Adjustment to the US

[acrow 0]

I want to open this topic up again because it was interesting and even a little helpful to me. It got real ugly last time, so lets all be nice!

This is open to everyone! Not just Yardies...

How did the adjustment to the US go for you SO when he or she arrived? What helped ease the pain for him or her? Lets be honest...no matter how in love you are, it is going to be difficult for the man or woman that is giving up their home country...

and what were the highlights?

[acrow 0]

For me, just seeing him walk through the gate at the airport was a huge highlight. Since then, it has been the birth of our son, our marriage, the acceptance and love for him that my family has shown, his first paycheck, and just watching our relationship grow and evolve.

The hard parts for him was the food, the cold, and relying on me for all money and entertainment.

The things that I have done to ease his transition and help him:

Learn to cook Jamaican food!

Don't complain about the heating bill for that first winter.

Let him be the man in all of the ways that you can...I was patient with him and realized that it was emmasculating for me to be the sole provider for the family and the one who made most of the decisions...so I made it clear to him that our house and things were OURS and I always consulted him on major decisions.

I made a cup of spending money that was for both of us. It was available to either one of us for extras...that way he didn't have to ask me for money every time he wanted something, and I didn't worry that we were spending more than we had budgeted.

I tried my best to show him around the city so that he could get around on his own

[justucia 0]

awesome ideas!

[^KK^ 3]

You had really good points!!!

[*JG* 2]

I learned that it is better to wait till he's here to go shopping for him. He won't like what you pick out for him and he really wants to go shopping with you. It's the fun of the experience.

I learned that if I take him to an International Grocery store and let him have at it, he is happiest picking out his own ingrediants and planning the menus. Once you know exactly what he needs, you can compromise and find some stuff at the farmer's market much cheaper.

I've learned if you buy a space heater, your gas bill is not so high.

[^KK^ 3]

that's true JG

[JAPrincess 27]

[SupportOAFJF 0]

no comment..no adjustment for me..mi perfect

[JAPrincess 27]

no comment..no adjustment for me..mi perfect

mi miss yuh, enoh... hope you had a great trip! Mrs.Perfect

[JelloShotGirl 0]

my husband came from Metro Manila a big city.... he has been here 2 years 4 months and I would say he is getting over the cultural differences a little bit finally, still getting used to peoples personality here and he still only likes asian food .

as far as adjusting it is not an overnight thing , its a long process it goes little by little

[MRStee 19]

For me, just seeing him walk through the gate at the airport was a huge highlight. Since then, it has been the birth of our son, our marriage, the acceptance and love for him that my family has shown, his first paycheck, and just watching our relationship grow and evolve.

The hard parts for him was the food, the cold, and relying on me for all money and entertainment.

The things that I have done to ease his transition and help him:

Learn to cook Jamaican food!

Don't complain about the heating bill for that first winter.

Let him be the man in all of the ways that you can...I was patient with him and realized that it was emmasculating for me to be the sole provider for the family and the one who made most of the decisions...so I made it clear to him that our house and things were OURS and I always consulted him on major decisions.

I made a cup of spending money that was for both of us. It was available to either one of us for extras...that way he didn't have to ask me for money every time he wanted something, and I didn't worry that we were spending more than we had budgeted.

I tried my best to show him around the city so that he could get around on his own

I like this post... In addition, I have teen age children and they volunteered to go places with him to... It lightens my load a bit too. I especially like the cup with the money!

I learned that it is better to wait till he's here to go shopping for him. He won't like what you pick out for him and he really wants to go shopping with you. It's the fun of the experience.

I learned that if I take him to an International Grocery store and let him have at it, he is happiest picking out his own ingrediants and planning the menus. Once you know exactly what he needs, you can compromise and find some stuff at the farmer's market much cheaper.

I've learned if you buy a space heater, your gas bill is not so high.

I like these too JG!

[SupportOAFJF 0]

no comment..no adjustment for me..mi perfect

mi miss yuh, enoh... hope you had a great trip! Mrs.Perfect

tanks..yuh knoa mi just si dis...a laughta wi sey ahahaa

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

I want to open this topic up again because it was interesting and even a little helpful to me. It got real ugly last time, so lets all be nice!

This is open to everyone! Not just Yardies...

How did the adjustment to the US go for you SO when he or she arrived? What helped ease the pain for him or her? Lets be honest...no matter how in love you are, it is going to be difficult for the man or woman that is giving up their home country...

and what were the highlights?

Can't add much here, but I'll say this. TAKE YOUR TIME getting to know your "SO"... culture, food, music, family (sometimes that's not enough)...sometimes I feel that some people rush, but then that's another topic. Just cause it look good or feel good no mean seh it good fi u....watah undah bridge mine it rise.