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The boyfriend and I do not fight well. Both of us have explosive tempers; neither of us are physically violent, but serious arguments get very heated.

We deal with it by just working with an understanding that we yell, and that it blows over.

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*Robert* Veteran

*Robert*   2

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I can count on one hand the number of serious fights we've had -- we bicker all the time, however. Apparently he doesn't like to be told how to drive, lol.

:lol::lol:

ya. don't EVER tell a guy how to drive. :diablo::lol:

Daniel

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:lol::lol:

I hear the words "I HAVE A FREAKIN' CDL FOR CHRISSAKES!!" from my hubby on a daily basis. :hehe:

:lol:

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

That is tooooooooo damn funny!!!! Woo Hoo!!!

You need to ask him to check the expiration date next time he says that!!! :D:thumbs:

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07-21-08: Mailed I-751 to VSC

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02-25-09: I-751 transferred to CSC

04-17-09: I-751 Approved

06-22-09: Received 10 yr Green Card

N-400 Timeline

07-20-09: Mailed N-400 to Lewisville, TX

07-23-09: NOA for N-400

08-14-09: Biometrics Appointment

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10-30-09: Oath Ceremony

11-20-09: Received Passport!!!

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one...two...tree   2,762

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We have some things that are similar to Gwen and Steve and Jinky.

I am the silent one, and he is the one voicing concern etc. Usually the arguments we have been having are common and stupid misunderstandings.

We never say anything we cant take back, no name calling or saying hurtful spaiteful things.

and NEVER EVER go to bed Angry. Even if I am wrong (usually I am not ha ha) I will swallow my pride just so we dont go to bed angry.

bottom line, there are deffinately rules to fighting with your spouse or SO, fight fair!! Always make up!!

and apparently laundry is involved....LOL...I ont get that bit, but oh well.

Name calling in my opinion leaves permanent scars. I was raised not to call people names. Unfortunately, I happened to marry (first wife) someone who wouldn't hesitate to call me names. It really stung when she'd do it in front of our kids....sigh. So, yes, you have to fight fair - there are somethings that are really hard to forget.

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Name calling is bad because once said, you can never take it back...

2004

April A friend told me that she thought my ideal man lived in Wyoming or Montana.

May 17 Did search on match.com. Found no-one in Wyoming. Only wrote to one person in Montana...his name was John. He replied two hours later.

Jun 26 Flew to Missoula to meet him & a weekend trip turned into a five week visit...

Many trips between US, Canada & Europe.

2005

March 31 During a meeting in Vancouver, John proposed & I said YES!!!

Jun 2 Finally sent off our I-129F & a few days later we received NOA1. I am now officially an alien bride-to-be.

Aug 22 Email notification of NOA2.

Sep 12 Received letter to say application would be forwarded to US Embassy.

Nov 23 Returned packet 3 to Embassy

Nov 30 Medical

2006

Jan 5 Got interview date

Feb 1 Interview. APPROVED!

Feb 2 Visa delivered.

Feb 7 Flight to Seattle.

Feb 8 Finally back home in Missoula, MT. I'm happy, John's happy & the cats are ecstatic - together again!

Apr 22 Wedding Day!

May 6 Sent AOS application

May 7 Honeymoon

May 23 NOA date for AOS, EAD & AP

Jun 12 Biometrics

Jun 15 RFE for AOS mailed

Jun 20 RFE received

Aug 16 RFE reply sent

Aug 31 AP approved!

Sep 5 EAD approved

Sep 8 AP received

Nov 13 Interview letter

Dec 14 Interview. Success!

Dec 26 Got green card!

2008

Oct 08 I-751 to remove conditions sent to CSC

Oct 14 NOA

Nov 21 Biometrics

2009

Jan 7 Approval notice

Jan 12 Received greencard

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*Robert*   2

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Agree with the fighting fair part... I just don't go for the rules part, and neither does my OH.

She told me upfront what to expect, and what I needed to do, and that's about it.

