Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part17)

[DaDa 1]

hmmm best love scene.. i dunno which i would pick.. i like in jason's lyric when they went on the first date to the museum.. that was just beautiful.. i like the love and basketball scene, even tho they didn't do much.. maxwell singing while they were kissing for the first time was perfect..

Does this have anything to do with it being your wedding song??

[DaDa 1]

I have to see this episode, I haven't been watching it this season it kind of fell off for me but now you have me intrigued again

No girl the movie not Runs Girls the series. I never started watching that.

[^KK^ 3]

Yet another reason why we are sisters from anotha mother!

Hee hee.........

Guess I'm the triplet...I always have more appetite than my guys...

Guys...with an "S"....hahahaha kikiki...just teasing...

[DaDa 1]

Dang with all this sex talk you all are going to make me want to go home at lunch time!!!!

Go girl just go home and jump on his rass!!! Don't even call him and tell em yuh coming just walk through the door and start taking off your clothes.

Then when you come back to work and your hair is all messed up. Be like "Whew it sure is windy out there!!!" LOL

Hahah I crack myself up!

But Dillion yuh know I'm serious right??

[Islandwoman 0]

(Did y'all notice me changing the subject so Ells doesn't feel ganged up on?)

Please don't feel that way Ells!! Just don't want you to make my mistakes (yes, I was a "no-er" to my ex-husband... the word has never touched my lips since).

[IrieCat 2]

What's going on this weekend, ladies?

I'm going to a "How to Date Holy" panel discussion at church tonight. This is part 2. I wasn't at part 1, but heard it was VERY interesting, so I'm going to be nosy.

Tomorrow is a focus on my car: oil change, state inspection, car wash & vacuum

(Did y'all notice me changing the subject so Ells doesn't feel ganged up on?)

Well, personally, I think it depends on what is going on in life, Ells. If you are sitting around and he's sleeping or watching TV or something and then decides he wants it at like 1 a.m. and you are getting up early......Well, all kinds of other scenarios. If the timing is off, it's off. You have to find a way for the timing to be fairly compatible. I don't agree with the give it up whenever he asks theory. It's a joint effort and the time has to be right for both. It takes some time to work that out at first in the adjustment process. You'll figure it out. Just hang in there.

As far as planning and him not wanting to........Plan something and just dont' tell him. Spring it on him like it was the last minute. You see where I am going with that?

Nat: Tonight from 6-7 I am supposed to be learning country line dancing. Tomorrow, I am hopefully having a tattoo, um, changed, and taking the daughter shopping for some intimate appareal. That should be a real joy....eye rolling all day I am sure. Sunday is softball and I think I am getting a new screen door installed.

I like your idea about you planning it and him not knowing! I do that... I get all nice and sexied up (LOL) and spring it on Louis and he LOVES it!

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

You know the hubby and I had this "problem" on my last trip. I didn't feel like giving up the goods one night, and of course since he didn't get it that night, he tried the next am. This may be TMI but I don't like having sex before I pee in the am because it hurts, so I told him no again. Well, he was all salty and his face was long most of the day. When we talked later he was very angry at the fact that I was telling him no. And it wasn't so much my saying no--he felt it as a rejection of his wanting to connect with me on another level. All I'm thinking is that I don't want to have sex before I pee, and for him it was the refusal of a much deeper connection between us. Well after he explained all that, he got some right then...and again...and again... I think for alot of men, being connected sexually is more than just physical to them, especially if they put alot of time and effort into it. And that's what it was for him. He just wanted to feel closer to his wife (and get "the best he's ever had" ) Seriously though, I think its important for us to remember as wives to be in tune and considerate of their feelings as well.

There is a whole chapter in the "Intimate Issues: 21 Questions Christian Women Ask About Sex" dedicated to the topic we've been discussing yesterday & today. The chapter/question is about when he wants to do it but the woman doesn't. They make that very point, Mrs P, on how it means A LOT to the husband & his connection to wife & how saying no is such a harsh blow. They even give you 3 ways to say later/no that won't hurt him.The book also talks about how women want it more or less depending on where in their cycle they are. The suggestion was that whenever you're at the point in your cycle where you feel ready, to go all out.

Yeah I can definitely see that now. Especially with men who generally tend not to communicate their feelings as often as women do. My husband is that way. He is not as much of a talker as I am, though he will share his feelings. He is more of a "show-er". He expresses his love for me verbally, but he is much more into demonstrating this in other ways. And my putting him off or telling him no, to him, was me rejecting him and his feelings. I felt so bad . But, I've learned, and I explained my reasons and point of view, and well, in the end he got what he wanted, but now we both kinda know where each other is coming from and working around that is easier now.

[NatPatBen 3]

We're not ganging up on Ells we are just stating our opinions which by the way you haven’t gave urs Ms Nat. We all have different opinions some ladies agreed and some didn't no biggie....

I 100% understand having a lot to do & needing sleep. If I noticed that my husband was wanting it too late at night, when I'm ready for sleep, I'd explain to him how earlier in the evening or first thing in the morning would be better. Then, be proactive & start things myself at a time more convenient to me.

Same thing I've learned with the phone. If Steven calls me, it's often not gonna be at my preferred times to chat, esp if I have something going on. The solution: I call him when it is more convenient for me. He's happy that I initiated the phone call AND I get to talk when I want. Win-Win!

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Dang with all this sex talk you all are going to make me want to go home at lunch time!!!!

