Victim of Domestic Violence

[sophie_09 0]

Hi to all VJ family,

I am trying to be strong... I am a victim of domestic violence. At first I experienced a verbal abused.. but later on it went into a physical abused.Last two weeks my husband got arrested ,and went to jail for the grounds of domestic abused, he punched me on my face while he was driving.. he had always a bad temper .. since we got married 1- 1/2 year ago. I am trying to console myself that he will gonna change... but I had enough... I called a police that time when he punched me on my left face..

and the police officer interviewed me about what happened. I said its not the first time that he hurts me.. last time he kicked me on my back while he's trying to stop me for appying for a job through the intenet. We both got laid off last month. He said "just wait for my EDD claim first..."before u apply for a job... i don't know why he had an attitude like that.

Now I am with my friends house.. because I filled a TRO(temp restrining order) against him.

We just renting a room so I am not safe to go back on that apartment. My friend said that my husband was already bailled-out after 24 hours on the jail.

Last time i received an email telling me that my husband was planning to fill a divorce.. and he's threatened me he will go to immigration to report that i'm not with him ...to deport me.. ( I don't wanna stay with him i am not safe .. so i hide on my friends house)

He's currently under TRO..

I am worried right now, I am asking your help about my situations, though i know I have the rights as a read under VAWA (violence against womens act).

But I don't have a job right now, to hire an immigration lawyer to apply for a vawa petition.

I don't know what's the best step to do?

Can I fill-up application for vawa petition or self- petition? to remove my condition right away.. my 2 years conditional visa will be expire next year?

Your response will be a great help for me..

Thanks so much!

sincerely,

sophie

[Kathryn41 3,205]

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[GhanaMade88 0]

Hi to all VJ family,

I am trying to be strong... I am a victim of domestic violence. At first I experienced a verbal abused.. but later on it went into a physical abused.Last two weeks my husband got arrested ,and went to jail for the grounds of domestic abused, he punched me on my face while he was driving.. he had always a bad temper .. since we got married 1- 1/2 year ago. I am trying to console myself that he will gonna change... but I had enough... I called a police that time when he punched me on my left face..

and the police officer interviewed me about what happened. I said its not the first time that he hurts me.. last time he kicked me on my back while he's trying to stop me for appying for a job through the intenet. We both got laid off last month. He said "just wait for my EDD claim first..."before u apply for a job... i don't know why he had an attitude like that.

Now I am with my friends house.. because I filled a TRO(temp restrining order) against him.

We just renting a room so I am not safe to go back on that apartment. My friend said that my husband was already bailled-out after 24 hours on the jail.

Last time i received an email telling me that my husband was planning to fill a divorce.. and he's threatened me he will go to immigration to report that i'm not with him ...to deport me.. ( I don't wanna stay with him i am not safe .. so i hide on my friends house)

He's currently under TRO..

I am worried right now, I am asking your help about my situations, though i know I have the rights as a read under VAWA (violence against womens act).

But I don't have a job right now, to hire an immigration lawyer to apply for a vawa petition.

I don't know what's the best step to do?

Can I fill-up application for vawa petition or self- petition? to remove my condition right away.. my 2 years conditional visa will be expire next year?

Your response will be a great help for me..

Thanks so much!

sincerely,

sophie

sorry to hear that, try to find catholic charities in ur area

[Chica Yeyé 41]

First of all, stay safe.

Second, contact Catholic Charities in your area -- they offer free legal assistance for women in your situation.

If you decide to get a divorce, you can file to Remove conditions on your residence on your own. Best of luck.

[Minya's wife 25]

Hi to all VJ family,

I am trying to be strong... I am a victim of domestic violence. At first I experienced a verbal abused.. but later on it went into a physical abused.Last two weeks my husband got arrested ,and went to jail for the grounds of domestic abused, he punched me on my face while he was driving.. he had always a bad temper .. since we got married 1- 1/2 year ago. I am trying to console myself that he will gonna change... but I had enough... I called a police that time when he punched me on my left face..

and the police officer interviewed me about what happened. I said its not the first time that he hurts me.. last time he kicked me on my back while he's trying to stop me for appying for a job through the intenet. We both got laid off last month. He said "just wait for my EDD claim first..."before u apply for a job... i don't know why he had an attitude like that.

