BIG FIGHT

[Nahum and Stacey 0]

We have had our fights and usually say things in the heat of the moment we definately dont mean. We have both learned to swallow our pride and apologize if we are in the wrong. We have only signed out on an argument once. Our usual way to resolve these things is to not sign out but step back and give each other time then come back and talk. It doesnt take long before we are a happy loving couple again. (This worked on our really big fight too, but we did sign out for 20min before we came running back to talk)

[AbbynSheryl 0]

hey have to talk to each other again yet or not, if not be the first one to appologize and always start your sentence with I and he will reponce u nicely, in a relation it does not hurt to appologize and really it does not matter who's fault it is, u have a long life together, wish u all the happiness,

abby n sheryl

[bowgirl 8]

I just had a fight..as in BIG fight (online) with my husband and my hands are still shaking until now and I'm not really into my senses. That argument really drained me..mentally and emotionally. And it's sooooo hard when you're in "you're so near, yet so far" situation because of internet. And I'm sure I'm not the only one in (and have been) this situation. So what do you guys do when you're in situations like this..? How do you kiss and make-up?

beth

How did you fight?? If you ALWAYS fighting, You have more fight when you get to the US. and hopefully No physical involve.

No, we don't fight often. Actually, whenever we have arguments, it's always because of me. I read from one site that women are hormonal during that "time" of the month, and I always want to argue with him during that time. I know it sounds crazy and I'm really trying now to control my emotions and not look for anything for us to fight about. Anyway, he went to L.A. for 2days to meet his cousins and he didn't call me so I was here worried because the last thing I knew was he was going to L.A. Reason? He forgot his phone at the hotel..that was the lamest excuse..! He already said sorry and promised he won't do it again but I still don't feel like talking.

[k.loveh 0]

He already said sorry and promised he won't do it again but I still don't feel like talking.

It will be alright, You don't feel like talking because it's still a little too soon for you...give it another good nights sleep(24 more hours) then you will.

[Mae and Jack 0]

I just had a fight..as in BIG fight (online) with my husband and my hands are still shaking until now and I'm not really into my senses. That argument really drained me..mentally and emotionally. And it's sooooo hard when you're in "you're so near, yet so far" situation because of internet. And I'm sure I'm not the only one in (and have been) this situation. So what do you guys do when you're in situations like this..? How do you kiss and make-up?

beth

For long distance relationships, two words...........Cam Sex.

[bowgirl 8]

I suppose it depends what was said. During our LDR, there were several incidents, and one bad one, where I wanted to call the whole thing off. If was not for anything she did, I just got a bad case of cold feet, after a birthday party for my friend's Filipina step-daughter. Some things I saw in that group of Filipinas scared the hell out of me. After some encouragment from my freind, and some deep feeling of guilt, I decided to try and restart the relationship. It took about a week before things had gotten back to "normal". She had torn up my picture, and washed my shirt already.

It's time for you to reevaluate your situaton, and if you want to continue, take it slow, and things will fall back into place. These things happen, and will happen again, and again, when emotions are involved.

thanks po, mister bill

[bowgirl 8]

I just had a fight..as in BIG fight (online) with my husband and my hands are still shaking until now and I'm not really into my senses. That argument really drained me..mentally and emotionally. And it's sooooo hard when you're in "you're so near, yet so far" situation because of internet. And I'm sure I'm not the only one in (and have been) this situation. So what do you guys do when you're in situations like this..? How do you kiss and make-up?

beth

Me and my SO have fights too and sometimes they're so big that I think that it's non-repairable, but I'm always wrong.

As long as you both love each other to the max, it will be alright.

It helps me to make up after I've listened to our favorite songs, and think about the loving words he spoke just before the arguement and how we are when we're together in person...all this helps my anger disapear and it works for him as well.

Love is Unconditional...Pride doesn't belong here.

i agree with you.

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

I just had a fight..as in BIG fight (online) with my husband and my hands are still shaking until now and I'm not really into my senses. That argument really drained me..mentally and emotionally. And it's sooooo hard when you're in "you're so near, yet so far" situation because of internet. And I'm sure I'm not the only one in (and have been) this situation. So what do you guys do when you're in situations like this..? How do you kiss and make-up?

beth

How did you fight?? If you ALWAYS fighting, You have more fight when you get to the US. and hopefully No physical involve.

No, we don't fight often. Actually, whenever we have arguments, it's always because of me. I read from one site that women are hormonal during that "time" of the month, and I always want to argue with him during that time. I know it sounds crazy and I'm really trying now to control my emotions and not look for anything for us to fight about. Anyway, he went to L.A. for 2days to meet his cousins and he didn't call me so I was here worried because the last thing I knew was he was going to L.A. Reason? He forgot his phone at the hotel..that was the lamest excuse..! He already said sorry and promised he won't do it again but I still don't feel like talking.

you being angry with a valid reason is acceptable...and understandable. if i was in your shoes i would feel the same too, forgeting "personal thing" like CP is really kinda....lame and unbuying reason! but, your husband is just human that makes mistakes as you do...he was maybe in a hurry seeing his cousins and thats why he forgot to grab his phone.

when u are ready to talk, ask him what really happened....he's your husband so am sure he would tell the truth.

good luck!