Go girl just go home and jump on his rass!!! Don't even call him and tell em yuh coming just walk through the door and start taking off your clothes.

Then when you come back to work and your hair is all messed up. Be like "Whew it sure is windy out there!!!" LOL

Hahah I crack myself up!

But Dillion yuh know I'm serious right??

I can't wait til I'm able to do that...although even our quickies have me too worn out to do anything for the next couple of hours, so I don't know if I would be heading back to work...

[DaDa 1]

You know the hubby and I had this "problem" on my last trip. I didn't feel like giving up the goods one night, and of course since he didn't get it that night, he tried the next am. This may be TMI but I don't like having sex before I pee in the am because it hurts, so I told him no again. Well, he was all salty and his face was long most of the day. When we talked later he was very angry at the fact that I was telling him no. And it wasn't so much my saying no--he felt it as a rejection of his wanting to connect with me on another level. All I'm thinking is that I don't want to have sex before I pee, and for him it was the refusal of a much deeper connection between us. Well after he explained all that, he got some right then...and again...and again... I think for alot of men, being connected sexually is more than just physical to them, especially if they put alot of time and effort into it. And that's what it was for him. He just wanted to feel closer to his wife (and get "the best he's ever had" ) Seriously though, I think its important for us to remember as wives to be in tune and considerate of their feelings as well.

Dat's right Mrs. palmer Lock em down Clank Clank!!!

That was nice that he told you how he honestly felt. See communication is key. Something so small as that was resolved by talking about it instead if ignoring the problem and letting it fester..

But I'm with you I do need to go before we "go.."

[dancehallquana 5]

i was just gonna say that too island, but thought it would be seen as too much.. I AGREE.. a marriage depends on it..

its physical, but also mental.. im telling u.. if i was denied too much it would start to mess w/ my confidence, my connection w/ my spouse would be affected.. and other women are hitting on him.. u said some of ur friends.. alot times men stray not only for physical, but for a confidence boost.. its worth it to try every other day maybe honey..

MY TWO CENTS.. NO FACT!!!!!!!

You know the hubby and I had this "problem" on my last trip. I didn't feel like giving up the goods one night, and of course since he didn't get it that night, he tried the next am. This may be TMI but I don't like having sex before I pee in the am because it hurts, so I told him no again. Well, he was all salty and his face was long most of the day. When we talked later he was very angry at the fact that I was telling him no. And it wasn't so much my saying no--he felt it as a rejection of his wanting to connect with me on another level. All I'm thinking is that I don't want to have sex before I pee, and for him it was the refusal of a much deeper connection between us. Well after he explained all that, he got some right then...and again...and again... I think for alot of men, being connected sexually is more than just physical to them, especially if they put alot of time and effort into it. And that's what it was for him. He just wanted to feel closer to his wife (and get "the best he's ever had" ) Seriously though, I think its important for us to remember as wives to be in tune and considerate of their feelings as well.

thank u for that beautiful example.. that is all im saying.. most HUSBANDS don't just wanna come, but the act is so much more that we really dont think about..

and when i say never deny.. i don't mean everytime he asks im ready and willing.. like i said i get TIRED alot of times he boughs out and says .. i know ur tired baby...and we just hug.. but it comes from me not always quick to say no to him.. he knows i sacrifice for him so he sacrifices for me..

like jg said, we have to be wise.. i know what days are jam packed in my week so i make sure those other days are taken care of .. so no reason for complaints when im SLEEPY ..

now for my weekend.. SCHOOL SHOPPING AND HAIR APPTS..

but there is a white reggae party sat that we might hit up.. i need to find me a bad white dress to WOW them wid..

[NatPatBen 3]

Guess I'm the triplet...I always have more appetite than my guys...

Guys...with an "S"....hahahaha kikiki...just teasing...

Get is IslandWoman!

[dillon 6]

Dang with all this sex talk you all are going to make me want to go home at lunch time!!!!

Go girl just go home and jump on his rass!!! Don't even call him and tell em yuh coming just walk through the door and start taking off your clothes.

Then when you come back to work and your hair is all messed up. Be like "Whew it sure is windy out there!!!" LOL

Hahah I crack myself up!

But Dillion yuh know I'm serious right??

I would but he isn't home.

[sus 70]

So, update on the wedding saga - She came back a day early from her honeymoon - He refused to leave the room, do anything with her, unless it involved gambling and spending more of her money - Not only did he cash the checks, he opened credit cards in her grandma's name, and cleaned out the woman's bank account -

She's filing for divorce -

[dancehallquana 5]

Dang with all this sex talk you all are going to make me want to go home at lunch time!!!!

LOL Dillon that's what I am taking about I wish I could do that too but I work across state lines

episode of what philly .. i missed this

Oh sorry, Dada was talking about Daddy's little girls the Rev Run spinoff show.

What are yall gonna do about playing football, are there any public parks or fields they can go and play or its all done by permits and reservations?

ohh.. u know what, i thought she was talking bout the MOVIE.. Roger was looking at it last night.. i was trying to remember where that scene was LMAO!!!!

ok.. i saw that show for the first time the other day in my kids room.. i couldn't beleive those girls got a show.. is their life that interesting???

i dunno.. girl u know the yardmen probably gonna keep playing right there, and we newcomers so we have no say, shoot roger don't even know half of they names..??? how can u play TWICEl every week and not get to know them??? they laugh and joke and he come home.. he don't even fraternize w/ them afterwards.. i guess i should be happy , but sometimes i wish he was a lil more social, just a lil

update next week!!!