Strip bar- how would you react??

[gwenneh 7]

lol.. lets go to a strip club!!

I think by now it qualifies as an "educational field trip"!

On male strip clubs; I've never, never, ever found a male stripper attractive. I've never liked what was considered the "norm" for men, I've never had a crush on a celebrity, and I think most men look silly when they dance. Apparently (according to some male strippers) patrons at a male strip club are horrible and far more ill-behaved than their male counterparts; I have no idea if that's true or not, but seeing some of the drunken, howling hen-night parties that go on around here I don't have much difficulty believing it.

[tmma 467]

This would be grounds for a divorce for me.

Really? Like I totally understand where you are coming from... but if you dont agree with it, wouldnt like a talk be better before something as big as divorce?

He knows it would happen so if it did it anyway there would be nothing more to talk about. My husband and I are both very religious and I am sure it would never happen anyway. I was just giving my opinion. I would be irate if he was staring at another woman fully clothed... you can imagine how it would bother me if she was naked and teasing him and he was giving her OUR money for it.

This would be grounds for a divorce for me.

I love my husband too much to end it over something so stupid.

I love my religion too much to be with a man who doesn't care about his.

O/T-VeiledPrincessLayla-Your "husband" did you get married?

Congrats

[thesnowman 1]

(This is not thesnowman it is his partner.)

Just a few quick questions for the people who have problems with strippers or strip clubs.

Have you ever spoken to a stripper, asked him or her what their interests are?

If they have children, a husband, or any family at all?

Do you know their story, why they chose to do what they do?

Have you taken the time out to look at and admire them for who they are?

Try not to pass judgement on something or someone because you don't understand. Take the time to find out for yourself and then form your own opinion.

Remember you are not speaking about a "stripper", you are speaking about a woman, mother, friend, sister, somebody's baby girl. Who has feeling just like you and me. They cry, laugh, feel pain, have had their hearts broken, and have loved with all they have.

Don't be so quick to pass judgement on someone for doing whatever it is that they do.

FYI-Your partner has a better chance at getting laid if he went out to a night club.

[Anyta Holland 1]

(This is not thesnowman it is his partner.)

Just a few quick questions for the people who have problems with strippers or strip clubs.

Have you ever spoken to a stripper, asked him or her what their interests are?

If they have children, a husband, or any family at all?

Do you know their story, why they chose to do what they do?

Have you taken the time out to look at and admire them for who they are?

Try not to pass judgement on something or someone because you don't understand. Take the time to find out for yourself and then form your own opinion.

Remember you are not speaking about a "stripper", you are speaking about a woman, mother, friend, sister, somebody's baby girl. Who has feeling just like you and me. They cry, laugh, feel pain, have had their hearts broken, and have loved with all they have.

Don't be so quick to pass judgement on someone for doing whatever it is that they do.

FYI-Your partner has a better chance at getting laid if he went out to a night club.

I didn't see anyone passing judgement on the strippers...

Did I miss something?

All we have here are opinions on how people would feel about their partners going to a strip club... That was it! If saying that they don't like the muscly guys at the strip club is a judgement, then you clearly don't knowthe meaning of the word...

[*Robert* 2]

(This is not thesnowman it is his partner.)

Just a few quick questions for the people who have problems with strippers or strip clubs.

Have you ever spoken to a stripper, asked him or her what their interests are?

If they have children, a husband, or any family at all?

Do you know their story, why they chose to do what they do?

Have you taken the time out to look at and admire them for who they are?

Try not to pass judgement on something or someone because you don't understand. Take the time to find out for yourself and then form your own opinion.

Remember you are not speaking about a "stripper", you are speaking about a woman, mother, friend, sister, somebody's baby girl. Who has feeling just like you and me. They cry, laugh, feel pain, have had their hearts broken, and have loved with all they have.

Don't be so quick to pass judgement on someone for doing whatever it is that they do.

FYI-Your partner has a better chance at getting laid if he went out to a night club.

I didn't see anyone passing judgement on the strippers...

Did I miss something?

All we have here are opinions on how people would feel about their partners going to a strip club... That was it! If saying that they don't like the muscly guys at the strip club is a judgement, then you clearly don't knowthe meaning of the word...

Agreed... unless I missed something, and I'm pretty sure I've read every post in this thread... no one, either man or woman, has said anything about the character of the people who work at strip clubs. It's been more about whether it is okay or not for a married (engaged, or LTR) man to go to a club, and how would their wive's (SO's) feel about it.

That is an entirely different debate, and I really don't think you want to see it go there!

[pedroh 21]

lol.. what i've seen there are 2 main reasons against strip clubs.. religion and/or insecurities.. as someone already posted.. there is never a 'comparison' between the wife and the stripper..and with all due respect to the stripper ladies, I think there will never be... so IMO those fears of insecurity are a little exaggerated, because, well, those are fears of things will never happen.. on the other hand, well, there not much to say about religious reasons, to each their own..

and yeah.. as the snowman said.. a guy has more change getting laid in a bar, or night club, than a strip club.. in the strip club they can kick ur #######, or, kick ur #######, cuz there's no touching!!

