Anybody else out there homesick??????????

[gimygirl 0]

i'm also going to bounce off of tara's post, in agreement ... women are territorial and can be a bit evasive and aloff at first.

just from your post, marie ... you sound like a very outgoing and friendly woman - don't let that go!! go right back out and be yourself without compromise.

nothing is EVER going to compare to your 'home', so don't try to. while i can appreciate your emotions about everything that's going on in canada at the moment ... focus your energy into being the most attentive, communicative, loving wife that you are!

[Kathryn41 3,205]

(((((MarieAnastasia)))))

I can empathize very much - I moved here at 49, my husband's daughter is grown and away from home and I lived those previous years independent and self-sufficient, involved in my community, known by many and active in a wide variety of hobbies and inerests as well as my job. We live in the suburbs with the nearest corner store 2 miles away. Two things made a big difference though - I brought my cats with me so had their companionship - and my husband made it a priority to get me a car right away. Part of your problem is that you have lost your independence - and having a vehicle to drive around, get out of the house and regain your independence would be an immense help. You would be able to orient yourself in your new life, explore your new surroundings, discover what there is to discover and have greater opportunities for developing friends through volunteer work or locating activities you enjoy. You said your husband and you are looking for a 2nd car - I think right now that should be your highest priority because it will help you regain some sense of self, and when you can 'do' for yourself again, you won't find yourself balancing what you had to give up with what you have gained:-). Time, also makes it easier to adjust to your new home, but when your world has narrowed from a whole community to 38 acres with wolves, bears and coyotes, it is hard to recognize the value of the exchange. Good luck.

[MarieAnastasia 0]

... instead i am stuck sitting around here.

i think you need to reevaluate your priorities ... you came here to be with keith.

sometimes, i think many members lose sight of the reason that they moved to america ... it was the person that you couldn't live without. i relocated 3 years ago from everything and everyone i knew ... the more that you dwell of the negative, the more you are just going to drag yourself down ... mentally, emotionally and physically. why do that to yourself?

sorry that mark isn't more supportive for you, amanda!

Don't be hard on Stina (or anybody else who gives their opinion). She was expressing her loneliness not her displeasure with being with her hubby. And right now I, too, feel like I am stuck sitting around here. But that doesn't make me love my husband any less........just feeling sad and alone and there's nothing he can do about it. Please let's NOT make this thread into a 'He said, she said' post. I just wanted to vent and would love to hear any suggestions you have for me or just a hug would be fine too

We're all in this together. Some are finding it harder than others and God bless the ones who have fit right in and are not missing their homes to such an extent as I am (and Stina). I envy you ........but I love my husband to the moon and back. And yes, a perfect scenario would be to live in my hometown with him. That's not possible at the time so I have you guys to vent to ...Thanks.............{{{{HUGS}}}}

(((((MarieAnastasia)))))

I can empathize very much - I moved here at 49, my husband's daughter is grown and away from home and I lived those previous years independent and self-sufficient, involved in my community, known by many and active in a wide variety of hobbies and inerests as well as my job. We live in the suburbs with the nearest corner store 2 miles away. Two things made a big difference though - I brought my cats with me so had their companionship - and my husband made it a priority to get me a car right away. Part of your problem is that you have lost your independence - and having a vehicle to drive around, get out of the house and regain your independence would be an immense help. You would be able to orient yourself in your new life, explore your new surroundings, discover what there is to discover and have greater opportunities for developing friends through volunteer work or locating activities you enjoy. You said your husband and you are looking for a 2nd car - I think right now that should be your highest priority because it will help you regain some sense of self, and when you can 'do' for yourself again, you won't find yourself balancing what you had to give up with what you have gained:-). Time, also makes it easier to adjust to your new home, but when your world has narrowed from a whole community to 38 acres with wolves, bears and coyotes, it is hard to recognize the value of the exchange. Good luck.

Well said, Kathryn. Thanks for the kind words and you're right on the money {{{{HUGS}}}}

[babybunny 2]

I can relate to home sickness. when I moved to the UK. < I am USC>. oh man I was ooo homesick.

so I did come back to the USA for a while. but, my heart kept wanting to be back "HOME" that at the time was in the UK. I was anxious to go back at once. after that I was able to settle in my new life alot easier.

home is where the heart is right.

