Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part17)

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Question:

Do you believe in teaching you children about abstinence or about tools (condoms, birth control etc)?

Give me your thoughts.

what did ur parents teach u?

[*JG* 2]

JaP I really care about you...but sometimes I think you are more in love with love and the newness of a new love interest. I hope this doesn't come off wrong...but I have a hard time believing some of the things you post. I could be totally off base...but something just doesn't settle in my spirit. He may truly be a sweet man...but sometimes I think the "poet" in you embellishes the story a little...kinda like waxing nostalgic. Man, I'm not trying to hurt your feelings at all...but I wouldn't be a friend if I can't post what I feel in my gut. I have tried to bite my tongue and stay in my place. If you feel that I'm totally out of line, tell me...and I won't touch it again.

Well Jawi, everybody is entitled to their own opinion...

I won't deny that I am a poet and a lover, I always have been. The difference for me this time, is that I've met my match. He is also a poet, a lover and a very romantic man. I hope I can come back in 6, 7, 8 trillion years from now and you will see it's not just the newness that I am in love with.

I have had a few failed relationships in my life but each one of those people were good people that still love me to this day. (well minus the crack addict but damn he was fine

My point is I believe I am a good judge of character and my gut has not once told me that I am headed down the wrong path... of course only time will tell. I refuse to live my life on guard, and give my love in rations for fear of being hurt...

Regardless of how anyone here feels about my relationship I have to live my life for me, the best way I know how...

That way is filled with peace, love, poetry and GOD.

The only thing that hurts me about your post is that you have read my story... that report came from my heart and was an EXACT telling of what happened to me. None of it was "embellished" my dear... not one bit... The bits and pieces I have posted here pale in comparison to that pouring out of my heart...

But I don't take it to heart Jawi... I have never met another SOUL who gets me... All my life I have been labeled "too positive" "too happy" too "goody two shoes" too whatever...

BUT HE GETS ME! And THAT is what matters and THAT is why I am on this Visa Journey...

If God forbid it does not work out... I have met one of the best friends of my life, that much I know.

I tell you now, will do everything in my power to make it work.

JaPrincess...I never mentioned your story here...nor was it my point of reference. Your story was believable and touched me with its realness. However, there was not ONE word about "you being like water and him melting into you" or anything similar to this metaphor. He did some of the sweetest most endearing things in that report...and you wrote about it honestly.

I think you embellish some of the things you post on VJ...I may be wrong in my assessment. However, your trip report was totally different to me...it actually left me very reflective and melancholy because I haven't seen my man in a year.

Now, I don't know why you immediately jumped to the defense about whether your relationship was real because I never once said that or questioned whether it is or not. I never said he wasn't your soulmate or the person you will spend the rest of your life with...all I said was that I think you put a poetic spin on what he really said to you on the phone.

I'm not attacking your positivity, your happiness or anything about you...so where did that come from? I am real as they come and anyone that has ever talked to me off this board can attest to that. I will laugh, cry and scream with you...but I just can't be phony with people I say I care about...you being one of them.

JG I know you are wondering what I was referring to...and it really was the statement about him looking at her like a mirror and she is like water that he melts into. I don't buy that line...sorry.

Yeah, I admit I was wondering, Jawi. But, wasn't going to go back and look at anything. Cause in the end, I don't really care. To each his own. You know me.

OK, though. I remember that line. For me, I've heard so many lines, I don't believe any of them. I think they are cute and all; but give me a line and you sure as hell better be backing it up with some actions. Cause words are just words are just words.

[*JG* 2]

Question:

Do you believe in teaching you children about abstinence or about tools (condoms, birth control etc)?

Give me your thoughts.

Well, I hate to think of my kids ever having sex.

Son is 17 so I know it's coming and probably very soon. Tools there.

Daughter is 14 and if she is even thinking about it yet, I am going to kill her!!!!!

I talk waiting till you are sure you are ready and with the right person. But, in the end, I did it and they are going to do it. Ignore it or think they will abstain and all that does is lead to me being a very young grandma and helping raise another child. I teach my kids to think about things first and make the right decisions for them.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Yeah, I admit I was wondering, Jawi. But, wasn't going to go back and look at anything. Cause in the end, I don't really care. To each his own. You know me.

OK, though. I remember that line. For me, I've heard so many lines, I don't believe any of them. I think they are cute and all; but give me a line and you sure as hell better be backing it up with some actions. Cause words are just words are just words.

when I heard the line I must admit I thought something different....believe 100% he did say it, Jamaican men are known for things like that, but I would always laugh in their faces after a line like that.....maybe I'm not romantic or poetic lol

[^KK^ 3]

Where is Finesse? She gone house shopping by herself this time?

