Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part17)

[finesse 3]

About the MIL question: It's not that I don't like my MIL...I can only take her in small doses. She is VERY clingy w/ my husband. He is the baby, and he is the one that takes care of her the most. While I love the fact that he will do anything to take care of his mother, grandmother, and family I know for a fact that she uses this to her advantage and will cry at the drop of a dime to try and get what she wants. To the point that it was driving my husband to have health problems and be SUPER stressed! I finally told him that he was going to have to start setting some boundaries w/ her and the rest of his family if we had a chance in hell at working for the long haul, because I could not put up w/ the playing on emotions forever! There's only so much a sista can take. It's only in the last couple of months when he has needed them for once, and the only thing she and my BIL's could do was argue w/ him, cuss him, and make him feel worse that he started to realize all along what I was saying. I just keep my lips pressed tightly shut and let him learn on his own after I've said my peace. This is how I've learned what works.

why is it his responsibility to take care of her? doesn't he have you to worry about? doesn't she have a man she can ask for things?

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Hey Yardies saying wha gwan from OCHIE....

Quanna this question is tricky because i never knew i was a jealous person until i met j, but im still not as extreme as sum females cheating is something on the back of my mind i keep it there and don’t put any emphasize on it because I don’t feel like it's that important we have so many other things to focus on besides the next dude or chick... something i will not tolerate is a BABY no no no if j was to get somebody prego while we are together that’s it and i make sure to emphasize on that!!! it's hard for me in a certain way with the LDR just missing companionship and not wanting to feel like the fool if u was to find out ur man was cheating is difficult but i push the negative thoughts and keep it moving i do not abstain from all contact from the male species lol sometimes you need that masculine energy around without being promiscuous...

okay ladies i think im home sick i love being in JA with J but i miss NYC i miss my friends and family as well as the noise just the NYC vibez i know yall cusing me because most of us wish we was in JA LOL anyways another thing that is starting to irk me j wants to do everything!!! I cant cook nothing he thinks it’s funny making fun of me talking about i cant cook but he never even let me try I’m like i can cook maybe just not the food ur use too. j is a nit picking Virgo and omg he even have something to say about how i make tea he really think it’s cute and funny but it is starting to make me feel like kinda less than a women in a way like I can cook and clean ####### okay rant ova I just re read this and yes I am complaining to cook and clean lol

Hey Newly! Enjoy your time down there girl! How long will u be there? And doan worry about wha im say...if it really mattered that much to him he would teach you, so enjoy the fact that he's not considering it a NECESSITY! He loves you same way! My husband would tease me and couldn't believe that I could cook either, because whenever I go he does 90% of the cooking...but that's only because he ONLY eats Jamaican food, and well...I ain't mastered that yet! But he does know that I can, given the noticeable weight gain every time I go back down! Seriously though, just go in the kitchen with him when he's cooking and ask him to show you and let you help. That's what I do...now once I'm in there we start to argue because he feels like the veggies, potatoes, whatever should be cut a certain way when they go in the pot! Me, I'm like whatever as long as it gets in the pan and tastes good, I'm good! He's learned that whatever duty I'm on in the kitchen he just lets me do it. He just shakes his head, and I give him a kiss and a beer for keeping his mouth closed! :star:

[MRStee 19]

Question:

Today I had dinner with my aunt & her friends. Apparently my aunt told them I was engaged to a Jamaican before I arrived. One of the ladies told me that she's heard that a lot of guys who work at resorts in Jamaica pursue American women to get a green card. I responded, "I've heard that before."

What do you all say when people tell you that?

It's none of your damn business.....I'm a grown woman!!

u guys would really curse the ppl??? LOL.. i dont' know what i would say nat.. i think about it alot tho cuz i know its coming.. UGHHHH

You know JG lol

If Damn is the worst cuss word I use, they are getting off easy.

[jawi876 2]

a didn't get the non-impediment form. he only showed his divorce cert. but every case

is different. i would suggest getting it if your jamaican so has never been marriedd

Has anyone had to get the non-impediment for the interview?

Everyone has had to/has to get it.

I didn't think you have to get it if you were recently divorced?e

Well, that would make sense as things move so dang slow in JA. How long you think it takes for them to get a divorce in their system?

When are u leaving Kimmy and how long r u staying in Jamaica

thursday...12 days

Has anyone had to get the non-impediment for the interview?

Everyone has had to/has to get it.

I didn't think you have to get it if you were recently divorced?

Jawi didn't need one..b/c she got a divorce

or already married

Jawi doesn't need it at all. It would be A.

[*JG* 2]

Question:

Today I had dinner with my aunt & her friends. Apparently my aunt told them I was engaged to a Jamaican before I arrived. One of the ladies told me that she's heard that a lot of guys who work at resorts in Jamaica pursue American women to get a green card. I responded, "I've heard that before."

