Update: Final hearing

[Enlighten one :) 5]

What a great ending. You did the right thing, which always wins out in the end. congratulations on your selfpreservation.

[Bobby+Umit 161]

I personally would not of done what you did, especially with evidence that the marriage was a sham from the get go, but congrats on moving on and getting it over with.

[justashooter 430]

good luck in getting any cash outa this one. judicial orders such as this are hard to enforce.

[Twisted K 2]

you are an honorable man. best wishes

[hellonew 0]

Just out of curiousity, how will she be able to adjust status and recieve her green card?

[justashooter 430]

you are an honorable man. best wishes

he's a putz. he was used as a tool, and continues to be used.

[TBoneTX 45,267]

he was used as a tool, and continues to be used.

In one way of thinking, certainly so, but he's at peace with his decision, and his choice to set aside his previous anger will help him achieve closure and move forward. In effect, he has taken control of his attitude instead of letting it control him.

[justashooter 430]

he was used as a tool, and continues to be used.

In one way of thinking, certainly so, but he's at peace with his decision, and his choice to set aside his previous anger will help him achieve closure and move forward. In effect, he has taken control of his attitude instead of letting it control him.

taking control of life is more rewarding than rolling over and taking it in the backside.

And there's winners and there's losers

But they ain't no big deal

'Cause the simple man baby pays for the thrills, the bills,

the pills that kill

Ah but ain't that America for you and me

Ain't that America somethin' to see baby

Ain't that America home of the free, yeah

Little pink houses for you and me, Ooooh

[zqt3344 21]

Moldova is full of scamming women, sorry, you got hustled.

For those wondering, I went to the final hearing yesterday with my wife from Moldova. I planned on battling, but somewhere along the line I decided to lay down my arms and do what was best for the girl that I married. I fired my attorney. I showed up yesterday Pro-Se. I showed the Judge my evidence (the marriage fraud contract signed by wife) and witness testimony to her statements about the marriage "not being real" and that I was "never her ideal husband to begin with". After showing the evidence, the Judge was extremely interested in my case, and focused all of his attention toward. After a questions, I then requested that I be allowed to withdraw my annulment petition so that my wife can have her divorce that she needs for her self-petition. I decided that the love should win over the hate, and that I should do what was best for her because I did genuinely love and care about her. I no longer wanted to make things harder for her. I made it clear to the judge why I was doing this, but also made it clear that I had shown my evidence first to show the court that there were definite red flags and suspect behavior from my wife which caused me to feel as though I may have been used. I wanted the court and her attorney to see my reasons for my petition to annul. Her (free) attorney tried to object to almost everything I said, and also made up some silly rule that said I was not allowed to talk about anything pertaining to immigration. The Judge scoffed and overruled her, and allowed every bit of my testimony, and firmly stated that the immigration aspect of our relationship and case was THEE most important part of the puzzle. Her lawyer tried to content that the restraining order from April 1oth was the most important bit, the judge disagreed because she didnt make false allegations of abuse and try to get a restraining order until 35 days after she had already abandoned me and the marriage. The Judge spent most of his time on me, and then talk went to outstanding debts. I told him what I believed my wife should have to pay to help close accounts and pay off debts that were incurred during the marriage. To my wives dismay, the judge agreed and said an order for payment would be included in theh divorce decree. I know for sure this boiled her blood because she did not want to have to pay a dime, and her attorney was making it clear that she did not want to pay for anything. The concensus was, that because my wife claims that the marriage was in fact legitimate and her love for me was genuine, that she should have to uphold and live up to her marital responsibilities and duties. She says the marriage was real, so she should be considered 50% of it. The judge explained to her that marriage is not a one-party outing, it's a mutual legally binding relationship, and she have to help end it properly.

I had effectively blown her attorney out of the water by surprisingly backing off and my move destroyed their whole offensive plan, because they expected me to battle and put witnesses on the stand etc. I decided the thing to do would be to help my wife, and just get it over with. At least this way, I will get some money to help pay off these debts. She gets her green card, and can ride my name in to the green card sunset now. I hope she is happy, that's all I want.

She did however refuse to answer questions regarding her inconsistencies and red flags during the marriage. I had hopes that we would be able to end things amicably, and she would be forthright and honest about things and give us answers so that we could all achieve closure. She chose not do so, so my mother and I are kind of still left with a feeling of maybe being used and abandoned. But that's the way she decided to leave it.

I still miss her, and I wish there were a better way for us. But I wish her well...

[Merrillizer 0]

Just out of curiousity, how will she be able to adjust status and recieve her green card?

She got status by claiming to be a "battered spouse". There was no history of abuse, or any abuse at any time. She was actually going to go home to Moldova on April 19th. But a few weeks beforehand, the illegal aliens she was hanging out with coached her on VAWA fraud. They told her to cancel her ticket, get a refund, and then self-petition under VAWA. She did just that.

I won't respond to sophomoric personal attacks and name calling.