[MarieAnastasia 0]

i'm also going to bounce off of tara's post, in agreement ... women are territorial and can be a bit evasive and aloff at first.

just from your post, marie ... you sound like a very outgoing and friendly woman - don't let that go!! go right back out and be yourself without compromise.

nothing is EVER going to compare to your 'home', so don't try to. while i can appreciate your emotions about everything that's going on in canada at the moment ... focus your energy into being the most attentive, communicative, loving wife that you are!

True, true, true!!! But I guess I would look at what I would do at home if this were reversed...and a friend brought his new wife to the community.........we would open our arms and hearts!!

And you're right NOTHING will ever compare to my home so I should 'build a bridge and get over it!!!' sssssssssssssssiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiggggggggghhhhhhhhhhh! ..........{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}

[Not Available 0]

... instead i am stuck sitting around here.

i think you need to reevaluate your priorities ... you came here to be with keith.

sometimes, i think many members lose sight of the reason that they moved to america ... it was the person that you couldn't live without. i relocated 3 years ago from everything and everyone i knew ... the more that you dwell of the negative, the more you are just going to drag yourself down ... mentally, emotionally and physically. why do that to yourself?

sorry that mark isn't more supportive for you, amanda!

Well yeah i came here to be with Keith, but I cant be with Keith 24/7. When he's at work (1:30pm-10), I am sitting around waiting for him to come home. I know why I moved to America, and no I cant live without him, wanting more in my life doesnt make me negative. There is nothing wrong with missing home and nothing wrong with feeling in a rut. It doesnt mean my priorities need reevaluating.

[Anyta Holland 1]

Hi...

I have written about this in the past, but it makes me feel a bit better every time I do....

I am the USC but I haven't lived in the US since I was 3 y/o. My parents are Venezuelans so I was raised there after my dad finished his studies in Gainesville, FL. I am an only child, and my dad is 1 in 11 children (yes, it's not a typo, ELEVEN)...

Anyway, I came to the UK 3 and 1/2 years ago... Lived in London for 6 months, lived in North Wales for 2, moved to Sheffield for my Master's Degree for a year, got married and live in Bristol now...

Have I found it difficult? GOD YES! Have I found it unfriendly? YES! Do I feel lonely? YES!

I had loads of friends back home, loads of family, loads of sun, loads of commodities... Have i got any of these here? NO! I felt comfortable in Sheffield, UK because there were loads of Venezuelans living there and it made my life easier as we would hang out together all the time... Since I moved to Bristol, I have found a friend or two, but that is about it...

I absolutely know where you are coming from and the phrase "been there, done that, got the t-shirt" springs to mind as I read your post... That is one of the reasons why we are moving to Houston... My best friend lives there, and it is within easy reach from my parents, and from my home town, so it won't take me 23 hours to get there, as it does when flying from the UK.

It is still far away from home, but it makes the pain more bearable... I don't think you ever stop being homesick, I don't think you ever stop missing the people you love, I think you only learn to live with the pain, and hope that one day gets better... I think that is how I am living at the moment... And hoping that nothing horrible happens (again) in my family; for 2 and 1/2 years ago my beloved granny died and I could not be there... I could not say good bye in any way, and it's a terrible feeling, and a cross I will carry with me for the rest of my days.

I don't mean to make you feel worst, I just want you to know that you are not alone is this boat, and that plenty of people know and understand how you feel....

Basically put in a few words... I am here if you want to chat...

Hope you get to feel better...

[Not Available 0]

Don't be hard on Stina (or anybody else who gives their opinion). She was expressing her loneliness not her displeasure with being with her hubby. And right now I, too, feel like I am stuck sitting around here. But that doesn't make me love my husband any less........just feeling sad and alone and there's nothing he can do about it. Please let's NOT make this thread into a 'He said, she said' post. I just wanted to vent and would love to hear any suggestions you have for me or just a hug would be fine too

We're all in this together. Some are finding it harder than others and God bless the ones who have fit right in and are not missing their homes to such an extent as I am (and Stina). I envy you ........but I love my husband to the moon and back. And yes, a perfect scenario would be to live in my hometown with him. That's not possible at the time so I have you guys to vent to ...Thanks.............{{{{HUGS}}}}

Thank you

Edited July 9, 2006 by Stina

[Anyta Holland 1]

... instead i am stuck sitting around here.

i think you need to reevaluate your priorities ... you came here to be with keith.

sometimes, i think many members lose sight of the reason that they moved to america ... it was the person that you couldn't live without. i relocated 3 years ago from everything and everyone i knew ... the more that you dwell of the negative, the more you are just going to drag yourself down ... mentally, emotionally and physically. why do that to yourself?

sorry that mark isn't more supportive for you, amanda!

