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Zen Den   18

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hello everyone. i would to help a friend who's been having trouble with his wife. here is their background: since she came here in october 2008 she's been trouble to him, -unecessarily jealous about USC's female friends, demanding about money (usc is an average-salary guy), and physically abusive (have thrown things at him whenever they have arguments). because of then fiancee's attitude, USC waited till last minute to marry fiance, once married, USC decided to wait till wife changes attitude before deciding whether to file for AOS. Unfortunately, wife has the same attitude, doesn't want to attend marriage counseling, has gone from bad to worse towards usc and usc's son.

we're all worried she came here for the wrong reasons and doesn't really love her husband, he's decided now to divorce her but he has to wait til he has enough money.

questions are:

1. can usc file for abuse? with which agency?

2. if divorce is filed, will usc still be financially responsible for wife? up to when?

3. she said she doesn't care if he sends her back to her country, but we're not sure she really means it, and anyway, he doesn't have the money right now to pay for her and her daughter's tickets, so what other legal means is available to him?

will appreciate all ANSWERS

thank you

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eros_EX_Plumber   0

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hello everyone. i would to help a friend who's been having trouble with his wife. here is their background: since she came here in october 2008 she's been trouble to him, -unecessarily jealous about USC's female friends, demanding about money (usc is an average-salary guy), and physically abusive (have thrown things at him whenever they have arguments). because of then fiancee's attitude, USC waited till last minute to marry fiance, once married, USC decided to wait till wife changes attitude before deciding whether to file for AOS. Unfortunately, wife has the same attitude, doesn't want to attend marriage counseling, has gone from bad to worse towards usc and usc's son.

we're all worried she came here for the wrong reasons and doesn't really love her husband, he's decided now to divorce her but he has to wait til he has enough money.

questions are:

1. can usc file for abuse? with which agency?

2. if divorce is filed, will usc still be financially responsible for wife? up to when?

3. she said she doesn't care if he sends her back to her country, but we're not sure she really means it, and anyway, he doesn't have the money right now to pay for her and her daughter's tickets, so what other legal means is available to him?

will appreciate all ANSWERS

thank you

Gosh....another happy ending.....I am afraid to ask the age difference?

1. Call the Police each time there is abuse that will create a police record....there will Jail time too..

2. usually not unless there are children involved....(natural or otherwise)... Get a competent lawyer..

3. Get a lawyer.....Get a competent lawyer..

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1. can usc file for abuse? with which agency?

2. if divorce is filed, will usc still be financially responsible for wife? up to when?

3. she said she doesn't care if he sends her back to her country, but we're not sure she really means it, and anyway, he doesn't have the money right now to pay for her and her daughter's tickets, so what other legal means is available to him?

will appreciate all ANSWERS

thank you

The USC can of course file for a TRO with the police and file charges. He can also divorce her -- though divorce does not end the obligations in the Affidavit of Support. As for "sending her back to her country" he cannot do that. That is not up to him.

Wait - if they have not filed for AOS, she would have to leave I think- since she can only file for AOS through him.

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Correct sister Len,

If the lady came on a K-1 she can only adjust status through the USC she was petitioned from. However your friend needs to make sure he documnets HER abuse if this lady came from the phillpines then that seminar they give talks about VAWA and he needs to cover his AZZ and make sure she does not turn it around on him.

Why is it that the only one who can stop the crying is the one who started it in the first place?



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hello everyone. i would to help a friend who's been having trouble with his wife. here is their background: since she came here in october 2008 she's been trouble to him, -unecessarily jealous about USC's female friends, demanding about money (usc is an average-salary guy), and physically abusive (have thrown things at him whenever they have arguments). because of then fiancee's attitude, USC waited till last minute to marry fiance, once married, USC decided to wait till wife changes attitude before deciding whether to file for AOS. Unfortunately, wife has the same attitude, doesn't want to attend marriage counseling, has gone from bad to worse towards usc and usc's son.

we're all worried she came here for the wrong reasons and doesn't really love her husband, he's decided now to divorce her but he has to wait til he has enough money.

questions are:

1. can usc file for abuse? with which agency?

Police - to start with.

2. if divorce is filed, will usc still be financially responsible for wife? up to when?

