Living outside the usa 6 months now

[daboyz 36]

while i can see why many people would be offended by the OP's post, he does have a good point. there's a lot of relationships that start online that are based on ill intentions on someone's part. don't be mad, be glad.

[NVC FAN :( 18]

great seatle that your able to stay with your fiancee for that time, however like someone else posted the real test is when she comes here. i am self employed so if i were to stay in ph that long i would be missing out on lots of income. good luck either way. my fiancee is here with me know for a month already on k1 from ph . she has ajusted , had a couple times she was sad . which is totally natural, i think this would happen though even if i stayed with her in ph for 6 months or 2 weeks.

ning, lol

[sara..... 371]

Is this the same poster that was going to die at any moment if we didn't all send our spare change to save him for the terrible place he had found himself in ?

yes

sara

[thepizzadude 26]

Is this the same poster that was going to die at any moment if we didn't all send our spare change to save him for the terrible place he had found himself in ?

Yes 5 or so months ago..can't remember exactly but wasn't this the first fiances cousin he's now with or something like that....

Edited August 21, 2009 by thepizzadude

[meowmeowmeow 1]

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...=194884&hl=

so how old are you seattlecebu?

[Lioncub4 4]

I have been living in Cebu Philippines for 6 months. We will probably get married later this year.

I had a bad experience with a fiance visa in the past, so I chose to come here and live for an extended time.

There is a very high risk to you if you carry on only an email and chat relationship and only go to visit your fiance

for a short time. The only way to really get to know someone is in person over time.

Many men ignore this advice because they have found a girl much prettier and younger than anything they can get in the states.

You are at a high risk for financial and emotional loss if you dont do some careful thinking.

Do you really understand the culture of the girl? Depending on where she is from, she may be living in poverty and lack of opportunity.

You are only a ticket out of her circumstances.

Im happy that I chose to live here, because at the 6 month mark we are only just beginning. in many ways.

Bringing a girl to the usa and getting to know her there is very high risk if not suicide.

the hard heads will raise noise to this... but I hope someone will take notice and spare themselves a lot of trouble.

Not really the same circumstances here as I am the USC and my fiance is from Scotland, but I went over to Scotland for six months last year and it was a wonderful experience!! When he was over here it was like we were in "holiday" mode. When I went there for six months we did the day to day living thing and really got to know each other. It was wonderful to just sit next to him on the couch and watch tv. Yes, it was a vacation for me in a beautiful country that I had never visited but it really was a wonderful opportunity for us to truly get to know each other. Without these six months, I am not sure where we would be right now. Besides I got a wonderful bonus out of it...I am pregnant with our first child due in October...lol So I am all for spending extended time with your fiance before marrying.

[Seattle2Cebu 0]

as for resources, i live the same as the people here. I get by on a low income. I eat the same food and live the same life. I wanted someone to accept me as I am. We may never come to the states. There are other americans living here also. I might come to visit, but I plan to live here. I like this girl because coming to the states is not on her agenda. If you really want a real test of your chat relationship, just tell her you are moving to her country and you wont bring her to the usa, see what that gets you..

The failure rates of short term internet relationships and k-1 visas is very high. You go ahead and learn the hard way.

If I was in charge of anything, I would abolish the k-1 visas entirely. and only have marriage visas..

After seeing the extent to which the usa exploits and takes advantage of these people and works with corruption in govt here, I dont consider myself an American. I am an Expat. All Americans should hang their heads in shame for what the usa has done to other people in the world.

I have been living in Cebu Philippines for 6 months. We will probably get married later this year.

I had a bad experience with a fiance visa in the past, so I chose to come here and live for an extended time.

There is a very high risk to you if you carry on only an email and chat relationship and only go to visit your fiance

for a short time. The only way to really get to know someone is in person over time.

Many men ignore this advice because they have found a girl much prettier and younger than anything they can get in the states.

You are at a high risk for financial and emotional loss if you dont do some careful thinking.

Do you really understand the culture of the girl? Depending on where she is from, she may be living in poverty and lack of opportunity.

You are only a ticket out of her circumstances.

Im happy that I chose to live here, because at the 6 month mark we are only just beginning. in many ways.

Bringing a girl to the usa and getting to know her there is very high risk if not suicide.

the hard heads will raise noise to this... but I hope someone will take notice and spare themselves a lot of trouble.