Well yeah i came here to be with Keith, but I cant be with Keith 24/7. When he's at work (1:30pm-10), I am sitting around waiting for him to come home. I know why I moved to America, and no I cant live without him, wanting more in my life doesnt make me negative. There is nothing wrong with missing home and nothing wrong with feeling in a rut. It doesnt mean my priorities need reevaluating.

Stina,

I for one agree with you... The fact that you live with the person you love does not exactly mean that you have to stop missing the people you left behind... If you did, then you didn;t really loved them... IMO...

Wanting friends, people to comfort you (apart from your partner), or a bit of that life you left behind does not make you a bad person, or a person not worthy of living abroad... It makes you a human being, with dreams and desires, it makes you a bigger person, 'cause, IMO, at least you are being realistic and allowing yourself to feel...

[Devil's_Advocate 0]

A perfect scenario for who?

And yes, a perfect scenario would be to live in my hometown with him. That's not possible at the time so I have you guys to vent to

[MarieAnastasia 0]

A perfect scenario for who?

And yes, a perfect scenario would be to live in my hometown with him. That's not possible at the time so I have you guys to vent to

For both my husband and I. If you had read all my posts, I stated that my husband would live in my hometown in a heartbeat. No, I'm not being selfish here. He took to my hometown like a house on fire. He loves my family (I'm the 10th and the youngest child) and my friends (who have now become 'our' family and friends). The only reason we live here is because he has a good job and the unemployment rate is pretty high where I come from. Does that answer your question................{{{{HUGS}}}}

[gimygirl 0]

Well yeah i came here to be with Keith, but I cant be with Keith 24/7. When he's at work (1:30pm-10), I am sitting around waiting for him to come home. I know why I moved to America, and no I cant live without him, wanting more in my life doesnt make me negative. There is nothing wrong with missing home and nothing wrong with feeling in a rut. It doesnt mean my priorities need reevaluating.

Stina,

I for one agree with you... The fact that you live with the person you love does not exactly mean that you have to stop missing the people you left behind... If you did, then you didn;t really loved them... IMO...

Wanting friends, people to comfort you (apart from your partner), or a bit of that life you left behind does not make you a bad person, or a person not worthy of living abroad... It makes you a human being, with dreams and desires, it makes you a bigger person, 'cause, IMO, at least you are being realistic and allowing yourself to feel...

i say what i mean and i mean what i say ... please do not infer what is not there and convolute it!

no one here is a bad or negative person for being homesick ... reread my post again.

[Not Available 0]

... instead i am stuck sitting around here.

i think you need to reevaluate your priorities ... you came here to be with keith.

sometimes, i think many members lose sight of the reason that they moved to america ... it was the person that you couldn't live without. i relocated 3 years ago from everything and everyone i knew ... the more that you dwell of the negative, the more you are just going to drag yourself down ... mentally, emotionally and physically. why do that to yourself?

sorry that mark isn't more supportive for you, amanda!

Thats what i was referring to. If i read it wrong, sorry.

Water under the bridge.

[Anyta Holland 1]

... instead i am stuck sitting around here.

i think you need to reevaluate your priorities ... you came here to be with keith.

sometimes, i think many members lose sight of the reason that they moved to america ... it was the person that you couldn't live without. i relocated 3 years ago from everything and everyone i knew ... the more that you dwell of the negative, the more you are just going to drag yourself down ... mentally, emotionally and physically. why do that to yourself?

sorry that mark isn't more supportive for you, amanda!

Thats what i was referring to. If i read it wrong, sorry.

Water under the bridge.

and me....

I am still with you Stina!

[gimygirl 0]