Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part17)

[sus 70]

richard has been looking for side jobs to pay his daughters school books and uniform.......so if you are still looking and want to ask richard he may be up for the job.....

I will let you know, Cara - We have the next week all set - if he isn't feeling great or still needs help, I will get in touch with you - Thanks,

[dillon 6]

Okay, what are MENA posters??

middle east and north africa

i had no idea either...

so what is wrong with them people then? they have sticks up dem azzes?

go look it is an entire different world over there. this gave me a good laugh.

in the middle east and north africa or on the thread?

Probably both but I can only speak about the tread.

[dancehallquana 5]

jawi, mi cyaan beleive wha ya tell me now bout wakey.. i hope for the best for her

[sus 70]

Jawi - saw this and thought of your conversation with A the other day!

[dancehallquana 5]

Okay, what are MENA posters??

middle east and north africa

i had no idea either...

so what is wrong with them people then? they have sticks up dem azzes?

go look it is an entire different world over there. this gave me a good laugh.

Yep. And, if you think JA men have too many "rules" or quirks or whatever you want to call them, listen closely to what they are saying about MENA men. OMG....I would not last a day with a MENA man and all those rules. Don't even get me started on the scarf on the head thing or worse, the burqa.

it always surprises me to see an american woman w/ a mena man.. w/ all of our independence and such.. doesn't seem to mesh well, but i guess love will make u do some crazy things

Jawi - saw this and thought of your conversation with A the other day!

ewwwww

[finesse 3]

jawi, mi cyaan beleive wha ya tell me now bout wakey.. i hope for the best for her

she back wid har man now?

[*JG* 2]

Sorry NatPat...I don't think so. I may come on to read the guides for AOS/ROC...but I won't be a yardie poster anymore. I'm tired of being the underdog...the person everyone loves to hate because I post something that makes people think or maybe a little uncomfortable. I'm tired of hearing about the private PMs discussing what I post and how rude it was or xyz...I'm tired of dealing with fakeness and sometimey friendships. I can't stand cowardice. Those that I am truly friends with know who they are...and they know that I will always be a phone call away.

Right now, I am posting because A is not here...I'm sitting in a boring training class for another 4 weeks...so why not.

I REALLY hope this is not about me cause ain't nobody PM'd me a thing

Everyone is entitled to their opinion and everyone has their own perception Jawi.

That is the spice of life! Nuh make nobody run you!

Nothing to do with you or what I said to you. Trust me nobbody run mi...but life is too short for me to have to constantly stifle my feelings...bite my tongue and deal with drama or a soap opera...so just like ja.com...VJ time has come to an end.

I told some people that once A got here...I was done with VJ...so it wasn't an overnight decision. There are a lot of people that do not post here anymore because of the phonyness and that every one is quick to jump down another person's throat because they aren't of the same belief as the majority. I know that in our personal lives we hear all the naysayers and we just want to come to a place where everyone understands and is pretty much in the same boat with the LDR situations. However, when you care about someone you shouldn't have to agree with foolishness just to still be accepted.

My sister's situation almost ripped my heart out because I knew before he even got here...I tried to tell her things to look out for...things to be careful of...she just told him everything I said...and he avoided me and the "pitfalls or red flags". I then said okay...I can't warn her anymore...all I can do is try to support her and be there for her when the foundation comes crumbling down. There is a rift in our relationship that I don't think will ever be repaired because I can't pretend anymore. She wants to believe in him...so I stay in my place. She was hurt because I don't want him at my wedding...I want her there so I conceded...even though it is my day. She wants him and A to hang out...and that is an absolute NO WAY! He didn't like A because A tried to give her advice too...oh boy I'm rambling...it's the medicine.

All I want to say is that you have to stop being so defensive and heed some of the warnings. Listen to your own intuition...I mean really listen. It won't steer you wrong...but I see so many women turning it off, ignoring it or lying to themselves that everything is gravy when they know in their heart of hearts it's not.

I know I ruffled a lot of feathers...but everything I said was not done in malice...it was with pure intent and wishing the best for all of you.