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Question:

Do you believe in teaching you children about abstinence or about tools (condoms, birth control etc)?

Give me your thoughts.

Well, I hate to think of my kids ever having sex.

Son is 17 so I know it's coming and probably very soon. Tools there.

Daughter is 14 and if she is even thinking about it yet, I am going to kill her!!!!!

I talk waiting till you are sure you are ready and with the right person. But, in the end, I did it and they are going to do it. Ignore it or think they will abstain and all that does is lead to me being a very young grandma and helping raise another child. I teach my kids to think about things first and make the right decisions for them.

JG is it b/c of the age ofur daughter why u would kill her ?

[JAPrincess 27]

I think you put a poetic spin on what he really said to you on the phone.

Believe it, don't believe it... I heard it with my ears and it was said to ME!

It was one of the sweetest things he has ever said but there have been plenty.

But I don't have to prove that to anybody else...

Edited August 7, 2009 by JAPrincess

[jawi876 2]

I don't really know the rest of your story or what Jawi is even talking about, so no comment there.

But, NEVER let anyone tell you not to be a positive person. I know exactly what you put up with from others because of it. I get so tired of being called naive just cause I am positive. So, hang in there on that.

I am still trying to figure it out myself

As I read it again last night after my reply, it seems she thinks it's "too good to be true" so I must be making things up...?

Like I have come here to convince YOU ALL that this man is great?

I wonder when YOU ALL are going to walk down the isle with him?

JaP...now I feel like you are letting people that are showing your "support" hype you up so that this becomes more than what it was. I didn't attack you or say that your relationship was too good to be true. But, I think you think you have to convince us of the realness.

I know that your relationship is not well received on ja.com and so you may feel freer to post on VJ about it...but I would prefer the realness I saw reflected in your trip report instead of a lot of poetic fluff.

You can continue to post the "cute" little snide remarks under the guise of staying positive...but I will continue and always be real with myself and my opinion regardless of how many people don't support that.

[^KK^ 3]

Question:

Do you believe in teaching you children about abstinence or about tools (condoms, birth control etc)?

Give me your thoughts.

what did ur parents teach u?

They never talked to me about it. Never. Still to this day I haven't had a conversation about it with my parents.

I learned from sex education in school and they showed me the birthing video and I said..oh I'm never doing that then.

Plus, all of my friends we made a vow to wait until we were married.

[sus 70]

Ok, all I am heading out - Probably back on later, but right now a nap in the sun is calling my name!!

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Question:

Do you believe in teaching you children about abstinence or about tools (condoms, birth control etc)?

Give me your thoughts.

what did ur parents teach u?

They never talked to me about it. Never. Still to this day I haven't had a conversation about it with my parents.

I learned from sex education in school and they showed me the birthing video and I said..oh I'm never doing that then.

Plus, all of my friends we made a vow to wait until we were married.

LMAO..

my mom spoke somewhat about it..but i was a very smart kid..new everything about everything..

I will talk about it with my kids..both abstinence and tools

[*JG* 2]

Question:

Do you believe in teaching you children about abstinence or about tools (condoms, birth control etc)?

Give me your thoughts.

what did ur parents teach u?

What is with all the side stepping of questions on here lately? Answer the damn question, Kimmy!

Question:

Do you believe in teaching you children about abstinence or about tools (condoms, birth control etc)?

Give me your thoughts.

Well, I hate to think of my kids ever having sex.

Son is 17 so I know it's coming and probably very soon. Tools there.

Daughter is 14 and if she is even thinking about it yet, I am going to kill her!!!!!

I talk waiting till you are sure you are ready and with the right person. But, in the end, I did it and they are going to do it. Ignore it or think they will abstain and all that does is lead to me being a very young grandma and helping raise another child. I teach my kids to think about things first and make the right decisions for them.

JG is it b/c of the age ofur daughter why u would kill her ?

Uh, huh. She's too young.

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Question:

Do you believe in teaching you children about abstinence or about tools (condoms, birth control etc)?

Give me your thoughts.

what did ur parents teach u?

What is with all the side stepping of questions on here lately? Answer the damn question, Kimmy!

LMAO...only with KK..she fass

[JAPrincess 27]

I truly do not want to hype up anything. It is Friday, I have 2 jobs to do and I really don't care WHO believes what I post.

I am here because I feel I can share what I am going through with out being judged. I am real too Jawi, I always have been... and NONE of our relationships are well received on jam.com that is why MANY of us are here instead of there.

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And I agree, with u JG..kill would be understatement