Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part17)

[MRStee 19]

Hey everyone! I added some pictures to my profile from my last trip down to Jamaica if you are interested in taking a look!

The children are cute!!! Thank you for sharing.

[dancehallquana 5]

ok, who have a new topic?

anybody else have MIL problem, marraige problem, pickney problem, adjustment problem?

who ave birthday, vacation, promotion, anniversary, divorce, wedding coming up?

who's feeling good, bad, happy, or sad?

oh yeah, where is ells?

ells said she'd be back on tuesday..

i gotta question.. i guess more for JAE when she comes on.. given the likkle topic on abstinence.. and most Jamaican men's aversion to such a thing.. do u feel that faithfulness during these LDR's is also a hard thing to swallow for them?

i mean, some couples have went LOONNNGGGG periods of time w/out seeing each other.. almost a year for some w/out one visit..what have u seen in ur experiences or what is ur take on it???

[JAPrincess 27]

Ells is honeymooning somewhere......whether she left home or not!

She said she would be back to work today... we'll see if she shows up

Oh, I guess Quana right... mi haffi wait till Tuesday

Edited August 10, 2009 by JAPrincess

[sus 70]

Hey everyone! I added some pictures to my profile from my last trip down to Jamaica if you are interested in taking a look!

Great pics! The baby is precious!!

[finesse 3]

ok, who have a new topic?

anybody else have MIL problem, marraige problem, pickney problem, adjustment problem?

who ave birthday, vacation, promotion, anniversary, divorce, wedding coming up?

who's feeling good, bad, happy, or sad?

oh yeah, where is ells?

ells said she'd be back on tuesday..

i gotta question.. i guess more for JAE when she comes on.. given the likkle topic on abstinence.. and most Jamaican men's aversion to such a thing.. do u feel that faithfulness during these LDR's is also a hard thing to swallow for them?

i mean, some couples have went LOONNNGGGG periods of time w/out seeing each other.. almost a year for some w/out one visit..what have u seen in ur experiences or what is ur take on it???

wha dis mean?

[acrow 0]

ok, who have a new topic?

anybody else have MIL problem, marraige problem, pickney problem, adjustment problem?

who ave birthday, vacation, promotion, anniversary, divorce, wedding coming up?

who's feeling good, bad, happy, or sad?

oh yeah, where is ells?

Ok, I admit it, I don't like my MIL, but I would NEVER tell my husband in a million years. She is always just SO negative. She is always sick and complaining. Life is so hard and terrible. I know life in Ja can be hard, but her children take care of her...she has a comfortable house and a comfortable bed, she has no bills to pay, and she always has food on her plate. She has a beautiful garden around her house that my husband planted for her.

When my husband sends her money she spends it on cash pot. I hear him tell her not to on the phone, but she does anyway.

Whew! Nice to get this off my chest. Honestly, though, she raised my husband and she loves him very much, and he loves her. She is also the grandmother of my son and she loves him, too. I am just tired of hearing about what a terrible place the world is!

I also hate how she comes into our Jamaican house without knocking. I am used to more privacy. Maybe thats a Jamaican thing. It doesn't seem to bother Neil.

[finesse 3]

[acrow 0]

Hey everyone! I added some pictures to my profile from my last trip down to Jamaica if you are interested in taking a look!

Great pics! The baby is precious!!

Thanks!

[sus 70]

i gotta question.. i guess more for JAE when she comes on.. given the likkle topic on abstinence.. and most Jamaican men's aversion to such a thing.. do u feel that faithfulness during these LDR's is also a hard thing to swallow for them?

i mean, some couples have went LOONNNGGGG periods of time w/out seeing each other.. almost a year for some w/out one visit..what have u seen in ur experiences or what is ur take on it???

I am sorry, I don't buy the line of "the man can't make it" "he has needs" etc..... if you commit yourself to someone and make a promise to be faithful, then you need to keep it - It disgusts me when I hear people justify it - if a woman can do it, so can the man -

[dancehallquana 5]

Good morning everyone. Im on the way to the hospital with my 14 yr old. She has been sick for the past week. We did everything possible to help her feel better because you know the hospitals don't consider things an emergency. She has asthma so Im going to see if they can put her on a breathing treatment. She may be trying to get bronchitis. I will keep you posted.

Have a great day everyone.....

Hope she is better.

yes ms tee.. many prayers going out for lil mama!!

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Ok, I admit it, I don't like my MIL, but I would NEVER tell my husband in a million years. She is always just SO negative. She is always sick and complaining. Life is so hard and terrible. I know life in Ja can be hard, but her children take care of her...she has a comfortable house and a comfortable bed, she has no bills to pay, and she always has food on her plate. She has a beautiful garden around her house that my husband planted for her.

When my husband sends her money she spends it on cash pot. I hear him tell her not to on the phone, but she does anyway.