[ski4evr 0]

I just had a fight..as in BIG fight (online) with my husband and my hands are still shaking until now and I'm not really into my senses. That argument really drained me..mentally and emotionally. And it's sooooo hard when you're in "you're so near, yet so far" situation because of internet. And I'm sure I'm not the only one in (and have been) this situation. So what do you guys do when you're in situations like this..? How do you kiss and make-up?

beth

"This to Shall Pass"

I find out that when my wife and I argue there is usually some underlying reason. The biggest one is miss communication or a "lost in translation". The problem was not an issue but simply not understanding the words that were being used.

I also own up to my mistake by asking myself "what is my part in the situation" and promptly admitted it where I was wrong and apologized for my part with no expectations that I will get one in return because that will lead to an instant resentment. If you make it through it all I promise it will make your hearts grow stronger and when you get together nothing will be as bad. If you do believe, pray for guidance and help to the higher power of your choice. Life is always easier when you can let God deal with it. Why let it keep yourself up all night when you can turn it over to God, let him deal with it because he will be up all night anyway!

Best wishes & blessings,

Ski

[Skeeter211 2]

I understand you were upset, worried and hurt that he didn't call you. I also understand your sweetheart is only human and made a mistake in leaving his phone. Unless there are some other issues surrounding his phone that are causing a bigger problem in the relationship, I do not think this is the kind of thing that should be cause for a "big fight", but that is only my opinion. If it were happening more than just one time, then maybe my opinion would be different.

Do you trust his response that it was only an accident that the phone was left behind or are you feeling that he did it on purpose for some reason? This is something that you need to communicate to your partner. When you are feeling calm, talk to him in an honest and open communication. Let him calmly know how it made you feel. Let him explain and apologize. Then forgive him when you feel its in your heart and move on. As I said, I just don't see this as a relationship killer. If you can't get past this, then I believe you have a long road ahead in this relationship. Communication is the key!

Just my opinions for what it's worth. I hope I have been a help in some way.

Scott

[bowgirl 8]

I understand you were upset, worried and hurt that he didn't call you. I also understand your sweetheart is only human and made a mistake in leaving his phone. Unless there are some other issues surrounding his phone that are causing a bigger problem in the relationship, I do not think this is the kind of thing that should be cause for a "big fight", but that is only my opinion. If it were happening more than just one time, then maybe my opinion would be different.

Do you trust his response that it was only an accident that the phone was left behind or are you feeling that he did it on purpose for some reason? This is something that you need to communicate to your partner. When you are feeling calm, talk to him in an honest and open communication. Let him calmly know how it made you feel. Let him explain and apologize. Then forgive him when you feel its in your heart and move on. As I said, I just don't see this as a relationship killer. If you can't get past this, then I believe you have a long road ahead in this relationship. Communication is the key!

Just my opinions for what it's worth. I hope I have been a help in some way.

Scott

Yes, I believe him now when he told me he forgot his phone. It happened here twice when he visited me in Manila. We're okay now..as much as possible , I don't want to be mad at him for days..actually, I can't be mad at him for long..it's not healthy. And I know he's sincere saying sorry and I know he won't do it again because if he did, I'll chop that "thing" off and feed it to my dogs, hehehe...ofcourse, I'm just kidding!

[L179 1]

Yes, wait it out for a day maybe then, of course it will be easier than you think!

[MarPhee 1]

submit yourself to your man. ask forgiveness . that's what i did.

[JoBri 548]

How did you fight?? If you ALWAYS fighting, You have more fight when you get to the US. and hopefully No physical involve.

My gosh... dont listen to stuff like this above. Long distance relationships, when real, are very hard, emotionally and mentally. Just let go for a day or two. We had troubles over last Christmas, and it was the longest few days of my life. Didnt talk in 3 days. Then I got a message on my cell phone when I was at the store, and my heart lept with joy... Actually, it kinda helps things, because it makes a person take stock of what is REALLY important in life, and that is the one you are in love with... All else is insignificant without that person...

[mark&rhiz 0]

you know....I have a really nice Iphone....but I forget it in the car, in my house all the time. I got a call from my dad (83 yrs), who always monitored us on the phone when I was young, and he tried to calling me one day, I did not answer because I did not have my phone with me and he was kind of scolding me. I told him dad, hey, I lived most my life without a phone glued to my hip, it does not matter to me that much to me.

It happens, and to him a phone might just not be the most important thing when he steps out. You can be upset because you were worried, but be happy that he is ok and nothing happen to him. To me being upset is one thing, being angered is another. 2 different levels, ha ha ha.

Remember, arguments can have very lingering effects, because some times people say things more out of emotion than to prove a point and those things can be hurtful. Sure people can say they are sorry, but the statements are still stored inside the brain.

Save your energy for more important things, like making love!!!!