview, cond 2 yr GC arrived september

June 2008 applied for removal of conditions on permant residency aka awaiting for 10 yr greencard

Dec 2008 10yr green card approved, no interview.

Filed: Other Country: Egypt
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Im telling you, IMO and travels etc. take it leave it or shun it I DONT CARE. Howeever ther is no such thing as "mixed religions" to an immigrant coming from a religious based country. Its a way of life, its thier culture. They may act the oh it ok part and so on, but the boys will always turn back to home for soalce, and if your not fitting this need, then bad is you. in his eyes. And that sad day of realization will happen for both of you. Now case in point, you need to convert to his way to have that peaceful life. On the other hand , do not hand over feet to meet him and baby him, because these mommas boys will take full advantage. Now if it was say second or third generation, then no problem.!! westernized and more understanding. Here you are dealing with A Immigrants, B Male immigrants, and C male immigrants from a religion based society. "mixed religion" what is this??

What??? This post makes no sense whatsoever.

Betsy El Sum

Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Jordan
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Posted

I think she is saying that its basically "my way or the highway" for MENA men, and if it hasnt happened yet, it will. Thats what I got out of it.

In a way i have to agree, a person that has grown up emmerced in a certain culture is not likely to change their views and beliefs just because they move to another country. There should be alot of common ground to begin with,regardless. If you dont share the same ideals in ANY relationship, there will be problems. Some people are more resilient and pliable than others, but imagine trying to live in a culture that is practically the exact opposite of what you grew up with and think about how hard it would be to "change your attitude". Some people think they can handle the differences and do try because they love their spouse, but in the end.. its too much. Too many times when we read these stories of divorce from an immigrant, the first thought is..."he used him/her" when in fact it might be that they genuinly tried but in the end, it was more than they could handle.

"you fondle my trigger then you blame my gun"

Timeline: 13 month long journey from filing to visa in hand

If you were lucky and got an approval and reunion with your loved one rather quickly; Please refrain from telling people who waited 6+ months just to get out of a service center to "chill out" or to "stop whining" It's insensitive,and unecessary. Once you walk a mile in their shoes you will understand and be heard.

Thanks!

Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Morocco
Timeline
Posted
I think she is saying that its basically "my way or the highway" for MENA men, and if it hasnt happened yet, it will. Thats what I got out of it.

In a way i have to agree, a person that has grown up emmerced in a certain culture is not likely to change their views and beliefs just because they move to another country. There should be alot of common ground to begin with,regardless. If you dont share the same ideals in ANY relationship, there will be problems. Some people are more resilient and pliable than others, but imagine trying to live in a culture that is practically the exact opposite of what you grew up with and think about how hard it would be to "change your attitude". Some people think they can handle the differences and do try because they love their spouse, but in the end.. its too much. Too many times when we read these stories of divorce from an immigrant, the first thought is..."he used him/her" when in fact it might be that they genuinly tried but in the end, it was more than they could handle.

I agree with alot of what you said.

I think it really depends partly on how close each person's individual personality matches his or her native culture. We all know that each MENA country is a little different than the others - some are more 'strict', and some more lenient. Each person from a MENA country might be similar, but not exactly the same. For example, my SO never even tried cigarettes, but some members of his family smoke or smoked. He's more strict than even his father or brothers in that sense. If I smoked, I imagine that would really cause a problem (and it would actually be the same if he smoked, since I can't deal with cigarette smoke). Even before I met him, I didn't really drink or eat pork, and wasn't a going out kind of person. So even though we came from different cultures, our personalities/lifestyles were actually kind of close. Also, we're both fairly flexible/tolerant anyway. The few times I've eaten sausage or ribs, he didn't care. Just some examples. I can see if I was kind of wild, and/or he was intolerant, there would definitely be problems. Also, neither of us are 'super-religious'. I haven't attended religious services much since high school, and he doesn't either. I observe Ramadan with him, and he observes Lent with me. So it's also that we're both more laid back and accommodating together. Everyone has things they won't compromise on, and for us, we're in agreement with them, so they're not issues.

Some people change/adjust to the new culture more than others, too. I think it depends on many variables.

I'm sure there are other aspects, such as how difficult it is for him to adjust to being here in general, how he's treated by others, if he finds a job or not, if you have kids/how they get along with him, if he's able to find friends, etc. I don't care what anyone says, if things are going well in my life, I can be more pleasant, and am able to cope with things as they come up. If there's something stressing me, I'm just not the same.

