Do you think age difference would be a problem?

[Arabella 4]

Hello....I posted this in spanish and now in english so here goes....My boyfriend and I are filing for the k1 visa....he is 21 and I am 35.....he is Dominican and I am American born to Dominican parents....I am a bit worried and concerned that we may get denied the visa because of the age difference which can trigger thoughts of a fake relationship (fraud).....to my surprise this relationship is realer than real and I think that if we have all of our documents in order and answer all questions truthfully and correct that age difference is not a valid reason to deny a visa....Please give me your totally honest opinion...i appreciate it....thanks....

I'll let you know if it's a problem for us! I am 9 years older than my sweetie. He's Canadian so I am thinking that his embassy won't care. I don't look much older than him so I think that when they see us together/see pictures of us, they'll agree that we make a good match!

Yay for marrying a younger man! I never thought I would have anything in common with a 21 year old either, but we are better suited for each other than I have been with guys my own age!

Good luck!

[Arabella 4]

Yeah they "can't" use age difference as a reason for denial but they'll just use the subjective "lack of a bonsfide relationship".

Why does a 21 year old guy marry a 35 year woman in the US. Money or has a "mother complex"?

Why does a 21 year old foreigner from a 3rd world country marry a 35 year US citizen?

Take your pick???

Bottomline is "pile high" evidence of having a LOVING bonafide relationship.

It's not mother complex but -- oedipus complex, which is more common than people think.

Calling Dr. Freud. lol This comment brought back memories of Psychology 101!

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Hello....I posted this in spanish and now in english so here goes....My boyfriend and I are filing for the k1 visa....he is 21 and I am 35.....he is Dominican and I am American born to Dominican parents....I am a bit worried and concerned that we may get denied the visa because of the age difference which can trigger thoughts of a fake relationship (fraud).....to my surprise this relationship is realer than real and I think that if we have all of our documents in order and answer all questions truthfully and correct that age difference is not a valid reason to deny a visa....Please give me your totally honest opinion...i appreciate it....thanks....

You are correct. Age difference is NOT a valid reason and they will never use that. They CAN use "not clearly eligible". Try to appeal that one.

Again, I have not heard it is a problem in the Latin American/Carribean cultures. Make your your evidence is solid. The problem lies in that YOU must clearly prove the relationship is legitimate and not for immigration benefits. The burden is on YOU, not them. But if you have good evidence, you should be OK. I would also suggest strongly you attend the interview. (I do that anyway for anyone)

Yeah they "can't" use age difference as a reason for denial but they'll just use the subjective "lack of a bonsfide relationship".

Why does a 21 year old guy marry a 35 year woman in the US. Money or has a "mother complex"?

Why does a 21 year old foreigner from a 3rd world country marry a 35 year US citizen?

Take your pick???

Bottomline is "pile high" evidence of having a LOVING bonafide relationship.

Yes, hon, you are right. THey should pile high the photographs, too. Never let anyone tell you that "they are just secondary evidence.

What is all these ?? GaryandAlla & HAole , who told you all these informations. There is no written rule as if :

"Age differences can be a problem in some areas of the world. If a 23 year old Pinay marries a 50 year old American man...no problem. If a 28 year old Russian marries a 55 year old man from the USA...no problem. Such things are NORMAL in their own culture, it is not unusal that they would seek the same in marrying a foreign person. If a 35 year old US woman wants to marry a 21 year old Syrian...can be a big problem. I have not heard of these problems with younger men/older women in Latin American cultures."

Also Haole pls dnt humiliate members here by saying all these stuffs :

"Why does a 21 year old guy marry a 35 year woman in the US. Money or has a "mother complex"?

Why does a 21 year old foreigner from a 3rd world country marry a 35 year US citizen?"

You are acting against VJ policy.

Who told you that a person from a third world country is always liiving in worser condiiton ? I am still richer with my wealth when i came in USA. So USA for me was not money but my wife. Trust me this is a total wrong notion. We live in India in much more safer and free and non fear way. No job loss no tension of how to pay the bills. So dnt think all these. Apart from the high fraud countries neither USCIS nor the consulate tend to think that way. My consulate asked me a strange thing when i was coming USA for the 1st time. She asked 'well there are so beautiful women in usa..... wd u get attracted and married.1st time i came only for business.' My reply was well there are more beautiful women in India than USA .... so no hard feelings , I am more attracted in India than I think I wd be in USA'.......she smiled and switched offt o different questions. Any way I am moving away from the topic as usual.

My wife USC is 56 and I am 32. So what ?? that man must have demonstrated deeper sense of maturity and spiritual evolvement. Thats why she choose her. If he is using her for GC thats a different case though. But thats not is expressed here. In consulate stage interviews age difference can create a bit problem but rajojo321 i will give you certain things they looks as good proofs and you can use to circumvate these flags, if at all it arises which at all i doubt.

i) at least 15-20 pics together with the application

ii) A statement written by the USC where she states why she married,how did you two meet, add humour and make it believable. Trust me they read that. Though our marriage was from b1/b2 visa and didnt involve consulates but then they read it . Thats what our IO said us during interview.

iii) I dnt know about Dominican but many consulates do allow USC s to join ................. see if you can do that or not.

iv) last but not the least, write a letter from his perents and relatives about you two................ do the same from your end... means ur relatives write something about him and it matters. Our IO was very very impressed by the way her relatives wrote about me.

I dnt think there can be any problem in such little age difference so long he can convince the consulate officer. No one has ever been denied for age difference but they look at how much deep you are into each other. Thats what they want to see...... nothing else. They may ask you about plans to have babies together. Get a good reply ready.

Hope this helps............. be confident and tell him to gather all these & look into the eyes of the officer during interview and smile. They take stuffs as , looking down or looking away or to left, as signs of telling lies of hiding facts. So tell him to avoid these. Thanks .. If you need more to know pls ask.... and we will all be most glad to help.

