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Peachey   10

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Oh and I'm also trying to convince my fiance to tell them they can't really plan anything including me at christmas time. I might not have my Visa by then!

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My fiance's next step is to get mean with his mom and sister and tell them we won't be attending any christmas festivities if they continue to be selfish. But I have this feeling they will just turn around and call me and Mike selfish.

ALL very weird stuff!

Let them call you selfish if it makes them happy.

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Wow, this is seriously unbelievable. It's not like you are inviting a stranger off the street. It is YOUR MOTHER ... who, IMO, becomes part of the family because marriage blends families together. I really don't have a lot of words, I just keep shaking my head at the computer screen.

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Okay, this just gets even worse. "Gift giving is a private matter."??? Passive aggressive behaviour??? Rearranging the date to specifically exclude family????? How charming they both seem. And how nice of them to show you their special ways before you waste any time celebrating the "Christ"mas season with them. That would make it so easy for me to say "I'm not going." I would volunteer to help the homeless instead. That would be my "gift" to his relatives.

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OMG what a nest of spiders you are falling into dear sister... WOW. Passive agressive abusive b1tches, just name the address and your problem shall be dealt with... courtesy of Commies for Christ.

In all seriousness, good for you and fiancee for having a no-secrets policy. It is always the best policy.

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Okay, this just gets even worse. "Gift giving is a private matter."??? Passive aggressive behaviour??? Rearranging the date to specifically exclude family????? How charming they both seem. And how nice of them to show you their special ways before you waste any time celebrating the "Christ"mas season with them. That would make it so easy for me to say "I'm not going." I would volunteer to help the homeless instead. That would be my "gift" to his relatives.

Ghastly ( nice word Krikit Carla)

Fixx0red. :)

My Husband just said he would be rearranging the date to miss the 'celebration'.

I say go ahead and offend them right now, this will help in that you can avoid all the passive aggressive visits in the future!

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Chica Yeyé   41

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Okay, this just gets even worse. "Gift giving is a private matter."??? Passive aggressive behaviour??? Rearranging the date to specifically exclude family????? How charming they both seem. And how nice of them to show you their special ways before you waste any time celebrating the "Christ"mas season with them. That would make it so easy for me to say "I'm not going." I would volunteer to help the homeless instead. That would be my "gift" to his relatives.

Ghastly ( nice word Krikit Carla)

Fixx0red. :)

My Husband just said he would be rearranging the date to miss the 'celebration'.

I say go ahead and offend them right now, this will help in that you can avoid all the passive aggressive visits in the future!

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:no: Absolutely horrible! At least it sounds like your fiance understands the situation and does not agree with his mother. Absolutely ridiculous. The way she is treating you now and your family will set the precedence for every family gathering and expectations, same thing with weddings (I am find this out through planning ours), you have to stand as a united front or else one of you gets blamed or singled out. Both of you need to put your foot down, or else they will not know that its NOT OKAY for this behavior to continue.

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HOLY SMOKES! I cannot believe what I am reading. I totally agree with Treble on this one. I would completely opt out of going and spend the entire time my mom was in town with her. NO ONE would tell me to leave my mom anywhere. I would never accept this.

Their behavior is DISGUSTING. Truly sickening. I could never imagine my in-laws doing such a thing to me and if they ever did, believe me, I'd make my feelings quite clear.

No one screws with my mom. :thumbs:

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Flames9_RN   358

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wow, I'm speechless!!! I could never imagine anyone saying that!! Hope it all works out. How can one say they are very "christian" and then do somethign like that? crazy.

Canadians Visiting the USA while undergoing the visa process, my free advice:

1) Always tell the TRUTH. never lie to the POE officer

2) Be confident in ur replies

3) keep ur response short and to the point, don't tell ur life story!!

4) look the POE officer in the eye when speaking to them. They are looking for people lieing and have been trained to find them!

5) Pack light! No job resumes with you

6) Bring ties to Canada (letter from employer when ur expected back at work, lease, etc etc)

7) Always be polite, being rude isn't going to get ya anywhere, and could make things worse!!

8) Have a plan in case u do get denied (be polite) It wont harm ur visa application if ur denied,that is if ur polite and didn't lie! Refer to #1

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Just so no one gets the wrong idea, typically my mother and sister are kind and caring people. Just for some reason they have gone off the deep end on this.

I have stood beside Peachey completely on this issue, and even told her I will take care of it so she doesn't have to deal with this stupidity.

I nicely asked both my sister and mother in May if they would mind, just as a polite thing to do. I informed them that she wouldn't be expecting any gifts or anything and would just enjoy to be with family during Christmastime.

My mother all but said no right to Peachey and I's faces. And my sister was so upset at me that she sent me one of the nastiest emails I've ever gotten.

Since May, I've been arguing with them over this, trying to get them to see that they are being irrational and rude. I can not get them to explain themselves sufficiently, and I'm afraid that we'll will have to skip Christmas this year.

The part that baffles me is, they don't care that:

1) She's down here because she's the only person who offered to help us move.

2) She's missing her family Christmas (her mom and siblings).

What's even more baffling is, it's not like my parents haven't met her before. She invited them up to stay at her cabin a few weekends ago, and took wonderful care of them.

It's not like you are inviting a stranger off the street. It is YOUR MOTHER ... who, IMO, becomes part of the family because marriage blends families together.

This is the strangest part to me too.

My mom and sister would probably be MORE open it was a stranger off the street, or a random orphan/refugee I was helping. In fact, in the past we've had people who were were helping attend our Christmases.

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Peachey: "We're REALLY weird."

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Peachey: "MOOOO! MOOOOO! Does this make me weird?"

Me: "No, well yes. Here, let me roll down the windows so they can hear you better!"

Peachey: "MOOOOO!!!!"

<back to interview>

Me: "Yes, yes I do."

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Whoa. So let me get this straight... They stayed at Peachy's Mom's cabin?? And they don't want her to be there at Xmas?

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Whoa. So let me get this straight... They stayed at Peachy's Mom's cabin?? And they don't want her to be there at Xmas?

Dude your family has some serious issues... I do not see this turning out too good for you guys and for that I am truly sorry

Why is it that the only one who can stop the crying is the one who started it in the first place?



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Varba- Take it from someone who has recently has some MAJOR family drama over a recent marriage in my family. If you don't get things straight now, with all the cards on the table, there will only be hell to pay for you and peachy later. So many people seem to be writing their own definition of FAMILY lately. What ever happened to caring for people and being welcoming?

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My eyes filled with grit

My skin's white then brown

My lips chapped and split

I've lain on the prairie and heard grasses sigh

I've stared at the vast open bowl of the sky

I've seen all the castles and faces in clouds

My home is the prairie and for that I am proud…

If You're not from the Prairie, you can't know my soul

You don't know our blizzards; you've not fought our cold

You can't know my mind, nor ever my heart

Unless deep within you there's somehow a part…

A part of these things that I've said that I know,

The wind, sky and earth, the storms and the snow.

Best say that you have - and then we'll be one,

For we will have shared that same blazing sun." - David Bouchard

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