What do you all say when people tell you that?

It's none of your damn business.....I'm a grown woman!!

u guys would really curse the ppl??? LOL.. i dont' know what i would say nat.. i think about it alot tho cuz i know its coming.. UGHHHH

You know JG lol

If Damn is the worst cuss word I use, they are getting off easy.

Girlfriend, GO DOWN TO THE END OF THE QUOTE BEFORE YOU ANSWER!!!!

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

About the MIL question: It's not that I don't like my MIL...I can only take her in small doses. She is VERY clingy w/ my husband. He is the baby, and he is the one that takes care of her the most. While I love the fact that he will do anything to take care of his mother, grandmother, and family I know for a fact that she uses this to her advantage and will cry at the drop of a dime to try and get what she wants. To the point that it was driving my husband to have health problems and be SUPER stressed! I finally told him that he was going to have to start setting some boundaries w/ her and the rest of his family if we had a chance in hell at working for the long haul, because I could not put up w/ the playing on emotions forever! There's only so much a sista can take. It's only in the last couple of months when he has needed them for once, and the only thing she and my BIL's could do was argue w/ him, cuss him, and make him feel worse that he started to realize all along what I was saying. I just keep my lips pressed tightly shut and let him learn on his own after I've said my peace. This is how I've learned what works.

why is it his responsibility to take care of her? doesn't he have you to worry about? doesn't she have a man she can ask for things?

While his other brothers work, they don't contribute any help to his mother & grandmother, or my nephews...His mother stays home primarily and takes care of his grandmother, and may do some odd jobs here and there. She has a sister and brother in the states that helps her occasionally. Her husband (my husbands dad) passed away when my husband was 8, so primarily she's had only the 3 boys. No other men. U don't know how many times I've asked him why can't his brothers do more since they both work...it's a discussion that has created so much tension b/w us in the past. I just don't understand it. And as far as worrying about me, he does, and more. It's been a learning experience for all of us involved...but we're doing it...and he's handling things much better and finally letting them know that hey, they're going to have to do more and contribute more because he's not going to be able to do it like they've been used to. I tell you, the relationship b/w a man and his mother is a delicate one...

[dancehallquana 5]

jg.. that MIL evil.. she mus have bipolar issues or sumting???

hey newly.. thanks for ur honest answer.. and yep i am laughing at u for wanting to cook.. but i know what ya mean.. my ex was a virgo and it made him feel good to know he could do things better than me i think, maybe cuz we are strong women and its not much we can't do, so let him take his joy where he can

[MRStee 19]

who else doan like dem MIL?

and who brought lunch today? mi hungry like whoah!

I have to say I am lucky when it comes to my MIL....she is so good to me. We talk pretty much everyday if not more than once a day. She is more like a friend to me now and I don't even think of her as a MIL. We just went to visit her and 90% of the time it was her and I and the kids. We had a lot of fun together and laughted so hard at so many things. I am really thankful to have her in my life as well.

See I am the same way with my future MIL just this one time we seemed to butt heads....

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Hey Quana! Wha u do? How's Roger?

[*JG* 2]

jg.. that MIL evil.. she mus have bipolar issues or sumting???

hey newly.. thanks for ur honest answer.. and yep i am laughing at u for wanting to cook.. but i know what ya mean.. my ex was a virgo and it made him feel good to know he could do things better than me i think, maybe cuz we are strong women and its not much we can't do, so let him take his joy where he can

I believe so, too, Quana.

[Sonshyne 2]

I see Sonshyne!!

Hello Fam..

It's been awhile, just dropping in to say... Wha gwaan!!

Hi Sonny. Hope all is well.

Hi JG... I'm good thanks

[finesse 3]

About the MIL question: It's not that I don't like my MIL...I can only take her in small doses. She is VERY clingy w/ my husband. He is the baby, and he is the one that takes care of her the most. While I love the fact that he will do anything to take care of his mother, grandmother, and family I know for a fact that she uses this to her advantage and will cry at the drop of a dime to try and get what she wants. To the point that it was driving my husband to have health problems and be SUPER stressed! I finally told him that he was going to have to start setting some boundaries w/ her and the rest of his family if we had a chance in hell at working for the long haul, because I could not put up w/ the playing on emotions forever! There's only so much a sista can take. It's only in the last couple of months when he has needed them for once, and the only thing she and my BIL's could do was argue w/ him, cuss him, and make him feel worse that he started to realize all along what I was saying. I just keep my lips pressed tightly shut and let him learn on his own after I've said my peace. This is how I've learned what works.

why is it his responsibility to take care of her? doesn't he have you to worry about? doesn't she have a man she can ask for things?

