Do you think age difference would be a problem?

[Dakine 26]

REcent age difference AR?

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[CA dreamer 3]

i got a point of view in this topic,he must show strong proof of relationship at the interview stage

second thing,he is young and you are not old either,so it may work and goodluck

[leapoffaith 0]

Yeah they "can't" use age difference as a reason for denial but they'll just use the subjective "lack of a bonsfide relationship".

Why does a 21 year old guy marry a 35 year woman in the US. Money or has a "mother complex"?

Why does a 21 year old foreigner from a 3rd world country marry a 35 year US citizen?

Take your pick???

Bottomline is "pile high" evidence of having a LOVING bonafide relationship.

It's not mother complex but -- oedipus complex, which is more common than people think.

[KDOR 1]

What are secondary evidence and what are primary evidence?

[christera22 8]

Hello....I posted this in spanish and now in english so here goes....My boyfriend and I are filing for the k1 visa....he is 21 and I am 35.....he is Dominican and I am American born to Dominican parents....I am a bit worried and concerned that we may get denied the visa because of the age difference which can trigger thoughts of a fake relationship (fraud).....to my surprise this relationship is realer than real and I think that if we have all of our documents in order and answer all questions truthfully and correct that age difference is not a valid reason to deny a visa....Please give me your totally honest opinion...i appreciate it....thanks....

You are correct. Age difference is NOT a valid reason and they will never use that. They CAN use "not clearly eligible". Try to appeal that one.

Again, I have not heard it is a problem in the Latin American/Carribean cultures. Make your your evidence is solid. The problem lies in that YOU must clearly prove the relationship is legitimate and not for immigration benefits. The burden is on YOU, not them. But if you have good evidence, you should be OK. I would also suggest strongly you attend the interview. (I do that anyway for anyone)

Yeah they "can't" use age difference as a reason for denial but they'll just use the subjective "lack of a bonsfide relationship".

Why does a 21 year old guy marry a 35 year woman in the US. Money or has a "mother complex"?

Why does a 21 year old foreigner from a 3rd world country marry a 35 year US citizen?

Take your pick???

Bottomline is "pile high" evidence of having a LOVING bonafide relationship.

Yes, hon, you are right. THey should pile high the photographs, too. Never let anyone tell you that "they are just secondary evidence.

What is all these ?? GaryandAlla & HAole , who told you all these informations. There is no written rule as if :

"Age differences can be a problem in some areas of the world. If a 23 year old Pinay marries a 50 year old American man...no problem. If a 28 year old Russian marries a 55 year old man from the USA...no problem. Such things are NORMAL in their own culture, it is not unusal that they would seek the same in marrying a foreign person. If a 35 year old US woman wants to marry a 21 year old Syrian...can be a big problem. I have not heard of these problems with younger men/older women in Latin American cultures."

Also Haole pls dnt humiliate members here by saying all these stuffs :

"Why does a 21 year old guy marry a 35 year woman in the US. Money or has a "mother complex"?

Why does a 21 year old foreigner from a 3rd world country marry a 35 year US citizen?"

You are acting against VJ policy.

Who told you that a person from a third world country is always liiving in worser condiiton ? I am still richer with my wealth when i came in USA. So USA for me was not money but my wife. Trust me this is a total wrong notion. We live in India in much more safer and free and non fear way. No job loss no tension of how to pay the bills. So dnt think all these. Apart from the high fraud countries neither USCIS nor the consulate tend to think that way. My consulate asked me a strange thing when i was coming USA for the 1st time. She asked 'well there are so beautiful women in usa..... wd u get attracted and married.1st time i came only for business.' My reply was well there are more beautiful women in India than USA .... so no hard feelings , I am more attracted in India than I think I wd be in USA'.......she smiled and switched offt o different questions. Any way I am moving away from the topic as usual.