K-1 Timeline

11-29-05: Mailed I-129F Petition to CSC

12-06-05: NOA1

03-02-06: NOA2

03-23-06: Interview Date May 16

05-17-06: K-1 Visa Issued

05-20-06: Arrived at POE, Honolulu

07-17-06: Married

AOS Timeline

08-14-06: Mailed I-485 to Chicago

08-24-06: NOA for I-485

09-08-06: Biometrics Appointment

09-25-06: I-485 transferred to CSC

09-28-06: I-485 received at CSC

10-18-06: AOS Approved

10-21-06: Approval notice mailed

10-23-06: Received "Welcome Letter"

10-27-06: Received 2 yr Green Card

I-751 Timeline

07-21-08: Mailed I-751 to VSC

07-25-08: NOA for I-751

08-27-08: Biometrics Appointment

02-25-09: I-751 transferred to CSC

04-17-09: I-751 Approved

06-22-09: Received 10 yr Green Card

N-400 Timeline

07-20-09: Mailed N-400 to Lewisville, TX

07-23-09: NOA for N-400

08-14-09: Biometrics Appointment

09-08-09: Interview Date Oct 07

10-30-09: Oath Ceremony

11-20-09: Received Passport!!!

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my temper comes in bursts usually.... I get really mad but then it blows over really quick....

sometimes I give hubby the silent treatment but hubby has a way of getting me out of those :unsure:(L)

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There seems to be a common theme with the women on here... the dreaded "silent treatment". Where the hell do you guys learn that from? Is there a special class you guys go to to learn how to do it? :unsure:

It's just plain annoying!!! :angry::P

K-1 Timeline

11-29-05: Mailed I-129F Petition to CSC

12-06-05: NOA1

03-02-06: NOA2

03-23-06: Interview Date May 16

05-17-06: K-1 Visa Issued

05-20-06: Arrived at POE, Honolulu

07-17-06: Married

AOS Timeline

08-14-06: Mailed I-485 to Chicago

08-24-06: NOA for I-485

09-08-06: Biometrics Appointment

09-25-06: I-485 transferred to CSC

09-28-06: I-485 received at CSC

10-18-06: AOS Approved

10-21-06: Approval notice mailed

10-23-06: Received "Welcome Letter"

10-27-06: Received 2 yr Green Card

I-751 Timeline

07-21-08: Mailed I-751 to VSC

07-25-08: NOA for I-751

08-27-08: Biometrics Appointment

02-25-09: I-751 transferred to CSC

04-17-09: I-751 Approved

06-22-09: Received 10 yr Green Card

N-400 Timeline

07-20-09: Mailed N-400 to Lewisville, TX

07-23-09: NOA for N-400

08-14-09: Biometrics Appointment

09-08-09: Interview Date Oct 07

10-30-09: Oath Ceremony

11-20-09: Received Passport!!!

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There seems to be a common theme with the women on here... the dreaded "silent treatment". Where the hell do you guys learn that from? Is there a special class you guys go to to learn how to do it? :unsure:

It's just plain annoying!!! :angry::P

Well my husband is the one who likes to do the silent treatment. During major fights--we have gone more than 4 days without speaking. BUt its been a long time since we've done that. I guess were learning how to fight fair too.

February 17, 2005--mailed in I 129F to CSC!

February 24, 2005--1st NOA

March 15, 2005--2nd NOA

April 11, 2005--Fiance receives Packet 3

May 19, 2005 Fax Checklist(Nigeria police report finally arrives)

June 6, 2005-- Interview Date!!!!Visa approved!!

June 18, 2005--Fiancee arrives in Hawaii!

August 14, 2005--wedding in Oregon

September 12, 2005--sent in AOS

September 20, 2005--1st NOA AOS

September 23, 2005--Walk-in biometrics completed

October 1, 2005--fingerprints received/processing resumed

November 26, 2005--EAD card received in mail

June 7, 2006--contact senators about AOS

June 28, 2006--senator says interview date is for August 14!!