There are some people that I want to scream to the top of my lungs "WAKE UP" sweetie...but nobody wants to hear that when they are in love...so I bite my tongue and pray for the best. I have been about 99% accurate on the ones I know are not what the woman thinks they are...it is scary...but it's not for me to publicly forecast or denounce.

There are no guarantees in life...we just have to roll with the punches and pray/hope for the best.

Living and learning sucks sometimes, Jawi.

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

jawi i elect you and finesse to go over to the mena threads and give them a run for their money

you two would be a deadly combo, lol

but for real though i understand jawi's position

besides you have bigger fish to fry with your recovery from your back pain and the arrival of your fiance

so i sincerely wish you all the best

[JAPrincess 27]

Sorry NatPat...I don't think so. I may come on to read the guides for AOS/ROC...but I won't be a yardie poster anymore. I'm tired of being the underdog...the person everyone loves to hate because I post something that makes people think or maybe a little uncomfortable. I'm tired of hearing about the private PMs discussing what I post and how rude it was or xyz...I'm tired of dealing with fakeness and sometimey friendships. I can't stand cowardice. Those that I am truly friends with know who they are...and they know that I will always be a phone call away.

Right now, I am posting because A is not here...I'm sitting in a boring training class for another 4 weeks...so why not.

I REALLY hope this is not about me cause ain't nobody PM'd me a thing

Everyone is entitled to their opinion and everyone has their own perception Jawi.

That is the spice of life! Nuh make nobody run you!

Nothing to do with you or what I said to you. Trust me nobbody run mi...but life is too short for me to have to constantly stifle my feelings...bite my tongue and deal with drama or a soap opera...so just like ja.com...VJ time has come to an end.

I told some people that once A got here...I was done with VJ...so it wasn't an overnight decision. There are a lot of people that do not post here anymore because of the phonyness and that every one is quick to jump down another person's throat because they aren't of the same belief as the majority. I know that in our personal lives we hear all the naysayers and we just want to come to a place where everyone understands and is pretty much in the same boat with the LDR situations. However, when you care about someone you shouldn't have to agree with foolishness just to still be accepted.

My sister's situation almost ripped my heart out because I knew before he even got here...I tried to tell her things to look out for...things to be careful of...she just told him everything I said...and he avoided me and the "pitfalls or red flags". I then said okay...I can't warn her anymore...all I can do is try to support her and be there for her when the foundation comes crumbling down. There is a rift in our relationship that I don't think will ever be repaired because I can't pretend anymore. She wants to believe in him...so I stay in my place. She was hurt because I don't want him at my wedding...I want her there so I conceded...even though it is my day. She wants him and A to hang out...and that is an absolute NO WAY! He didn't like A because A tried to give her advice too...oh boy I'm rambling...it's the medicine.

All I want to say is that you have to stop being so defensive and heed some of the warnings. Listen to your own intuition...I mean really listen. It won't steer you wrong...but I see so many women turning it off, ignoring it or lying to themselves that everything is gravy when they know in their heart of hearts it's not.

I know I ruffled a lot of feathers...but everything I said was not done in malice...it was with pure intent and wishing the best for all of you.

There are some people that I want to scream to the top of my lungs "WAKE UP" sweetie...but nobody wants to hear that when they are in love...so I bite my tongue and pray for the best. I have been about 99% accurate on the ones I know are not what the woman thinks they are...it is scary...but it's not for me to publicly forecast or denounce.

There are no guarantees in life...we just have to roll with the punches and pray/hope for the best.

Thanks for this post

I agree that you SHOULD be able to tell the people you care about, what you really feel/think.

Sometimes a person is just to close to a thing to actually see it.

And I know you got years on here before I was even a blip on your radar...

I hope that you and your sister are able to smooth out the rift between you and I hope that you do come back and update us when you are ready. It's not all sunshine and roses in here ya know, we do have finesse

[finesse 3]

sus - i just noticed ur siggy.. dats me too!!