My wife USC is 56 and I am 32. So what ?? that man must have demonstrated deeper sense of maturity and spiritual evolvement. Thats why she choose her. If he is using her for GC thats a different case though. But thats not is expressed here. In consulate stage interviews age difference can create a bit problem but rajojo321 i will give you certain things they looks as good proofs and you can use to circumvate these flags, if at all it arises which at all i doubt.

i) at least 15-20 pics together with the application

ii) A statement written by the USC where she states why she married,how did you two meet, add humour and make it believable. Trust me they read that. Though our marriage was from b1/b2 visa and didnt involve consulates but then they read it . Thats what our IO said us during interview.

iii) I dnt know about Dominican but many consulates do allow USC s to join ................. see if you can do that or not.

iv) last but not the least, write a letter from his perents and relatives about you two................ do the same from your end... means ur relatives write something about him and it matters. Our IO was very very impressed by the way her relatives wrote about me.

I dnt think there can be any problem in such little age difference so long he can convince the consulate officer. No one has ever been denied for age difference but they look at how much deep you are into each other. Thats what they want to see...... nothing else. They may ask you about plans to have babies together. Get a good reply ready.

Hope this helps............. be confident and tell him to gather all these & look into the eyes of the officer during interview and smile. They take stuffs as , looking down or looking away or to left, as signs of telling lies of hiding facts. So tell him to avoid these. Thanks .. If you need more to know pls ask.... and we will all be most glad to help.

[Jonara 0]

I think it depends on the age group too. There is a big difference between a 21 year old marrying a 32 year old AND a 31 year old marrying a 42 year old person. Same age gaps but different age group. The latter is perceivable as more in control of life and also more than likely would have a good conversation flow. I don't see a problem for the latter to form a sustainable relationship. The former is a bit sketchy, has a bit of a learning curve and adjustment period, a long one if I may say. I stay away from that during my "dating" years. The conversations are not the same and frankly I don't want to raise a little-big kid.

[christera22 8]

ALso i forgot to mention in my reply is that the advantage the OP has is both of them are from DOminican background. So that cocultural bondage is of course a big advantage. Tell him to point that out during the interview.

[Dakine 26]

Hello....I posted this in spanish and now in english so here goes....My boyfriend and I are filing for the k1 visa....he is 21 and I am 35.....he is Dominican and I am American born to Dominican parents....I am a bit worried and concerned that we may get denied the visa because of the age difference which can trigger thoughts of a fake relationship (fraud).....to my surprise this relationship is realer than real and I think that if we have all of our documents in order and answer all questions truthfully and correct that age difference is not a valid reason to deny a visa....Please give me your totally honest opinion...i appreciate it....thanks....

You are correct. Age difference is NOT a valid reason and they will never use that. They CAN use "not clearly eligible". Try to appeal that one.

Again, I have not heard it is a problem in the Latin American/Carribean cultures. Make your your evidence is solid. The problem lies in that YOU must clearly prove the relationship is legitimate and not for immigration benefits. The burden is on YOU, not them. But if you have good evidence, you should be OK. I would also suggest strongly you attend the interview. (I do that anyway for anyone)

Yeah they "can't" use age difference as a reason for denial but they'll just use the subjective "lack of a bonsfide relationship".

Why does a 21 year old guy marry a 35 year woman in the US. Money or has a "mother complex"?

Why does a 21 year old foreigner from a 3rd world country marry a 35 year US citizen?

Take your pick???

Bottomline is "pile high" evidence of having a LOVING bonafide relationship.

Yes, hon, you are right. THey should pile high the photographs, too. Never let anyone tell you that "they are just secondary evidence.

What is all these ?? GaryandAlla & HAole , who told you all these informations. There is no written rule as if :

"Age differences can be a problem in some areas of the world. If a 23 year old Pinay marries a 50 year old American man...no problem. If a 28 year old Russian marries a 55 year old man from the USA...no problem. Such things are NORMAL in their own culture, it is not unusal that they would seek the same in marrying a foreign person. If a 35 year old US woman wants to marry a 21 year old Syrian...can be a big problem. I have not heard of these problems with younger men/older women in Latin American cultures."

Also Haole pls dnt humiliate members here by saying all these stuffs :

"Why does a 21 year old guy marry a 35 year woman in the US. Money or has a "mother complex"?

