During argument or conflict with your spouse/fiance...

[uniquecouple 0]

We have misunderstanding sometimes but we are able to fix it before we go to bed. We both agreed not to sleep with the problem and we always talk about it.

nice agreement mommy addy, we are the same. my husband dont really like it when we are having argument specially over silly little things.

[uniquecouple 0]

hello everyone!

it may not be a visa related forum, but it is very much relevant to our individual lives...

talk about how are we handling/resolving the situation of having disagreement, argument and to avoid conflict with our love ones...

sometimes in our marriage or in a relationship, we and our spouses/fiancees have a little disagreements, arguments, and conflict that turns to a big fight that some would abuse their partner verbally that leads them to hit each other physically, which is wrong and most/all of us don't agree...

when my husband and i having a argument, we prefered to be left alone and give each other some times (we call it time out..lol) to be quite, think and calm in order to avoid conflict as much as possible. after a little while, we come back (from being quite), talk about it, apologize and back in each other's arms again and im glad that in one year of our marriage, so we never had any conflict nor will have a fight. however, during this little thing, im quite whereas my husband is a talker one. lol!

what about you....how do you and your partner resolve your arguments?

me and my hubby never really had an argument or fight...but sometimes i made my hubby mad hehhehehe...like ignoring him...he hates being ignored...or i get sad out of nothing especially things that he didnt do...

my hubby is the talker and i just cried and just keep quite like a lil girl hehhehehe...then when he is done talking i always asked him are you still mad at me...then he will say "you big baby getting sad for nothing" and we will just laugh...

when it comes to like that its just like a man and a lil girl having conflict so it doesnt really go to a serious conflict...thats how me and my hubby are.

my husband is the same. he hates being ignored and when i do that to him sometimes (teasing) he would get up, come to our bedroom and turn on the music loud on the computer so he could not hear me calling him. then me being a teaser, would climb up to the sink and turn off the main switch.

[uniquecouple 0]

before i always wanted to have the last word and tried to win every argument. however i realized that it wasnt healthy and it wasnt right. now, i have learned to deal with arguments fairly and i dont try to win every argument anymore, there are no prizes anyway.

nice attitude of you sasha! me, i never want to win the argument but hubby used to do. but as a grown couple we discussed everything that we dont like during this kind of situtaion. so he've changed it and now we would just laugh at it.

[uniquecouple 0]

uhmmm first want to say to the person who posted this thread.. thank u...well, its very interesting and couples should check out on this thread hehehe...

we don't really disagree on things but if we got a problem, one posted here they never go to bed and sleep with a problem... its one of our agreement.... think i am the talker :lol: coz he just keep quite and he always understands me.. wow glad he has that patience on me.. we both always says what we want and what we don't like that's why maybe we are not fighting.... and one thing more... why we dont fight?... BCOZ I AM NOT HIDING ANYTHING TO MY FIANCE.. AND VICE VERSA... THAT'S ONE I REALLY LOVE ABOUT MY FIANCE... HE IS NOT LIKE OTHERS WHO HIDE THINGS.... we admit or not keeping secrets to our half is one of the main source of disagreement... in a relationship there should be LOVE, TRUST, UNDERSTANDING AND RESPECT FOR ONE ANOTHER.... :thumbs: I CAN SAY I HAVE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY FIANCE... :dance:

your welcome happyme! im glad you find this interesting and happy to hear that you have a healthy relationship. just continue what you've got now and make it even happier and more healthy even after marriage.

[RVIANE♛ 5]

uhmmm first want to say to the person who posted this thread.. thank u...well, its very interesting and couples should check out on this thread hehehe...

we don't really disagree on things but if we got a problem, one posted here they never go to bed and sleep with a problem... its one of our agreement.... think i am the talker coz he just keep quite and he always understands me.. wow glad he has that patience on me.. we both always says what we want and what we don't like that's why maybe we are not fighting.... and one thing more... why we dont fight?... BCOZ I AM NOT HIDING ANYTHING TO MY FIANCE.. AND VICE VERSA... THAT'S ONE I REALLY LOVE ABOUT MY FIANCE... HE IS NOT LIKE OTHERS WHO HIDE THINGS.... we admit or not keeping secrets to our half is one of the main source of disagreement... in a relationship there should be LOVE, TRUST, UNDERSTANDING AND RESPECT FOR ONE ANOTHER.... I CAN SAY I HAVE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY FIANCE...

your welcome happyme! im glad you find this interesting and happy to hear that you have a healthy relationship. just continue what you've got now and make it even happier and more healthy even after marriage.

there is no perfect marriage even though we avoid arguing dumarating parin ung times na meron kayong hindi pagkakaintindihan we dont go to bed na hindi kme OK im the silent type when we have tampuhan as in i dont talk but with matching dedma galore and slammed everything which makes him really annoyed but after a few hours i will come to him and say "sorry" cause in every tampuhan it was really my fault i find it exciting when we make arguing boring kase pag nde kayo nag aaway minsan

[marklovetina 52]

uhmmm first want to say to the person who posted this thread.. thank u...well, its very interesting and couples should check out on this thread hehehe...