Now I am with my friends house.. because I filled a TRO(temp restrining order) against him.

We just renting a room so I am not safe to go back on that apartment. My friend said that my husband was already bailled-out after 24 hours on the jail.

Last time i received an email telling me that my husband was planning to fill a divorce.. and he's threatened me he will go to immigration to report that i'm not with him ...to deport me.. ( I don't wanna stay with him i am not safe .. so i hide on my friends house)

He's currently under TRO..

I am worried right now, I am asking your help about my situations, though i know I have the rights as a read under VAWA (violence against womens act).

But I don't have a job right now, to hire an immigration lawyer to apply for a vawa petition.

I don't know what's the best step to do?

Can I fill-up application for vawa petition or self- petition? to remove my condition right away.. my 2 years conditional visa will be expire next year?

Find charities in your area that may have pro-bono lawyers who can assist you. You can try through the Catholic Church or some of the abused women's shelters have information on who may be able to assist you...but you should consider filing for a divorce as well. You should also keep all documentation of you calling the police and having to place a restraining order against your husband. These will be used in your VAWA petition as proof of the abuse.

Your response will be a great help for me..

Thanks so much!

sincerely,

sophie

[tamara143 1]

hi sophie,

please send me a message. perhaps i could help you. we're on the same boat.

God bless!

Hi to all VJ family,

I am trying to be strong... I am a victim of domestic violence. At first I experienced a verbal abused.. but later on it went into a physical abused.Last two weeks my husband got arrested ,and went to jail for the grounds of domestic abused, he punched me on my face while he was driving.. he had always a bad temper .. since we got married 1- 1/2 year ago. I am trying to console myself that he will gonna change... but I had enough... I called a police that time when he punched me on my left face..

and the police officer interviewed me about what happened. I said its not the first time that he hurts me.. last time he kicked me on my back while he's trying to stop me for appying for a job through the intenet. We both got laid off last month. He said "just wait for my EDD claim first..."before u apply for a job... i don't know why he had an attitude like that.

Now I am with my friends house.. because I filled a TRO(temp restrining order) against him.

We just renting a room so I am not safe to go back on that apartment. My friend said that my husband was already bailled-out after 24 hours on the jail.

Last time i received an email telling me that my husband was planning to fill a divorce.. and he's threatened me he will go to immigration to report that i'm not with him ...to deport me.. ( I don't wanna stay with him i am not safe .. so i hide on my friends house)

He's currently under TRO..

I am worried right now, I am asking your help about my situations, though i know I have the rights as a read under VAWA (violence against womens act).

But I don't have a job right now, to hire an immigration lawyer to apply for a vawa petition.

I don't know what's the best step to do?

Can I fill-up application for vawa petition or self- petition? to remove my condition right away.. my 2 years conditional visa will be expire next year?

Your response will be a great help for me..

Thanks so much!

sincerely,

sophie

[TracyTN 237]

Whatever you do, keep yourself safe first. I hope the advice others have given you (about divorce and immigration) will help. Catholic Charities is a good place to start.

[MamaAsiya 8]

Hi to all VJ family,

I am trying to be strong... I am a victim of domestic violence. At first I experienced a verbal abused.. but later on it went into a physical abused.Last two weeks my husband got arrested ,and went to jail for the grounds of domestic abused, he punched me on my face while he was driving.. he had always a bad temper .. since we got married 1- 1/2 year ago. I am trying to console myself that he will gonna change... but I had enough... I called a police that time when he punched me on my left face..

and the police officer interviewed me about what happened. I said its not the first time that he hurts me.. last time he kicked me on my back while he's trying to stop me for appying for a job through the intenet. We both got laid off last month. He said "just wait for my EDD claim first..."before u apply for a job... i don't know why he had an attitude like that.