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

how do you know though when someone is using someone just by what they post?

i assume more intimate details are shared under the quiet

i haven't seen anyone post here who i believe in my gut is being led into a relationship for the wrong reason

[finesse 3]

Sorry NatPat...I don't think so. I may come on to read the guides for AOS/ROC...but I won't be a yardie poster anymore. I'm tired of being the underdog...the person everyone loves to hate because I post something that makes people think or maybe a little uncomfortable. I'm tired of hearing about the private PMs discussing what I post and how rude it was or xyz...I'm tired of dealing with fakeness and sometimey friendships. I can't stand cowardice. Those that I am truly friends with know who they are...and they know that I will always be a phone call away.

Right now, I am posting because A is not here...I'm sitting in a boring training class for another 4 weeks...so why not.

I REALLY hope this is not about me cause ain't nobody PM'd me a thing

Everyone is entitled to their opinion and everyone has their own perception Jawi.

That is the spice of life! Nuh make nobody run you!

Nothing to do with you or what I said to you. Trust me nobbody run mi...but life is too short for me to have to constantly stifle my feelings...bite my tongue and deal with drama or a soap opera...so just like ja.com...VJ time has come to an end.

I told some people that once A got here...I was done with VJ...so it wasn't an overnight decision. There are a lot of people that do not post here anymore because of the phonyness and that every one is quick to jump down another person's throat because they aren't of the same belief as the majority. I know that in our personal lives we hear all the naysayers and we just want to come to a place where everyone understands and is pretty much in the same boat with the LDR situations. However, when you care about someone you shouldn't have to agree with foolishness just to still be accepted.

My sister's situation almost ripped my heart out because I knew before he even got here...I tried to tell her things to look out for...things to be careful of...she just told him everything I said...and he avoided me and the "pitfalls or red flags". I then said okay...I can't warn her anymore...all I can do is try to support her and be there for her when the foundation comes crumbling down. There is a rift in our relationship that I don't think will ever be repaired because I can't pretend anymore. She wants to believe in him...so I stay in my place. She was hurt because I don't want him at my wedding...I want her there so I conceded...even though it is my day. She wants him and A to hang out...and that is an absolute NO WAY! He didn't like A because A tried to give her advice too...oh boy I'm rambling...it's the medicine.

All I want to say is that you have to stop being so defensive and heed some of the warnings. Listen to your own intuition...I mean really listen. It won't steer you wrong...but I see so many women turning it off, ignoring it or lying to themselves that everything is gravy when they know in their heart of hearts it's not.

I know I ruffled a lot of feathers...but everything I said was not done in malice...it was with pure intent and wishing the best for all of you.

There are some people that I want to scream to the top of my lungs "WAKE UP" sweetie...but nobody wants to hear that when they are in love...so I bite my tongue and pray for the best. I have been about 99% accurate on the ones I know are not what the woman thinks they are...it is scary...but it's not for me to publicly forecast or denounce.

There are no guarantees in life...we just have to roll with the punches and pray/hope for the best.

Thanks for this post

I agree that you SHOULD be able to tell the people you care about, what you really feel/think.

Sometimes a person is just to close to a thing to actually see it.

And I know you got years on here before I was even a blip on your radar...

I hope that you and your sister are able to smooth out the rift between you and I hope that you do come back and update us when you are ready. It's not all sunshine and roses in here ya know, we do have finesse

oh lawd, mi feelings hurt.....

[dancehallquana 5]

nobody wants to hear it when they are in love.. u are right about that!!!!!!

they don't want to hear NOTHING negative and if u say something.. u are the know it all and think ur perfect and then if u don't say anything and it crumbles its WHY DIDNT U SAY ANYTHING..

cyaan win i tell ya..

[JAPrincess 27]

oh lawd, mi feelings hurt.....

I know huh?

And we just got naked together.... I AM BAD

[finesse 3]

nobody wants to hear it when they are in love.. u are right about that!!!!!!

they don't want to hear NOTHING negative and if u say something.. u are the know it all and think ur perfect and then if u don't say anything and it crumbles its WHY DIDNT U SAY ANYTHING..

cyaan win i tell ya..

i thought we were getting naked?