Why does a 21 year old foreigner from a 3rd world country marry a 35 year US citizen?"

You are acting against VJ policy.

Who told you that a person from a third world country is always liiving in worser condiiton ? I am still richer with my wealth when i came in USA. So USA for me was not money but my wife. Trust me this is a total wrong notion. We live in India in much more safer and free and non fear way. No job loss no tension of how to pay the bills. So dnt think all these. Apart from the high fraud countries neither USCIS nor the consulate tend to think that way. My consulate asked me a strange thing when i was coming USA for the 1st time. She asked 'well there are so beautiful women in usa..... wd u get attracted and married.1st time i came only for business.' My reply was well there are more beautiful women in India than USA .... so no hard feelings , I am more attracted in India than I think I wd be in USA'.......she smiled and switched offt o different questions. Any way I am moving away from the topic as usual.

My wife USC is 56 and I am 32. So what ?? that man must have demonstrated deeper sense of maturity and spiritual evolvement. Thats why she choose her. If he is using her for GC thats a different case though. But thats not is expressed here. In consulate stage interviews age difference can create a bit problem but rajojo321 i will give you certain things they looks as good proofs and you can use to circumvate these flags, if at all it arises which at all i doubt.

i) at least 15-20 pics together with the application

ii) A statement written by the USC where she states why she married,how did you two meet, add humour and make it believable. Trust me they read that. Though our marriage was from b1/b2 visa and didnt involve consulates but then they read it . Thats what our IO said us during interview.

iii) I dnt know about Dominican but many consulates do allow USC s to join ................. see if you can do that or not.

iv) last but not the least, write a letter from his perents and relatives about you two................ do the same from your end... means ur relatives write something about him and it matters. Our IO was very very impressed by the way her relatives wrote about me.

I dnt think there can be any problem in such little age difference so long he can convince the consulate officer. No one has ever been denied for age difference but they look at how much deep you are into each other. Thats what they want to see...... nothing else. They may ask you about plans to have babies together. Get a good reply ready.

Hope this helps............. be confident and tell him to gather all these & look into the eyes of the officer during interview and smile. They take stuffs as , looking down or looking away or to left, as signs of telling lies of hiding facts. So tell him to avoid these. Thanks .. If you need more to know pls ask.... and we will all be most glad to help.

All's I'm doing is making the OP aware she has a uphill battle ahead! People know they have a loving bonafide relationship as will succeed no matter what. COs don't.

COs are mostly born and raised Americans and have different ideas on age difference.

"Who told you that a person from a third world country is always liiving in worser condiiton ? I am still richer with my wealth when i came in USA. So USA for me was not money but my wife. Trust me this is a total wrong notion. We live in India in much more safer and free and non fear way. No job loss no tension of how to pay the bills. "

Why are there so many Indians trying to get to the US if it's so great? Sure don't see Americans trying to immigrate there.

[christera22 8]

Thanks Haole. Who gave you the idea that CO or IO s are made to think like USA ? they are given special training to adopt to the specific culture of the country. So they do think and try to compare cases according to cultures prevelant in respective countries but they dnt think absurd stuff. All they are interested whether its bonafide or not.............. if the person think the USC wife as mother or daughter is none of their concern.

2ndly i dnt want to to setup an argument here but then open you eyes Haole. Surely you wd see many immigrating to India. And USA invites Indians to come and give growth to industries here. Must have seen Ajay Bhatia , co founder of USB, in the Intel AD !! Thats it .......there are visas like H1B, L1 and organisations like Intel, IBM, Sun to name a few to wd bow down to hire asian and Indian employees . Indian job standard is hard working and good quality and thats why the outsourcing. They immigrate as a part of the process to work for their companies...... that too happens not even marrying any USC and normally offered by their individual organisations. That way the organisation can keep them with themselves. I have examples where the copany has offered residentship to my friend and he has refused and went back to India and he says US is boring and nothing to do apart from work.

