My country this, my country that!

[Muh and me 18]

{{Terrie}}

When in Egypt and Jordan I would always make remarks like...."well, in the US we can....or we have...." I used to make fun of the fact that fast food delivered to homes WTH??!?? I would talk about their plumbing, AC, refrigeration, transportation, etc.... Not on small trips but on trips I spent an extended amount of time i.e.: summer, etc and it drove my cousins and my hubby crazy. So now when my husband has said things like that, I pretty much agree w/ him on what he misses and then we start talking about "imagine not having...." etc. It's really not much of an issue now.

Last time we talked about it he said I have nothing to go back to except to visit family. My life and family are here now and thats the truth. That does not mean he doesn't want to go back and visit or for us to have a home there one day but not without our entire family.

I think you are all missing the whole premises of this post (and maybe thats my fault). My beef is not that its my country this and that but, I have to pay for ramadan cause i am under doctor's care and am not allowed to fast. So I bought up the subject with hubby and he wants me to always send the money to Morocco. I want to keep the money here. There are plenty of people here in need as I am sure of people in Morocco too. But I live here, not in Morocco. He is always worried about Morocco. I told him all he is obligated to worry about is his family there. This has been a real struggle to me. I have never yelled about sending money to morocco but this time am putting my foot down!

I also think that he wants to be like his brother (whom has money) also. He wants to be able to give to whoever and whenever.

Edited August 18, 2009 by Turia

[Nothing1234 2]

{{Terrie}}

When in Egypt and Jordan I would always make remarks like...."well, in the US we can....or we have...." I used to make fun of the fact that fast food delivered to homes WTH??!?? I would talk about their plumbing, AC, refrigeration, transportation, etc.... Not on small trips but on trips I spent an extended amount of time i.e.: summer, etc and it drove my cousins and my hubby crazy. So now when my husband has said things like that, I pretty much agree w/ him on what he misses and then we start talking about "imagine not having...." etc. It's really not much of an issue now.

Last time we talked about it he said I have nothing to go back to except to visit family. My life and family are here now and thats the truth. That does not mean he doesn't want to go back and visit or for us to have a home there one day but not without our entire family.

I think you are all missing the whole premises of this post (and maybe thats my fault). My beef is not that its my country this and that but, I have to pay for ramadan cause i am under doctor's care and am not allowed to fast. So I bought up the subject with hubby and he wants me to always send the money to Morocco. I want to keep the money here. There are plenty of people here in need as I am sure of people in Morocco too. But I live here, not in Morocco. He is always worried about Morocco. I told him all he is obligated to worry about is his family there. This has been a real struggle to me. I have never yelled about sending money to morocco but this time am putting my foot down!

I also think that he wants to be like his brother (whom has money) also. He wants to be able to give to whoever and whenever.

Oh...I got ya! It was a bit "run on" in the beginning of what you wrote. But in all seriousness, my hubby is a giver too. I have joked w/ him...you might not have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of but you will still give all you have to your friends and family to make sure they don't suffer. It annoyed me about him but you know, its the reason I fell in love with him...he has an amazing and giving heart. Sounds like your hubby does too. Try to view it that way babes!

Along the lines of what Lisa wrote...if I was going to send money in the US to any one location...It would be NY! Not AZ and I have lived here for over 5 years...but I grew up and my home is in New York City....so yes, people are partial to where they have lived and grown up. That's a fact.

Just send your money to where you like...no one can tell ya any different. My personal favorite..."It's easier to ask forgiveness than it is to get permission." So just do it and let him know after the fact.

[CnT4ever 1]

I have gotton so sick and tired of hearing from my husband, my country this and my country that. Please excuse me, you live in this country now, not that country. I am trying to do something that is right and it has to do with poor muslim people, and he wants everything to go to Morocco. He says, I know people...Well excuse me, I know people here too. Its so darn frustrating that everything always reverts back to his country! This coming from a man just talking about getting his citzenship in a year or two. Grrrrr

Same thing here.