And I definitely agree with what you said in the end. I'm sure that people aren't actually used as often as is suspected. It does happen, though.

venusfire

met online May 2006

visited him in Morocco July 2006

K-1 petition sent late September 2006 after second visit

December 2006 - third trip - went for his visa interview (stood outside all day)

visa approved! arrived here together right before Christmas 2006

married January 2007

AOS paperwork sent February 2007

RFE (yipee)

another RFE (yikes)

AOS approval July 2007

sent Removal of Conditions paperwork 01 May 2009

received I-751 NOA 14 May 2009

received ASC appt. notice 28 May 2009

biometrics appt. 12 June 2009

I-751 approval date 25 Sept 2009 (no updates on the system - still says 'received'/"initial review")

19 Oct 2009 - got text message "card production ordered"

24 Oct 2009 - actual card in the mail box!

sent his N-400 - 14 May 2010

check cashed 27 May 2010

NOA received 29 May 2010 (dated 24 May)

Biometrics Appointment Letter received 17 June 2010

Biometrics scheduled for 08 July 2010; walk-in successfully done in Philadelphia 07 July 2010

02 Oct 2010 - FINALLY got email saying the case was being transferred to the local office. Hoping to get his interview letter soon...

05 Oct 2010 - received interview letter!!!!

08 November 2010 - scheduled for N-400 interview

- went together for interview; file isn't there - need to wait to be rescheduled

Jan 2011 - went for Infopass

25 Feb 2011 - interview

19 April 2011 - Infopass

8 July 2011 - HE'S FINALLY A CITIZEN - WOO HOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

30 July 2011 - citizenship party

Posted

"Most American women (who meet up with Arabs/Muslims for the first time) have nothing to use as a barometer or gauge when trying to figure out what category of moral character or level of religious practice their man falls into... They have nothing to compare them to except men they know in their own culture."

I think that is a fair assumption

Posted
"Most American women (who meet up with Arabs/Muslims for the first time) have nothing to use as a barometer or gauge when trying to figure out what category of moral character or level of religious practice their man falls into... They have nothing to compare them to except men they know in their own culture."

I think that is a fair assumption

I wholeheartedly agree and I would add that they (we) have no compass with which to guage the class system to which they belong or the value of their education.

Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Jordan
Timeline
Posted

very true ladies, thats why people should study heavily(not just take the dude's word on) about the culture they are thinking of marrying into.

"you fondle my trigger then you blame my gun"

Timeline: 13 month long journey from filing to visa in hand

If you were lucky and got an approval and reunion with your loved one rather quickly; Please refrain from telling people who waited 6+ months just to get out of a service center to "chill out" or to "stop whining" It's insensitive,and unecessary. Once you walk a mile in their shoes you will understand and be heard.

Thanks!

Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Jordan
Timeline
Posted
I think she is saying that its basically "my way or the highway" for MENA men, and if it hasnt happened yet, it will. Thats what I got out of it.

In a way i have to agree, a person that has grown up emmerced in a certain culture is not likely to change their views and beliefs just because they move to another country. There should be alot of common ground to begin with,regardless. If you dont share the same ideals in ANY relationship, there will be problems. Some people are more resilient and pliable than others, but imagine trying to live in a culture that is practically the exact opposite of what you grew up with and think about how hard it would be to "change your attitude". Some people think they can handle the differences and do try because they love their spouse, but in the end.. its too much. Too many times when we read these stories of divorce from an immigrant, the first thought is..."he used him/her" when in fact it might be that they genuinly tried but in the end, it was more than they could handle.

I agree with alot of what you said.

I think it really depends partly on how close each person's individual personality matches his or her native culture. We all know that each MENA country is a little different than the others - some are more 'strict', and some more lenient. Each person from a MENA country might be similar, but not exactly the same. For example, my SO never even tried cigarettes, but some members of his family smoke or smoked. He's more strict than even his father or brothers in that sense. If I smoked, I imagine that would really cause a problem (and it would actually be the same if he smoked, since I can't deal with cigarette smoke). Even before I met him, I didn't really drink or eat pork, and wasn't a going out kind of person. So even though we came from different cultures, our personalities/lifestyles were actually kind of close. Also, we're both fairly flexible/tolerant anyway. The few times I've eaten sausage or ribs, he didn't care. Just some examples. I can see if I was kind of wild, and/or he was intolerant, there would definitely be problems. Also, neither of us are 'super-religious'. I haven't attended religious services much since high school, and he doesn't either. I observe Ramadan with him, and he observes Lent with me. So it's also that we're both more laid back and accommodating together. Everyone has things they won't compromise on, and for us, we're in agreement with them, so they're not issues.

Some people change/adjust to the new culture more than others, too. I think it depends on many variables.

I'm sure there are other aspects, such as how difficult it is for him to adjust to being here in general, how he's treated by others, if he finds a job or not, if you have kids/how they get along with him, if he's able to find friends, etc. I don't care what anyone says, if things are going well in my life, I can be more pleasant, and am able to cope with things as they come up. If there's something stressing me, I'm just not the same.

And I definitely agree with what you said in the end. I'm sure that people aren't actually used as often as is suspected. It does happen, though.

venusfire

:yes::thumbs:

"you fondle my trigger then you blame my gun"

Timeline: 13 month long journey from filing to visa in hand

If you were lucky and got an approval and reunion with your loved one rather quickly; Please refrain from telling people who waited 6+ months just to get out of a service center to "chill out" or to "stop whining" It's insensitive,and unecessary. Once you walk a mile in their shoes you will understand and be heard.

Thanks!

 
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