Another update. I was arrested Thursday night at approx. 8pm. The local police informed me my wife made a complaint against me last Friday, August 21st. She claims I "tried to make contact with her" and broke the bogus restraining order she had placed on me April 10th. My Attorney warned me back in June that she might try to have me arrested the weekend before the Final Hearing (August 24th), because she knew I had the marriage fraud contract she signed offering me money to remain in a fraudulant marriage. Her hopes were that I would be arrested the Friday before the Final Hearing, and be stuck in the county jail for the weekend because the courts were closed, and then I would miss the Final Hearing Monday morning, effectively allowing her to win th divorce she needed by DEFAULT. She did this because she thought I was going to fight her at the Final Hearing, but little did she know that I had already decided to help her because I did love her and care about her. At the Final Hearing this past Monday, she must have felt horrible when I stated I was withdrawing my Annulment petition out of sincere and genuine love for her, so she could have a good life and be happy. She had already made the false report against me, and couldnt withdraw because then she would be charged with making false reports to police. So I helped her in court, and gave her the divorce she needed for her VAWA waiver even though I had the marriage fraud contract in my hand and had the interrogatories that she perjured herself on because she lied and said that she never offered me money or signed a contract. I had the evidence the whole time, but she still perjured herself. I did everything to help this person, and she still F'd me in the end. The police knew it was BUNK, because I had gone to the police station back in June, showed them the marriage fraud contract, and gave them the same warning my attorney did about her making a false report against me within 7 days of the Final Hearing. She did exactly what we thought she would do. The cops knew it was junk, and I did not go to jail. I was released within an hour and went home.

It's sad that someone so seemingly so beautiful can turn in to such a despicable, horrible, vengeful liar. Too bad for her, because time she claims I tried to "talk to her through her bedroom window" breaking the restraining order, I was in Bowdoinham, Maine on vacation, about 2 hours from our town. She is messed up, and my witnesses will destroy her false accusations.

Some people will say and do anything for a green card, especially people from the poorest countries on Earth.

And I STILL forgive her. I refuse to let her consume my mind, body and soul with hate. She can't beat me. I will never let her turn me in to the monster she became....

[rlogan 2,036]

21 posts before a personal attack. Not bad!

They tell us there are many fish in the ocean. Problem is there are lots of sharks too.

[M.O 6]

Moldova is full of scamming women, sorry, you got hustled.

Ohh please,they are everywhere..ukraine is one of the many country full of scamming women...so shut up ...

[ziia 9]

So I helped her in court, and gave her the divorce she needed for her VAWA waiver

Hi Merrillizer,

Congrats for the divorce. Please help us understand something. From what I recall from your previous posts, your marriage lasted short of 5 months. I also remember you saying she didn't adjust staus, she did not have an interview throughout the length of marriage with you, therefore she didn't have a GC in the first place. How can she adjust now as divorcee, through VAWA? Is there something i'm missing?

Edited August 31, 2009 by ziia

[Merrillizer 0]

So I helped her in court, and gave her the divorce she needed for her VAWA waiver

Hi Merrillizer,

Congrats for the divorce. Please help us understand something. From what I recall from your previous posts, your marriage lasted short of 5 months. I also remember you saying she didn't adjust staus, she did not have an interview throughout the length of marriage with you, therefore she didn't have a GC in the first place. How can she adjust now as divorcee, through VAWA? Is there something i'm missing?

Yes. She self-petitioned. On March 5th, she packed and abandoned the marriage. I told her if she did not come home within 10 days, that I would assume she used me for a GC and did not love me. She did not come home. So I sent a letter of withdrawal to USCIS on March 16th revoking my support of her AOS package. On March 31st, after a few weeks of suspicious activity by her and a few crazy incidents, she decided to come home and supposedly "reconcile". However she had no intent to, and it was too late anyway, I had withdrawn my support for her. She lied about everything starting the night she moved back in...who she was talking to, who she was meeting while out at clubs, who she shared a bed with after leaving my home, etc. On April 3rd, the acceptance letter came in the mail from USCIS, stating her AOS was in fact canceled. After she read the letter that night, we had a huge fight, and I told her I wanted her out by dark the next day. She moved out again 5pm the following day. An hour later, at 6pm, she went to the police station and made a report that I tried to kill her. The police found it suspicious that she was reporting such a serious report 20 hours after she alleges it happened. We lived about 6 streets down from the police station lol. She was coached on how to make a report claiming abuse or "extreme cruelty", etc. She was actually going to go home to Moldova, but the network of illegal Russians here in town showed her how to dupe and play the system. She was out of status as of March 15th, but continued to remain in the U.S. and work illegally until she self-petitioned under VAWA in May. She received a free divorce attorney as well as a free immigration attorney. It was actually better for her to falsely claim to be a battered spouse than it was to remain married, she received many more free benefits and services, and got work authorization and the GC way faster. VAWA is the way to go.

Edited August 31, 2009 by Merrillizer

[ziia 9]

She was out of status as of March 15th, but continued to remain in the U.S. and work illegally until she self-petitioned under VAWA in May. She received a free divorce attorney as well as a free immigration attorney. It was actually better for her to falsely claim to be a battered spouse than it was to remain married, she received many more free benefits and services, and got work authorization and the GC way faster. VAWA is the way to go.

I didn't know someone who's marriage lasted 5 months, was out of status, therefore illegal and without a 2 year GC can adjust through VAWA. I thought VAWA can only be used to remove conditions, not to obtain the GC for the first time.