Now I am with my friends house.. because I filled a TRO(temp restrining order) against him.

We just renting a room so I am not safe to go back on that apartment. My friend said that my husband was already bailled-out after 24 hours on the jail.

Last time i received an email telling me that my husband was planning to fill a divorce.. and he's threatened me he will go to immigration to report that i'm not with him ...to deport me.. ( I don't wanna stay with him i am not safe .. so i hide on my friends house)

He's currently under TRO..

I am worried right now, I am asking your help about my situations, though i know I have the rights as a read under VAWA (violence against womens act).

But I don't have a job right now, to hire an immigration lawyer to apply for a vawa petition.

I don't know what's the best step to do?

Can I fill-up application for vawa petition or self- petition? to remove my condition right away.. my 2 years conditional visa will be expire next year?

Your response will be a great help for me..

Thanks so much!

sincerely,

sophie

The police and court should have provided you with contact information for free services. If you do not have them, google your location and "domestic violent services." Start calling around until you get connected to the proper networks. There are many free services available. Here in California, you can get legal advice, shelter, food and counseling. I strongly recommend going to a support group. Don't let him control you with fear - he's done enough damage. Take care of yourself.

[Okalian 41]

Sophie,

You don't even need to wait to file for a divorce..you can apply NOW to remove your condition especially with your harsh abuse, i think your case has a great chance for approval due to the amount of evidence (the numerous police reports) and the extent of physical abuse. There has been approvals for spouses under psychological abuse that were approved merely with psychiatrist's reports.

With all due respect to your husband, i think only a douche bag would hit a woman. Please be safe.

Edited February 17, 2010 by Okalian

[candelari 0]

Hi to all VJ family,

I am trying to be strong... I am a victim of domestic violence. At first I experienced a verbal abused.. but later on it went into a physical abused.Last two weeks my husband got arrested ,and went to jail for the grounds of domestic abused, he punched me on my face while he was driving.. he had always a bad temper .. since we got married 1- 1/2 year ago. I am trying to console myself that he will gonna change... but I had enough... I called a police that time when he punched me on my left face..

and the police officer interviewed me about what happened. I said its not the first time that he hurts me.. last time he kicked me on my back while he's trying to stop me for appying for a job through the intenet. We both got laid off last month. He said "just wait for my EDD claim first..."before u apply for a job... i don't know why he had an attitude like that.

Now I am with my friends house.. because I filled a TRO(temp restrining order) against him.

We just renting a room so I am not safe to go back on that apartment. My friend said that my husband was already bailled-out after 24 hours on the jail.

Last time i received an email telling me that my husband was planning to fill a divorce.. and he's threatened me he will go to immigration to report that i'm not with him ...to deport me.. ( I don't wanna stay with him i am not safe .. so i hide on my friends house)

He's currently under TRO..

I am worried right now, I am asking your help about my situations, though i know I have the rights as a read under VAWA (violence against womens act).

But I don't have a job right now, to hire an immigration lawyer to apply for a vawa petition.

I don't know what's the best step to do?

Can I fill-up application for vawa petition or self- petition? to remove my condition right away.. my 2 years conditional visa will be expire next year?

Your response will be a great help for me..

Thanks so much!

sincerely,

sophie

hi sophie,

do you currently have a green card? Since you were applying for a job I assume you do. You do not need to apply for VAWA. Please finalize your divorce and keep all the documents to prove your marrige was bone fide. Even if your husband doesn't let you to have any documents all you need copy of the police report and restraining order. File for ROC based on abuse and you are good to go. His threats are empty he CAN NOT do anything.... Stay strong....

[TBoneTX 45,957]

Note: This thread began in August 2009 and was last answered in October 2009, before folks recently began posting as though it were new. We can likely forgo responding further to this thread.