Not really the same circumstances here as I am the USC and my fiance is from Scotland, but I went over to Scotland for six months last year and it was a wonderful experience!! When he was over here it was like we were in "holiday" mode. When I went there for six months we did the day to day living thing and really got to know each other. It was wonderful to just sit next to him on the couch and watch tv. Yes, it was a vacation for me in a beautiful country that I had never visited but it really was a wonderful opportunity for us to truly get to know each other. Without these six months, I am not sure where we would be right now. Besides I got a wonderful bonus out of it...I am pregnant with our first child due in October...lol So I am all for spending extended time with your fiance before marrying.

Edited August 21, 2009 by Seattle2Cebu

[Ellie-and-David 38]

Is this the same poster that was going to die at any moment if we didn't all send our spare change to save him for the terrible place he had found himself in ?

Yes it is. And I am inclined to believe this tale of experience is as true as "I'm going to die if you dont send me your money" story.

OP - Glad to see you are yet to shuffle off the mortal coil and have time to antagonize online again. Feeling better?

[D&R 0]

I have been living in Cebu Philippines for 6 months. We will probably get married later this year.

I had a bad experience with a fiance visa in the past, so I chose to come here and live for an extended time.

There is a very high risk to you if you carry on only an email and chat relationship and only go to visit your fiance

for a short time. The only way to really get to know someone is in person over time.

Many men ignore this advice because they have found a girl much prettier and younger than anything they can get in the states.

You are at a high risk for financial and emotional loss if you dont do some careful thinking.

Do you really understand the culture of the girl? Depending on where she is from, she may be living in poverty and lack of opportunity.

You are only a ticket out of her circumstances.

Im happy that I chose to live here, because at the 6 month mark we are only just beginning. in many ways.

Bringing a girl to the usa and getting to know her there is very high risk if not suicide.

the hard heads will raise noise to this... but I hope someone will take notice and spare themselves a lot of trouble.

There is a very high risk to you if you carry on only an email and chat relationship and only go to visit your fiance

for a short time. The only way to really get to know someone is in person over time.

Correct, this is a very true statement. Chatting online a a poor replacement for getting to know someone 'face to face'. It's EXTREMELY easy to be a completely different person online if you want to. Also... I think even without realising it, or trying to, online your personality changed ever so slightly. I notice differences in personality just talking to my mates I've known for years when they're online. (that doesn't matter after you already know the person, but in the early stages of getting to know someone, it's very important).

Bringing a girl to the usa and getting to know her there is very high risk if not suicide. - THIS comment on the other hand... surely that works both ways. HER bring YOU to the Phillipines is JUST as much suicide as bringing her to the states. What's bad about the US that it breaks up relationships in a way that the Phillipines doesn't??

Surely if your relationship is strong it shouldn't matter where you're living?

[Dave-n-Oksana 49]

as for resources, i live the same as the people here. I get by on a low income. I eat the same food and live the same life. I wanted someone to accept me as I am. We may never come to the states. There are other americans living here also. I might come to visit, but I plan to live here. I like this girl because coming to the states is not on her agenda. If you really want a real test of your chat relationship, just tell her you are moving to her country and you wont bring her to the usa, see what that gets you..

The failure rates of short term internet relationships and k-1 visas is very high. You go ahead and learn the hard way.

If I was in charge of anything, I would abolish the k-1 visas entirely. and only have marriage visas..

After seeing the extent to which the usa exploits and takes advantage of these people and works with corruption in govt here, I dont consider myself an American. I am an Expat. All Americans should hang their heads in shame for what the usa has done to other people in the world.

If I may ask a question. If you do not plan to bring your fiancee here and plan on staying in Cebu, Why are you here?

I thought this site was to help those that are going through the Visa to Naturalization process. Not to be preached to by someone who is not even going through, nor planning to go through the process.

Yes there are scammers and to be honest living with someone for six months does not necessarily guarantee that you are getting to know that person. I do not plan to live in fear of what may happen. But I do plan to get to know my soulmate more and more each day for the rest of my life.

For what it's worth, I am glad that you are not in charge.

[Mountain Climber 186]

I have been living in Cebu Philippines for 6 months. We will probably get married later this year.

I had a bad experience with a fiance visa in the past, so I chose to come here and live for an extended time.