Was the AOS completed, what is her current status now? - if the AOS was completed, as pointed out above, he will remain responsible for her per the instructions for the I-864. Once divorced, she can remove conditions on her own. (ie - remain in the US)

3. she said she doesn't care if he sends her back to her country, but we're not sure she really means it, and anyway, he doesn't have the money right now to pay for her and her daughter's tickets, so what other legal means is available to him?

Legal means? Bank loan, friend loan, relatives?

will appreciate all ANSWERS

thank you

My Advice is usually based on "Worst Case Scenario" and what is written in the rules/laws/instructions. That is the way I roll... -Protect your Status - file before your I-94 expires.

WARNING: Phrases in this post may sound meaner than they were intended to be. Read the Adjudicator's Field Manual from USCIS

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"she said she doesn't care if he sends her back to her country, but we're not sure she really means it, and anyway, he doesn't have the money right now to pay for her and her daughter's tickets, so what other legal means is available to him?"

Not many..If he doesn't have the money for airline tickets he certainly doesn't have the money for a competant attorney or any attorney for that matter.

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moved from pi regional to changes forum

this new forum is a better place for this thread due to the content.

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"she said she doesn't care if he sends her back to her country, but we're not sure she really means it, and anyway, he doesn't have the money right now to pay for her and her daughter's tickets, so what other legal means is available to him?"

Not many..If he doesn't have the money for airline tickets he certainly doesn't have the money for a competant attorney or any attorney for that matter.

Yes...you right and that is unfortunate....

maybe they should give K1 filers 180 days (6 months) instead of 90 days to get married....

Usually a person cannot hide a "messed_up personality" for that long....

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"she said she doesn't care if he sends her back to her country, but we're not sure she really means it, and anyway, he doesn't have the money right now to pay for her and her daughter's tickets, so what other legal means is available to him?"

Not many..If he doesn't have the money for airline tickets he certainly doesn't have the money for a competant attorney or any attorney for that matter.

Yes...you right and that is unfortunate....

maybe they should give K1 filers 180 days (6 months) instead of 90 days to get married....

Usually a person cannot hide a "messed_up personality" for that long....

but the K1 visa is not for trial purposes, its not a visitor visa with the option to marry.

Im sorry the OP's friend is going through this.... good luck

"you fondle my trigger then you blame my gun"

Timeline: 13 month long journey from filing to visa in hand

If you were lucky and got an approval and reunion with your loved one rather quickly; Please refrain from telling people who waited 6+ months just to get out of a service center to "chill out" or to "stop whining" It's insensitive,and unecessary. Once you walk a mile in their shoes you will understand and be heard.

Thanks!

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"she said she doesn't care if he sends her back to her country, but we're not sure she really means it, and anyway, he doesn't have the money right now to pay for her and her daughter's tickets, so what other legal means is available to him?"

Not many..If he doesn't have the money for airline tickets he certainly doesn't have the money for a competant attorney or any attorney for that matter.

Yes...you right and that is unfortunate....

maybe they should give K1 filers 180 days (6 months) instead of 90 days to get married....

Usually a person cannot hide a "messed_up personality" for that long....

but the K1 visa is not for trial purposes, its not a visitor visa with the option to marry.

Im sorry the OP's friend is going through this.... good luck

Yes and no.....It not for trial purpose (for culture difference)...agree there...but since you have on K1 90 days what is the difference making to 180?

there is also the distance issue and most relationships has not a chance to mature.....it is not like being in same country or city and can visit often..

Not all K1 have a happy ending...as much as everyone wish it to be....

I fell sorry for the OP too....and I think most VJ do too...

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"she said she doesn't care if he sends her back to her country, but we're not sure she really means it, and anyway, he doesn't have the money right now to pay for her and her daughter's tickets, so what other legal means is available to him?"

Not many..If he doesn't have the money for airline tickets he certainly doesn't have the money for a competant attorney or any attorney for that matter.

Yes...you right and that is unfortunate....

maybe they should give K1 filers 180 days (6 months) instead of 90 days to get married....

Usually a person cannot hide a "messed_up personality" for that long....

but the K1 visa is not for trial purposes, its not a visitor visa with the option to marry.