August 14, 2006--AOS interview and 1 year wedding anniversary

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Go figure, I'm a confronter, lol

:blink: :blink:

You shut up!!! :o

No f'ing way!!! :blink:

:lol: :lol: :lol:

K-1 Timeline

11-29-05: Mailed I-129F Petition to CSC

12-06-05: NOA1

03-02-06: NOA2

03-23-06: Interview Date May 16

05-17-06: K-1 Visa Issued

05-20-06: Arrived at POE, Honolulu

07-17-06: Married

AOS Timeline

08-14-06: Mailed I-485 to Chicago

08-24-06: NOA for I-485

09-08-06: Biometrics Appointment

09-25-06: I-485 transferred to CSC

09-28-06: I-485 received at CSC

10-18-06: AOS Approved

10-21-06: Approval notice mailed

10-23-06: Received "Welcome Letter"

10-27-06: Received 2 yr Green Card

I-751 Timeline

07-21-08: Mailed I-751 to VSC

07-25-08: NOA for I-751

08-27-08: Biometrics Appointment

02-25-09: I-751 transferred to CSC

04-17-09: I-751 Approved

06-22-09: Received 10 yr Green Card

N-400 Timeline

07-20-09: Mailed N-400 to Lewisville, TX

07-23-09: NOA for N-400

08-14-09: Biometrics Appointment

09-08-09: Interview Date Oct 07

10-30-09: Oath Ceremony

11-20-09: Received Passport!!!

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Go figure, I'm a confronter, lol

:blink: :blink:

You shut up!!! :o

No f'ing way!!! :blink:

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Get that look of shock of your face!!! :lol:

I'm trying I'm trying... but its so hard!!! :blink:;)

K-1 Timeline

11-29-05: Mailed I-129F Petition to CSC

12-06-05: NOA1

03-02-06: NOA2

03-23-06: Interview Date May 16

05-17-06: K-1 Visa Issued

05-20-06: Arrived at POE, Honolulu

07-17-06: Married

AOS Timeline

08-14-06: Mailed I-485 to Chicago

08-24-06: NOA for I-485

09-08-06: Biometrics Appointment

09-25-06: I-485 transferred to CSC

09-28-06: I-485 received at CSC

10-18-06: AOS Approved

10-21-06: Approval notice mailed

10-23-06: Received "Welcome Letter"

10-27-06: Received 2 yr Green Card

I-751 Timeline

07-21-08: Mailed I-751 to VSC

07-25-08: NOA for I-751

08-27-08: Biometrics Appointment

02-25-09: I-751 transferred to CSC

04-17-09: I-751 Approved

06-22-09: Received 10 yr Green Card

N-400 Timeline

07-20-09: Mailed N-400 to Lewisville, TX

07-23-09: NOA for N-400

08-14-09: Biometrics Appointment

09-08-09: Interview Date Oct 07

10-30-09: Oath Ceremony

11-20-09: Received Passport!!!

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I dunno how you guys do that 'silent treatment' thing. I absolutely can't do it. If I'm upset I get a little vocal. But this is only when we're apart--it's really hard to fight in person.

We worked through all of our major lingering issues since we've been apart, on the other hand, though. So I guess some of it had to be said.

Now I guess I'll just wait a few years until something else develops? :)

*Alexandra*

(I did it)

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almaty Grand Master

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I can count on one hand the number of serious fights we've had -- we bicker all the time, however. Apparently he doesn't like to be told how to drive, lol.

:lol::lol:

ya. don't EVER tell a guy how to drive. :diablo::lol:

Daniel

:energetic:

:lol::lol:

I hear the words "I HAVE A FREAKIN' CDL FOR CHRISSAKES!!" from my hubby on a daily basis. :hehe:

:lol:

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

That is tooooooooo damn funny!!!! Woo Hoo!!!

You need to ask him to check the expiration date next time he says that!!! :D:thumbs:

sharon's hubby is a right thinking type of guy in my book

Peace to All creatures great and small............................................

But when we turn to the Hebrew literature, we do not find such jokes about the donkey. Rather the animal is known for its strength and its loyalty to its master (Genesis 49:14; Numbers 22:30).

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one...two...tree   2,762

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There seems to be a common theme with the women on here... the dreaded "silent treatment". Where the hell do you guys learn that from? Is there a special class you guys go to to learn how to do it? :unsure:

Bwahahahahahahahahahaha!!! :lol::lol::lol::lol:

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