Having a tough time...

[Mephys 2]

Oh Laura I'm sorry I didn't see this post earlier.

I so understand what you are going through. I missed your post because my girlfriend from Montreal was visiting me last week with her BF and their 5 months old baby. She lost her first baby 3 years ago and I was so sad to leave her behind when she was going through all the hard times, and I wasn't there when she was pregnant and couldn't even visit her at the hospital when her son was born.

They left last week and I got homesick and cried for 3 days. Missing my family, missing my friends.

My brother's best friend got married last saturday and all my family was there....except me.

And I'm thinking, when we have a baby, not only my family won't be present as much as I would like them to, but also Josh's family. They all live in Michigan 3 hours away. Not that far, indeed, but with our work schedules, the 3 boys, and the time we have left together it's really hard to find time to go.

So our child will barely any of his grand parents. Maybe his cousins once a year. And hopefully our child will pick up my French so he can talk to his own family.

So I have to stop thinking about all this. I love my husband so much I can't see myself without him, but that's the price to pay. I'd rather be homesick and cry a few days every 6 months than cry myself to sleep everynight because I miss him so much and be completely unable to get through the day.

Good now my husband feels guilty too because he just read that last sentence

Anyhow (((((hugs))))

[jg_am 0]

Late to this party again, but here's our situation: We live just outside of Philly. My wife's family is about an hour and a half north of Barrie. We have a 19 month old. Her mom was able to come when the baby was born and her dad a few weeks after that. It's hard for her because of how much our son is changing and that we only see her family 2 or three times a year. Add to that her parents are the "cool grandparents" and my family is always wondering when they can see us again. By cool I mean they appreciate and play with Joshua rather than demand his time like my folks do. She also hasn't really made any friends yet. At church, people tried to get to know her but it's the standard questions: you're used to the cold; I bet this snow is nothing, eh? She says it's more like I just added her to my lide than us starting a new one together. I've had the same job, friends, area, she's left everything. At least once a month, if not more, she talks about moving. I'm not much of a help to her beacuse I've never left the area, but she's moved a few times, even to ALberta and back. She's used to coutry living, and can't stand the crowdedness of the city.

All that to say I feel bad for her and don't know what to do. It hasn't been easy for her by any means. We want to move closer one day(her sooner than me) but again, I don't know where and feel limited by my job choice(work for a tv station and those jobs are disapperaing).

[Krikit 1,164]

Awww. Hugs to you and your wife, jg_am. (F)

[Allie and Nigel 2]

I came to the USA from Canada 16 years ago with a new baby, newly married, my family made sure I came back home every year to see them for about a month, and have been doing this every year ever since, also with the age of webcams and computers, its no excuse not to see or talk to your loved ones wherever they are whenever you want.

[SpiritAlight 1]

sigh

This thread reinforces "the price to pay" for moving to live with a loved one.

It's a shame...truly a shame.

Whether there are children in the picture or not; I can imagine it's even more challenging with children not having access to their extended family, and the new mom not having access to her mom for support et al.

This is so heart wrenching I cannot even say any more at the moment.

Hugs to all of you...to all of us...who are having trouble with this.

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