So open your eyes and understand the facts. India is no more being a third world country, it makes its own rice, steel & alcohol & no dependency on China . I am not saying this being biased but from some truth.As i said I am here only for my wife, and most probably we wd immigrate to India soon. BUt I do love USA for its unanimous attitude in laws and regulations & also for its universal helping hand. Study a bit of world history and you wd understand what I am saying.

In addition if an employer decides to hire an employee in H1B, the employer has to pay for his/her visa application, immigration lawyer fees etc that will run into thousands. If you add all these, hiring an American in place of a H1B visa holder is less expensive and less time consuming for the company. Still American companies hire H1B visa holders. Why?

To answer this question let me take you to a graduate class in any University in US. More than 80% of the students in those classes will be non-Americans. Go to any Computer Science or Electrical Engineering classes and you may be extremely lucky if you can find an American in that class. Bottom Line – Americans will high skill sets are almost an extinct species and American companies are forced to hire skilled people by sponsoring H1B visas.

Now what will happen if politics takes an upper hand and makes H1B visa rules stricter? The US is going to lose big time and countries like India and China are going to gain big time. Let us see how it is?

Suppose it becomes difficult to get H1B visas. The majority of the H1B visa holders, who pump majority of their salaries back to US economy will find it tough to get a job and go back to their motherland. The skilled people have gone back and the US employers cannot find enough “qualified” Americans to fill the skilled jobs even though there are lot of “unqualified, unemployed” Americans. In the mean time there will be thousands of qualified skill people in India who cannot be brought to US because of visa restrictions. What will the American company do? Outsource the work to India. What does that translate to? America’s loss is India’s gain.

I dnt want to go into any details but you can google and see for your own .............. no hard feelings here Haole. You take care.

Edited August 9, 2009 by christera22

[Mr and Mrs Bird 0]

[brnidokiegurl 0]

actually this age difference would be (could be ) considered small, just go prepared i dont meant 10-20 pictures i mean a album, maybe 2-3 chat logs each week, letters from friends and family. I dont know for this area but i would think the area we came out of Casa was prob one of the hardest with age differences, so it is a do able thing if you are true and prepared. This age thing is a crazy thing people like to talk about, usually not even concering their causes, people are what they are some mature better than others. You can have a 50-60 year old man and he can be as stupid and immature as a 17 year old, same could be said with a woman but i think most american women (with some age and experience behind them) know where they are headed. Live your life based on the two of you, how are you together and how do you feel. I personally have more age difference and we are fine and no one has ever mentoned him as (my son). My friends, family and business people address him as they would anyone else,

[rajojo321 0]

Hello....I posted this in spanish and now in english so here goes....My boyfriend and I are filing for the k1 visa....he is 21 and I am 35.....he is Dominican and I am American born to Dominican parents....I am a bit worried and concerned that we may get denied the visa because of the age difference which can trigger thoughts of a fake relationship (fraud).....to my surprise this relationship is realer than real and I think that if we have all of our documents in order and answer all questions truthfully and correct that age difference is not a valid reason to deny a visa....Please give me your totally honest opinion...i appreciate it....thanks....

You are correct. Age difference is NOT a valid reason and they will never use that. They CAN use "not clearly eligible". Try to appeal that one.

Again, I have not heard it is a problem in the Latin American/Carribean cultures. Make your your evidence is solid. The problem lies in that YOU must clearly prove the relationship is legitimate and not for immigration benefits. The burden is on YOU, not them. But if you have good evidence, you should be OK. I would also suggest strongly you attend the interview. (I do that anyway for anyone)

Yeah they "can't" use age difference as a reason for denial but they'll just use the subjective "lack of a bonsfide relationship".

Why does a 21 year old guy marry a 35 year woman in the US. Money or has a "mother complex"?

Why does a 21 year old foreigner from a 3rd world country marry a 35 year US citizen?

Take your pick???

Bottomline is "pile high" evidence of having a LOVING bonafide relationship.

Yes, hon, you are right. THey should pile high the photographs, too. Never let anyone tell you that "they are just secondary evidence.