[JeanneVictoria 55]

{{Terrie}}

When in Egypt and Jordan I would always make remarks like...."well, in the US we can....or we have...." I used to make fun of the fact that fast food delivered to homes WTH??!?? I would talk about their plumbing, AC, refrigeration, transportation, etc.... Not on small trips but on trips I spent an extended amount of time i.e.: summer, etc and it drove my cousins and my hubby crazy. So now when my husband has said things like that, I pretty much agree w/ him on what he misses and then we start talking about "imagine not having...." etc. It's really not much of an issue now.

Last time we talked about it he said I have nothing to go back to except to visit family. My life and family are here now and thats the truth. That does not mean he doesn't want to go back and visit or for us to have a home there one day but not without our entire family.

I think you are all missing the whole premises of this post (and maybe thats my fault). My beef is not that its my country this and that but, I have to pay for ramadan cause i am under doctor's care and am not allowed to fast. So I bought up the subject with hubby and he wants me to always send the money to Morocco. I want to keep the money here. There are plenty of people here in need as I am sure of people in Morocco too. But I live here, not in Morocco. He is always worried about Morocco. I told him all he is obligated to worry about is his family there. This has been a real struggle to me. I have never yelled about sending money to morocco but this time am putting my foot down!

I also think that he wants to be like his brother (whom has money) also. He wants to be able to give to whoever and whenever.

Terrie, what about compromising. Half here, half to Morocco. Just a thought hon.

[Sandrila 1]

Ooooh...is that John Abraham?

YEAH GIRL

[Muh and me 18]

{{Terrie}}

When in Egypt and Jordan I would always make remarks like...."well, in the US we can....or we have...." I used to make fun of the fact that fast food delivered to homes WTH??!?? I would talk about their plumbing, AC, refrigeration, transportation, etc.... Not on small trips but on trips I spent an extended amount of time i.e.: summer, etc and it drove my cousins and my hubby crazy. So now when my husband has said things like that, I pretty much agree w/ him on what he misses and then we start talking about "imagine not having...." etc. It's really not much of an issue now.

Last time we talked about it he said I have nothing to go back to except to visit family. My life and family are here now and thats the truth. That does not mean he doesn't want to go back and visit or for us to have a home there one day but not without our entire family.

I think you are all missing the whole premises of this post (and maybe thats my fault). My beef is not that its my country this and that but, I have to pay for ramadan cause i am under doctor's care and am not allowed to fast. So I bought up the subject with hubby and he wants me to always send the money to Morocco. I want to keep the money here. There are plenty of people here in need as I am sure of people in Morocco too. But I live here, not in Morocco. He is always worried about Morocco. I told him all he is obligated to worry about is his family there. This has been a real struggle to me. I have never yelled about sending money to morocco but this time am putting my foot down!

I also think that he wants to be like his brother (whom has money) also. He wants to be able to give to whoever and whenever.

Terrie, what about compromising. Half here, half to Morocco. Just a thought hon.

jeanne, not a bad idea!

[Sandrila 1]

{{Terrie}}

When in Egypt and Jordan I would always make remarks like...."well, in the US we can....or we have...." I used to make fun of the fact that fast food delivered to homes WTH??!?? I would talk about their plumbing, AC, refrigeration, transportation, etc.... Not on small trips but on trips I spent an extended amount of time i.e.: summer, etc and it drove my cousins and my hubby crazy. So now when my husband has said things like that, I pretty much agree w/ him on what he misses and then we start talking about "imagine not having...." etc. It's really not much of an issue now.

Last time we talked about it he said I have nothing to go back to except to visit family. My life and family are here now and thats the truth. That does not mean he doesn't want to go back and visit or for us to have a home there one day but not without our entire family.

I think you are all missing the whole premises of this post (and maybe thats my fault). My beef is not that its my country this and that but, I have to pay for ramadan cause i am under doctor's care and am not allowed to fast. So I bought up the subject with hubby and he wants me to always send the money to Morocco. I want to keep the money here. There are plenty of people here in need as I am sure of people in Morocco too. But I live here, not in Morocco. He is always worried about Morocco. I told him all he is obligated to worry about is his family there. This has been a real struggle to me. I have never yelled about sending money to morocco but this time am putting my foot down!

I also think that he wants to be like his brother (whom has money) also. He wants to be able to give to whoever and whenever.