Just the facts man. You are arguing with the wrong guy and as a confirmed, dyed in the wool Libertarian I could not possibly care less who you marry or why. If you are both over 18, consenting adults, go for it with my blessing. If you want to ignore the many cases where this particular thing gets turned down every day...go for that too. If you want to deny the situation and mindset that exists in parts of the world...go for it. Ignoring it will not help the OP. Pretending it doesn't exist will result in failure for the OP. Haole is in no way making a personal comment and I never interpreted it that way, he is para-phrasing a common mindset at consulates in some parts of the world. Get over it.

This is NOT my opinion on the matter. My opinion is grown ups can do as they please and I do not care if they are fat, old, etc. Race, collor creed, etc., make no difference to me. Why would it? HOW would it affect me who YOU marry? But I am not a consular offcer and THAT is who you have to convince

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Hello....I posted this in spanish and now in english so here goes....My boyfriend and I are filing for the k1 visa....he is 21 and I am 35.....he is Dominican and I am American born to Dominican parents....I am a bit worried and concerned that we may get denied the visa because of the age difference which can trigger thoughts of a fake relationship (fraud).....to my surprise this relationship is realer than real and I think that if we have all of our documents in order and answer all questions truthfully and correct that age difference is not a valid reason to deny a visa....Please give me your totally honest opinion...i appreciate it....thanks....

I'll let you know if it's a problem for us! I am 9 years older than my sweetie. He's Canadian so I am thinking that his embassy won't care. I don't look much older than him so I think that when they see us together/see pictures of us, they'll agree that we make a good match!

Yay for marrying a younger man! I never thought I would have anything in common with a 21 year old either, but we are better suited for each other than I have been with guys my own age!

Good luck!

I have never seen age be mentioned as a concern in English based cultures, or western European for that matter. However it could be just as much the fact that these countries are not high fraud countries as it has to do with acceptance of age differences. Why does a 21 year old Canadian man want to marry a 30 year old American woman? Green card? LOL MUSt be love.

[toma1 10]

I got a kick out of these responses.

I'm 47 and my wife is 32. We had no visa issues whatsoever. Before we were married, I dated a number of women in their early 20s and finally decided that that was too much drama for me. As far as I can tell, however, 21 year old women are more mature that 21 year old men.

The petitioner asked us to be honest, and this is my honest opinion: This relationship has red flag written all over it. I suspect that the petition will be granted, but that problems will occur at the embassy interview. Be prepared to prove that your fiancee is not marrying you for a green card.

[toma1 10]

He's Canadian

Yep, he's Canadian, so you'll be ok. Canadians rarely marry Americans for green cards. But whatever happens in your situation is not applicable to a woman marrying someone 11-12 years her junior from the Dominican Republic.

This is not a court of law in which the petitioner (or beneficiary) is innocent until proven guilty. It is very much the opposite situation. In the eyes of the embassy interviewer, you are guilty of visa fraud until you prove that you are not.

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Why does a 21 year old guy marry a 35 year woman in the US. Money or has a "mother complex"?

My mother did it, but the guy was 18, and she was 36. She married him before I got married the first time, and she was still married to him when my second marriage was falling apart. He died from cancer, or she would still be married to him. Love ain't logical - it just happens!

That said, a big age difference can be a red flag at many consulates. Obviously, evidence of the "bona fides" are needed to help overcome this, but maybe more important is to determine if there are any other factors that might lead a CO to believe that a green card is the real motive behind the relationship. For example, has the beneficiary previously been denied a visa to the US, especially a fiance visa? Has the beneficiary ever entered the US without inspection, or had an overstay, or been deported? Factors like these could make the age difference much more suspicious. You need to look at all of the factors to determine how they balance. Other negative factors can add significantly to the "weight" of the age difference in balancing against a visa approval.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

I got a kick out of these responses.

I'm 47 and my wife is 32. We had no visa issues whatsoever. Before we were married, I dated a number of women in their early 20s and finally decided that that was too much drama for me. As far as I can tell, however, 21 year old women are more mature that 21 year old men.

The petitioner asked us to be honest, and this is my honest opinion: This relationship has red flag written all over it. I suspect that the petition will be granted, but that problems will occur at the embassy interview. Be prepared to prove that your fiancee is not marrying you for a green card.

It is very rare for older men/younger women to have problems. This is because in many cultures it is the "norm" even in their own marriages. In the FSU it is very common for men to be 10-20 years older than their wives, rarely less than 5 years older. My wife considers about 10 years to be "ideal", whether it be me or a Ukrainian or Russian man, she would have no interst in a man less than 10 years older than her.

[ChuckandRhean 0]

Hello....I posted this in spanish and now in english so here goes....My boyfriend and I are filing for the k1 visa....he is 21 and I am 35.....he is Dominican and I am American born to Dominican parents....I am a bit worried and concerned that we may get denied the visa because of the age difference which can trigger thoughts of a fake relationship (fraud).....to my surprise this relationship is realer than real and I think that if we have all of our documents in order and answer all questions truthfully and correct that age difference is not a valid reason to deny a visa....Please give me your totally honest opinion...i appreciate it....thanks....

Age differences is an all time debate. Laying our cards to prove the relationship is genuine,God-grace, and worth dying for takes a LIFETIME.

In response to ur concern, Gather all pertinent documents,forms, affidavits of bonafides of relationship,receipts, and anything u can think of that qualifies u both for a K1 visa issuance. Take note of the relationship red flags, and be ready to contest it with tangible documented proofs.What others THINK of ur relationship is NONE of ur business. Stay happy,and be strong. Prove them wrong. Let not the society dictates what ur life should be. Goodluck!!