Whew! Nice to get this off my chest. Honestly, though, she raised my husband and she loves him very much, and he loves her. She is also the grandmother of my son and she loves him, too. I am just tired of hearing about what a terrible place the world is!

I also hate how she comes into our Jamaican house without knocking. I am used to more privacy. Maybe thats a Jamaican thing. It doesn't seem to bother Neil.

nope thats not a Jacan thing..thast a MIL that thinks she run dis cause her son lives there..u better stop that if u ever want to have privacy..

[finesse 3]

ok, who have a new topic?

anybody else have MIL problem, marraige problem, pickney problem, adjustment problem?

who ave birthday, vacation, promotion, anniversary, divorce, wedding coming up?

who's feeling good, bad, happy, or sad?

oh yeah, where is ells?

Ok, I admit it, I don't like my MIL, but I would NEVER tell my husband in a million years. She is always just SO negative. She is always sick and complaining. Life is so hard and terrible. I know life in Ja can be hard, but her children take care of her...she has a comfortable house and a comfortable bed, she has no bills to pay, and she always has food on her plate. She has a beautiful garden around her house that my husband planted for her.

When my husband sends her money she spends it on cash pot. I hear him tell her not to on the phone, but she does anyway.

Whew! Nice to get this off my chest. Honestly, though, she raised my husband and she loves him very much, and he loves her. She is also the grandmother of my son and she loves him, too. I am just tired of hearing about what a terrible place the world is!

I also hate how she comes into our Jamaican house without knocking. I am used to more privacy. Maybe thats a Jamaican thing. It doesn't seem to bother Neil.

see it? that is what we are here for!

[dancehallquana 5]

ok, who have a new topic?

anybody else have MIL problem, marraige problem, pickney problem, adjustment problem?

who ave birthday, vacation, promotion, anniversary, divorce, wedding coming up?

who's feeling good, bad, happy, or sad?

oh yeah, where is ells?

ells said she'd be back on tuesday..

i gotta question.. i guess more for JAE when she comes on.. given the likkle topic on abstinence.. and most Jamaican men's aversion to such a thing.. do u feel that faithfulness during these LDR's is also a hard thing to swallow for them?

i mean, some couples have went LOONNNGGGG periods of time w/out seeing each other.. almost a year for some w/out one visit..what have u seen in ur experiences or what is ur take on it???

wha dis mean?

did i spell it wrong.. just talking bout how jae say jamaican men that she know cyaan abstain..

[SupportOAFJF 0]

i gotta question.. i guess more for JAE when she comes on.. given the likkle topic on abstinence.. and most Jamaican men's aversion to such a thing.. do u feel that faithfulness during these LDR's is also a hard thing to swallow for them?

i mean, some couples have went LOONNNGGGG periods of time w/out seeing each other.. almost a year for some w/out one visit..what have u seen in ur experiences or what is ur take on it???

I am sorry, I don't buy the line of "the man can't make it" "he has needs" etc..... if you commit yourself to someone and make a promise to be faithful, then you need to keep it - It disgusts me when I hear people justify it - if a woman can do it, so can the man -

I believe it cause my husband did it..there is never a day we didn't talk..him gone a dance mi dey a dance pon di phone..men r men r men r men..and dem a go do wah dem a go do abstinence or not..we have been totally honest with each other and he has given no reason to think he has ever cheated on me.

ok, who have a new topic?

anybody else have MIL problem, marraige problem, pickney problem, adjustment problem?

who ave birthday, vacation, promotion, anniversary, divorce, wedding coming up?

who's feeling good, bad, happy, or sad?

oh yeah, where is ells?

ells said she'd be back on tuesday..

i gotta question.. i guess more for JAE when she comes on.. given the likkle topic on abstinence.. and most Jamaican men's aversion to such a thing.. do u feel that faithfulness during these LDR's is also a hard thing to swallow for them?

i mean, some couples have went LOONNNGGGG periods of time w/out seeing each other.. almost a year for some w/out one visit..what have u seen in ur experiences or what is ur take on it???

wha dis mean?

did i spell it wrong.. just talking bout how jae say jamaican men that she know cyaan abstain..

don't mind har she a try be funny..cause she no ave a clue wah it mean

[dancehallquana 5]

don't all or most mothers want what is best for their children? whether they have alterior motives or not? i have seen some things in this process with hubbys family/friends where I have been like ####### is going on here??? but i still like to live my life by giving people the benefit of the doubt. i just can't go around thinking the worst of everyone. i think you can do that w/out being naive or a fool. i try to have acceptance for everyone...even if they suck

I think most do... but sometimes they can be a bit selfish.

One of my aunts didn't marry this man because of his mother and his unwillingness to stand up to her or say "No." He's the only "child" (50 yrs old or so) and his mother is not married. She's very clingy & needy and seems to prefer that her only son spend all his energy on her instead of him being happy with another woman. To me, it's on HIM to set his mother straight, but he wouldn't, so my aunt broke it off.

EXACTLY RIGHT.. and i would have done the SAME!!