Strip bar- how would you react??

[Not Available 0]

Aww Stina, given your avatar, why on EARTH could you think that he would be disappointed in the REAL and GENUINE woman waiting for him when he got home? If you took a poll, I bet a real woman would win out over a stripper every. single. time. Strippers sell the illusion of sex, and I don't think that (the normal occasional strip club visting male, Joe Average) a man walks through the doors of a club without knowing that it's just that. There's a big difference between the type of man who needs to go to a strip club every night of the week and a man who goes along with his buddies (maybe his single buddies?) once in a while. You can bet he's not thinking about the girls on the stage, he's thinking of the one at home-just like the girls are probably thinking about their own man. Stripping is a big, overblown illusion-like porn, only live. That's not to say it isn't okay to not like it-plenty of people don't! But thinking of it as genuine is very misplaced; the stripper is less interested in your man than she is his wallet.

Thanks, that is definitely a perspective i havent thought of

Edited: Put in the smiley face so you didnt think i was being sarcastic

Edited July 9, 2006 by Stina

[babybunny 2]

How would you react if you get to know that your hubby or fiance went to a strip bar last night?

My hubby went to one, with his guyfriends.

Isabel

my husband would never go in a strip club in the first place- he is too reserved.

[Laveau 67]

Whether he told me beforehand or not I would be sad.

[Texanadian 10]

Oh boy, what a topic to come up. My birthday was at the end of June and I stopped over at a friend's house in the afternoon for a few drinks on the back porch. A few others stopped by and it was decided that they were going to the strip club and since it was my birthday, I should go too.

Wellll OK

So we went and all had a good time. One of the girls wrapped her ankles around my neck, put my face in her breasts and after her performance came and gave me a back massage and then asked for a kiss (I gave her a quick peck on her facial cheek). She gave me a poster and then bounced away to change back into her regular clothes.

Carly asked me what I did for my birthday.....well long story short, she didn't like what I told her.

The thing that gets me is that she won a wet t-shirt contest in a bar...but that was years ago so that's a different story.

Oh well, I figure I had to get it out of the system since Texas strip bars don't allow alcohol. (what's the point?)

Edited July 9, 2006 by Texanadian

[sparkofcreation 0]

I agree with the posters who said that it would be okay as long as I knew and he didn't try to hide it from me. I don't care if he looks at other women and he doesn't care if I look at other men—after all, we're already with the one we want to spend the rest of our lives looking at!

Gwen has a point though—I'd be upset if he "needed" to go or if he went all the time. But I wouldn't care if he went once in a while, and especially not if it was for something like a friend's bachelor party, since the point there is more to accompany his friend.

[gimygirl 0]

my husband would never go in a strip club in the first place- he is too reserved.

guess you'll break him out of that real soon ... what's gonna happen when you bring him to vegas!?!?

[babybunny 2]

my husband would never go in a strip club in the first place- he is too reserved.

guess you'll break him out of that real soon ... what's gonna happen when you bring him to vegas!?!?

Just because you go to las vegas dont mean you have to visit strip clubs. I know I never been to none

I have been to las vegas alot!

[Veiled Princess 1]

This would be grounds for a divorce for me.

[Not Available 0]

This would be grounds for a divorce for me.

Really? Like I totally understand where you are coming from... but if you dont agree with it, wouldnt like a talk be better before something as big as divorce?

[luvaLimey 0]

I don't think I'd have a problem at all. I actually just asked him if he'd ever been to one, and he said no he hadn't.

I haven't either, but I must admit I've been curious to go. Maybe we'll both go one day just for the hell of it. I mean when we were in Amsterdam we talked about going to one of the live sex shows they have there just for the hell of it. We didn't end up going for one reason or another (I think it was fact that we were making our way back to the hotel by stopping into every bar along the way in order to get warm - and have a drink - and the bar in the red light district ended up being so much fun that it was pretty late by the time we left it)

I don't have a problem with him looking at other women. Those other women aren't competition to me; they are compliments: what he finds attractive in other women, he also finds attractive in me. If he tells me some other woman is beautiful, I can look at her and agree. He also calls me beautiful, so I must look as good to him as that other woman does.

So I don't have any unrealistic expectations in my head that I'm the one and only woman he'll ever find attractive or like looking at. He can admire them from a distance and then come home and admire me up close.

Edited July 9, 2006 by luvaLimey

[babybunny 2]

This would be grounds for a divorce for me.

I love my husband too much to end it over something so stupid.

[Sinergy 3]

Me and Ed have an agreement, neither of us goes without the other

[Anyta Holland 1]

For me its like a strange territory... I guess it would have todo with the circumstances that made him go... If it was that he was just going out with c ouple of friends with the idea of going to the strip club I think I would be worried...

If it was a stag party (bachelors party) then I wouldn't mind...

I am not exactly sure what the difference would be, but I don't think I would be happy with him going regularly to see strippers... I would make me wonder if we are missing something at home...

But that is just me....

[Veiled Princess 1]

This would be grounds for a divorce for me.

Really? Like I totally understand where you are coming from... but if you dont agree with it, wouldnt like a talk be better before something as big as divorce?

He knows it would happen so if it did it anyway there would be nothing more to talk about. My husband and I are both very religious and I am sure it would never happen anyway. I was just giving my opinion. I would be irate if he was staring at another woman fully clothed... you can imagine how it would bother me if she was naked and teasing him and he was giving her OUR money for it.

This would be grounds for a divorce for me.

I love my husband too much to end it over something so stupid.

I love my religion too much to be with a man who doesn't care about his.

[ChristinaM 0]

I hate the idea of my husband looking at other women semi-naked. Because I have such low self-esteem about my own body, I'd worry for weeks afterwards that he would be thinking of them every time something intimate happened. Be it porn, a stripper or a hot, fully clothes woman walking down the street. It's not that I don't trust him 109%, but I don't have that personal level of security which allows me to be ok with that.