[CarolineM 0]

I totally agree that your man has a better chance of getting laid at a bar than a strip club...

I know this has been said but I have to second...as long as he was upfront with it...sure, go...i don't care...just don't hide it or lie about it. That said, Stewart doesn't like strip clubs...so I guess it's a moot point. I like them more than he deoes!!! I'm like, let's go to the strip club and he won't go

ha

[incanada1234 0]

Strip clubs are disgusting.

[gwenneh 7]

Strip clubs are disgusting.

Maybe. But strip clubs and men visiting them (again, we're talking about Joe Average like the OP's hubby, not Scary Serial Stripper-Ogling Sam or anything) aren't a threat to any secure and real relationship, because-and maybe I'm giving men way too much credit here-most men are rational and capable of drawing the line between fantasty (the women as they exist on stage) and reality (the woman waiting for him, or perhaps even at the bar next to him at the club, in some cases!).

[incanada1234 0]

Maybe. But strip clubs and men visiting them (again, we're talking about Joe Average like the OP's hubby, not Scary Serial Stripper-Ogling Sam or anything) aren't a threat to any secure and real relationship, because-and maybe I'm giving men way too much credit here-most men are rational and capable of drawing the line between fantasty (the women as they exist on stage) and reality (the woman waiting for him, or perhaps even at the bar next to him at the club, in some cases!).

Oh. That makes it ok then, doesn't it.

[gwenneh 7]

Oh. That makes it ok then, doesn't it.

It's going to depend on the person and the relationship. For someone like Layla, or yourself-no, obviously no amount of rationalization will make it okay. But that is your relationship and your choice (and your right!); for mine, I'd not care if my husband went to a strip club in most cases. I'd mind if he started going every night; I'd mind if he were hiding it from me-but that's because that would indicate problems in uor home, as opposed to just me disliking the idea. Big difference.

[Veiled Princess 1]

maybe I'm giving men way too much credit here-

Just kidding.. just wanted to do that

[Yodrak 7]

Isabel,

Guys do that from time to time. If it's a weekly habit you should be concerned, but if it's an annual outing your biggest problem is likely to be that he may come home in a very randy mood. (Was he?)

Yodrak

How would you react if you get to know that your hubby or fiance went to a strip bar last night?

My hubby went to one, with his guyfriends.

Isabel

[Isabel 0]

Isabel,

Guys do that from time to time. If it's a weekly habit you should be concerned, but if it's an annual outing your biggest problem is likely to be that he may come home in a very randy mood. (Was he?)

Yodrak

Haha I wish I could tell you that. But unfortunately we are still apart from each other. When I talked to him yesterday he said he wouldnt go again, cos he rather want me to strip, cos he can see and HAVE the candy right away.

But he told me that he felt very manly to hang out there with his guys friends.

Isabel

[Laveau 67]

(This is not thesnowman it is his partner.)

Just a few quick questions for the people who have problems with strippers or strip clubs.

Have you ever spoken to a stripper, asked him or her what their interests are?

If they have children, a husband, or any family at all?

Do you know their story, why they chose to do what they do?

Have you taken the time out to look at and admire them for who they are?

Try not to pass judgement on something or someone because you don't understand. Take the time to find out for yourself and then form your own opinion.

Remember you are not speaking about a "stripper", you are speaking about a woman, mother, friend, sister, somebody's baby girl. Who has feeling just like you and me. They cry, laugh, feel pain, have had their hearts broken, and have loved with all they have.

Don't be so quick to pass judgement on someone for doing whatever it is that they do.

FYI-Your partner has a better chance at getting laid if he went out to a night club.

I have spoken to many strippers. Worked on and off at two different clubs during my early 20's for 5 years and have been to various clubs as a patron then and more recently with friends and a few exes ...some of the clubs were "mediocre" and some "upscale".

I know many of their "stories". Most of the girls seem of average intelligence and not very ambitious. Of course, in any group of people you have some smart ones but they were few and far between. And the number of druggies is rather large in my opinion and not just "a few". I made one good, decent friend who started out as a waitress and became a dancer. She was sick of it at the end. we fell out of touch but I truly hope that she got out of that business. Another good friend's dad manages a "nice" strip club. Helping his dad is PT work for him. He has nothing psotive to ever say about the dancers.

No passing judgement here but I do have strong opinions regarding the sex industry.

I don't like it and my opinion is based on a lot of exposure to it. Sex is sacred to me and any involvement of a third party (cuz let's face it...if a man is looking at stripper it's with lust, usually) would be demeaning (to me). But if two people find each other and feel comfortable with such things then fine...wonderful for them but not in MY relationship.