Terry

I understand you.

My husband also feels obligated to send money home also to his mom and brother, however, we are not really in the best position ourselves...just making ends meet and trying to save for our trip back to Morocco next year.

His 2 other brothers and sister are extremely well off, I say, let them deal with it.

I know I am in for it when we go back there too because, as others have mentioned, the need to "show" how well you are over here in the states, everyone with their hand out and just assuming cuz we live here we don't have it bad.

If we had the money, I would give it.

I agree, you should be able to choose where you want to give your donation and there are plenty here who need it.

[chaishai 1]

{{Terrie}}

When in Egypt and Jordan I would always make remarks like...."well, in the US we can....or we have...." I used to make fun of the fact that fast food delivered to homes WTH??!?? I would talk about their plumbing, AC, refrigeration, transportation, etc.... Not on small trips but on trips I spent an extended amount of time i.e.: summer, etc and it drove my cousins and my hubby crazy. So now when my husband has said things like that, I pretty much agree w/ him on what he misses and then we start talking about "imagine not having...." etc. It's really not much of an issue now.

Last time we talked about it he said I have nothing to go back to except to visit family. My life and family are here now and thats the truth. That does not mean he doesn't want to go back and visit or for us to have a home there one day but not without our entire family.

I think you are all missing the whole premises of this post (and maybe thats my fault). My beef is not that its my country this and that but, I have to pay for ramadan cause i am under doctor's care and am not allowed to fast. So I bought up the subject with hubby and he wants me to always send the money to Morocco. I want to keep the money here. There are plenty of people here in need as I am sure of people in Morocco too. But I live here, not in Morocco. He is always worried about Morocco. I told him all he is obligated to worry about is his family there. This has been a real struggle to me. I have never yelled about sending money to morocco but this time am putting my foot down!

I also think that he wants to be like his brother (whom has money) also. He wants to be able to give to whoever and whenever.

my husband can be stubborn and in situations where i dont think his argument has any basis i always make him explain his rationale. when his rationale is bs, i question that. and i keep questioning until we get to the point where he cannot defend his claim. maybe worth a shot?

that said, we are always sending 500 pacifiers to poor babies in israeli hospitals and money to victims of terrorism in his home town but he also is very giving in the US as well.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I do the "my country" thing whenever I unwillingly encounter a hole in the floor toilet. I will never like them, never!

[Bajih 4]

I do the "my country" thing whenever I unwillingly encounter a hole in the floor toilet. I will never like them, never!

Ha! You brought up the image of me, standing in a restaurant bathroom in Syria, wondering where the toilet was. There was just this hole.... then it dawned on me and I had no CLUE how to do that without getting all messy! Needless to say, I held it... lol

[chaishai 1]

I do the "my country" thing whenever I unwillingly encounter a hole in the floor toilet. I will never like them, never!

ha i remember being in a colleagues house in morocco and we were having dinner and i asked where the toilet was and they told me, and i thought for sure i encountered some empty room but then no i was encouraged to go in, and sure enough that was it! i get it though.

[Ayman and Yasmina 0]

I used to get the "we do it this way" in the kitchen but I promptly nipped that in the bud and now no one is allowed in my kitchen while I am cooking.

Has anyone ever watched Gilmore Girls? There's an episode where Sooki is letting Jackson cook dinner for her and she keeps peeking through the kitchen door, since he kicked her out of the kitchen. It drove her nuts to think he's not using the right bowl or the correct seasonings. That's how my husband was but now he's given up and all is well

I do though still get a bit of that in terms of raising my daughters. I think he's told me over 100 times how school in Cairo is segregated and how it's not normal for boys to be hanging out with girls. I always imagined that raising two teen girls would be tough but I think he's going to have a harder time than I am with it!!! I honestly think that if we had a daughter together he'd insist on moving back home once she hit puberty.

Id so call your husband out on that!! HA HA that is such a lie..That only happens in the poor government schools!!! Egypt my dears is a far cry from that!!! HA HA!! Just go to any mall in Cairo or take a look at the people walking on the nile!! The age of innocence in Cairo is long gone!! I refuse to raise my baby girl here!!! Kids use to make out in my high school here all the time!!