There is a very high risk to you if you carry on only an email and chat relationship and only go to visit your fiance

for a short time. The only way to really get to know someone is in person over time.

Many men ignore this advice because they have found a girl much prettier and younger than anything they can get in the states.

You are at a high risk for financial and emotional loss if you dont do some careful thinking.

Do you really understand the culture of the girl? Depending on where she is from, she may be living in poverty and lack of opportunity.

You are only a ticket out of her circumstances.

Im happy that I chose to live here, because at the 6 month mark we are only just beginning. in many ways.

Bringing a girl to the usa and getting to know her there is very high risk if not suicide.

the hard heads will raise noise to this... but I hope someone will take notice and spare themselves a lot of trouble.

I guess those of us that didnt do as you say are doomed to failure. I wish I had known.

Now we know to look to you for guidence. There must be a bright light shining behind you as you sit there on your mountain of knowledge for all to see. Oh to be such a sage. It must feel good to lord over the millions of mullions swimming at your feet. How to you decide who is to live & who is to die? Its a huge burden to bear.

How do you know 6 months is enough? Please keep us informed on how it goes because we need you to save us from ourselves.

I cant believe any of us survived without a message from before now. Must be why the suicide rate is so high.

We can only hope you are carving your commandments in stone just in case something happens to you so the rest of us can go on. Its been done before but some idiot lost the stones Mo brought down from the mountian.

Why the anger and sarcasm for someone expressing their opinion???

Edited August 21, 2009 by Mountain Climber

[Jasman0717 9]

I loved Cebu, might try to spend some time there once I retire

[Ning 619]

I have been living in Cebu Philippines for 6 months. We will probably get married later this year.

I had a bad experience with a fiance visa in the past, so I chose to come here and live for an extended time.

There is a very high risk to you if you carry on only an email and chat relationship and only go to visit your fiance

for a short time. The only way to really get to know someone is in person over time.

Many men ignore this advice because they have found a girl much prettier and younger than anything they can get in the states.

You are at a high risk for financial and emotional loss if you dont do some careful thinking.

Do you really understand the culture of the girl? Depending on where she is from, she may be living in poverty and lack of opportunity.

You are only a ticket out of her circumstances.

Im happy that I chose to live here, because at the 6 month mark we are only just beginning. in many ways.

Bringing a girl to the usa and getting to know her there is very high risk if not suicide.

the hard heads will raise noise to this... but I hope someone will take notice and spare themselves a lot of trouble.

I guess those of us that didnt do as you say are doomed to failure. I wish I had known.

Now we know to look to you for guidence. There must be a bright light shining behind you as you sit there on your mountain of knowledge for all to see. Oh to be such a sage. It must feel good to lord over the millions of mullions swimming at your feet. How to you decide who is to live & who is to die? Its a huge burden to bear.

How do you know 6 months is enough? Please keep us informed on how it goes because we need you to save us from ourselves.

I cant believe any of us survived without a message from before now. Must be why the suicide rate is so high.

We can only hope you are carving your commandments in stone just in case something happens to you so the rest of us can go on. Its been done before but some idiot lost the stones Mo brought down from the mountian.

Why the anger and sarcasm for someone expressing their opinion???

It is your opinion that I am angry. I am not. I am insulted by anyone that believes they need to explain the horrors of what I have done in this manner.

The sarcasum is how I choose to respond to someone questioning my decisions. Its my opinion about what he said we should do.

What is your opinion about what he has to say? For example did you go to Thailand to find a women you dont deserve & couldnt get here? Do you agree you are at a high risk for financial and emotional loss if you dont do some careful thinking?

Do you really understand the culture of the girl? Depending on where she is from, she may be living in poverty and lack of opportunity.

You are only a ticket out of her circumstances.

Bringing a girl to the usa and getting to know her there is very high risk if not suicide.

The guy wrote his post to express his opinion & expected others to comment. Thats exactly what happened.

[daboyz 36]

In before the lock

[Usui Takumi 1,562]

Despite the weirdness of this thread it does bring up a point. I am very surprised at the number of people on this site that take the jump after only meeting the person for a few days or a few weeks and having known the person for only a few months to a year.

I'm saying this in a negative manner, its just something I could never do (at least at this point in my life) and it really came as a shock to me.