While his other brothers work, they don't contribute any help to his mother & grandmother, or my nephews...His mother stays home primarily and takes care of his grandmother, and may do some odd jobs here and there. She has a sister and brother in the states that helps her occasionally. Her husband (my husbands dad) passed away when my husband was 8, so primarily she's had only the 3 boys. No other men. U don't know how many times I've asked him why can't his brothers do more since they both work...it's a discussion that has created so much tension b/w us in the past. I just don't understand it. And as far as worrying about me, he does, and more. It's been a learning experience for all of us involved...but we're doing it...and he's handling things much better and finally letting them know that hey, they're going to have to do more and contribute more because he's not going to be able to do it like they've been used to. I tell you, the relationship b/w a man and his mother is a delicate one...

oh, that does sound like a tricky situation...

Question:

Today I had dinner with my aunt & her friends. Apparently my aunt told them I was engaged to a Jamaican before I arrived. One of the ladies told me that she's heard that a lot of guys who work at resorts in Jamaica pursue American women to get a green card. I responded, "I've heard that before."

What do you all say when people tell you that?

It's none of your damn business.....I'm a grown woman!!

u guys would really curse the ppl??? LOL.. i dont' know what i would say nat.. i think about it alot tho cuz i know its coming.. UGHHHH

You know JG lol

If Damn is the worst cuss word I use, they are getting off easy.

Girlfriend, GO DOWN TO THE END OF THE QUOTE BEFORE YOU ANSWER!!!!

be easy on har jg, she still newbie

[*JG* 2]

About the MIL question: It's not that I don't like my MIL...I can only take her in small doses. She is VERY clingy w/ my husband. He is the baby, and he is the one that takes care of her the most. While I love the fact that he will do anything to take care of his mother, grandmother, and family I know for a fact that she uses this to her advantage and will cry at the drop of a dime to try and get what she wants. To the point that it was driving my husband to have health problems and be SUPER stressed! I finally told him that he was going to have to start setting some boundaries w/ her and the rest of his family if we had a chance in hell at working for the long haul, because I could not put up w/ the playing on emotions forever! There's only so much a sista can take. It's only in the last couple of months when he has needed them for once, and the only thing she and my BIL's could do was argue w/ him, cuss him, and make him feel worse that he started to realize all along what I was saying. I just keep my lips pressed tightly shut and let him learn on his own after I've said my peace. This is how I've learned what works.

why is it his responsibility to take care of her? doesn't he have you to worry about? doesn't she have a man she can ask for things?

While his other brothers work, they don't contribute any help to his mother & grandmother, or my nephews...His mother stays home primarily and takes care of his grandmother, and may do some odd jobs here and there. She has a sister and brother in the states that helps her occasionally. Her husband (my husbands dad) passed away when my husband was 8, so primarily she's had only the 3 boys. No other men. U don't know how many times I've asked him why can't his brothers do more since they both work...it's a discussion that has created so much tension b/w us in the past. I just don't understand it. And as far as worrying about me, he does, and more. It's been a learning experience for all of us involved...but we're doing it...and he's handling things much better and finally letting them know that hey, they're going to have to do more and contribute more because he's not going to be able to do it like they've been used to. I tell you, the relationship b/w a man and his mother is a delicate one...

oh, that does sound like a tricky situation...

Question:

Today I had dinner with my aunt & her friends. Apparently my aunt told them I was engaged to a Jamaican before I arrived. One of the ladies told me that she's heard that a lot of guys who work at resorts in Jamaica pursue American women to get a green card. I responded, "I've heard that before."

What do you all say when people tell you that?

It's none of your damn business.....I'm a grown woman!!

u guys would really curse the ppl??? LOL.. i dont' know what i would say nat.. i think about it alot tho cuz i know its coming.. UGHHHH

You know JG lol

If Damn is the worst cuss word I use, they are getting off easy.

Girlfriend, GO DOWN TO THE END OF THE QUOTE BEFORE YOU ANSWER!!!!

be easy on har jg, she still newbie

Ha ha....couldn't resist.

[NatPatBen 3]

I had leftover crabs from the crab & shrimp boil I went to, and leftover mac & cheese, greens, & Greek salad from the other dinner I went to. And some of my awesome watermelon salad.

wha dis?

Watermelon cut into chunks, feta cheese, diced red onion, mint leaves, red wine vinegar, olive oil, salt & pepper.

I have a couple of pictures in my "Yummy" album on Facebook.

The "official" recipe (at least the one I used) came from Paula Deen.

Hey Nat I've rented from Budget and Island. They are both right at the airport. I like Budget better because I find them more laid back about checking the car when you return it, but I just check both of their prices and go with the one that is cheaper. They are both right there and I've never had any problems with either.

Thanks!

Hey Quana! Wha u do? How's Roger?

Dang, MrsP. You change message colors more often than Hotlegz changes signature colors!

[dancehallquana 5]

hi mrs p.. wha gwaan my girl??? how was the weekend.. u better get ur last party days out the way..mister will be here b4 u know it..