Im sorry the OP's friend is going through this.... good luck

Yes and no.....It not for trial purpose (for culture difference)...agree there...but since you have on K1 90 days what is the difference making to 180?

there is also the distance issue and most relationships has not a chance to mature.....it is not like being in same country or city and can visit often..

Not all K1 have a happy ending...as much as everyone wish it to be....

I fell sorry for the OP too....and I think most VJ do too...

honestly? I think it would open the flood gates even more for fraud, and my personal opinion of extending a period of "getting to know you" shouldnt be necessary. If you apply for the K1 visa, you should be 150% sure that this is the person for you and that you have already covered all aspects of compatibility, expectations in a marriage and future plans, ect. I understand that some people can "con" their way from a distance and that one would think that having 90-180 days to "figure it out" would help in those situations...but quite frankly, one should have everything sorted out with their SO before making that sort of commitment to marry and apply for a visa.

Thats just my personal opinion. I get where you're coming from with the logic of why not double the time, its already there. I just dont agree

"you fondle my trigger then you blame my gun"

Timeline: 13 month long journey from filing to visa in hand

If you were lucky and got an approval and reunion with your loved one rather quickly; Please refrain from telling people who waited 6+ months just to get out of a service center to "chill out" or to "stop whining" It's insensitive,and unecessary. Once you walk a mile in their shoes you will understand and be heard.

Thanks!

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"she said she doesn't care if he sends her back to her country, but we're not sure she really means it, and anyway, he doesn't have the money right now to pay for her and her daughter's tickets, so what other legal means is available to him?"

Not many..If he doesn't have the money for airline tickets he certainly doesn't have the money for a competant attorney or any attorney for that matter.

Yes...you right and that is unfortunate....

maybe they should give K1 filers 180 days (6 months) instead of 90 days to get married....

Usually a person cannot hide a "messed_up personality" for that long....

but the K1 visa is not for trial purposes, its not a visitor visa with the option to marry.

Im sorry the OP's friend is going through this.... good luck

Yes and no.....It not for trial purpose (for culture difference)...agree there...but since you have on K1 90 days what is the difference making to 180?

there is also the distance issue and most relationships has not a chance to mature.....it is not like being in same country or city and can visit often..

Not all K1 have a happy ending...as much as everyone wish it to be....

I fell sorry for the OP too....and I think most VJ do too...

honestly? I think it would open the flood gates even more for fraud, and my personal opinion of extending a period of "getting to know you" shouldnt be necessary. If you apply for the K1 visa, you should be 150% sure that this is the person for you and that you have already covered all aspects of compatibility, expectations in a marriage and future plans, ect. I understand that some people can "con" their way from a distance and that one would think that having 90-180 days to "figure it out" would help in those situations...but quite frankly, one should have everything sorted out with their SO before making that sort of commitment to marry and apply for a visa.

Thats just my personal opinion. I get where you're coming from with the logic of why not double the time, its already there. I just dont agree

That is fine, we have difference of opinion and we all entitle to ours difference...

Just a little extra time will not hurt, unless the other person is worried that heor she may change his/her mind..

I am not insinuating that everyone is out there to "CON", but unfortunately there are few "con" artist out there...

In most cases at VJ here are LONG DISTANCES relationship.....with few exceptions

Unless the person is very wealthy.... (which person would not be hanging around VJ for sure) cannot afford many trips and few trips with few weeks each time together will qualify as really knowing the other person well.

As a my personal opinion, we are taking a chance....( as we do in many things in life) some have a happy ending...some do not.

When i was younger I had the "Idealistic" until DEATH does us apart...well, learned in life can never say never...and sometime things fall apart for the most unimaginable reasons...

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get video camara out every time she acting like a little brat. Forward copies to her family back home

august 2004 I-129 filed (neb)

DEC 2004 Approved

interview: SEOUL

MArch 21st , 2005AR for special security clearance,washington

May 18th tranfer case from Seoul to Islammabad

June 21st security clearance done

June 28th online at the embassy in Islamabad

waiting for paper transfer and the good word

OCTOBER 14TH 2005 Interview Number 2: ISLAMABAD, PK

AR number 2 sent to DOS per Islamabad (2 cable request)

Nov 22 okd updated financial and etc proof accepted / embassy waiting for security cables

dec 20th one cable back waiting on 2nd

Jan 17th.. good word recieved. SECURITY CHECKS ALL CLEAR!!! DOS says embassy to contact him within two weeks!!!!!!