What is all these ?? GaryandAlla & HAole , who told you all these informations. There is no written rule as if :

"Age differences can be a problem in some areas of the world. If a 23 year old Pinay marries a 50 year old American man...no problem. If a 28 year old Russian marries a 55 year old man from the USA...no problem. Such things are NORMAL in their own culture, it is not unusal that they would seek the same in marrying a foreign person. If a 35 year old US woman wants to marry a 21 year old Syrian...can be a big problem. I have not heard of these problems with younger men/older women in Latin American cultures."

Also Haole pls dnt humiliate members here by saying all these stuffs :

"Why does a 21 year old guy marry a 35 year woman in the US. Money or has a "mother complex"?

Why does a 21 year old foreigner from a 3rd world country marry a 35 year US citizen?"

You are acting against VJ policy.

Who told you that a person from a third world country is always liiving in worser condiiton ? I am still richer with my wealth when i came in USA. So USA for me was not money but my wife. Trust me this is a total wrong notion. We live in India in much more safer and free and non fear way. No job loss no tension of how to pay the bills. So dnt think all these. Apart from the high fraud countries neither USCIS nor the consulate tend to think that way. My consulate asked me a strange thing when i was coming USA for the 1st time. She asked 'well there are so beautiful women in usa..... wd u get attracted and married.1st time i came only for business.' My reply was well there are more beautiful women in India than USA .... so no hard feelings , I am more attracted in India than I think I wd be in USA'.......she smiled and switched offt o different questions. Any way I am moving away from the topic as usual.

My wife USC is 56 and I am 32. So what ?? that man must have demonstrated deeper sense of maturity and spiritual evolvement. Thats why she choose her. If he is using her for GC thats a different case though. But thats not is expressed here. In consulate stage interviews age difference can create a bit problem but rajojo321 i will give you certain things they looks as good proofs and you can use to circumvate these flags, if at all it arises which at all i doubt.

i) at least 15-20 pics together with the application

ii) A statement written by the USC where she states why she married,how did you two meet, add humour and make it believable. Trust me they read that. Though our marriage was from b1/b2 visa and didnt involve consulates but then they read it . Thats what our IO said us during interview.

iii) I dnt know about Dominican but many consulates do allow USC s to join ................. see if you can do that or not.

iv) last but not the least, write a letter from his perents and relatives about you two................ do the same from your end... means ur relatives write something about him and it matters. Our IO was very very impressed by the way her relatives wrote about me.

I dnt think there can be any problem in such little age difference so long he can convince the consulate officer. No one has ever been denied for age difference but they look at how much deep you are into each other. Thats what they want to see...... nothing else. They may ask you about plans to have babies together. Get a good reply ready.

Hope this helps............. be confident and tell him to gather all these & look into the eyes of the officer during interview and smile. They take stuffs as , looking down or looking away or to left, as signs of telling lies of hiding facts. So tell him to avoid these. Thanks .. If you need more to know pls ask.... and we will all be most glad to help.

Thank you so much for your response and I appreciate you sticking up for me and others....

[R de la R 2]

Hello....I posted this in spanish and now in english so here goes....My boyfriend and I are filing for the k1 visa....he is 21 and I am 35.....he is Dominican and I am American born to Dominican parents....I am a bit worried and concerned that we may get denied the visa because of the age difference which can trigger thoughts of a fake relationship (fraud).....to my surprise this relationship is realer than real and I think that if we have all of our documents in order and answer all questions truthfully and correct that age difference is not a valid reason to deny a visa....Please give me your totally honest opinion...i appreciate it....thanks....

You are correct. Age difference is NOT a valid reason and they will never use that. They CAN use "not clearly eligible". Try to appeal that one.

Again, I have not heard it is a problem in the Latin American/Carribean cultures. Make your your evidence is solid. The problem lies in that YOU must clearly prove the relationship is legitimate and not for immigration benefits. The burden is on YOU, not them. But if you have good evidence, you should be OK. I would also suggest strongly you attend the interview. (I do that anyway for anyone)

Yeah they "can't" use age difference as a reason for denial but they'll just use the subjective "lack of a bonsfide relationship".