we don't really disagree on things but if we got a problem, one posted here they never go to bed and sleep with a problem... its one of our agreement.... think i am the talker :lol: coz he just keep quite and he always understands me.. wow glad he has that patience on me.. we both always says what we want and what we don't like that's why maybe we are not fighting.... and one thing more... why we dont fight?... BCOZ I AM NOT HIDING ANYTHING TO MY FIANCE.. AND VICE VERSA... THAT'S ONE I REALLY LOVE ABOUT MY FIANCE... HE IS NOT LIKE OTHERS WHO HIDE THINGS.... we admit or not keeping secrets to our half is one of the main source of disagreement... in a relationship there should be LOVE, TRUST, UNDERSTANDING AND RESPECT FOR ONE ANOTHER.... :thumbs: I CAN SAY I HAVE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY FIANCE... :dance:

your welcome happyme! im glad you find this interesting and happy to hear that you have a healthy relationship. just continue what you've got now and make it even happier and more healthy even after marriage.

ur welcome and yes of course bcoz we both only want to live simple and happy life.. :whistle:

[GuardianAngel 1]

As my fiance would put it and I quote, "Baby, fights are just part of the whole package. It just shows one thing - we care for each other."

In this world, there is no such thing as a PERFECT RELATIONSHIP. In the least time we expect it to, disputes would arise QUIETLY testing our faith, desperately wanting us to give up. Sometimes, it gives us the reason to question our love for the other person. Oftentimes, we decide to make moves right away without even realizing the consequences in the end, we become selfish by focusing more on our wants and not the emotional needs of the other.

However, the foundation you have built together will always be your fortress when situations like this occur.

In our case, I have always been the emotional one. Whenever he gets frustrated, I quietly listen while he expresses his rage, then I give my side of things. I have always preferred to lay things on the table rather than throwing things or shouting at each other.

Always look at the brighter side of things. Couples should be happy that they have fights here and there. It's one way of showing how healthy the relationship is. After all, romance after every fight rocks!

Edited August 11, 2009 by GuardianAngel

[GuardianOne 0]

After all, romance after every fight rocks!

[ailyn 0]

Im the talker.. my hubby would just keep quiet. Its funny how me and my husband are so much alike in almost all ways, is a reason also how much we fight on little things. We're like kids. We fight for almost everything, and most of those fights are started by me, lol. I guess we're just both "tarts", at times LOL.

[Calypso 464]

I'm glad for us that we found these exemplary men to share our lifetime with. I can hardly wait to get married.

Please include me in your prayers. I really want to be with him again soon. We are still waiting for the NOA2. It'll be three months on the 29th since he sent the I-129F on May 29. I'm sure you had your share of the waiting period for the K1 Visa back then.

im under CR1 so i dont really have that much information with regards your query. based on the other's timelines, some of them here were approved 3 months later after they received their NOA1. but its a case basis...dont worry sis, yours will come soon. just hang in there...

you'll be in my prayer...

God bless!

Thank you! I am grateful to universal brotherhood. Indeed, "there are no strangers in this world, only friends who we haven't met yet."

God bless us all.

[adiiann 163]

Just got married last Saturday.

When the priest asked us if we had some fights. We both said yes at the same time. Then, the priest said we're so true to each other.

Well, whether small or big fight/arguments, its still fight/arguments. It can't be avoided but it should be resolvable.

During the times that we had some sort of things, we both talked but one at a time, then silence and a little bit time to reflect why we had arguments or fight. Then, comprise, and kiss & make up. We don't have fights that didn't last for one day.

[uniquecouple 0]

Just got married last Saturday.

When the priest asked us if we had some fights. We both said yes at the same time. Then, the priest said we're so true to each other.

Well, whether small or big fight/arguments, its still fight/arguments. It can't be avoided but it should be resolvable.

During the times that we had some sort of things, we both talked but one at a time, then silence and a little bit time to reflect why we had arguments or fight. Then, comprise, and kiss & make up. We don't have fights that didn't last for one day.

Before my husband and I got married, we had a big fight, a very 1st fight ever since we hooked up, fight that had put our romance in a risk, to the extent that it almost put our relationship to an end. However, we did not view our fight as a bad part of our lives but we view it as a lesson instead. Even we are thankful for that, coz we leraned more about each other and became more understanding and loving. It helped us to grow up some more and taught us how to handle a complicated situation and have taught us how to resolve fight proactively and willingly fast. We believed and trust from the very beginning of our relationship, that our love is true and our intenstion for each other is for real, the fight that we had shows that we are not only for real but also helped us to realized that we are indeed meant to be together forever. It helped us to recognized and appreciate more each other.

I am the type of person that quite when angry and dont say anything until I calm down, coz as much as possible I dont want to say any hurtful words to my love ones, specially to my hubby. It's a human nature, that when people upset they become mean by their words but then they would regret and sorry for it after they realized what they've said.

Hubby is the talker whereas Im the quite one, but we knows each other better now, so its no longer big deal to us when conflicts comes along, coz as a matured married couple, we reflects and talk about it and resolves it now easy, fast and in a loving and respectful way.

God bless us all!

Edited August 13, 2009 by uniquecouple