Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part17)

[*JG* 2]

What has always intrigued me is that I haven't ever met a practicing Christian who actually practiced abstinence. I could also never EVER imagine any Jamaican man I know actually putting up with waiting.

I, of course am MORE than open to be proven wrong!

u have found one jae!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! when we first met he thought after 3 or 4 days we were good to go in the sex arena cuz we were getting a long so well, .. i told him NO.. he was a lil peeved cuz i do think heavy petting is permissable so that was a lil misleading to him. he got over it and the whole rest of our trip (11 days).. he understood and honored my decision..he has told me b4 that he didn't know whey cuz USUALLY if a woman is not putting out, he would find someone that would.. not being a ####### or anything (i guess) but sex is REALLY important to him and most jamaicans as u say jae

now after knowing him a good 4 mnths.. i did make the decision to do it cuz i LOVED him and yes i did feel bad compromising, but so it go...

Most recently i started praticing abstinence again, WHY?? its what i want to do, my body is not his and i don't owe him the right to it just because we are together.. i feel i need to sacrifice and resist temptation right now for my own spiritual walk as well as start our marriage off fresh. Roger was very upset, about this decision, like STORMING out of the room upset..not talking to me for a min upset LOL but after the initial shock he has been taking it like a champ.. he knows that our love is WAY past physical.. we enjoy other forms of intimacy .. hugging, kissing, and to me thats just as good.. it gets hard, but when we feel we're getting to the point of no return.. i stop and he stops.. he never takes advantage of my weak points..

so anyway of course this is not a LONNNGGGGG drawn out abstaining period that he has had to deal w/, just a few weeks here and there. so maybe i am not the BEST example.. but i do believe that he could handle it long term IF we had to

i for one was SHOCKED at how serious he took NOT HAVING SEX, ya'll he was HOT...kisteeting,, pulling away from me.. but i see now from ur comment its a pretty big deal.. after the first couple of days he said he just got used to it..

so what i will teach my kids is BOTH abstinence cuz i believe it IS possible to wait till marriage if u choose AND about safe sex, cuz i know the flesh is weak and i don't want them to be uninformed and make stupid decisions

Quana - u must be at work?

yep at work.. bout to go back to work.. soooonnnnn as i get caught up LOL

Congrats for sticking to your principles!

I guess I find it almost impossible to believe that the average non-christian Jamaican man would wait until marriage to sleep with his woman for the FIRST time. If BOTH of them were christian, yes I can see it.

In your situation, yes I can see him abstaining with you, because you have already reached a certain level of intimacy.

But to be honest, I am of the opinion that NO Jamaican non-christian man is going to be involved in a relationship for a year or so where there is NO sex involved UNLESS he's sleeping with someone ELSE. It may be possible, I stand to be proven wrong, but I don't think there's a chance in hell of it happening.

I agree.

[finesse 3]

morning everyone!

i thought tre knew better than to stand pon di roof and party...

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

where are my manners

morning yardies!!!

[sus 70]

LMAO Finesse - I can vouch that Lawny wasn't there - she sent me a text that she was buying out the grocery store.

[*JG* 2]

Apparently he had been before for chest pain (years ago) and they asked him to list all the things he ate leading up to that time. This time they asked the same and noticed that the common food was ackee.

I did research on ackee and found out that it can be dangerous:

"...Enough people have died from eating unripened ackee that it is illegal to bring the fruit into the U.S." (Source: The New York Times Sunday Magazine, October 12, 2008). It should be noted, however, that canned ackee is now available and legal to purchase in the U.S.

Eating unripe ackee can also cause Jamaican Vomiting Sickness, particularly for children or malnourished people.

I wonder if that's what happened. He mentioned that he felt like throwing up and also that he was very thirsty. (Yet kept telling me not to worry.)

You didn't know it was poisonous when not ripe?

[finesse 3]

finesse yuh back!

wah gwaan ladies !..i have attempted packing for the girls..gotta just add pampers and formula...even tho she not even taking it much

just a few more days

[SupportOAFJF 0]

LMAO Finesse - I can vouch that Lawny wasn't there - she sent me a text that she was buying out the grocery store.

did she tell u how she an some gyal ketch up..LMAO...she is a nut

finesse yuh back!

wah gwaan ladies !..i have attempted packing for the girls..gotta just add pampers and formula...even tho she not even taking it much

just a few more days

yes maam..mi cyaa wait!

OOO my newest MIL story..well not mine Kashi's

[My4rmylife 0]

GOOD MORNING EVERYONE

[1luv 1]

When are u leaving Kimmy and how long r u staying in Jamaica

[*JG* 2]

Good morning everyone. Im on the way to the hospital with my 14 yr old. She has been sick for the past week. We did everything possible to help her feel better because you know the hospitals don't consider things an emergency. She has asthma so Im going to see if they can put her on a breathing treatment. She may be trying to get bronchitis. I will keep you posted.

Have a great day everyone.....

Hope she is better.

[^KK^ 3]

good morning

[finesse 3]

LMAO Finesse - I can vouch that Lawny wasn't there - she sent me a text that she was buying out the grocery store.

did she tell u how she an some gyal ketch up..LMAO...she is a nut

finesse yuh back!

wah gwaan ladies !..i have attempted packing for the girls..gotta just add pampers and formula...even tho she not even taking it much

just a few more days

yes maam..mi cyaa wait!

OOO my newest MIL story..well not mine Kashi's

we are all ears...

[*JG* 2]

oohh...sexy! do he suck dem toes too?

I haven't reached that level yet. I find the thought of sucking any part of a foot utterly disgusting... all that slobber, yuck. But kissing feet is fine.

Then you don't know what you are missing

[*JG* 2]

Has anyone had to get the non-impediment for the interview?

Everyone has had to/has to get it.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

MIl told hubby that she is going to have stuff to send to JA for his brothers...well she no call nuttin fi months now..not even call him for his bday!! well him talk to him aunty...oo MIl changed her # didnt tell him or cal lto give him new number.....so him ask di aunty if him modda ave nutti fi go JA..she sey yes..so all now him no talk to di ooman..so him tell me bout hi ma go ova dere today fi pick di tings..so mi sey how u know sh ewaan u bring nuttin go a JA..all now u no chat to di ooman..if she did want yuh bring the stuff she woulda call yuh....BUT a him modda mi nah sey nuttin..him wi learn..like him a bed har fi send di tings dem wid har..like she know how plane ticket buy...i tell u