Why does a 21 year old guy marry a 35 year woman in the US. Money or has a "mother complex"?

Why does a 21 year old foreigner from a 3rd world country marry a 35 year US citizen?

Take your pick???

Bottomline is "pile high" evidence of having a LOVING bonafide relationship.

Yes, hon, you are right. THey should pile high the photographs, too. Never let anyone tell you that "they are just secondary evidence.

What is all these ?? GaryandAlla & HAole , who told you all these informations. There is no written rule as if :

"Age differences can be a problem in some areas of the world. If a 23 year old Pinay marries a 50 year old American man...no problem. If a 28 year old Russian marries a 55 year old man from the USA...no problem. Such things are NORMAL in their own culture, it is not unusal that they would seek the same in marrying a foreign person. If a 35 year old US woman wants to marry a 21 year old Syrian...can be a big problem. I have not heard of these problems with younger men/older women in Latin American cultures."

Also Haole pls dnt humiliate members here by saying all these stuffs :

"Why does a 21 year old guy marry a 35 year woman in the US. Money or has a "mother complex"?

Why does a 21 year old foreigner from a 3rd world country marry a 35 year US citizen?"

You are acting against VJ policy.

Who told you that a person from a third world country is always liiving in worser condiiton ? I am still richer with my wealth when i came in USA. So USA for me was not money but my wife. Trust me this is a total wrong notion. We live in India in much more safer and free and non fear way. No job loss no tension of how to pay the bills. So dnt think all these. Apart from the high fraud countries neither USCIS nor the consulate tend to think that way. My consulate asked me a strange thing when i was coming USA for the 1st time. She asked 'well there are so beautiful women in usa..... wd u get attracted and married.1st time i came only for business.' My reply was well there are more beautiful women in India than USA .... so no hard feelings , I am more attracted in India than I think I wd be in USA'.......she smiled and switched offt o different questions. Any way I am moving away from the topic as usual.

My wife USC is 56 and I am 32. So what ?? that man must have demonstrated deeper sense of maturity and spiritual evolvement. Thats why she choose her. If he is using her for GC thats a different case though. But thats not is expressed here. In consulate stage interviews age difference can create a bit problem but rajojo321 i will give you certain things they looks as good proofs and you can use to circumvate these flags, if at all it arises which at all i doubt.

i) at least 15-20 pics together with the application

ii) A statement written by the USC where she states why she married,how did you two meet, add humour and make it believable. Trust me they read that. Though our marriage was from b1/b2 visa and didnt involve consulates but then they read it . Thats what our IO said us during interview.

iii) I dnt know about Dominican but many consulates do allow USC s to join

yes, here the USC can join at the interview stage.

................. see if you can do that or not.

iv) last but not the least, write a letter from his perents and relatives about you two................ do the same from your end... means ur relatives write something about him and it matters. Our IO was very very impressed by the way her relatives wrote about me.

I dnt think there can be any problem in such little age difference so long he can convince the consulate officer. No one has ever been denied for age difference but they look at how much deep you are into each other. Thats what they want to see...... nothing else. They may ask you about plans to have babies together. Get a good reply ready.

Hope this helps............. be confident and tell him to gather all these & look into the eyes of the officer during interview and smile. They take stuffs as , looking down or looking away or to left, as signs of telling lies of hiding facts. So tell him to avoid these. Thanks .. If you need more to know pls ask.... and we will all be most glad to help.

[Anh map 2,098]

[Nicoxcx 1]

Age is irrelevant, I am sure they(CO's IO's) have seen many many age gap cases. We are in the 21st century, this sort of thing is very common.

I don't think an age difference is a reason to gather tonnes of info of a bonifide relationship, I think EVERY case should have tonnes of proof of a bonifide relationship.

It is ofcourse consulate specific, the amount of trouble it(age gap) would cause, I wasn't asked a single question about the age gap between me and my husband.

Try have both parties present for the interview, again, I would say this is a great idea in all cases, even if to only offer your foreign fiance/e some support.

I also agree Haole you should para phrase your posts better.