FEBRUARY 10th, 2006 VISA RECIEVED!!! They called him In via phone, stamped his passort and sent him on his way!!!

FEB 28th WELCOME HOME>>>POE CHICAGO did not even look at xray, few questions. one hour wait at Poe

march 10th marriage (nikkah at the islamic center)

aug 2006 AOS interview, cond 2 yr GC arrived september

June 2008 applied for removal of conditions on permant residency aka awaiting for 10 yr greencard

Dec 2008 10yr green card approved, no interview.

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Y's_habibitk   2

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"she said she doesn't care if he sends her back to her country, but we're not sure she really means it, and anyway, he doesn't have the money right now to pay for her and her daughter's tickets, so what other legal means is available to him?"

Not many..If he doesn't have the money for airline tickets he certainly doesn't have the money for a competant attorney or any attorney for that matter.

Yes...you right and that is unfortunate....

maybe they should give K1 filers 180 days (6 months) instead of 90 days to get married....

Usually a person cannot hide a "messed_up personality" for that long....

but the K1 visa is not for trial purposes, its not a visitor visa with the option to marry.

Im sorry the OP's friend is going through this.... good luck

Yes and no.....It not for trial purpose (for culture difference)...agree there...but since you have on K1 90 days what is the difference making to 180?

there is also the distance issue and most relationships has not a chance to mature.....it is not like being in same country or city and can visit often..

Not all K1 have a happy ending...as much as everyone wish it to be....

I fell sorry for the OP too....and I think most VJ do too...

honestly? I think it would open the flood gates even more for fraud, and my personal opinion of extending a period of "getting to know you" shouldnt be necessary. If you apply for the K1 visa, you should be 150% sure that this is the person for you and that you have already covered all aspects of compatibility, expectations in a marriage and future plans, ect. I understand that some people can "con" their way from a distance and that one would think that having 90-180 days to "figure it out" would help in those situations...but quite frankly, one should have everything sorted out with their SO before making that sort of commitment to marry and apply for a visa.

Thats just my personal opinion. I get where you're coming from with the logic of why not double the time, its already there. I just dont agree

That is fine, we have difference of opinion and we all entitle to ours difference...

Just a little extra time will not hurt, unless the other person is worried that heor she may change his/her mind..

I am not insinuating that everyone is out there to "CON", but unfortunately there are few "con" artist out there...

In most cases at VJ here are LONG DISTANCES relationship.....with few exceptions

Unless the person is very wealthy.... (which person would not be hanging around VJ for sure) cannot afford many trips and few trips with few weeks each time together will qualify as really knowing the other person well.

As a my personal opinion, we are taking a chance....( as we do in many things in life) some have a happy ending...some do not.

When i was younger I had the "Idealistic" until DEATH does us apart...well, learned in life can never say never...and sometime things fall apart for the most unimaginable reasons...

agreed

to the OP, sorry I went offtopic in your thread

"you fondle my trigger then you blame my gun"

Timeline: 13 month long journey from filing to visa in hand

If you were lucky and got an approval and reunion with your loved one rather quickly; Please refrain from telling people who waited 6+ months just to get out of a service center to "chill out" or to "stop whining" It's insensitive,and unecessary. Once you walk a mile in their shoes you will understand and be heard.

Thanks!

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"she said she doesn't care if he sends her back to her country, but we're not sure she really means it, and anyway, he doesn't have the money right now to pay for her and her daughter's tickets, so what other legal means is available to him?"

Not many..If he doesn't have the money for airline tickets he certainly doesn't have the money for a competant attorney or any attorney for that matter.

Yes...you right and that is unfortunate....

maybe they should give K1 filers 180 days (6 months) instead of 90 days to get married....

Usually a person cannot hide a "messed_up personality" for that long....

I disagree! You should know everything about a person BEFORE asking them to marry you!! If you're not 110% sure they're right for you, than don't get married. I admit that's difficult when you live in different countries, but sooooo many people rush into marriage - you only have to look at peoples timelines to see that. (Eg Met for first time in June 2008 Engaged August 2008... to me, that's just wrong and asking for trouble) There's exceptions to every rule of course :thumbs:

Dave

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